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Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

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Ladyinpink1 · 19/09/2023 07:57

Hi 🙋‍♀️, just as the title says, I am now on cd1 of my first cycle after a loss at 11+4 (stopped growing just after a scan showing strong heartbeat at 8 -9w)

Feeling nervous but positive about a new cycle ...but finding it hard to think of anything else other than ttc 🙂

Happy for some company to obsess with over these next weeks x

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wyto · 06/10/2023 08:27

@Ladyinpink1

I have thought about going to the gp but I'm not the biggest fan of doctors, needles etc (I call it white coat syndrome 🤣) I also think they'll brush me off and tell me it'll take 3 to 6 months blah blah before I'm back to normal and before anything can be done.

Oddly I was absolutely fine having all the tests, canulas etc when I was miscarrying, never had a blood test in my life out of a needle phobia and then had about 5 in 2 weeks 🙃

Oxalis00 · 06/10/2023 07:42

@Ladyinpink1 Just seen your update - great to see your temp is up! That sounds really promising. Keep us posted.

Oxalis00 · 06/10/2023 07:34

@wyto I was definitely more aware of twinges, mood swings etc in the first couple of cycles after my MC was resolved. I don’t know if it was just increased awareness mentally and/or more physical sensitivity to hormones - or higher levels of those hormones. I guess there must still be tenderness and inflammation in there after a pregnancy/MC. Try to go easy on yourself.

I had a bad night’s sleep waking up repeatedly to take my temp, no idea what time it was (and totally counterproductive as you’re supposed to do it after a long stretch of sleep!) and when I checked in the morning it was saying 35.95! So no clue what to make of that. Google says underactive thyroid 😫 Gosh I hate this process, it makes me crazy!

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Ladyinpink1 · 06/10/2023 07:34

My temperature has shot up this morning, if it maintains for 3 days then I did ovulate after all, just maybe not when I thought, hoping it stays up. Although not sure we dtd enough at the right time but maybe I have a small chance after all... maybe lol.

How is everyone else this morning? Quite a few are close to the end of the tww, would be lovely to see some bfps x

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Ladyinpink1 · 06/10/2023 07:29

@wyto It's nice to chat to others that get you. I did wonder was it all definitely out and was everything ok after too, It's a sad thought but I would say you don't get a further scan unless there is an issue because these clinics are so busy. 😞
But I agree I feel like you should def have a follow up appointment after even to ask questions or have someone explain what the symptoms mean and what is going on with your body.
I have had 2 miscarriages in a row so I have been referred for tests etc but there is a waiting list so I went to my GP in the meantime and asked for blood tests, could you ask your gp for the same? Then at least you will get some reasurrance for now x

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wyto · 06/10/2023 06:18

Thanks for all your support everyone it means a lot and it's so nice not to feel alone with all these new body changes!

Is anyone else experiencing ovulation pain, well discomfort really, just constant twinges and mine seem to be from both sides, never had this before and wondering if I'm just more aware or if something else is going on?

Does anyone else think it's really bad after a miscarriage that they just tell you to do a PT and there's no follow up bloods or scan?

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Ladyinpink1 · 05/10/2023 22:14

Thank you @Bali200 , I will do that. And I'm sorry AF has appeared for you. I hope this nice fresh new cycle is more normal and you gave good news very soon x

Thank you for the positivity @Oxalis00 and yay for the darker opk! That's great news, hoping for a temp shift in next few days for you.
Nothing that I think could change things. I will keep testing my opk as Bali said just incase x

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Ladyinpink1 · 05/10/2023 22:09

Welcome @wyto and I'm sorry for your loss. Hopefully this is your last tww and that it goes in really fast for you 🙂 x

Thank you @SnookyPook 8dpo ooh getting so close now! x

@graceinc22 i'm similar in timings of loss to you, my loss was 19th August and also just a couple of days before 12 weeks and things have been strange for me too. With the timing of ewcm, bbt and my first period being wierd, spotting I never normally get etc so don't loose hope, I think it must take our bodies time to get back to normal. It's frustrating but you aren't alone, sending a hug! x

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Oxalis00 · 05/10/2023 21:03

Welcome @wyto and @graceinc22 though I’m so sorry for your losses. Both really tough experiences 😢

@graceinc22 I’d say it looks encouraging that your temp has come down the last few days - that looks more like follicular phase. Did you do PT after the MC? Maybe it took a while for HCG to clear and hormones to resettle.

