Whose trying to conceive baby no2 this year?

@deliwoman1 100 percent with you on this one. We had a really hard time with our son, he was so colicky and screamed constantly for the first 6 months. He didn't sleep through till 13 months and now currently wakes at 5am and is still in our bed. Despite how hard it's been the good times have definitely outweighed it and he's so much easier now he's a bit older. Having tantrums to deal with isn't as stressful as a crying baby (to me anyway).
But yeah, we want another child and that's why I want them close in age so we can get the baby part out the way 😂 and get all the baby toys out the house !!

Hi to everyone new! And a big shout out to all the older mums! 👋It's so nice to have company on this journey.

I feel like ttc a second is odd territory. We're so lucky for the DC we already have but somehow that doesn't make ttc any easier! I'm on cycle 1 and haven't even ovulated yet (hopefully will this weekend) but I'm still feeling a bit pessimistic. 😳

We're going for no.2 because we have space in our hearts for another. It's easy for us to imagine. Also because we don't want our DD to be alone in the world when we're gone. She has cousins (boys age 2 and 6) and we're emotionally close, but practically they're growing up in another part of the country so there isn't that frequent contact. I love having a sibling, but my DP is an only and is fine with that too. I guess there are no guarantees siblings will get along as adults, but you do what you can to foster that closeness when they're little.

If we don't manage it, I don't think we'll go the IVF route, partly for financial reasons but also perhaps because I'm not looking forward to ttc, pregnancy, or the newborn phase. I want another child, but not necessarily another baby. Does anyone else feel this way? As DD is only 1, it's still quite fresh for me, and though I had a textbook pregnancy, I found it hard post c-section (thanks mainly to bronchitis and a severe sprained wrist). DD also didn't sleep at all until 7 months, which almost killed us! 😂I sort of wish I could fast forward to 6 months postpartum!

I have always wanted two children. I did want a boy and a girl just so I could experience bringing up one of each but not too sure now. I still haven't got any signs of pregnancy or AF so no idea what my cycle is doing this month! I am trying to loose weight so maybe that is affecting it.

Hello ladies,
Trying to conceive baby #2 since August last year. Our son is already 6. So, we're doing our first round of IVF as I can't wait any longer given I'm 40 already!
Baby dust to you all and wishing we all have a little one in our arms very soon 💕🙏

Hi 👋🏼 joining this thread as TTC #2 (hopefully) this week as I am due to ovulate in the next few days. It feels really intense this time, I'm not sure if it's because I'm getting older (37) or because my DC is 3.5 and I am conscious of a bigger age gap.

Good luck to everyone currently trying & congratulations to those who have had recent BFPs

@WolfMother326 I also am keen for my little girl to have a sibling. She does have 3 cousins within 13 months of her age (one is just a fortnight younger) so hopefully, if we aren't lucky enough to have a second, she certainly won't grow up lonely.
I'm so close to both of my sister's and I can't imagine not having them at all!
What will be will be I guess.
I quite enjoyed maternity leave- was definitely ready to return to work though! I feel we've had an easy first 18 months with our little girl- no colic, always a good sleeper etc. I know you don't get two the same so bracing myself for a whirlwind second time round! 😬
For all I do want to give her a sibling I did struggle to feel ready to try for the second at first. Our first is such a happy, secure little thing and we are such a tight unit of 3 that I was really worried I'd upset things by introducing a second into the mix.
And, as silly as it sounds, what if I don't like them as much?!
Once I'd decided I was ready though I was reeeallly ready and just want that BFP ASAP 🤞🤞 Xx

@WolfMother326 Yeah I feel like this, would love another to give my son a sibling. I am really close to my brother so would love for him to have someone growing up etc. I know they won't necessarily get on but we can hope haha. I'm also ridiculously broody and just feel like I want a second. But so grateful for my son and given our fertility problems I didn't even think we'd be lucky enough for one child. If it doesn't happen within a couple of years we may go down the IVF route, maybe not though (mainly expense).
Partner is definitely happy with one child and says it will be financially easier (it will), but he's also not against a second and happy to try for another. Just trying not to put pressure on it really. Like if we don't feel like DTD then we won't. It can get into a bit of a chore thing and put a strain on the relationship and don't want it to be like that.

@WolfMother326 very similar to your reasons to be honest. I'd be ok with just one. But i am super close to my sister and would love for my daughter to have a sibling to love. I think it's the greatest gift. I'd be thrilled for another one but if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen

Hello may I join? I'm 39 and have a nearly 2 year old. Happy to see some other older mums on this thread, it's a bit scary thinking oh no how much time is left! I feel like we should have started trying last year but not sure I could have managed.

TTC cycle #2, I'm on day 27 and normally my cycle is 25 or 26 days. Feeling crampy and bloated. Have used two cheap boots tests past 2 days, both negative. Had a really stressful month so might just be late for other reasons! Trying not to feel too anxious about trying again, it took us about 9 months first time around and then we had a perfect baby so I'm staying positive if possible. There's always next month right?

Also, having one child already, I do feel less pressure (hysteria?? 😅) than I did first time around. I love being a mum and if it doesn't happen again I'm grateful for my one. But I have a great sibling and would like two for that reason.

Why does everyone else on this thread want a second? Curious to hear your lovely reasons.

