TTC after ectopic/after loss/older age etc ALL WELCOME 🙂

@YellowZ ooh 3+ is fab! I've had minimal symptoms throughout so far! Healthy scan last week at 8wks so just minimal symptoms I think 🤞🏻🙏🏼 How adorable is that seal?! 🥰😍

@bethhop85 Servant is right! I'm always half out of the bed because he insists on being right in the middle and takes up as much space as third human 😆

Hi @CatCaretaker , thanks for asking. I’m still having some light spotting today so not feeling hopeful… If it is AF, I expect it’ll be here by the weekend.

Totally agree with your comments about how hard it is to get pregnant! I took it all to heart in school and was terrified about having an unplanned pregnancy. The adults really did make me think that it was a high risk even if you only had unprotected sex once. It was a shock to discover that there are only a few days each month where it is possible to conceive and even then I’m missing out every month despite timing it right 😥

How are you doing? I love that I’ve found a buddy who is the same age and also a cat servant mum!

@bethhop85 how are you today? Did AF arrive?

If I had known it was thus hard to get a BFP I could have been a lot less stressed about birth control. The amount of effort we put into preventing pregnancy, as if we really thought it would happen just like that if we slipped up with birth control just once 😂.

@Bumblesbee84 you've had 2 consecutively? How many would you have to have to be eligible!

@Hannahbally welcome! Getting checked up def sounds like a good idea. I've had 3 losses (1 before DS and 2 after) so we've decided to get some private tests done to see if anything is going on as GP had said I'm not eligible as they've not been consecutive. Sending you baby dust!

@CatCaretaker It’s when the test line is darker than the control line rather than the other way around. Have attached one I got when pregnant with DD. I’m sure it doesn’t have any bearing on how successful the pregnancy will be but it’s just nice to see lol

@MrsB2019x looks great to me! What's a dye stealer (excuse my ignorance!)? Fingers crossed your week goes quickly before the scan.

Hi. Please can I join.
I'm new here. I'm 44
Pregnancy 1 son 2007
Pregnancy 2 ectopic with tube removal.
So I came off all contraception in 2008 and was actively trying with ex husband. He talked me out of getting any investigations and it never happened. Forward to now I'm with an amazing man and we'd love one of our own. We've been together 3 years and it hasn't happened yet. We are going to speak to the Dr about getting checked out. I've just ordered a bbt thermometer to hopefully get a clearer picture. It's been a long time since I've done that.
So anyway hi!

Thanks for checking in @Nic2908 ☺️

For whatever reason I decided to do another test this morning (5+6) and I’m happy with it. Don’t think I’m going to get a dye stealer but I’m okay with that. Scan is next Tuesday 😬

How are you doing lovely?

@bethhop85 I'm 38 too (just) and being given the eye by my cat right now for disturbing him by getting up to make tea 😊

@Nic2908 thank you! I hope your cycles settle down soon so you can start!

@bethhop85 we we’re supposed to start last month put my cycle went bat crap crazy so it was written off!!

could it be implantation bleeding?

@bethhop85 @CatCaretaker i have everything crossed that you get to experience it soon!!

@YellowZ @MrsB2019x how are you both doing? How are your lines looking?

I completely understand what you mean, @CatCaretaker . Really sorry that you’re going through this too 😥It definitely feels impossible sometimes! I can’t believe how hard it is to get pregnant. I wonder what the odds are each cycle at my age (38)? Feels like the odds are stacked against me but I’m trying so hard to keep the faith. I would love to be a mum (to somebody other than my cats!)

@bethhop85 I completely understand, as I'm exactly the same. Have never had a BFP and can't even imagine what it would be like. It starts to feel impossible doesn't it?

I spoke too soon… I have a pain in my left side and have just noticed some light bleeding. Looks like AF is on the way again. It’s so hard to keep going with this sometimes.

Hi everyone,
I’m in the TWW… Ovulated around 3 Jan and managed to DTD on the right days before and after. I have a short luteal phase (10-11 days) so should start seeing some spotting by the end of the week if I’m unsuccessful again this cycle 😣
I’ve seen a tiny amount of brownish mucus but nothing to give any clues yet. I have PCOS and have never managed to get pregnant so I can’t actually imagine it and have no idea what it would be like to see a BFP…

@Nic2908 I'm so sorry you went through such a trauma. Glad that you're feeling in a better place now. Will this be your first month trying again?

I think ovulation is a day or two away for me. DH is away with work so we'll probably miss it and I'm feeling a bit flat/hopeless/fed up with it all. I feel so aware that a loss could just happen all over again. I've had 4 pregnancies and 1 DC. The stats are meant to be the other way round. I think I'm feeling sorry for myself, sure I'll bounce out of it in a day or two! But it's hard.

Ahh thanks lady. On the whole i am generally good. I’ve taken my time to heal. It’s been 10 months that I have waited and I’m glad I have.

how is everyone getting on this month?

@Nic2908 so sorry to hear you had to go through such a challenging experience and with long-standing consequences. Hopefully one day you can look at it and be so proud at your resilience. They say the toughest are challenged the most (even it it doesn't feel like that)! Hopefully one day soon you'll start to feel more like yourself again. Must be hard that these are often such private battles.

@snowitall hope the recovery quicks in quickly and you're relieved from your pain.

@Nic2908 I’m so sorry that sounds awful. How are you now? X

@Nic2908 That sounds so unbelievably tough. I’m so sorry 💐
Elective sections are so calm and controlled that they are generally quite a pleasant experience (I personally have only had an emergency but I used to work in a maternity theatre doing electives sometimes)

@snowitall i too concur that a c section recover was hard core. However, I’m defo going for an elective section if I make it to term again. I delivered my daughter vaginally after miscarrying at 16 weeks and I can’t even imagine doing it again. I was diagnosed with ptsd and it’s taken a while to feel normal again. I went into survival mode in March and I don’t think I ever came out of it.

Can confirm C-section recovery is HARD! I think they will put me forward as a candidate for elective this time round rather than VBAC though