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Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

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Ladyinpink1 · 19/09/2023 07:57

Hi 🙋‍♀️, just as the title says, I am now on cd1 of my first cycle after a loss at 11+4 (stopped growing just after a scan showing strong heartbeat at 8 -9w)

Feeling nervous but positive about a new cycle ...but finding it hard to think of anything else other than ttc 🙂

Happy for some company to obsess with over these next weeks x

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Ladyinpink1 · 09/10/2023 21:55

This is different from the app I use, so the purple line is your temp, what is the red line? Is it your fertility peak? Once your temp stays up for 3 days + then it means that you ovulated. I was reading about this the other day and when you get the + opk, you can ovulate 12 to 48 hours later, and if you ovulated later in the morning (after you took that morning bbt) then you wouldn't get a temp rise until the following day... could that account for the days? x

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Ladyinpink1 · 09/10/2023 21:38

@Oxalis00 blabbering away I meant

@Haylsttc I'm so sorry to hear AF arrived, hope you can habe lots of nice chocolate and dont have too long to wait for your next opk, but that's brilliant you got a longer luteal phase. Hope the rest of this month brings good news on the thread. x

How is everyone else doing? x

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Oxalis00 · 09/10/2023 21:35

Haha @Ladyinpink1 I love the blabbering! It’s so reassuring to share the journey. Makes me feel (a bit) less mad…!

Here’s my temp chart. I’ve read it’s over 36.4 that signals ovulation, and today was the first time it did that. (CD6 was a weird high when I was a bit feverish, I think in response to 2yo DD’s nasal flu vaccine…!) I have been taking a different prenatal vitamin and also got my own flu jab this month, so don’t know if those might have delayed ovulation, but it doesn’t really explain the gap between peak OPK and temp rise. Possibly I’ve just been sleeping with my mouth open?!

I’m incredibly impressed by the precision of your symptom record keeping! Here’s hoping those boobs don’t get sore for a good while yet!

Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂
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Ladyinpink1 · 09/10/2023 21:22

@Oxalis00 You are not alone feeling it's taking over, we first started trying in October last year and had waited to track cycles a few months previous, so it's now over a year, and 2 lost pregnancys later and I'm back to square 1 so alot of time has been spent on this.

I am on cd20 now too and I also had a delay before my temp started to rise. Cd 16 is good for dtd for you, I think it's better to have the swimmers waiting 👍 Did your temp go up a bit yesterday or was today the first day it rose?

I always early test 🙈 but I have figured out a strange pattern from my pregnancys so far, I keep a record of each cycle and each month at about 6dpo until af I get sore breasts, the times I have been pregnant I haven't got sore breasts until a good bit later, so I will just wait for sore breasts instead, it's like a whole other level of obsessing 🤣 but we dtd a bit too early this cycle I think so not sure how good our chances are. What about you, will you test or wait? x

Oh my goodness I have really blabber away in my comment to you 😄 aw well, it's nice to talk to others and so i'm positing it anyway

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Haylsttc · 09/10/2023 12:17

Sorry haven’t messaged in a few days, been super busy!

Welcome to everyone who has just joined @wyto@graceinc22@RubyCat06@Wise0wl so sorry for all of your losses ❤️

AF arrived on Sunday at what I think would be around 12dpo, obviously not what I wanted but that’s a longer luteal phase for me as sometimes I only make it to 9dpo! Onto the next cycle 😅

Oxalis00 · 09/10/2023 12:15

Hi everyone, there’s loads to catch up on and I’ve read all the messages. Sorry that some of you (us!) are struggling with uncertainty around our bodies/cycles, esp after MC. It’s hard being so focussed on TTC, I feel like I’m wishing my life away sometimes... Currently on CD20 and only just got a higher BBT this morning, though peak ovulation test was CD16, so I don’t know if I’ve ovulated or when, and if I did DTD was probably not well timed (only CD13 and 16). PreMom says CD17 but that’s changed since last week. Still hoping though…! 😬 Are people planning to test, or holding out for AF?

RubyCat06 · 08/10/2023 10:05

@wyto i just wanted to say in relation to seeing the GP. My experience was that they are very understanding and had no issues taking bloods. They took it seriously and didn’t turn me away 💕 I hope you are ok.
@Wise0wl When I came off the pill a few years ago I had very short cycles - no problems and got pregnant with no issues (my daughter is currently cuddled on my knee watching peppa). So may not be an issue 🩷
I guess I’m now in my first 2 week wait since the miscarriage. Just feel flat about it all and like it’s not going to happen.

wyto · 08/10/2023 08:17

@Wise0wl
Sounds like we had our miscarriages around the same time and a very similar first cycle too! My normal cycle was around 28/29 days and my first one after was 23 days!

Oddly I had some discharge yesterday (sorry tmi) so I decided to do an OPK and I had quite a dark line on it! My peak was 3rd of October and either side of that very light lines and then yesterday all of a sudden a darkish line (lighter than the control line still) so now I'm really confused!

Wise0wl · 07/10/2023 22:30

Thanks @Ladyinpink1 & @Liz2681 - it’s so helpful to have found others going through similar. It’s also really hard not to over analyse everything! Here’s hoping we all get lucky soon. X

Liz2681 · 07/10/2023 21:30

thanks @Ladyinpink1 - staying optimistic and keeping fingers (and toes) crossed for this next cycle!

Hi @Wise0wl so sorry about your loss 😞 there's a few of us on here going through very similar experiences so please don't feel you're alone ❤️

In terms of short cycles, I had a chemical last month, and my next cycle was very short (26 days vs my usual 30-32 days). Think it's just my body readjusting after the chemical, so hopefully no reason why it shouldn't go back to normal after a couple of cycles.

