2023 TTC 35+ Part 6

I literally got pregnant the first cycle with my little man, had two friends at the time who had Mc and all sorts so I felt very lucky. But this time its not so easy. My mum got pregnant at 36 taking the pill - it’s just so unpredictable and hard to know what is going on inside! I am still waiting for period - never thought be saying when TTC! It’s so late and I’ve no idea why but definitely not pregnant! How old is your LO? I wanted a 2year 3 month age gap … why on earth we didn’t start trying before! I assumed would be super quick and wanted ti enjoy drinking and sleep for a tad longer! Xxx

@MrsBP15 I've never contemplated this as not lucky enough to have a car with heated seats! I wouldn't have thought it should be too problematic - how hot do they get? Can you have them at a lower temp? X

Bump?

Amazing! Such good going on the weight loss - can’t be easy with xmas coming. It is a point actually - when I had my son we had just got married and I was prob 10kg lighter than now and had been very healthy ! Now I live off digestives - and left over beige. Maybe a diet refresh will help me too. Good luck to you xxx

Yes our GP organised for DH to have his sperm checked and then with my low progesterone they have referred us to the fertility clinic. But GP said they only accept referrals when the female has a bmi <30. So trying to lose weight.
Have 15kg total to lose before I'm under that, so far have lost 6kg in 6 weeks.

Rose - super drug offer sperm testing

Also if your nhs gp isnt offered your other half it - he can ask another gp

@Catson thank you. They weren't in stock last time I checked so will get some in.

@CurlyWurly1991 oh I'm so pleased for you. Keeping everything crossed this is your time.

@Mrsspoon3 that must be so hard on you if he doesn't want it 😪 you know you can always chat to us about your worries, we all know exactly what it's like. Perhaps he'll feel differently once he knows things are going well.

@Lalaland13 oh it's so hard when you've had an easy conception first time round, I'm in the same position. Took only 3 cycles of trying, and first one with OPKs as I didn't really know about them before then. Assumed the next time round would be the same but here I am 14 months since trying and have had a mmc and two CP. Really didn't think it would be so hard. Not sure about the lines on your tests. I've always used Clearblue digital ovulation tests. I did try some premom ones but couldn't get on with them as I found them confusing.

@jellyfish2210 welcome! It's certainly a very exhausting journey with so many emotions all the time. Just feels like it will never happen at times. Did you GP do the sperm test? I've had tests by a consultant following 3 losses and all were fine but they said they don't check sperm so haven't really been sure what to do when I see plenty of others on here who have had tests.

Hello all!
DH and I have been trying for number 2 for almost a year. I just turned 35 in October and GP has done some tests which showed hyperthyroidism. Hoping with treatment we will be able to get pregnant. I've had two 21 day progesterone treats that were both <1.4 and should've been >10 if I had ovulated. DH has also had a sperm analysis and it shows 2% morphology but the rest of the results were all ok.
Feeling very disheartened every month when AF comes. It's exhausting.
Lovely to see some BFPs!

Congratulations @SnookyPook and @SouthwestSis sorry if there’s anyone else I’ve missed, I’m finding it hard to keep track of all the BFPs! Fingers crossed all goes well for you.

i went to a private appointment with a fertility specialist this week. It was a really good appointment and I’ve got a blood test next week to check AMH levels and she has also suggested a HyCoSy.

i’m currently 7dpo and, as usual, won’t be testing unless period is late. I’m due next Saturday and I’m sure it will arrive and fuck up my weekend which I’m really looking forward to….NAT! At least I’ll be able to drink wine.

I’m going to ask a seriously stupid question but what do you guys do about heated seats in cars during tww? It’s pissing cold in uk atm and of course it’s only on my bum/back but I wondered if it should be avoided? I know I sound totally neurotic but all I do is think about ttc so some bag shit stuff is bound to find its way into my brain!!

Ohh will have a listen - haha does sound a bit gross and I guess could be tricky to interpret! I like yes or no haha ! I had some discharge the week following the week after I thought I ovulated but now wondering if that aas when was ovulating?! Who knows! Will check out the app - thank you! Yeah with a toddler and working - I am just so tired! I don’t really want to DTD all the time 😂😂 it’s very much needs must at the mo. I am just confused why no period - it’s all so confusing 🤯🤯🤯! I gave up Bfing in June, periods returned in jan this year and were regular and normal heavy until I gave up BFing and been all over place and super heavy! Not sure if hormonal or what the hell going on but I have never been this late before !!

My little man is just so so sweet at the mo and really keen on babies - I am prob worrying far too early but I am a worrier! X

Oh bless you - this sounds so tricky. Men can be so difficult, he should be supporting you but they do have their odd ways of behaving.