Hi I’m also trying to conceive baby number two this year. On the first cycle of trying 11dpo and still getting BFN’s so think I’m out this month. Think I have some unrealistic expectations of how quick I’ll get caught again as my little girl was kind of a surprise. I mean I kinda knew after it had happened that I could end up being pregnant but it was one time where we were clearly too into it if that makes sense 🤣 so we were incredibly lucky. Think I’m going to find it quite hard if it takes a while this time. I struggle with anxiety quite bad and always think the worst x

Not actively trying but stopping the pill on Tue and seeing what happens, have a 6yr old and leaving this up to fate, i'm 38 so felt like it was now or never.

Hey I'd love to join.
TTC #2. My son is 18 months and was conceived via IVF after 18 months of trying.
I never really had periods or regular periods before so was difficult to actively try. I have PCOS. My periods returned around 13 months post partum and much to my surprise have been regular. Started tracking ovulation this month and got a positive yesterday on cycle day 16. Which confused me Cus my cycles are usually about 36-37 days long so ovulate later on in the cycle.
Anyway I'm rambling, my partner also has a varicocele causing low sperm count so not holding out much hope on conceiving naturally but all we can do is try. ❤️

Sorry to hear that @mumsince2021 it can take a long time to conceive. I did read some statistics on it when I was TTC number 1. Can't remember the exact figures but I think it was around 80% of 'healthy' couples should conceive naturally by 18 months or something. Might have changed by now but it definitely put it into perspective that it's not as easy as we were led to believe when we were teenagers

I can't help but feel envious of you all saying how quickly you conceived before 😂 it really sucks struggling for years and that's why I came here for support. TTC is such a drag for some

Glad to hear things are improving @Bells3032! I have no clue what my husbands are like. We were only just about to get his tests when we conceived our first. Just because I waited the year before going for fertility help as recommended and our appointment was still months away when we finally got it booked.

@Bells3032 that's great news!

I didn't track ovulation or anything last time but I think it was within 3 months of trying so quite quickly.

I'm on the combined pill and need to come off it (not looking forward to that due to severe PMS and cramps:-( ). With us wanting to start trying end of the year.... How long do you think it takes for cycles to adjust? I should probably stop ASAP or say September?

Hello, can I join? Ttc my second at 37, my little girl will be 3 in September. On the 12th cycle, 11dpo and deeply hating the ttw. Conceived first cycle last time so all the ovulation testing and waiting is completely new (and horrible 😂) to me. The ovulation strips never worked for me then finally shelled out for the clearblue digital one last month. Got a peak fertility smiley face on day 19 after 10 days of “high fertility” 😵‍💫So ovulating waay later than I thought. I looked back at Flo and realised I’d had tender boobs around the same time every month and never had sex around then because I thought it was too late in the cycle… and there’s only so much scheduled sex I can deal with with a sleepless toddler on the prowl 😂 Then I got peak fertility at day 14 this month so it is all very confusing. Anyway, nice to have solidarity in this crazy emotional rollercoaster. So lovely to read everyone’s stories and makes me feel much less alone.

Can I please join? Cycle 3 for #2. My first is nearly 19 months. We fell literally straight away with her so- although 3 cycles is not a lot in the grand scheme of things- the disappointment of AF is all new to me and I've not found it easy. I don't know how people have the strength to do this for years. I take my hat off to them.
We haven't set a limit as such but both agree that we don't want to get so caught up in conceiving #2 that we lose the joy of the present with #1. Just reeeeeaaallly hoping this is our month 🤞🤞 but had a funny cycle last month so not even sure of my dates which is not helping my optimism..!
Good luck to everyone already trying 💕 xx

Fantastic @Bells3032 fingers crossed for you

So results are out! His numbers have gone from 5 million to 12 million. Normal is considered over 15. His motility (the number that move) is 74% and normal is classed as over 40% and normal forms is 3% and normal is considered 4%. So overall normal "good sperm" numbers are 240k and his are 259k! And when we had our daughter they were 82k so hopefully give us a good shot!!!!

Sounds like you have a lot to consider @Bells3032 fingers crossed you can get pregnant again naturally and all goes well.

I really enjoyed pregnancy. But I could rest a lot and have naps in the day. Not sure that will happen this time round with a 2 year old

Hi can i join too. i have such a great mums group from here for my first so would be lovely for my second too!! My daughter is 18 months old. We are hoping to start in august or September but i am diabetic so trying to get all my sugars under control first. I am now on insulin and seems to be making a big difference.

We never really tried to conceive with my first. We had been told natural conception would be nigh on impossible due to my husbands cancer. We had two rounds of egg retrievals for IVF to have enough eggs for two kids. went for transfer and didn't respond to meds cos i was already pregnant. also it was fraternal twins. lost one at 10 weeks though. So we are hoping for a natural one this time round too but if not have some frosties still waiting for us so not too anxious. DH had a sperm test yesterday so waiting for results of that to see whether the surge he had back then (still waaaay lower than doctors recommend) was just temporary. so fingers crossed.

Part of me is so excited for another one and part of me is terrified. I hated being pregnant. anyone else

@RedRobyn2021 I think you notice it more when you are thinking about it and/or trying for a baby. Although there have definitely been a few babies born recently around me and a few people pregnant too.

I'm planning the same later this year, my DD is 2.5 and I'm seeing pregnant women everywhere