Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

@Oxalis00 that's good on finally getting a positive! I would probably move it, or maybe even phone and check what they'd like you to do?

How are you all doing?

@Oxalis00 i would definitely move it - at the (nhs) fertility clinic I’m under, they always do it 7 days after your positive opk. No point doing it too early and then it not being in a position to confirm ovulation! X

So, OPKs have finally gone up! Today is CD18, which is weirdly late for me. I guess BBT over the next couple of days will show whether I actually ovulate. (To whoever asked, temp is lower in the first half of the cycle and goes up after ovulation, usually the threshold is about 36.4 degrees. It then comes down again before your period. Or stays up…! 🤞🏼)

I’m not sure now what to do about day 21 progesterone test, which is supposed to be 7 days before you expect your period and 7 days after ovulation. Mine is booked for Monday, which is CD 22. Should I move it based on ovulation, to get an accurate picture of progesterone at 7 days post-ovulation? Or keep it, levels will probably show low, and then discuss weird cycles with GP…?

@SnookyPook aw that’s amazing news, congratulations I’m so happy for you ❤️

@Oxalis00 that’s frustrating but keep going with the testing, this was literally me last cycle and I did finally peak! Keep us updated 😊

I’m 4dpo and undecided whether to add extra b6 to my vitamins in hopes to keep my progesterone up! Normally I would take 100mg throughout my whole cycle but this cycle I’ve been taking pregnacare instead which I know has a lot of B vitamins in already. However I am tempted to add 50mg of b6 just in case 👀 @Wise0wl am I correct in thinking you took pregnacare the month you got your bfp? I’m sure someone did and I can’t remember who!

Haha wouldn't that just be infuriating!

Thanks everyone 🤞🏻🌈💕🙏🏼

@SnookyPook ah wonderful news 💕 really hoping it all works out and all looks good at the scan🤞🏻🤞🏻

@SnookyPook how amazing!! I'll keep everything crossed that this is your rainbow at the end of such a difficult year. Maybe there is some truth in the "just forget it and have fun" method my older relatives keep telling me about 😅

Wonderful news @SnookyPook, I was wondering how you were getting on. Sending lots of positive sticky bean vibes in your direction, you really do deserve this after the awful year you’ve had 💗 x

Oh @SnookyPook really got my fingers crossed for you!! xx

@SnookyPook Oh my, what a lovely surprise - and isn't it inevitable when you decide to stop thinking and worrying about it?! Keeping everything crossed for you that this is the one. ❤

Hi all... So a shocked update from me. Some of you might remember I had a MC at Halloween. Was my third loss this year (a query ectopic due to low hcg but never confirmed and eventually righted itself without any intervention). Anyway, after that, I decided I just needed a month or two off thinking about it all. So... This month... No ovulation tracking, had a couple of very hot baths, wine, rough-housing with my toddler... (You can guess where this is going..) 😬

Last night I was ravenous, and suddenly thought to check my dates. I wasn't overly bothered because I know a loss can send your cycle a bit erratic, however I was pretty sure I'd ovulated around CD14 as usual because I had a mega spot appear. We dtd CD17 and 19... I'm CD32 - AF normally at CD28/29. It's my work Christmas party this eve so I thought I'd better check just in case... And... !!!

Don't need to tell anyone on this thread that I am feeling extremely cautious about this - but part of me can't help thinking this egg has really done it's best to get here with me doing F all to help!! So.... 😬 Early scan booked for a few days before Christmas... So that could be tough if it's bad news, but, maybe the festive season will be a nice distraction in the run-up etc. I will deal with whatever comes. Really hoping this is a sticky one though 🤞🏻

Hope everyone else is doing ok. @Wise0wl lovely to hear your update. Glad things are looking ok!

Sorry to those who are struggling. I had an appointment with a MH midwife a couple of weeks ago and spent an hour sobbing about everything I've been through! Just hoping I'm strong enough to face whatever comes... Blso hoping that this one is my 🌈💕

@Wise0wl @graceinc22 Thanks for the lovely words and reassurance - I honestly can't tell you how comforting it is to have this thread where everyone 'gets it'. My husband is amazing and supportive but I can tell that he doesn't quite understand why my period coming this week hit me so hard (and he's the one who wants a baby most out of the two of us!).

@Wise0wl Glad you've had your scan and got the progesterone - hope that helps and things continue to go okay. Will you be going back in for another scan?

@graceinc22 Great news about ovulation, fingers crossed for you when you test!

@GeorgeR28 Welcome and sorry to hear about your experience, that must have been really horrible and distressing. I'm glad you are feeling recovered and back to TTC. As you'll see if you read any of the messages on the thread from earlier this week, I am probably not the person to advise on what happens if you don't get a quick positive after MC! I've just finished my first cycle trying again and was really hopeful and felt devastated when my period came a couple of days ago - I'm just hoping that the emotion of it will lesson over time, if it doesn't happen for me for the first few cycles. I'm trying to focus on knowing what I can about what my body is doing so that I can control the stuff that I can influence and worry less about the things that I can't. I am a total control freak though, so find it very hard to accept and let go of stuff that I can't do anything about!

@Bali200 thankyou so much I appreciate that ❤️ I’ve been telling myself not to test as I definitely agree I find the negatives so triggering, I caved last night 9dpo and it was of course negative, when will I learn!