Congratulations @CurlyWurly1991 !! Such a lovely strong line too! So happy for you 🥰

@Mrsspoon3 I’m sorry, that must be really tricky balancing all your different emotions whilst you’re around him. I’m glad that you’ve got the scan soon to hopefully ease your nerves a little. Sending a lot of love.

Welcome @Lalaland13. I find it all quite confusing too. I’m going to use the PreMom app next time to let something else tell me what’s happening which day, as I don’t know what my lines are doing. If it helps, and sorry if this is tmi, but the podcast ‘Don’t tell me to relax’ places a lot of value in checking cervical mucous rather than using OPK tests as apparently couples are likely to have less sex using the OPKs and that cm can be a more reliable predictor of ovulation. Having said that, I think it’s helpful having an extra bit of information and just try to make sure we’re DTD every two days or so just in case. It’s more ‘or so’ with a toddler though 😂

It could be peri or recovery post baby as you said though- are you breastfeeding? I’d see how it goes for a few cycles, recording what the OPKs say and then go see your GP for tests if there’s no baby at that point x

Only recently started TTC baby 2, am 38 - since stopped BFing my periods have been all over the place. Twice in one month, the the last 2 have been really long cycles .., waiting for AF 100% sure not preg but annoying period not here and 6 days late now! Used ovulation test this month and last and only had one day each cycle with darkish line the rest of the tests were only one line and not even a faint line? Is that normal? Tested twice a day and only one time had a line! Wondering if am just not ovulating now - could it be peri or recovering from baby? But he is nearly 2 - got preg first cycle with my first baby so expected the same. Had no idea how easy I had it before so prob shouldn’t be complaining but it’s so confusing !!

Ah congratulations @CurlyWurly1991, that’s a great line!!

I’ve got a 7 week scan on Thursday so hope I’ll be able to relax a bit then. Finding it hard though as my husband won’t even let me talk about it. Not because he’s worried but because he doesn’t want the baby, and I think he thinks if we don’t talk about it it’s not real. So I can’t even talk about how worried I am as he won’t engage at all with any conversation related to the baby or pregnancy.

@CurlyWurly1991 what a fantastic line! So pleased for you! Congratulations ❤️

@CurlyWurly1991 oh wonderful news! Congratulations! That's a great looking test! Yes, the 'this day you are pregnant' is my current mantra!! X

Hi just checking in , I see there have been some developments!
@SouthwestSis congratulations !!
@SnookyPook
@Mrsspoon3
i understand the nerves when things haven’t worked out before. I remember someone posting that whatever happens, this day you are pregnant and allow yourself to enjoy it even if it’s just that one day.

joining you as I got my bfp this morning at 14dpo! Last time with my daughter 10 yrs ago I got bfns until at least 18dpo so this was a shock. But I’ve been feeling very different over the past week , managed to hide it from DH though so he went white as a sheet when I showed him the test this morning.!! 😂

Congratulations @SnookyPook and @SouthwestSis!! 😊

It’s so hard isn’t it @SnookyPook when you can’t feel excited? I told my husband about my pregnancy by saying “So I’ve tested positive again but it’s really faint so it probably won’t stick”! I did plan a more fun and exciting way to tell him, but I couldn’t believe it would last, and also I knew he wouldn’t really be excited anyway. Hope you’re doing ok and not feeling too anxious x

@RoseH36 still expensive, but you can get packs of two of the early response FRERs on Amazon

First Response Early Result Pregnancy Test, 2 Count (Pack of 1) https://amzn.eu/d/fVDQHK8

@SnookyPook thank you, will get some of those. Since First Response stopped their early ones there doesn't seem to be a decent replacement anywhere. I've been getting the First Response that come in a pack of 3 but they are quite pricey.

Isn't it awful feeling like you're robbed of any excitement? I've felt like that every time too, it's a bit like "here we go again" amd keeping your fingers crossed.

Aw thank you. It is exciting but I just barely dare to hope.. 🙏🏼

Aw! I think it’s all exciting though. Beautiful line progression too! X

@RoseH36 thank you! They're OneStep ones - super cheap and not the best quality but they've always worked for me. I was hoping they weren't working when it was my CP but unfortunately they were quite accurate! If you just want an initial 'check and see' kind of test they're probs a good cheap choice!

@Bumblebee413 he overheard the end of my phone call to the hospital (!!) and was like "erm... What was that about...?!" So I just flashed the test and was like "well... It's happened again" 🤦🏼‍♀️ haha it was the worst possible reveal but given how it's not exactly 'exciting' for us now it didn't matter. He was just like "oh great but let's not get too excited"... 😌

@SouthwestSis congratulations

@SnookyPook it's getting darker, fingers crossed for you. Which tests do you use? I need to invest in some cheaper ones than the First Response for future.

@SouthwestSis congratulations. Fingers crossed for you too 😊