Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

@ThelastRolo20 I’m glad to hear that! Somehow before I had my MMC I thought that miscarriage was a one time thing, you just had a big bleed and then it was all gone. I feel silly saying it, but I didn’t realise it would be like a period or bleeding after birth and go on for so long. I’m now on CD17, the first day of my tww (hence being active on here as I hate waiting!) so we’ll see 🤞X

@Wise0wl I'm doing alright thank you - doing daily tests which are getting lighter which is helping mentally. A week on and the bleeding has really slowed too so hoping it's all coming to an end! How are you getting on? X

@graceinc22 good news about your positive OPK!

I didn’t do any ovulation tests until this cycle (third since my MMC) and whilst I know it’s easy to get obsessive about it, it’s helped me feel a bit more in control. Hope you’re doing ok @ThelastRolo20 x

@ThelastRolo20 no period in between, I know I’m at outlier and had been told to expect 4-6 weeks as the avg. I also had some spotting and some pain so I’ve been referred to a gynae scan - but I think it’s just the PCOS kicking in! Some of my friends also took a while for their bodies to be back working after miscarriage, but then you read on here about people getting pregnant straight away - just trying to be patient and kind to my body. It’s been through a lot!

@graceinc22 that's great re positive OPK - I'm only one week after my miscarriage, can I ask if you had a period in-between? I'll be using OPKs as soon as the bleeding stops to try and make sure I don't miss ovulation so good to know other people's experiences. Either way good luck! X

@Wise0wl ah, being away always seems to come at the most inconvenient time, but sounds like you’re well covered from before the trip!!

I think I may have FINALLY ovulated yesterday… only 7.5 weeks since the miscarriage… positive opk on Friday and then a temp rise this morning. Let’s see, my post mc cycle has given me lots of false alarms!

Thanks @SnookyPook & @Liz2681, managed Weds, Thurs and Friday morning, so still hopeful. And now going to invent a dentist appointment for Monday afternoon so I can finish work a bit early 😂 how are you both doing? X

Sorry to hear that @Wise0wl, it's so frustrating when things don't align but agree with @SnookyPook that it doesn't mean you're completely out depending on when you ovulate after your peak and the viability of the egg after. I'd therefore give it a go if you can on Monday!

Hope everyone is doing well and enjoying the (soggy) weekend! x

@Wise0wl oh that's so frustrating. If you can manage Monday afternoon, do it! Egg releases 12-24 hrs after peak and then, depending what you read, can survive another 36hrs. Did you manage any of the last 5 days too? There is always a chance but admittedly not perfect timing. When things like that happened to me I tried to see it as the Universe intervening cos it knew I wasn't quite ready that month or maybe it wasn't a great egg... Not much comfort I know but maybe helps a little. Sending a big hug!

Trying not to be too disappointed (but also trying to manage not feeling too hopeful if the chances are low)… DH is away until Monday afternoon, I’ve just got a static smiley on my CB test. Too late to hope that dtd on Monday might be even remotely in with a chance of being successful…? (Even writing this has made me feel like it’s really unlikely 😔) hope you all have a lovely weekend x

Hi @Ladyinpink1 how strange you were thinking of tagging me! I’m doing ok thank you for asking, I’m CD16 and got my peak opk today so I’m at the fun part of my cycle 😂 although I look like I’m going to ovulate a couple of days later than last month so I’m hoping at least for a lengthier luteal phase this cycle, hopefully the B6 and vit c work their magic as 8 days last month was not the one ✨🤞🏼x

Thanks @Aaliyahrae and @Haylsttc its really tough ttc after a loss isn’t it, I think focusing on the ttc was my coping mechanism last month so when it didn’t work I felt like the grief hit me all over again 😪 x

So sorry to hear you had an indent @Aaliyahrae, that’s so cruel 💔 I hope you are doing ok now after a bit of a break? X

I’m also trying to restrict my time on MN as I was spending an unhealthy amount of time on here, especially on my WFH days I was doing very little work 😬 therefore you can all expect replies from me in 3-5 workings days 😂 x

