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1DPO... any cycle buddies out there?

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Kewchoc · 30/08/2023 19:08

I'm currently TTC following a miscarriage at 12 weeks on 5th August. I haven't had a period yet but we decided not to wait, as I'm desperate to be pregnant again and I think that is the only thing that will make me feel better about the loss. I have been tracking ovulation and did catch my peak so now just hoping I've got the timing of DTD right.

Just wondering if anyone out there TTC is around the same time in their cycle so that we can chat to each other really. I think I'm already driving my husband mad, it would be nice to speak to other people who really understand how I'm feeling! 😊

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tlw14 · 30/10/2023 15:28

@Kewchoc they always say it happens when you least expect it so you never know.
Errrm i had a cold last week, for like 24/36 hours, i wouldn't say ive had sore breasts but i can feel an ache i guess.
I am going to do another test tomorrow on a normal clearblue which isn't an early detection one and see what that says. Just so so anxious that i will have another miscarriage, don't know how i am going to stop myself from testing every day haha

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Kewchoc · 30/10/2023 15:17

@tlw14 Haha thanks, I'm only 7DPO and we didn't time DTD very well this month so I'm pretty confident I'm out but I think I've reached the point in the TWW of desperately needing to know either way. How are you feeling? Have you done anymore tests?

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tlw14 · 30/10/2023 15:14

@Kewchoc keeping my fingers crossed for you!

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Kewchoc · 30/10/2023 15:13

Well I bought 5 tests so I will no doubt be jumping on the early testing train as soon as I get home... so much for waiting til my period was due this month 🤣

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Kewchoc · 30/10/2023 14:21

@Amberellalina Hahaha oops, sorry 🤣 if it makes you feel better, we've just come for a Costa which is across the road from Boots so I've already decided I'm going to buy some early response tests from there and test tomorrow morning at 8DPO ha!
Yeah I love York too, it's just lovely, particularly in the run up to Christmas! Don't blame your DH though, I'm also not much of a people person so I understand how he feels 🤣

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Amberellalina · 30/10/2023 13:00

@Kewchoc I wasn't going to until you suggested it but I do have one more onestep strip left so I might! I loooooove York. We used to live there and I'd move back in a heartbeat. DH not so much - it gets very busy, especially at the weekend - and he doesn't like people 😂

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Kewchoc · 30/10/2023 11:51

@tlw14 Congratulations! Sorry, looks like we posted at similar times this morning and I hadn't seen your message when I posted, didn't mean to ignore you! I second what others have said, if you've been getting negative tests before this then I would feel pretty confident that it's a new pregnancy 😊 I have seen a lot of people on Mumsnet who have sworn by being more fertile after a miscarriage and gone on to have successful pregnancies straight away.

@Amberellalina well they all sound like positive symptoms to me! Are you going to test again tomorrow? Also I know how you feel regarding aggressive hugs on boobs - not great 🤣 we are kind of, we were going to go to York for the day but decided to just stay local incase we do need to get back to ds. I do feel quite emotional today but trying not to go down the "is it a symptom" route and remind myself it's likely just from stress

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emmatcc1 · 30/10/2023 10:09

@Amberellalina I want to wait until af due which is on Saturday but I most likely won’t be able to resist and do a test at 11-12 dpo. Even though I really wanna do a test right now and with all these potential symptoms I’m still pretty sure it didn’t work this month.

tlw14 · 30/10/2023 09:59

@Amberellalina Thank you! we cant help being too cautious can we.. would rather not be disappointed so will wait and see.

TTC is one of the most stressful things i think i have ever done. All this tracking and symptom spotting drives you mad. I started doing pregnancy tests at like 3dpo i am not even sure what i was expecting from this haha!

Amberellalina · 30/10/2023 09:56

Tentative congratulations @tlw14! If you had a negative test before then this probably is a new pregnancy. Fingers crossed you test again tomorrow/day after and it confirms it.

@Kewchoc yes and no, I’m unusually tired - but have recently given up caffeine, I’m feeling a bit sick - but have recently stopped a course of strong probiotics and my boobs are a bit tingly - but they do often get caught in some of DDs more aggressive hugs. So symptoms, but all explainable by other things! I’m obviously also wondering if ovulating early meant a good egg this month - basically just reading too much into everything 😂

Glad DS is better - nuts how fast they bounce back! Are you going on your date day after all?

@emmatcc1 ooh, interesting. Are you going to test tomorrow? I think I’ll hold out until Weds now I’ve satisfied the urge slightly…

emmatcc1 · 30/10/2023 09:12

I’m 9 dpo today and not sure if the sore throat is a symptom or due to me being out in the cold weather 2 days ago. I also keep getting pinching around my ovaries and some nausea.

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Kewchoc · 30/10/2023 08:40

@Amberellalina oh good thinking. Like you say, you're still early for a positive yet anyway! Have you had anything else that could be symptoms? I do think our senses pick up on these things so maybe this is your month!