@Ladyinpink1 Thanks for your thoughts on my cycle sleuthing! I did actually get a higher OPK today (CD16) so will see what temp does tomorrow. I feel for you with the uncertainty about ovulation, it’s so hard not knowing what’s going on with your body when you just want to get back to baseline. You’ve been through a lot and it wouldn’t be a surprise if it took a while for cycles to reset. As hard as it is to keep waiting. Fingers crossed for things to settle soon though. Have you taken any new supplements or anything that might have delayed things? Or been ill? I had flu jab, don’t know if that makes a difference…

@SnookyPook I’ll try not to impose any unhelpful expectations on you, but 8DPO cramps is interesting! Crossing fingers x

Liz2681 · 05/10/2023 19:56

@Bali200 sorry to hear that 😔 it'll be good to start fresh so for the next cycle you have less to worry about. Will keep a lookout for AF in the meantime 😬

Bali200 · 05/10/2023 19:23

Hey @Liz2681 yes it is AF unfortunately, and she’s heavier than before, although I think my body could do with it tbh as my period after my mc was super light and had me worried about Asherman’s as I had surgical management. Hoping it’s not AF for you though 🤞🏼

@Ladyinpink1 sorry to hear your temp hasn’t risen, but definitely keep testing opks and see if you do get another surge later as I’ve read sometimes your body tries to ovulate, fails to release an egg and then tries again so don’t lose faith, although I know it’s annoying and upsetting when you don’t know what’s going on with your body x

Liz2681 · 05/10/2023 18:57

@wyto so sorry for your loss and completely understand how you feel, especially when you're sure you're pregnant but it doesn't pan out.

TWW sucks but this and other forums have really helped remind me I'm not the only one in this boat 😌

@Bali200 did this end up being AF? I'm in a similar boat where I've started spotting brown today (nothing heavy or substantial, sorry TMI!) but wondering whether it's AF as well, even tho not due until next Tuesday. I'm also having cramping on my left side 😕

graceinc22 · 05/10/2023 18:06

Hey everyone. Great to see people are ovulating, hopefully people’s bodies getting ready to get pregnant again!

i don’t think I have ovulated after my loss end of august (at nearly 12 weeks…) - bbt all over the place. Some scattered ewcm but not a lot. Ovulation type pain most days - on one of my scans they said I had a cyst and I wonder if it’s still there. (Plus the PCOS ovaries that I have already, but those have never given me pain throughout my cycle!) x

Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂
SnookyPook · 05/10/2023 10:31

@wyto sorry for your loss - especially after the initial hope around 6wks and then the worst happening. That must have been a tough few weeks. Welcome to the tww... hopefully rainbow baby on its way soon 💕

@Ladyinpink1 @Oxalis00 sorry you're both in ovulation limbo. Hopefully things sort themselves out very soon. I think a bit of messed up cycle is extremely normal. I didn't even test for ovulation in the first cycle after my loss so no idea what was going on. I did have one slightly longer than usual cycle though, followed by a slightly shorter than usual and then back to my usual pattern. Hopefully things settle down soon.

8dpo here... this morning I woke up an hour before my alarm to cramping... 🤔 Going to be a long week now until AF due!

wyto · 05/10/2023 08:19

Hi Everyone, sorry late to the party and new to this forum! Hope it's okay to join in :)

I have just ovulated on my second cycle after MMC in July (first baby, conceived quite quickly, bleed at 6 weeks, thought the worse but they saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks and then next scan no heartbeat and had a medically managed miscarriage)

This thread has made me feel so normal so thanks everyone for doing that!

2 weeks after my MMC I had loads of EWCM (more than normal) and nothing since! Tests are saying I have peaked but obviously can't be sure if I have ovulated.

First period after was completely painless which I wasn't expecting, second period was super painful and a week early which is unheard of for me normally! So now i feel a little bit broken and very impatient. I'd also convinced myself I was pregnant so quite upsetting.

Anyway I've just finished ovulating I think, so now have the joyous TWW

Keeping my fingers crossed for all of you!

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Ladyinpink1 · 05/10/2023 07:59

Are you on cd16? @Oxalis00 Maybe you are going to ovulate a little later this cycle, it's still early days for you. Hope you get that pos opk and temp change very soon!
I had a positive opk and lots of ewcm but when I researched it, it said you can get all of those things and still not ovulate, only really the sustainted temp change can confirm. I feel like my body tried really hard but it was too soon maybe. x

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Oxalis00 · 05/10/2023 07:49

@Ladyinpink1 Similar confusion here - temp isn’t going up and ov tests still sort of medium looking (though low by PreMom’s calculations). Starting to worry maybe I’m not ovulating this cycle, which has never happened before AFAIK. A watched ovary never pops!

