2023 TTC 35+ Part 6

@Supertrooper101 Glad to hear it was good for you. I've had a look and didn't realise it was just for women. I've already had all my bloods etc checked by a consultant, it's DH we need checking.

@Bumblebee413 great idea handing the tests over, it's so hard not to be tempted to use one otherwise. Really hope AF turns up soon for you, or you get a positive on NYE, just something to let you know once way or another.

BFN again for me today. AF due Christmas Eve and so far no usual signs so just feel confused. I've had aches and twinges on and off all week although I know they don't mean anything. Decided if I'm definitely out this month then next month I'm taking progesterone from day 21. I was told to take it from a positive test which is why I've been testing earlier than I'd like to but it just adds to the not knowing. I've seen lots of other reports suggesting taking it from day 21 so figured if I do that I'll have no need to test early.

@SnookyPook that’s so lovely to hear! What lovely news just before Christmas 🥰🥰

I have a suspicion that I may be ovulating, but in all honesty it’s a complete and utter mystery this cycle 😂😂 I’m on day 46, which is unheard of and I’ve had EWCM since Tuesday. I don’t have any OPK tests with me as I’m away for Christmas and I don’t actually think they’d help with my mental state too much at this point. I’ve had sore boobs for a week and I just feel like I’ve given up on AF arriving soon- it just doesn’t feel like she’s coming. I had my ninth (😂😂!!) negative test yesterday.

I chatted to my DH about it as it just felt so frustrating, stuck in limbo and then he suggested that I stop testing until New Year’s Eve, as hopefully I’ll have had my period before then or there might be some news. I’ve handed all my tests over to him as I didn’t want to be tempted and it just feels better to be honest. Like it’s even more out of my hands but as a conscious decision! X

@RoseH36 ive just done the hertility bloods. Got the results and very detailed report back within a week. It was £149... i fudged some answers to get the bloods that i wanted like dhea and testosterone. But you get your amh etc in it too so i thought it was a decent price for 10 bloods and full report advice etc 🙂

@Cressie2 good luck! I've not heard of hertility so will have a look.

@Fullofconfusion it will tell you if you get the Clearblue ones when to start testing as it's based on your average cycle length, with day 1 being your first full day of bleeding. I start testing I'm day 7 for mine which is usually a 27 day cycle.

@SnookyPook I’m so pleased for you. That’s just brilliant news. I hope you’re doing well.

@Khanga27 congratulations!! Keeping everything crossed for you. What a lovely Christmas present

I’m going to try OPKs this month so that I can get an idea of what’s going on as my cycles have been super long. When do I start testing? Flo predicts ovulation around day 22 but it’s just guessing from my previous long cycles. I’m thinking I need to start testing way before then but I don’t really know

@Cressie2 aw I will be thinking of you tomorrow - how far along do you think you are? I was so nervous before hand that I felt like I was going to faint in the waiting room. It's horrible isn't it. In the end I tried to make peace with the fact that whatever was going on, was already going on, it would just be my knowledge of it that would change. Which might not be much comfort at all but helped me in a strange way. Everything crossed for you that you get good news and a bit of hope for Christmas 💕

So happy for you @SnookyPook, that’s such good news and what a relief for you. Once you see the heartbeat the chances of miscarriage rapidly drop but I can understand why you are still a little guarded. Such lovely news before Christmas and hope you’re doing well/not feeling too exhausted?

My early viability scan is tomorrow and feeling very nervous about it. If there’s no heartbeat would break me before Christmas but praying it will all be ok too and then I can breathe a little as well 🤞🏻

@RoseH36 that seems like a good plan regarding the sperm test, I hear Hertility is good for couples too and hope that you receive good news soon 💕

Fantastic news @Khanga27 and @SnookyPook so pleased for both of you.

@SnookyPook congratulations! So exciting!

Congrats

Ace news ♡

@SnookyPook that is the best news, so happy for you ❤️❤️❤️

@SnookyPook that's fantastic news. Long may it continue for you 🥰

@Khanga27 congratulations! Keeping everything crossed for you x

I'll test again tomorrow or Saturday. Me and DH had a chat last night and agreed that if we aren't successful this month we'll get him a sperm test done in Jan. We've also agreed to put a deadline on how much longer we continue trying before accepting it may not happen for us. 15 months is a long time and perhaps we're just not destined to have another.

