2023 TTC 35+ Part 5

Everything crossed for you @H0pefull ! Symptom spotting is quite possibly the worst part of TTC - and I thought it would be AF that I'd find hardest!

My DH has his swimmers test next month. He has his appointment to take it in but not sure what happens at that point - presumably he will get called by the doc once results are back - does anyone know how long that should be? DH has been quite chilled about it all to be honest. Even the years from me 😂

Ooooo fingers crossed for you @Catson !!

I came out with something the other day that made me and the DH crease with laughter. I was taking a COVID test and I said "the only time Ill probably ever see 2 lines on a test is COVID and OPKs" - we couldn't stop laughing but I think for both of us it was a nervous laughter - like it was meant as a joke but we both kinda felt the truth in it too.

I can't recall if I have already said this so apologise - but congratulations @happytobemrsg !! I absolutely love reading about BFPs ❤️ How long have you been TTC?

No news from my end. AF nearly over and we are both back taking our vitamins since our month off... So will no doubt join everyone on the symptom spotting and POAS addiction soon 😂

Congratulations @Catson !

I’m sorry @El1988 and @VJFord . Even when you know it’s early it’s still so hard when you’ve got so much hope bundled up x

So I think I’m ovulating today. DH is very much in a different country, but home properly in under three weeks. I say this with the knowledge that I would never have achieved this out of choice- it all feels so addictive and pressured due to our age. But… having the enforced month on, month off routine has given me breaks and I honestly think it has really helped. So, I guess just to say that if anyone does have to write off a cycle for reasons out of your control, it isn’t always the worst.

I say this fully aware that we are about to enter baby making central for the next six months… 😂

Same for me today @El1988.12 DPO and negative. I'm so fed up.

BFN again this morning… not even sure why I’ve tested 🙈

I don't think I will @happytobemrsg, I will probably go again in 72 hours and hope the line is stronger. I got a box of 2 frer so don't want to do the second too soon.
Have you done a due date calculator yet?

@catson that’s brilliant news! Will you test again tomorrow?

Thanks so much @VixFromThe6ix !!

@El1988 I got a stark white BFN at 10dpo, 11dpo, 12dpo and 13dpo. I think, but I'm not sure that I'm around 14dpo today and got a very faint positive on a frer this morning.

I don't test for ovulation so it is a bit of a guessing game based on when I feel like I ovulated, so not very scientific.

We are hoping my ovulation will be NEXT weekend - few days after ct scan - - so we can hopefully try our luck after ct scan

Had my 2 daily wheatbisks #iron
With blueberries #superfood

Snacked on apricots

Fri night dinner will include cod

Cod = b12 - im trying !!

I hear you .

My partners decreased alcohol/ fizzy

But wish he would take vits etc

@FigandHoney agreed! Reluctant DH here too. I did have a go about it the other day to be fair - ffs everything I’m doing to try and make conception happen and all I’m asking is him to drink (a bit) less and wank into a cup. Jeez.

@FigandHoney male sperm testing is definitely one of the easiest tests and best to get done early. Wishing everyone a good weekend and plenty of baby dust. I feel like we're nearing capacity for this thread, please do add me to the next one.

@El1988 i got a BFN at 12DPO so 10DPO is nothing! Definitely nowhere near out yet!

@FigandHoney This has really made me chuckle 😂

Currently day 26 of my cycle and wondering if I should keeping holding out or do an early test... last few cycles I ovulated quite late (and my most recent pregnancy I didn't get a positive test until 3 days after my missed period), but this time I ovulated on day 14, I think, so that would be right in the middle of my usual cycle. The temptation is so strong but also it's quite nice being able to hope and if I get a negative, that's gone...

@El1988 We have only had two cycle this time trying for n2. But it took us a year and a half for our first. So obviously we aren't tge best example of fertility

I did literally put our vitamins in an kbvious location. So it's not that.
It's deliberate.
Like other husband's the pills are too big to swallow. So I specifically got a powder one. But he doesn't like the taste of it. Need to look for hummies. Because he is a child

@Cressie2 thank you! Also LOL! Yeah I know right, they’re like “you’re asking so much of me” and it’s like mhmmmm so… 9-10 months of carrying a child and then pushing it out and then feeding it with my boobs if one is so inclined/is able to for like 6 months to a year but OK SORRY, I am asking so much of you 🙈 rant over 🙈

@El1988 You’ve still got a few days to test but I feel for you, the wait after 10DPO is brutal. Hoping for a BFP for you 🤞🏻

@FigandHoney my DH was the same with his vitamins “they are too big to swallow”- and he expects me to PUSH OUT A BABY.

I digress.

Thank you @H0pefull - I’m not feeling too hopeful (he he) this time around given the above information… but gosh I would be so happy if it worked!

@FigandHoney how long have you guys been trying now? My husband was actually very chill about getting his sperm checked, and honestly I think men need to realise this shouldn’t be all on the female partner. I feel if you guys have been trying a while and you’ve had all the checks and everything looks ok, then he shouldn’t have an issue with getting a sperm check?

it’s a lot easier than all the checks on women, just DTD into a cup? And a lot of reasons that a spermiogram might not be optimal can be easily fixed with small tweaks like supplements or lifestyle, so why not find out? rather than letting you guys continue trying without all the information and then realising in 6 months that there was an issue with the sperm all along!

also for the supplements (which are getting out of hand at this stage in our house 🙈🙈🙈) I just put all the tablets for my husband into a little dish (that we used to use for dips lol) in the morning and then he just knows he has to take that. He’s not at religious about it as me; but he’s generally good. I don’t know if that would help?

@El1988 I am sorry. It's always horrible to see a BFN. But there is always hope until AF arrives

Fingers crossed for you still @El1988 xx

Well… I caved with the testing this morning on 9/10 DPO and of course it was a BFN 😔

as I said, we missed the ideal dates to conceive because of this virus, and also I think my body was under stress because of the virus things aren’t looking good this month, but I couldn’t help myself…

with the only time I got pregnant, and it didn’t work out, I only tested positive on 12 DPO so I don’t know, I’ll try to hold out until Monday/Tuesday when AF is due anyways…

@worldwidetravel2017 Widhing you all the best for your scan 🤞🤞

@H0pefull Oh well hopefully those are all positive signs of an impening BFP

@CurlyWurly1991 Hope you get everything sent off correctly. Sounds complicated

Hope you and @El1988 end up getting good news about the sperm.

I saw some sperm motility tests yesterday at boots. No clue how does work? Are they actually useful? Think I would struggle to get my husband to concede to testing his sperm.
Discovered this morning he hasn't been taking his vitamins regularly. I only have two pouches of mine left. And he has loads. Grr
He is older than me so in my mind needs it even more.

I also went to get some preseed. I don't always get enough cm down there and thought it might help. Some months I have loads of EWCM and others not. What's up with that?