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1DPO... any cycle buddies out there?

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Kewchoc · 30/08/2023 19:08

I'm currently TTC following a miscarriage at 12 weeks on 5th August. I haven't had a period yet but we decided not to wait, as I'm desperate to be pregnant again and I think that is the only thing that will make me feel better about the loss. I have been tracking ovulation and did catch my peak so now just hoping I've got the timing of DTD right.

Just wondering if anyone out there TTC is around the same time in their cycle so that we can chat to each other really. I think I'm already driving my husband mad, it would be nice to speak to other people who really understand how I'm feeling! 😊

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Agathapoirot · 08/09/2023 19:48

Got everything crossed for a positive update tomorrow morning @Kewchoc x

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Kewchoc · 08/09/2023 19:34

So I was going to have a drink tonight seeing as I was so certain I'm out after the negative tests today, but the 'symptoms' I mentioned earlier are exactly the same as how I've felt both other times I've been pregnant and I've cried twice today which is another thing that happens when I'm in early pregnancy, its usually incredibly rare for me to cry. So I did another test about 30 mins ago (one of the more sensitive ones) before I bought alcohol and I'm certain I can see an absolute squinter of a line. I've tried taking a photo to show you but my camera isn't even picking it up, but I'm sure it's there. It may well just be an evap line, but I was so certain I was pregnant before today because of how I'm feeling, I find it's a very specific feeling! Im obviously going to test again in morning, but I don't really know what to think now. It's likely I've just driven myself crazy and am clutching at straws...

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moosey89 · 08/09/2023 14:40

Spotting has started a day early for me (CD26) so looks like I am 100% out.

HashB · 08/09/2023 13:39

@Kewchoc sending you a hug xx this was me last month. The whole thing felt so unfair and my insides ached I felt so sad. At 10DPO you might not have even implanted yet, there’s still some hope.

@Crazydogladie sorry it was a negative this month, I hope you are ok. Early testing is a hard one. I think I test early thinking if it’s going to be a no, I want to know that sooner rather than stay in the uncertain ground of it all. I hope next months better for you xx

@Amberellalina the only thing I would warn about 2 a day is I was getting the most vivid and scary dreams, which I’m sure was related. I’m not usually a nightmare person but they were intense!

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Kewchoc · 08/09/2023 13:07

Thanks, I actually discovered afterwards that the tests I bought today were only 25miu anyway so less sensitive than the ones I've got at home 🙄 I know there's still a tiny glimmer of hope for this month but I'm not hopeful. I think I'm going to find my period very difficult if it does come though 😞 I'd started getting my hopes up cause I've had a few things that I was hoping were symptoms but now I'm not sure...sorry for being all doom and gloom!

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Amberellalina · 08/09/2023 12:54

@Kewchoc sending a hug, but it is still early so you might not be out yet! If you are then ‘more fertile after an mc’ doesn’t have to mean straight away, you could catch the month after like @HashB

@Crazydogladie sorry to hear about your bfn, I’m sure it’ll happen for you soon too, have you been ttc for long?

I had some 100mg b6 tablets in the cupboard I got for morning sickness last time so I started them this morning on top of the 10 I get in pregnacare. Unsure whether to do the pm dose as well, I probably can’t be relied upon to remember every day and I expect it’s one of those where consistency is key 😂

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Kewchoc · 08/09/2023 12:13

I caved and have just been to buy a different brand from the shops, I've just tested and definitely BFN. I'm 10DPO today so pretty sure I'm out this month too. I feel really upset to be honest, I think this whole narrative of apparently being super fertile after a miscarriage has given me some misplaced confidence that I'd get pregnant straight away, and the thought of that has been getting me through the emotions of the miscarriage cause I've been thinking I'll be pregnant again soon anyway so it's okay. But don't think that's going to be the case 😞

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Crazydogladie · 08/09/2023 08:58

Negative test today so that’s me out. Part of me wants to stop early testing to
avoid the heartbreak but I think it’s important to
know if there is a pattern of early loss. No easy answers in TTC!!

Agathapoirot · 08/09/2023 06:53

Congratulations @HashB !!

Fantastic news!

HashB · 07/09/2023 21:53

@Amberellalina i went to Holland and barrat and they sell B6 in 100mg tablets.

I’ve taken one on a morning and one at night, but since getting the positive tests I’ve dropped to just 1.

Amberellalina · 07/09/2023 21:46

Thanks @HashB, I’m planning to take b6 this cycle to see if I fare any better. What dose did you use?

HashB · 07/09/2023 21:16

Thanks @Amberellalina and @Kewchoc, I really hope you get yours really soon.

if it’s at all helpful, I got my last BFP on 1st June and they scanned me and told me I’d had a missed miscarriage on 10th July. I was expecting to be 11ish weeks but I was actually measuring just shy of 10.
I opted for the Medical management route which was carried out on 15th July.
I got a negative pregnancy test on 23rd July, went right back to tracking but obviously missed it and my next period started 12th august. I started taking b6 this cycle as I’ve read it helps with progesterone. Maybe it helped?

last time I remember having no symptoms to start with apart from loads of discharge and then eventually frequent painful period pain, the worst constipation and the biggest boobs. This time I’ve had nothing (yet) but lingering light period pain and my legs also ache like they do before a period.