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Ladyinpink1 · 05/10/2023 05:39

Just realised I said sort of twice. Bedtime brain last night.
Are you sure it's AF @Bali200 ? I'm so sorry if it is.
I'm not sure if I actually ovulated, my temp isn't really rising this morning, which as dissapointing as it is, I have to realistically think it was only the first cycle. x

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Bali200 · 04/10/2023 22:51

I think AF is starting to rear her ugly head for me at 8dpo, I think she’ll be here fully by morning 😭 I feel stupid for how upset I am by this even though I knew it was sooo unlikely to happen this first cycle 😔

Also upset by the 8 day luteal and 24 day cycle, it’s so short right 😔, hoping the b6 will kick in next month for me 🤞🏼 but also going to use this opportunity to get my body and mind in a healthier place.

I’m still going to hang around here if that’s ok, with my short cycles I’ll catch up in no time 😂 but really hoping to see some BFP’s on here soon 💗💗💗 xx

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Ladyinpink1 · 04/10/2023 22:28

Ooh I hope your temp increases tomorrow then @Bali200 Yes no probs, my pre af sore breasts didn't start until alot later.... Which is probably unhelpful as I think that's the opposite of most people.. 😄 everything had a stronger smell, weird vivid dreams and then light cramps and a feeling of sort of fullness in the sort of womb area. I recorded itritability too but thats prob the same any cycle at that time lol x

@Aaliyahrae i really recommend the temping it's great, you can see the exact day you ovulate without any doubt. You get a special thermometer that records decimals and take your temp every morning before getting up. x

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Aaliyahrae · 04/10/2023 21:08

How does temping work girls? My idea of TTC is just DTD a couple of times a week but I’m guessing this isn’t correct as can miss the day.

I hope everyone is ok! I’ve finally come off my period today but have zero sex drive! I really cannot be bothered to have sex but know I need to if I want another baby! Send help lol

SnookyPook · 04/10/2023 19:34

Evening all. Apologies I seem to have got out the loop a bit with this chat. Welcome to the new joiners. Seems a few of us are in 'middle of tww' fun times! 7dpo here and desperately trying not to symptom spot and read too much into anything! @Haylsttc I also have to have the 'every pregnancy is different' chat with myself most months. Might really be a blessing those of you who don't know what your early symptoms have been previously!

Hope everyone is well x

Haylsttc · 04/10/2023 19:18

@Liz2681 your BBT staying high is a good sign though, fingers crossed it keeps that way!

I’m similar to you in terms of symptoms I have backache, had mild cramping the past few days and my chin is breaking out. All of which I had as symptoms before my last positive test but also symptoms I get before AF so it’s very confusing!

I think I would actually rather not know my symptoms before my positive test last time as when I don’t get them now I count myself as out straight away 🙈 need to remind myself that every pregnancy is different though!

@Bali200 we’re in a similar boat, I’ve started AF spotting at 9dpo previously but that was cycles I didn’t take b6 so hoping it doesn’t happen this time 🤞 Only slight symptoms I mentioned to Liz2681 above but nothing major as of yet.

Really hoping this is the month for us 🤞

Bali200 · 04/10/2023 17:55

@Haylsttc yep I’m hoping it’s not tomorrow as that will only be 9dpo, I’m hoping to get away with it till at least Monday, let’s see if all this b6 and omega helps to lengthen it 🤞🏼 how are you getting on today, anything to report? X

@Ladyinpink1 I’ve totally convinced myself that I’m out today, I’m absolutely freezing haha and no other symptoms apart from the dreams but B6 can cause vivid dreams so I think it’s the copious amount of b6 I’m having 😂. My temp dropped today so could be implantation today if it increases tomorrow but it feels unlikely at the mo. As I wasn’t symptom spotting last time I can’t remember how early I had symptoms which is annoying. I remember I didn’t have sore boobs until 4+6 as that’s what made me do a test the next day. What early symptoms did you have last time? X

Liz2681 · 04/10/2023 15:51

Hi @Haylsttc

Only symptoms here (8DPO) are sore boobs (nothing extreme) and some mild cramping; I've also had a bit of lower back pain, but to be honest none of those are unusual for me around this time of my cycle so it might just be a sign of AF's impending arrival. BBT still has not dropped though so that's at least one positive sign!

Kicking myself as last time I got pregnant I was on holiday during TWW and wasn't paying any attention to my symptoms or tracking BBT so don't even have that to compare to 🤦🏻‍♀️

How's everyone else getting on?