Cd1 of ttc first cycle after loss... anyone want to join me? 🙂

Thanks @Oxalis00 it's still so early so all very tentative so trying to keep a level head.

@CluelessInLondon I don't know actually 🤔 I'm sure you can go and get a scan if you have concerns but at the moment, because everything seems fairly normal, I might just go private. If that changes though I'll definitely be going to the EPU.

@Gem0302 The first part of the cycle does feel really long - I've been telling myself not to wish the time away as it's time that I could be spending doing something good. Maybe try and make sure you've always got a couple of nice things planned during the first couple of weeks of your cycle, so you have something to distract you and to look forward to? Even if it's just something small I find it's nice to have something other than TTC to think about!

@Ladyinpink1 Sorry to hear you are feeling down - there is still time to get that BFP though, so try not to feel too disheartened.

@Aaliyahrae @Liz2681 Will you be able to get early scans through EPU or do you need to go private?

I'm CD12 today so on the OPKs with a vengeance. Completely irrationally disappointed that this morning's was looking distinctly negative, even though I know I'm probably not likely to ovulate until CD17 anyway. Annoyingly, I'm away this weekend so missing some opportunities - have told my husband to be prepared for action on Friday morning and Sunday night. 😂

Congratulations @Liz2681! Great to hear you’re getting a nice clear line. Crossing fingers for you - I can well imagine the anxiety of a BFP after loss.

Morning everyone!

Completely agree with what's been said about BFPs feeling different after a MC. You'd think the worrying stops, but it just continues which is hard to deal with, as other people seem to be able to just enjoy getting on with their pregnancies.

@Ladyinpink1 sorry to hear you're feeling down. It's so hard to see s negative test, but depending on where you are in your cycle you might still not be out. I didn't get a faint positive until 11DPO (and it was very faint on a FRER), and everything before then was stark white. It's only now I'm getting clearer ones at 14DPO.

@Aaliyahrae I'm with you, will definitely be having an early scan. I don't think my anxiety will decrease until then! Currently also 4 weeks in, so will be waiting another couple to book it in.

Oh @Ladyinpink1 I completely understand your sadness. It’s ok to feel sad. It makes sense. I do think you’re early for a definitive answer though - you must be about 9DPO? I’ve just googled it and less than half of pregnancies show with a positive at 9DPO…

I’ll definitely have an early scan! I’ve had one with each of my pregnancies. I’m not sure how far along I am because my cycles have been everywhere since the MC so I don’t know the length but I’m assuming I’m very early (like 4 weeks) because of the negative so i’ll book one in 2 weeks. Just praying everything is ok! I have days where I’m really positive and then days where I’m like maybe this is too good to be true! Just want to fast forward to next March!

Awww girl. How many DPO are you? You could have implanted later. I know it’s disheartening though and nothing anyone says really makes it feel 100% better - sending you lots of hugs for today. X

@Ladyinpink1 I totally agree with you and others that BFP after miscarriage is not the same. Finding myself over analysing everything - trying to be positive but it’s so hard when I’m so desperate for things to go ok so I definitely agree that I’m not ready to leave this thread yet.

& sorry to hear you aren’t feeling great today. BFN doesn’t mean you’re out yet. I mean I took a test, it was negative and then a week later got a positive. It happens. I know it feels that way though so be kind to yourself today❤️.

Huge congratulations @Liz2681.

I agree @Ladyinpink1 there’s something really reassuring about having a group of people who understand exactly what you’re going through. I don’t really talk to my friends about TTC, also my 2 best friends are currently pregnant (first month trying for them of course) and my husband tries to understand bless him but it’s not the same.

Im on CD4 now and this part of the cycle just feels so pointless and long.

I believe there is a very active 'pregnancy after miscarriage' thread on the pregnancy board... I never got as far as daring to join but I've seen it and it seems very supportive as you'd expect 😊

😂 thanks for clarifying @Ladyinpink1! it does make sense to have a a graduated thread, especially as we all know first hand how bittersweet the good news of others is. Having said that I’m not quite sure I’m ready to join a pregnancy board just yet, but might after my scan at EPU next week?

How are you getting on? X

@Ladyinpink1 @CluelessInLondon thank you - not heard yet but they said weeks rather than months so hopefully will hear fairly soon 🤞🏻

Congratulations @Liz2681 💕

Another BFP! Congratulations @Liz2681, hope you are feeling okay and keeping fingers crossed that this is a sticky one for you.

