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TTC after ectopic/after loss/older age etc ALL WELCOME 🙂

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YellowZ · 11/11/2023 17:25

Hello,

Would anyone like to join a thread for TTC after ectopic/miscarriage, or when facing other challenges eg age, PCOS etc? DP and I have just decided to try again for no2, and I'm going to come off the pill. It would be nice to have some buddies to share experiences and support each other 🙂

About me:

Pregnancy 1: conceived first cycle age 35, healthy pregnancy, DS born summer 2021 (now age 2)

Pregnancy 2: conceived first cycle age 37, ectopic, surgery November 2022

My plan is to eat well, exercise, cut out alcohol, and generally look after myself.

Because I got pregnant quickly both times, I'm hoping our chances are still good...no idea how only having the one fallopian tube is going to affect things 😬

I think I'll do OPKs but not sure about temping yet.

Would love to hear from others!

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MrsB2019x · 29/11/2023 11:09

Bleeding is getting heavier and bright red so seems I’m out this month.. the pill has clearly done wacky things to my body 😔

Annonomous29 · 29/11/2023 10:18

@YellowZ I hope I dtd on time 😉.
The kids bring all sorts from school I don’t understand why people don’t just keep their kids at home if they are sick why do they send them in surely they know their kids need rest.
There are way too many people in our school that send their sick children into school. 🙄

Annonomous29 · 29/11/2023 10:11

MrsB2019x · 29/11/2023 07:34

@Confusedddddddd Not at ell, I think you need to enjoy your life as usual while TTC, helps the time go quicker if nothing else

@Annonomous29 Think you have done enough to catch the egg, hope everyone is feeling better soon

@MrsB2019x Im hoping so fingers crossed…

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YellowZ · 29/11/2023 09:31

@Confusedddddddd yeah I don't think it matters too much tbh, I think if an egg wants to stick itself down, it will. I drank all through my ectopic and it didn't shift it haha (although not to excess, maybe I should have tried the whisky).

@MrsB2019x oooh hope it's the good kind of bleeding 🤞🤞

@Annonomous29 don't worry, sounds like you timed dtd just right 🙂 sorry you're all poorly though

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MrsB2019x · 29/11/2023 07:36

I woke up to a pinkish/reddish bleed this morning. Trying not to get my hopes up thinking it’s implantation but it’s hard! My AF’s do start like this too though and I am crampy so maybe my body is still adjusting from coming off the pill and doing weird things. I’m not ready for another period, I’m only CD17/8dpo!

MrsB2019x · 29/11/2023 07:34

@Confusedddddddd Not at ell, I think you need to enjoy your life as usual while TTC, helps the time go quicker if nothing else

@Annonomous29 Think you have done enough to catch the egg, hope everyone is feeling better soon

Annonomous29 · 28/11/2023 23:23

Hiya Ladies sorry got a bit lost on the thread had to catch up…..
Just a but of an update we dtd on day of peak test and the following day but after that couldn’t as everyone ended up with the lergies at home both dc are sick one with an ear infection so stayed up all night friday and Sunday and Monday. No break from all of this therefore not keeping my hopes up.

Confusedddddddd · 28/11/2023 21:54

Is it terrible that I continue to drink (in moderation) during the tww? It took 6 months with DD, and we're on our 5th cycle this time, and I feel like the having an explanation for not drinking just adds unnecessary stress.

Unrelated to wine, my flipping LH surge has gone on 4 days now. It's usually a quick, sharp 24 thing. This cycle is weird.

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YellowZ · 28/11/2023 20:21

@CatCaretaker 😂😂 how did I not notice the typo the first time I read it?

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CatCaretaker · 28/11/2023 20:15

crossed*, not roasted!

CatCaretaker · 28/11/2023 16:12

@YellowZ oh the wine! The number of events that occurred during the 2w waits this year, including my fbstfriend's wedding, and I couldn't drink at any of them 😭, and all for nothing!

Fingers roasted for no BFP after AF (or no AF at all!).

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YellowZ · 28/11/2023 15:20

@CatCaretaker toot toot for ovulation!

I'm only 10dpo, but I'm just not 'feeling it'. Kinda looking forward to AF starting (and hopefully not getting a bfp after my period like I did with the ectopic) and having a glass of wine haha!

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CatCaretaker · 28/11/2023 14:18

@Loz1006 z1006 keeping my fingers crossed for you that everything is OK, and there's no ectopic after all.

@YellowZ I've lost track, how many DPO are you now?

TMI, but finally entering ovulation phase with ewcm, so will start testing in a day or 2.