If you're finding your cycles not reverting back to normal though, it can't hurt speaking to your GP even if it's for a little peace of mind x

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Ladyinpink1 · 07/10/2023 21:07

I'm sorry about AF arriving @Liz2681 I hope this fresh new cycle brings good news ❤️ x

Hi @Wise0wl nice to have you join us 🙂, I'm sorry you have been feeling that way, but you are definitely not alone. It's so dissapointing when you get your hopes up isn't it. I think a few have said their first cycle or 2 weren't the same as before. x

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Wise0wl · 07/10/2023 18:16

Hello ladies, am feeling pretty lonely so hoping I can join you.

TTC baby #2 after a MMC in July. Didn’t quite realise how much I was hoping for a bfp in September and am sort of holding our hope for this month, but am on CD23 and have some pink spotting. My last cycle was short too - spotting on CD23 and AF on CD24 so am pretty certain I’m out.

Has anyone else had shorter cycles after pregnancy loss? Not sure if I should speak to my GP, or if shorter cycles are a problem?

Liz2681 · 07/10/2023 16:07

Well looks like I'm out this month - AF arrived yesterday and is in full swing today. Probably for the best as I'd yet to have a period following MC so hoping this resets things somewhat.

Good luck with this cycle to the rest of you ladies! xx

SnookyPook · 06/10/2023 22:06

@RubyCat06 - glad you joined us. So sorry for your loss though. I agree - even though I obviously knew about miscarriage, and had even had people close to me go through them, I was a bit naive about really believing it could happen to me. Ah well.

That's great that your GP has done all those blood tests, and really reassuring. It sounds like you did just get unlucky and next time, everything will go perfectly 🤞🏻💕🌈

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Ladyinpink1 · 06/10/2023 20:04

@Bali200 I hope it's just clearing everything out for you and then next cycle is textbook with a good strong opk and temp rise 🙂
Well I was just checking before I answered your question, before my first loss it was 28 days but after that and before this most recent miscarriage it was 25/26 days so I'm really not sure this time around lol. Maybe somewhere in the middle x

I'm sorry for your loss @RubyCat06 and pleased to hear all was well with your tests! That's always a relief especially when you are hoping to try again. I am also on cd17 🙂 x

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wyto · 06/10/2023 20:03

@Ladyinpink1 I will definitely go and see the gp if things continue, I just think I'll be turned away for the time being and told I need to wait for my body to get back to normal. Interesting about the saliva though!

wyto · 06/10/2023 20:02

@graceinc22

Good to know I'm not on my own!! Just hoping it doesn't mean I can't get pregnant again yet.

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Ladyinpink1 · 06/10/2023 19:55

@Oxalis00 I do the same, I roll over through the night and then suddenly, I'm awake thinking oh I need to take my temp but when I check the time it's like 2am so I try really hard to get back to sleep so I have had enough sleep time to get an accurate temp when it's actually morning but i can't get back to sleep for worrying about the temps 🤣🤣 does that sound familiar?
And as to your strange temp, I get a morning temp that's weird after a bad night too. Hopefully you get a good sleep and it's back to normal tomorrow. x

@wyto Oh really, well I have heard about people getting their saliva tested that can show up any issues, it is apparently effective but would be need to be done privately. I'm not sure how else you could get the tests done that you had mentioned without having your blood taken, but i really dont know too much about it... maybe someone else on here will know or have an idea 🙂 x

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Oxalis00 · 06/10/2023 19:53

@RubyCat06 Fingers crossed for you too! If you manage to avoid overthinking let me know your secret… 🤦🏻‍♀️

RubyCat06 · 06/10/2023 18:33

Thanks for the replies 😊
Sending luck and best wishes to everyone.
My lovely GP did a massive range of blood tests for me and I got the results back today, every single one was perfect. I had wondered if I had a thyroid problem I didn’t know about. I guess it was just one of those things.

@Oxalis00 wow we are cycle twins! I will be trying to do no overthinking and symptom spotting. Honestly I have my guard up so high since the miscarriage. Good luck 🤞

graceinc22 · 06/10/2023 17:29

@wyto yes I keep getting ovulation type pains (repeatedly through the cycle), mostly from one side - very odd. Might ask the clinic about that at my next fertility review (I’m going back on ovulation induction medication).

@RubyCat06 very sorry to hear of your loss. Just such a hard experience to go through. Wish you all the best with ttc x

Oxalis00 · 06/10/2023 16:45

Welcome @RubyCat06 and I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s one thing knowing about MC in general terms but it’s such a shock (or totally surreal) when it actually happens to you. Good on you for going gently and trying not to put any pressure on TTC at the moment - your body and mind have been through a lot. I’m CD17 too - come and join the journey…

RubyCat06 · 06/10/2023 14:54

I came across this thread after seeing it linked from another thread.
TTC after loss feels so different to how it felt before and reading this thread felt so familiar, so I wondered if I could join.
I had a miscarriage in August that completely blindsided my husband and I. I feel silly that I let myself think that it was not going to happen to me.
We are trying again, but trying not so put pressure on ourselves. Today is day 17 of my cycle. x

Bali200 · 06/10/2023 14:37

@Ladyinpink1 thank you, this AF is like one I’ve never had before so maybe it’s a good sign, maybe not 😂 I have no cramps, but it’s heavy and bright red which is not normal for me, so we’ll see what happens, maybe my body could do with a big flush out.

Yay for the temp rise 🙌🏼 hope it stays high for you, how long is your cycle normally? X

wyto · 06/10/2023 08:28

@Oxalis00

I hear you on the mood swings, my poor husband doesn't know where to look sometimes, I seem worse now than when it first happened!