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CD1 - Anyone else?

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rosecbrm · 01/11/2023 15:55

Hello all,

A new cycle unfortunately started for me today. I really thought last cycle was going to be the one but unfortunately not the case and AF has shown her ugly face!

I had an early miscarriage in early September and this was the first cycle back TTC #1

Just wondering if anyone wants to join on the journey this month - always nice to be able to speak to people in the same situation!

Baby dust to all x

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Biscuitsarelife1 · 23/03/2024 14:00

Hello both! Sorry have missed a lot of these posts! Everything is good with me, 18 weeks tomorrow- we're currently on our honeymoon/ended up doubling as a babymoon which has been lovely and nice to spend time with our toddler before we turn into a 4!! I'm not finding out the gender either although super tempted, husband has persuaded me not to as it was the best surprise last time.

Glad to hear you are both okay- @MaryHua that your pregnancy is going well, and @rosecbrm that you're enjoying your new job and hopefully able to get some answers on your MMR soon! If it's any help, I was promoted in Feb when my work didn't know I was pregnant and was so worried about telling them. My boss was lovely when I did tell her and over the moon for me and hasn't made any difference to the promotion or way they've been with me! Life always comes first in my eyes and they really cannot say anything xx

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rosecbrm · 23/03/2024 13:37

@MaryHua really well thank you lovely, I'm really enjoying it!

Thank you so much, I really needed to hear that. I just worry cause you don't ever want to give a bad impression or anything like that, but you're right this is so much more important.

Thank you ❤️

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MaryHua · 23/03/2024 11:25

How is the new job going @rosecbrm ? Congrats on the new start ☺️
I completely understand your concerns and it's so common that women worry about their workplace and announcing the pregnancy. It's so awful that that is still the culture but at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what they think. It's your life and you have to do what is right for your family and go for what you want. A baby is a much more long-term vision than a job so don't let anyone get you down about it. And rant away here if they do!!

Fingers crossed you get the updated injection soon so you can get past this stage and continue TTC when you're ready xxx

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rosecbrm · 21/03/2024 19:08

Also no further with the MMR, I was waiting for the doctor to give me the go ahead for it but haven't heard anything yet!

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rosecbrm · 21/03/2024 19:07

@MaryHua sorry yes you did say that! Glad you're doing well 💘

No further, we haven't been TTC for two months just to have a break and I started my new job this week. Had my 21 day bloods done today to measure my progesterone!

I really want to start TTC again soon, however this sounds ridiculous but I'm scared of what my new job is going to think of me if I end up getting pregnant quickly after not being there so long!

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MaryHua · 21/03/2024 19:05

Hiya @rosecbrm !
Thanks for messaging! Doing well, baby kicking now. 20 week scan on Monday.
We are not going to find out gender to leave it a surprise for the birth. I think @Biscuitsarelife1 is the same? 💙💗

How are you keeping? Did you get any further ahead with your MMR vaccines?

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rosecbrm · 21/03/2024 18:51

@MaryHua @emmatcc1 how are you both doing? Have you found out your genders yet? Xx

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MaryHua · 06/03/2024 23:16

Hi so sorry @Biscuitsarelife1 I missed the notification for your message so have only just seen it! As of today I am 17 weeks. Still haven't felt anything.
How is your pregnancy going? Any symptoms? X

Biscuitsarelife1 · 29/02/2024 15:07

@MaryHua I'm 15 weeks on Sunday so 14+4 (?) at the moment. How about you?

MaryHua · 29/02/2024 15:06

Ah that's exciting @Biscuitsarelife1 that you're also waiting to find out! Sometimes I feel like the only one who still wants to do it these days. But I'm glad it was a lovely experience for you last time so I'm now very determined to stick to my original plan. 😊
How many weeks are you now? X

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rosecbrm · 29/02/2024 14:23

@MaryHua @Biscuitsarelife1 thanks ladies, really appreciate the support!

Also super exciting that you're both waiting to find out the gender! That will be so lovely when the time comes.

Take care both xx

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Biscuitsarelife1 · 29/02/2024 12:58

Hello ladies! Lovely to hear from you both!

Sorry to see you've got a lot going on at the moment @rosecbrm , but as you said everything happens for a reason and everything will fall into place when the time is right. 🤍🤍 lots of love to you though as it is really tough mentally to process everything especially when your heart was so set on TTC.

Glad to hear everything is going well with you @MaryHua too! We had a surprise for gender when we had our first, it was lovely and the most amazing thing so I recommend to everyone if they can wait then definitely do. We are also doing the same this time as it'll be our last baby🤍

MaryHua · 29/02/2024 12:56

That's a great attitude to have and I also believe the same @rosecbrm ☺️

We are going to keep gender a surprise until the birth. I've always wanted to do it this way but it will take all my willpower not to sneakily ask at the 20 weeks scan haha. Xx

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rosecbrm · 27/02/2024 20:48

@MaryHua thank you so much! Yes definitely not the turn of events we expected but I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and like you said hopefully one day this will all be a distant memory!

