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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Worried about my fertility

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Internette · 01/08/2023 17:47

Hi girls, my partner and I have been trying to have a baby for 4 months now, but each time it's been a failure. Neither he nor I have any known health problems, I've stopped drinking at parties, I eat balanced meals, I take vitamins, I do sport, I regulate my stress at work as much as possible, we have regular intercourse and even more so during the fertile period... but I have the feeling that we're going to have trouble conceiving, it's been a terrible feeling all along. It's as if I had a premonition. Today is the 2nd day of my period and I'm starting to experience them as mourning. Does anyone have a good pregnancy story to tell that might help me stay positive? Thanks ☺️

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Internette · 01/08/2023 18:25

Rosieposie0301 · 01/08/2023 18:22

4 months really is not a long time at all and definitely no cause for concern at this stage.
I took 2m with my daughter who is now 3.5 years old and I just got a positive a few days ago agyer ttc for 6 months.
I wouldn’t have any concerns or start worrying for at least 12m. After 12m you can contact your gp.

I think have sex every other day after your period stops and then when you get a positive ovulation test have sex 3 days in a row.

Congratulations !
With all your answers, I'm only going to worry for good after 12 months.

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Rosieposie0301 · 01/08/2023 18:22

4 months really is not a long time at all and definitely no cause for concern at this stage.
I took 2m with my daughter who is now 3.5 years old and I just got a positive a few days ago agyer ttc for 6 months.
I wouldn’t have any concerns or start worrying for at least 12m. After 12m you can contact your gp.

I think have sex every other day after your period stops and then when you get a positive ovulation test have sex 3 days in a row.

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Internette · 01/08/2023 18:14

MoonlightDreamer · 01/08/2023 18:11

Try not to worry yourself because there's absolutely zero reason for you to be concerned. You've only been trying 4 months ! Which really is nothing. I think your worrying yourself over nothing. If you haven't conceived after 2 years trying then the gp will organise some tests for you. Nhs state its perfectly normal for couples to take upto 2 years to conceive. Just because some women make it look easy and get pregnant first go, dosent mean it's the same for every women , and its normal

Thanks 😊 🙏😘

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Internette · 01/08/2023 18:13

Whataretheodds · 01/08/2023 18:01

Firstly stop seeing it as a failure if you don't get pregnant in a particular month. The odds are that you won't get pregnant in one particular cycle, which is why the guideline would be to contact your GP if nothing after 2 years.

Do you track ovulation? Is your partner looking after himself as much as you are yourself? Is it possible you're having too much sex during your fertile period?

Thanks ☺️
My partner take care of himself as well !
I track ovulation with the Flo app + listen to my body
I don’t think we are having too much sex, just almost once a day, by the way too much could be a problem ?

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MoonlightDreamer · 01/08/2023 18:11

Try not to worry yourself because there's absolutely zero reason for you to be concerned. You've only been trying 4 months ! Which really is nothing. I think your worrying yourself over nothing. If you haven't conceived after 2 years trying then the gp will organise some tests for you. Nhs state its perfectly normal for couples to take upto 2 years to conceive. Just because some women make it look easy and get pregnant first go, dosent mean it's the same for every women , and its normal

Whataretheodds · 01/08/2023 18:01

Firstly stop seeing it as a failure if you don't get pregnant in a particular month. The odds are that you won't get pregnant in one particular cycle, which is why the guideline would be to contact your GP if nothing after 2 years.

Do you track ovulation? Is your partner looking after himself as much as you are yourself? Is it possible you're having too much sex during your fertile period?

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Internette · 01/08/2023 17:57

I’m 30 !

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Neverseenbefore · 01/08/2023 17:54

Four months is nothing. How old are you?

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