I feel hyper conscious after everything that happened before that a positive test absolutely doesn’t equal a baby. All I’m really taking this as is some time off laboratory style sex for awhile and fingers crossed this one is really really sticky

xxx

Amberellalina · 07/09/2023 20:29

Yaaaaaaayyyyyy! @HashB, that’s a bfp for sure - congratulations!!

@Kewchoc you’re still not out until the witch arrives…

@Crazydogladie so so brutal 😭

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Kewchoc · 07/09/2023 19:09

@Crazydogladie Maybe try waiting a few days before testing again? Hopefully you'll see something stronger then?

@HashB Aww this is definitely positive isn't it! Congratulations! 🥰 very exciting indeed!! I managed to avoid testing today lol I might try again in the morning. I've been having cramping still though and feeling pretty irritable so I'm becoming more and more certain that's it's just going to be my period starting soon 😞

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HashB · 07/09/2023 18:42

@Crazydogladie i totally missed your message that you’d had a faint positive- have you tested again today? could your pee just be more diluted? I’m wondering if that is why second test looked no different/maybe lighter than my first. It’s so hot I am drinking gallons!

thanks for thinking of me @Amberellalina and @Kewchoc i tested again this morning and I know it’s still really light but the different between yesterday and today is huge! This is 12DPO. it’s simultaneous joy and dread. Fingers crossed the lines get darker over the next week or so.

1DPO... any cycle buddies out there?
Crazydogladie · 07/09/2023 11:10

Felt really crampy yesterday like AF was coming and my fmu test this morning was so faint I could barely see the line so it’s def not looking good :( Expect I’ll know for sure tomorrow because based on how light the line was today I’m expecting it will be negative by then. I really had no idea before we started that TTC would be so brutal!!

Hope things go in the right direction for you @HashB ,its still very early days at 11DPO - sending good vibes!

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Kewchoc · 06/09/2023 19:56

@HashB Ah that's frustrating, are you going to try and leave it a couple of days then test again?

@Amberellalina Yes that is very true. I know they say we're more fertile after MC but really I think it's probably quite lucky to get pregnant straight away! Thanks, I'm really going to try and leave it a few days before testing again but I'm absolutely itching to buy an early response test and do it tomorrow lol. I've had some mild cramping again today which I'm hoping is something exciting but also aware it could just be AF getting ready to make her appearance 😞

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Amberellalina · 06/09/2023 19:08

@HashB I know the LH strips can pick up hcg so maybe it's a good sign that your ovulation test is coming back high? Everything crossed for your next test...

@Kewchoc ah, I'm alright. Was thinking of this one as a practise run anyway and at least I know that I'll have a fresh lining for next month. Excited to see your results in a few days...

@Crazydogladie try not to worry - it is still very early! Got my fingers crossed for you too.

I'm going for the AMH blood test and follicle counting scan next week because I'm thinking about IVF (being well old ). Anyone else had these?

HashB · 06/09/2023 17:03

I also tried an ovulation test yesterday and today. Usually before my period I’m at 0.05ish so super super lower, but yesterday I was 0.4 and today 0.35.
maybe my pee was more dilute, maybe hormones have dropped, maybe I will drive myself crazy with every maybe scenario…

HashB · 06/09/2023 16:37

I had to get up at 5 this morning so did another test first thing and to be honest I can’t see any difference from yesterday. It may even be a little lighter? Definitely don’t think it’s any darker.

today is 11DPO, but feels like 2 years DPO. Maybe it’s headed for a chemical too? As with everything I’m sure time will tell.

Ive had light cramps for the last few days but no sign of AF yet.

Crazydogladie · 06/09/2023 13:56

Thanks @Kewchoc , I know I just need to relax and wait until I’m a few days past due. I have a thyroid condition that is a risk factor for early pregnancy so tend to obsess a bit but I know worrying won’t help!

@HashB i hope the test this morning went well!

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Kewchoc · 06/09/2023 12:27

Aw no @Amberellalina that's crap 😞 but I guess it's a positive that your cycle is returning to being somewhat normal at least! Fingers crossed for next month!

@Crazydogladie try not to worry, I literally had no symptoms at all when I was pregnant with ds and that was a lovely healthy pregnancy. Lack of symptoms doesn't necessarily mean things aren't progressing and line progression can really differ based on so many different factors

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Crazydogladie · 06/09/2023 10:20

I got a faint positive on a boots early test at 11DPO but am really worried it’s chemical. I’ve no symptoms at all, boobs were at a bit sore at 11DPO but gone now. I did a normal boots test with fmu the last two days and the line was faint yesterday but almost invisible today and I’m now overdue so it should be getting stronger :( trying to hold off testing again until tomorrow but don’t have a good feeling about it. It’s such a rollercoaster!!!

Amberellalina · 06/09/2023 08:30

Alas, shortly after I posted my last message AF confirmed her unwelcome arrival! So sadly I’m declaring myself out this month. On the plus side, her coming so early (presumably due to the mc) means I’m four days closer to the next fertile window 😂 hope the rest of you have better luck…

I’m solidly on team easy@home as welll @Kewchoc I think they’re about £7 for 20 on Amazon and it’s handy to have a lot in!!

@HashB how did you get on this morning??? Is the line any clearer?

HashB · 06/09/2023 07:53

@Amberellalina I think I was 13dpo the last time I got a positive too, fingers crossed!

@Kewchoc i also feel the same about tests. Especially since I’m so test happy, if I went clearblue every time I’d be in debt.

I’ve been using clear and simple from boots, I think they’re 3 test strips for 1.99. X