Ahh lovely, are you going to find out the gender? Glad you are keeping well xxx

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MaryHua · 27/02/2024 20:20

@rosecbrm wow that's a lot going on for you guys! Definitely a turn of events you weren't expecting, but I suppose in one way, the forced break could be a very good thing in the end.
I'm glad that you'll be able to focus entirely on the new job initially as not having the TTC stress immediately in your mind means you might settle in easier.
I empathise with your husband of course. It's quite cyclical I find. The stresses of TTC and fertility are shared between a couple, and often when one is finding it harder the other person is there to be stronger. Really hoping that with spring and summer weather round the corner that things pick up for you both and you can get back on track soon.

Fingers crossed that soon these set backs will all be a distant memory for you!

All ok with me, 16 weeks tomorrow but it's a long month to wait for the next scan so I'm just trying to get on about my days and not worry too much. Easier said than done!

Best of luck for the new job! 😊 xx

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rosecbrm · 27/02/2024 19:46

@MaryHua hi lovely I’m good thanks how are you?

Not majorly! Had my 21 day bloods last week but unfortunately they got rejected as they couldn’t take enough blood (never had that problem before so no idea why this nurse struggled!), so have to repeat again this month!

Bit of a spanner in the works though, had a call from the duty doctor a couple of weeks ago now to say that my initial blood tests show that my rubella immunity is negative (despite having both MMR jabs when I was younger!) so very strange. He has sent it off to obstetrics to see if I can have a top up dose as obviously if I was to catch it when pregnant it could cause severe problems. Waiting to hear back about that and if I do have to have a top up jab we have to put off TTC for a few months.

Start my new job in a couple of weeks though so I’m super excited about that, tbh the top up jab has fallen at the right time as I’d like to settle into my new job before starting TTC again.

Only issue now is that husband is quite down about the fact we’re having a break, but I’m trying to reassure him that it’s all for good reason and is necessary and he does understand but obviously is a shame as its out of our control!

Tbh, I feel like it’s the break I needed cause although it had only been 4 months TTC (5 including my MC), it was really starting to get to me and consume me!

Hope you guys are well and the pregnancies are all going ok? Thanks for checking in ❤️ xx

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MaryHua · 27/02/2024 19:29

Hi @rosecbrm how are you keeping? Have you managed to progress with the next steps with your GP? X

MaryHua · 06/02/2024 22:15

Oh I completely understand that @rosecbrm
I recently left my job and am only doing a temporary job until my baby is born. A lot of insecurity but I just couldn't face the job any more. It carries over into every aspect of your life so well done you for taking this brave step!
Hope your new position brings you a lot more fulfilment ☺️

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rosecbrm · 06/02/2024 19:50

@MaryHua thank you so much lovely, I completely agree!

Thank you, it’s very scary as I’ve been in the same job for 5yrs now and had no plans on leaving, but they’re making some company wide changes which unfortunately just don’t work for me. I haven’t been happy for a while now so I think it’s the push I needed.

Will keep you guys updated on the TTC front, thank you so much! X

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MaryHua · 06/02/2024 19:35

Hi @rosecbrm
Good to see that your hormone levels are all appearing in normal limits at the moment. That's a big step and relief. Can be tricky to fine tune them if there is an issue.

Best of luck for the change of job! It's a lot to juggle at the same time, but may also prove to be a good distraction with something else to think about. If you conceive in the meantime, that's brilliant! And we will continue to have everything crossed for you that you will see a BFP very soon!
Take care lovely x

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rosecbrm · 06/02/2024 19:16

@Biscuitsarelife1 hey lovely,

I’m good thanks, currently on CD5. Had my bloods back and FSH/ LH & TSH all seem relatively normal so thats a relief. Got repeat bloods on day 21 just to check my progesterone.

all of that being said though, I think we’re going to have to put TTC on hold (properly anyway) as it’s looking like I’m going to be moving jobs - even more stress that’s so unnecessary! But hubby doesn’t want this to make us put things on pause so I think it will be more of a casual TTC effort now.

Hope you’re both ok xx

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Biscuitsarelife1 · 05/02/2024 16:16

How did you get on @rosecbrm xx

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rosecbrm · 01/02/2024 14:55

@MaryHua thank you. Yes I can't really moan to be honest as this was only our 4th month TTC since the miscarriage but it just feels like a long time..

Thank you, hopefully get the ball rolling a bit. Just need AF to hurry up and arrive now! X

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MaryHua · 01/02/2024 14:54

Ah sorry to hear @rosecbrm
Onwards now with the plan you have set in motion with your GP. Thinking of you x

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rosecbrm · 01/02/2024 14:45

@MaryHua hey! I'm 13dpo today, had negative tests so far and spotting so pretty sure AF is on the way soon.

Hope you're ok x

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