Hi everyone, little update from me - there is a little Baby in there with a strong heartbeat ❤️ I burst into tears when they told me!

Measuring a week behind what I thought but they didn't seem worried. Also, I am pretty sure I ovulated later than usual (wasn't tracking) because we only dtd CD17 and 19 and usually my peak opk is CD13/14. So hopefully that's not too much of a worry. Really trying to enjoy this positive moment. Still a long way from feeling safe as my MMC stopped developing at 7+5... But one day at a time. Right now, in this moment it's all as good as can be. Not ectopic. Not nothing there.... A bit of breathing space for Christmas 😊

Hope everyone is doing well x

@Khanga27 I’m thrilled for you! What wonderful news before Christmas. Huge congratulations.

@SouthwestSis i hope you feel better soon and can rest up now that you’re in laws are on hand.

To everyone else, wishing you all the happiest Christmas and a positive and healthy New Year X

Wow !! That is a great line! Congrats - perfect Xmas gift!

Thanks @CurlyWurly1991 I thought it was low too but looking online, my trust seem to have 11 as a cut off when pregnant 🫠 I am super tired sick imagine I am feeling it. I am taking pregnacare that has iron in it but was thinking I'd get something else too

@Khanga27 congratulations lovely! Unfortunately nerves are very much to be expected but hopefully you can find moments of joy and excitement too ❤️ New pregnancy, new start 😊 xx

Oh Congratulations @Khanga27 :) that’s a lovely line! Completely get the feelings after last time. You’re human, however this is a brand new pregnancy and a brand new baby x

So I caved and did a test… initial wave of happiness now replaced by anxiety because of what happened last time, and also disbelief in case it’s a dodgy test (should have done 2 types). Think I definitely need to keep that at bay. I’m 13dpo so I will do another test in a few days.

Having some proper rest should help, good to make most of the in-laws and they will live some one on one time with toddler. Hope you resist the temptation to get on with Christmas prep and properly rest!

I still don’t feel that Christmassy!

I am so baffled by these damn ovulations test - I am going to get a clear blue for next cycle as I think it’s unlikely to have worked this month, we DTD last night and hoping to a few more times as I guess still not a peak on the ovulation tests so maybe not happened yet, have a friend who has stopped ovulating and tried all sorts but resigned self to no more babies now.

The ovulation test I just did was about as negative as they can get - totally white! At least yesterday there was a bit of a faint line!

Hey @Bumblebee413 how weird! Did you get stung?
Thanks for asking, but no I'm not feeling any better yet, have tried to just power on through going back to work this week which was probably a mistake, I don't think I've ever been so run down.
Have my in-laws arriving tomorrow so plan is to dispatch them with the toddler to allow me some rest.

@Bumblebee413 I saw someone post yesterday they found one on their washing, must be the mild temperatures waking them.

@Fullofconfusion that must be a relief for you, hope the next one isn't as long (or is 9 months long as it's good news)

@Khanga27 mines due Christmas Eve, crappy timing isn't it? I find the cross over in symptoms hard too. I've tested today with a First Response which is negative but then last month it was until the day before I was due when I had the faintest line so not losing hope just yet.

Hi all hope you’re doing well.

I am trying my best not to take an early pregnancy test as I felt last month not taking one really helped my mental health when AF did come. My cycles are pretty regular and I’m due Friday so if I haven’t had anything by Saturday then will be taking a test then.

I feel like in this journey our bodies really try to trick us. At 8/9 dpo I had a bit of on/off pain around my right hip which has now gone. I’ve also had some nausea, dizzy spells and my boobs feel much bigger and a little achy. There is so much cross over between pms and pregnancy than I’m trying to tell myself that it’s just part of my cycle so I don’t build my hopes up.

i am a bit frustrated that AF is due over the Christmas period, but if AF does come I’ve decided I will have the one glass of bubbly on the day.

Hope everyone is doing okay over this period.