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YellowZ · 28/11/2023 14:14

Haha I know @MrsB2019x that's what I'd say if it were someone else, too. Good luck for Friday (if you make it that far). I think once you start testing it's v v v v hard to control the urge to keep testing all the time 😳

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MrsB2019x · 28/11/2023 13:15

Might still just be too early @YellowZ , you never know!

I’m planning to hold out until Friday when I’ll be 10DPO… that’s the plan anyway 😂

Confusedddddddd · 28/11/2023 11:46

@Loz1006 could your pain be a corpus luteum cyst maybe? My experience after my ectopic was that everything is just a lot more sensitive in the pelvis after.

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YellowZ · 28/11/2023 11:41

Morning! Thanks for checking in. BFN so...I don't know. I think it's not our month. Ah well! The bright side is I ovulated and my progesterone seemed ok based on the urine tests. When will you test @MrsB2019x?

I think because we conceived first cycle for my other 2 pregnancies it was bound to raise my expectations for this month too!

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MrsB2019x · 28/11/2023 10:42

Just checking in, how are we all doing?

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YellowZ · 27/11/2023 16:51

@lemonyfox and @Loz1006 urgh! Sorry you're both going through this. Loz - I'm still hoping it's a good outcome for you and the pain is just a flukey pregnancy thing. Lemony, those hcg results are baffling.

Most likely I've just had some evaps but I am slightly scared of another 'positive' now in case it gets my hopes up again/it's not the good kind of bfp.

DS was up at 4am, snoozed (snored) for a while in our bed and got up at 6. Then refused his mid-day nap. We've had shit sleep for a week, being tired isn't helping me cope - think things will seem brighter once I've had some sleep 😴

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lemonyfox · 27/11/2023 11:39

Other other than the obvious ectopic symptom, I had a period last week. A full normal period, not implantation bleeding. Which is the biggest giveaway as my periods always continue like normal when I have an ectopic! It's why I never knew I was even pregnant the first two times.

lemonyfox · 27/11/2023 11:32

@Loz1006 other than some slight left sided cramps, which is the side I have my remaining tube on, I feel perfectly normal!

Loz1006 · 27/11/2023 10:27

@CatCaretaker Thanks for checking in! How are things with you going?

Sorry I haven't been very active on this thread, been trying to distract myself any way possible!

So my update:

HCG increased by 146% from 260 to 640 which is promising so I now have a scan booked for Tuesday 5th, seems like a long wait, especially still having the left sided pain. It's going to be a nervy day.

I feel like my symptoms are such a mystery.

I don't know my day of ovulation but believe it to be around day 19/20. Which would put me around 5 weeks at the moment.

The left sided pain started 6 days before I tested positive which could have been just 6 days after ovulation. Seems so early for pain, and with ectopic shoulder pain does it not usually come after a rupture? I feel well apart from the pain. The pain comes and goes at varying levels when I feel it should be getting worse as my HCG increases

So confused and just want to know as my gut says that's it's ectopic, unless the consistent pain is phantom and all in my head 😔

@YellowZ my last pregnancy (ectopic miscarriage), I tested positive at 9dpo but this time it was after I believe AF was due so even if this is ectopic I think it's a complete lottery as to when tests will be positive! Hope you get you BFP soon! The waiting around is so hard.

@Lostlawyer26 definitely positive! Congrats 🎉

@lemonyfox sorry to hear your also going through this horrible waiting game! What are your symptoms? Hope you get some answers soon

CatCaretaker · 27/11/2023 09:59

@lemonyfox oh that's terribly upsetting and frustrating! I'm sorry. Wishing you a short week!

lemonyfox · 27/11/2023 09:55

Hey @CatCaretaker thanks for checking in.

I had two blood tests Weds and Fri at the hospital last week, my HCG levels were 7 and 29 respectively. So the hospital are confused, as the levels are way too low but they are more than doubling. Because I'm not in pain or actively bleeding they've asked me to come back for a repeat test on Friday.

It's frustrating because I know the signs and I've been through this before, it's definitely an ectopic, but the hospital can't treat it yet until they are certain. My home pregnancy tests are also getting darker every day but they're still so so so faint, not what they would be for a normal pregnancy with normal HCG levels.

Just trying to get on with life and ignore it all for now!

MrsB2019x · 27/11/2023 09:47

@YellowZ That’s just bloody cruel!

@Lostlawyer26 Not even a squinter! Congratulations 🎉

I was laid in bed last night feeling really sick and was wondering oooh could this be something? Then remembered I was only 5dpo yesterday and gave my head a wobble 😂