@Aaliyahrae welcome back, sorry to hear you were having a hard time! I agree it’s so hard not to think about ttc when trying after a miscarriage. Totally different experience to what it was when we first started trying! Just do what feels right for you ❤️

@Bali200 nice to see you back too! Each month AF arrives I’m so sad too 💔

@ThelastRolo20 hope you had a good day today and kept yourself distracted 😊 hopefully it doesn’t take too long for your tests to return to negative 🤞

@Oxalis00 sorry to hear you’re on cycle day one, such a painful feeling! I hope the time goes by quick for you until ovulation 😊

@Aaliyahrae thank you, definitely taking one day at a time. Having a day with my toddler today which I'm looking forward to - it's very distracting! I know it's early but I've also started doing pregnancy tests to see the line get fainter, that also helps.

Hope you're doing okay and looking after yourself, sometimes a break from everything is exactly what's needed x

@Oxalis00 so sorry AF is here. Weirdly after crushing disappointment and a big cry, I found being back on CD1 a fresh start. It’s the hopeful waiting after ovulation I find so hard, reading into every symptom! Sending hugs x

@Oxalis00 I surprised myself! It’s still lingered in the back of my mind but decided to delete apps etc and just have sex when I feel like it. Sorry to hear AF has arrived! Hope you’ve treated yourself with something nice.

@Bali200 I had a little break too when my AF came, I was so sad because the clear blue test gave me a very clear intent that got my hopes up! Glad you’re ok and back.

@ThelastRolo20 So sorry to hear. I had a miscarriage a few months back so I know how rough it is! Make sure you look after yourself x

@Ladyinpink1 I’ve heard lots of positives about people falling pregnant while away on holidays etc because you’re so relaxed. I have everything crossed for you!

@Ladyinpink1 no I cancelled it. Everything seems to have happened naturally so figured that was the best outcome for my body - let it do it at its own pace which I hope means things will settle down okay. My only fear is having any retained tissue so needing a procedure in a few weeks time - I would do anything to skip a month ahead in time! I'm glad you're feeling positive about this month and that you're going away at the right time :) x

Hi everyone, I had a little break from MN as I lost my head a little when AF reared her ugly head but I think I’ve caught up on everything I’ve missed now.

Sorry to see AF has arrived for you @Ladyinpink1, hope you’re doing ok? X

@SnookyPook congratulations on the bfp although I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling worried, I have my fingers crossed for a sticky one for you 🤞🏼 x

@Oxalis00 sorry to hear it's the start of another cycle, hope you're feeling okay x

So glad to hear some of you (@Wise0wl @Haylsttc) saying similar things about the hidden challenges of seeing others pregnant when you’re not (any more), and setting deadlines in your head only to get disappointed 😫 It’s all a bit mad. I’m impressed @Aaliyahrae you were able to switch off for a little while, I wouldn’t know how to do that!

After two days of spotting (and a negative test just to check…) I’m now on CD1. Ugh. Try, try, try again…!

@Ladyinpink1 I have everything crossed for you 😊 not too long until ovulation! I always find the first couple of cycle days difficult before feeling positive for another chance.

@Ladyinpink1 how are you feeling about starting your period? & don’t apologise, I only decided not to track because TTC after my miscarriage is taking over my life. I feel so sad that I should be going into my 3rd trimester in November and I’m still not even in my 1st with a new pregnancy!

Sorry for the silence, my spotting turned into AF and I was a bit crushed by it. Even though I knew when I posted it probably was, it’s so hard not to hope isn’t it?

Anyway, new cycle, and am more focussed (for better or worse), and got a flashing smiley on my clear blue test which is positive (less so that DH is away this weekend though!) so am hopeful.

Congratulations @wyto! What lovely news! Despite similar timed MC and shorter first cycles I’m trying not to hope too much I might have a positive test soon too 😅

And fingers crossed for you @SnookyPook

@Oxalis00 i am so with you on the Christmas window, esp with PG family (due same month as ours would have been, too). It’s so hard isn’t it. Hope you’re doing ok x