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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Committing to TTC... freaking out!

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MRoseP · 29/09/2023 18:38

I'm hoping I can get some advice or at least hoping others will relate to this...

Husband and I have decided now feels like the right time to start TTC for our first baby and I've checked in on my app and I'm approaching my fertile window. I've been feeling really positive and content about starting this journey but knowing I have to actually commit now I'm having wobbles like "am I ready?"... aghhhh!

Just turned 30 this month, have been married a good few years and, up until recently, have found many excuses to wait a bit longer. Covid was a massive one and wanted to wait until the worst of it passed. Now I've sort of run out of excuses and I think it's go time.

I would LOVE to experience parenthood. I see myself with children and I know my husband will make a wonderful dad. But taking the plunge is proving harder than I thought!

I think it's the idea that, once you DTD, that's it. You've committed and you are potentially opening yourself up to all the highs and lows of pregnancy and birth. It's scary. It's impossible to predict your own pregnancy journey or how your birth will pan out. I think it's the fear of the unknown and I'm finding that unpredictability daunting.

Anyone felt the same (or currently feels the same)?

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skyerojo · 29/09/2023 19:49

Totally relatable! I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes it's the biological surge of 'this is all I want and need' vs the reality hit of how enormous it actually is as a life step.

You sound like you've got the perfect set up though, it must be really exciting.

Maybe to ease yourself in you could wait until slightly out of prime fertile period? Have some unprotected DTD time this month but without the enormity of thinking this could be it. That way by the time the next month's fertile period comes round you may feeling more relaxed and confident about it all?

Or just go for it! Sounds like you're ready as you'll ever be. Right now I get what you mean though, it's like a cliff you sometimes want to jump off and then suddenly think wait hang on 😆

How is your husband about it all?