@Wise0wl That's great that you got your referral to EPU so quickly and you've got the guarantee of a scan next week. I know the early scans can only tell you so much, but there's something reassuring about not having to do that long first trimester wait for a scan. The EGU at my hospital told me to call them directly if/when I get pregnant again to arrange early scans - fingers crossed I get to do that before too long!

Good luck to anyone testing in the next couple of days - it seems to be a good time for it, there are BFPs popping up all over this thread at the moment!

Thanks @Aaliyahrae that's really reassuring and really appreciated. I'll keep everyone posted on how I get on. In the meantime, will look forward to seeing some more BFPs on the thread! 💜

@Wise0wl & @Liz2681 i agree. That’s why I didn’t want to leave the thread when I got my BFP because I’ve found it so helpful. As a lot more of us start getting our BFP’s I hope the baby dust spreads throughout and we all get our happy endings! ❤️❤️

& @Liz2681 it is so scary, that’s how my miscarriage started too but I’ve also had 2 healthy children and had spotting. They never found a reason for the spotting and it happened for weeks. I know how worrying it is though so please feel free to keep messaging about it etc if you are worried and need to get it off your chest xx

I second what @Wise0wl everyone's so lovely, honestly this thread has been so instrumental in helping me through some seriously crappy times!

The FRER test was taken at 11DPO yesterday. Did a Clearblue test today and that was also a faint positive, although that wasn't with FMU like the FRER (photo below). My easy@home tests are still quite faint though, so don't know if that's just due to the kind of test or what 😬

Thanks @Wise0wl and @Aaliyahrae that's really helpful to know. I think I'm just worried because that's how my MC started in September, but also know spotting doesn't have to signify a problem.

Thanks @Wise0wl that's really helpful to understand what the process is at the EPU. I ovulated really late this cycle as well (CD20) so they may not see very much anyway even if I had an ultrasound. Think I may need to wait it out for another few days and see what happens.

Thank you @Oxalis00 & @CluelessInLondon & @SnookyPook, it’s sort of blown me away how lovely this thread is when I know how hard it is when someone gets a bfp you so desperately want. You are all wonderful women and I have everything crossed for all of us to get our sticky beans ♥️

I think I can see a line @Liz2681! How many DPO are you?

In terms of a spotting update: I did one of those e-consult Patch form things good for me to speak to my GP this morning, and they have referred me to EPU, who have said that they’re happy to scan me next week (when I think I’d be about 6 weeks) as they don’t recommend scans until after 5 weeks. And they need to scan before thinking about prescribing progesterone, so I guess we’ll see what happens between now and end of next week? I was happy that it felt like they responded quickly and have taken it seriously, so am focusing on that! @Liz2681 I had a lot of spotting in my first pregnancy too, often when my periods would have been (and that was my successful pregnancy). Fingers crossed for you!

@Liz2681 congratulations!!!! So happy for you. I had spotting in my pregnancies with my children, it may just be implantation. Keep an eye on it and call EPU if you are worried xx

Hi everyone - been completely out of the loop these last few days, so really glad to see a couple more BFPs and those gearing up to test soon.

So sorry to hear about those who haven't received good news this cycle 😔 will be keeping everything crossed for you all!

So started spotting on Friday at 9DPO and panicked thinking AF had arrived extremely early. It was all a bit start/stop though, and it never really turned into a full flow so did a test yesterday and I'm pretty sure it's positive! Did further tests today which were also positive. I'm still spotting a little bit but it has decreased a lot since Friday. @Wise0wl I know you mentioned you were going through something similar so really hope your visit to the EPU went well today. I'm going to keep an eye on my spotting and do the same if it revs up again.

@CluelessInLondon that makes sense. I’m going to stick to my usual vitamins for now. Trying to look at the positives and having a ‘normal’ period and cycle this month is reassuring after a few irregular months.

I also asked my husband to keep me sane this time but I think that’s asking him to do something impossible ha. Although I have found this forum to be super helpful in getting my thoughts out 💕

@SnookyPook Good to hear that the bleeding has stopped - and a bit of a break from TTC might be good after the year that you've had. Any idea yet when you'll be seen in the fertility service? Fingers crossed it doesn't take too long for an appointment.