@Wise0wl so glad to hear things are looking good, and little bean has now caught up measurement wise. Must be such a relief after the last scan. So pleased that you now have the progesterone, albeit two weeks later! When are you next due back to EPU? X

@GeorgeR28 welcome to the thread, I’m so very sorry for your loss and to hear of the traumatic physical side of things that you went through. I personally found pg tests very triggering afterwards so I chose not to test and waited for AF instead as I felt this was the lesser of two evils! X

@Oxalis00 ah so sorry your tests are inconclusive! So BBT definitely means you haven't ovulated? It's so frustrating when our bodies don't do what we want them to do xx

@Oxalis00 I’m so sorry you had to go through that 😞 my heart goes out to you honestly. Mine was the exact same I had medical management too, which also is absolutely horrendous isn’t it.
i think that’s what gets me sometimes the flash backs of it all, even the sight of blood makes me panic and get upset. Good luck with regards to ovulation! Your tests will go positive as soon as you’re thinking you’re over testing for the month! I’ve got my fingers crossed for you- keep me posted ❤️

Pleased ovulation finally appeared for you @ThelastRolo20 - and so begins the TWW! Fingers crossed for you, and everyone here. Surely odds are we’ll have another BFP soon?!

@GeorgeR28 I’m so sorry you’ve had such an ordeal. The emotional pain of MC is bad enough without the physical trauma. I had similar earlier this year (two surgeries for RPOC, after initial medical management, bleeding for 2.5 months in total including 2 trips to A&E, ending in a blood transfusion!) It is scary, and it does affect how you see and feel in your body. I’m still processing it 3 months on, though the thoughts of it are a bit more distant now. Look after yourself and take things as slow as you can. I completely get the urge to TTC again though.

No progress for me with ovulation, onto CD18 tomorrow and DH is away now. I’ve never done OPKs for this long before so not sure what my baseline LH reading would be apart from around ovulation. BBT is still low so it’s not like I’ve missed the peak. And I have tested 4 times today…! 🤪

@Gem0302 honestly you’re just speaking my thoughts! That’s exactly where I’m at now. It’s a constant rollercoaster each month of waiting for ovulation, then being excited, then starting to worry again. I’m not going to test now until my period is due, I track bbt as well but this month I decided once my ovulation was confirmed I’d stop because every temp raise and dip I’d be googling and obsessing. I’ve heard a lot about that lube so I think we’ll try that next & definitely yes with the diet I’m going to do some research into that. I’ve been taking vitex since my surgery too and I’m hoping it’s helping, I ovulated bang on day 14 this month so I’m attributing it to the vitex wether it helped or not 🤣 thanks so much! Xxx

@GeorgeR28 i know exactly what you mean about seeing that negative test. It’s like it destroys the hope you have and instantly makes you doubt this cycle being the one. Not testing is equally as hard but I’ve been distracting myself the best I can.
So this cycle we used conceive plus lube, not every time but a couple in the days leading up to ovulation, I’ve also added into my diet lots of things that are meant to help: pineapple inc the core, Brazil nuts and soup for lunch rather than skipping it or eating something cold. Every month I do seed cycling, take multi vitamins and vitex which I don’t plan on changing as I know they’ve helped balance my hormones.
I think you’re right about not changing things too much as you want to know what’s working for you but anything that wouldn’t hurt like diet stuff etc I think is worth a shot.

@Ladyinpink1 thankyou for replying. It honestly was horrific, something I’m scared I’ll never really get over, I can’t imagine going a day without thinking about it over and over. I’m so glad I joined onto the thread, thankyou again ❤️
oh amazing what did you find about Brazil nuts… adding them to my next shopping list! Xx

@Gem0302 Thanks so much for replying! Funny you say that I’ve been doing that exact thing tonight, being only 9dpo I know that it’s most likely going to be negative but actually seeing the negative still really upsets me. I think the worst part is I got pregnant easily the first time and now it’s cycle 2 post surgery and I’m starting to panic that it won’t happen for such a long time. Do you have any tips on what you do differently each cycle? I’m scared to change things but then also want to! We did the Sperm meets egg method this month after hearing such good things about it. Really hope you’re doing okay ❤️

@Haylsttc thats exactly what I try to do. Two consultants have said to me now ‘you’ve got pregnant once and you will do it again don’t worry’ but sometimes the irrational mind takes over and I can’t stop overthinking it literally completely consumes me some days

@Wise0wl glad your scan got moved forward and that it went well. How are you feeling now?

@Bugdem123 there’s so much waiting around when ttc isn’t there! I feel like my fertile week is the only time I’m not wishing time away and like I’m actually doing something that’s within my control.

@graceinc22 fab news about ovulation. Got my fingers crossed for you.

@GeorgeR28 I’m so sorry for your loss and the ongoing trauma you had to go through. I’m also 9DPO and don’t deal well with seeing negative tests. I find myself googling (even though I know the answer) the chances of it being bfp after X amount of dpo. Similar to ladyinpink I try to focus on what I can try or do differently next cycle. Previous cycles I’ve started testing super early. I’m going to try and not test at all until 13dpo as that’s then I got my bfp with my son. I also turn to this forum quite a bit when I’m struggling with my thoughts.

Hope everyone is doing ok 💕

@Ladyinpink1 smepping made me giggle 😂 I think you’ll be covered with the days you’ve already done as I’m guessing you will have already ovulated by now since you got your peak when I did that😊

@GeorgeR28 thank you ❤️ I sadly do understand what you mean, it terrifies me too every day but I just try to convince myself otherwise to stay positive, it is hard though 😔

@Bugdem123 im so sorry to hear you think that too it is so awful 😞 at least we aren’t alone in this. Thankyou for replying ❤️