He's absolutely fine this morning haha... always the case with toddlers isn't it! I was panicking about having to take tomorrow off work but he's definitely turned a corner overnight thankfully.

I'm 7DPO today and still feeling relatively rational but I think that's probably cause I know our timings weren't great this month so I'm not particularly confident that it's our month anyway

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tlw14 · 30/10/2023 08:37

I did a clearblue digital (one of the early detection ones) this morning which would be 10dpo. I got a positive result although i am unsure.

I think because my miscarriage was only 6 weeks ago im a little unsure whether this may have picked up hcg from the previous pregnancy as they are obviously more sensitive to lower levels..

I was testing negative on all other pregnancy tests following the miscarriage so hoping that this is a new pregnancy but will test again in a couple of days and see what a 'normal' pregnancy test says before getting too carried away ( who am i kidding i have already checked due dates).

Amberellalina · 30/10/2023 07:29

Good point @Kewchoc! I had some onestep that I got free with my pdg strips so did one of them instead so I can save my FRERs for 10 and 12 (if I get that far 😂). BFN as expected, something feels different this month though, hopefully not just more post-mc hormonal weirdness.

Hope DS is Ok @Kewchoc, it’s horrible when they’re poorly x

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Kewchoc · 29/10/2023 20:06

@Amberellalina Oooh exciting, keep us posted! I'd go for the FRER... I will never use an easy@home again after that fake positive I got last month!

DS appears to have come down with a sickness bug so it looks like tomorrows date day is out the window! But I guess the silver lining is that looking after him will keep my mind off testing...

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Amberellalina · 29/10/2023 18:28

Ok screw it, I’m going to do a test in the morning (8dpo). Now, do I do an easy@home, which will definitely be negative, or waste a FRER on the off chance… 🤔

Amberellalina · 29/10/2023 05:53

@Kewchoc I definitely know what you mean re: date nights, plus going out for a couple of drinks is a lot less appealing when you know you’ll be up at five in the morning… We actually have a week booked off together just before Christmas while DD is in nursery. Mainly to get stuff done but I’m sure we can throw in a couple of nice lunches ☺️

@Liz2681 sounds like a challenging weekend ahead! Sending solidarity in advance x

Hope everyone else is having a nice weekend!

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Kewchoc · 28/10/2023 20:19

@Amberellalina you know what I totally recommend date days... we never enjoy date nights that much cause by the time we get anywhere we're both already knackered 🤣 but we've been booking the occasional day annual leave while ds is at nursery and going away for the day and it's much more enjoyable 😊

@Liz2681 Ahh I can see why you wouldn't want to test before staying with pregnant friends. Let's hope this is your month though and you'll be able to swap pregnancy stories with your friend soon 😊 I'm determined to wait until my period is due before testing BUT I know what I'm like and will no doubt go down a testing rabbit hole once I hit 8DPO 🤣

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Liz2681 · 28/10/2023 20:09

@Kewchoc hmmm I haven't decided yet 🤔 I'm in two minds really. If I want to use FMU, I'd either have to test at 8DPO (Thursday) or hold out until Sunday (11DPO). We're staying with mates over the weekend who are pregnant so going to avoid testing right before seeing them in case I'm disappointed which would just make the whole visit difficult (even though it's quite early anyway). I have FRERs as well so I'll probably crack those out first. What about you?

Amberellalina · 28/10/2023 15:42

@Kewchoc I’ve got a couple of FRERs in so will probably test at 10 dpo (Wednesday). But I didn’t get a positive until 13 dpo last time so I’m not expecting it to be positive either way.

Date days sound lovely - we definitely don’t do enough of those!

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Kewchoc · 28/10/2023 12:36

@Amberellalina ooh the marshmallow thing does sound like a positive sign! When are you going to start testing?

@Liz2681 a few days away will help, I was in a similar situation last month and it did help take my mind off things. Have you decided when you're going to test this month?

Those of you who have had cramping sound like it could be a good sign too!

I'm impressed with how chill I am this month. Think focusing on my job is helping not to be so obsessive with TTC, plus me and my husband have planned a few date days so it's been nice to just enjoy time the two of us. I'm really going to try not to even test this month unless my period doesn't start on time... but we shall see haha

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Liz2681 · 27/10/2023 19:27

@Amberellalina it really does 😣 it's gonna be a long week 😬 I think because we tried so hard this cycle, DTD at the right times, vitamins, preseed etc that I'm really hopeful this month but also probably setting myself up for huge disappointment if it doesn't pan out. Gotta keep a level head though 😌

Amberellalina · 27/10/2023 17:23

@Liz2681 isn’t it weird how three days feels like forever during the TWW??

tlw14 · 27/10/2023 14:14

I know the feeling- ive got slight cramps now on my left side but i dont know whether thats because i am thinking about it haha

Liz2681 · 27/10/2023 13:52

Good luck ladies! I'm a bit behind at 2DPO, but but can already feel the creeping obsession of the TWW. We go away to Devon for a few days tomorrow though so hoping that'll take my mind off things for a few days 😌