Geriatric gang 🤰part 2

@Rusticanella
I have short cycles- 25/26 days. I conceived back in May (early loss) and it was on day 17. I know this for certain as my husband was in and out of the country and we only dtd once that month.

@ThesisthenaViva welcome :) I'm trying for my first also, so your not alone. Honestly, I'm dreading the thought of ivf. I was really hoping it wouldn't come to it.
The emotional side terrifies me more than the physical.

Hi @MK85 I would be like you and just want to get going.

@ThesisthenaViva welcome! And thank you, you too.

Well, officially day 25 and the day my period would start, but nothing yet....you just know as soon as I go to buy a test it will show up.

Anyone else have a short cycle and can give me some indication of whether at CD13 it would be possible to conceive? Feel like I'd like to know before testing. Flo app says unlikely but Dot up says high chance (which I didn't notice until today as normally only log on Flo) so bloody confused.

Hey
I hope you don't mind if I join. I'm 39 trying to conceive my first. We're heading into cycle 8 and hoping as per usual this will be the month! @MK85 hoping that the IVF process is a success- how are you feeling about it all? @Rusticanella hope that you get your bfp.

@Downtherabbithole83 I had a chemical in Dec , and also noticed a big change in ecwm. I had absolutely nothing for months until last cycle when I started having loads again. My periods were quite messed up after my chemical too , super light and short and I was worried I was going into peri or something.
Things seem like they are returning to normality slightly so I wonder if it could just be a prolonged hormonal thing

@Rusticanella I think sometimes it's beneficial to switch off for a bit. TTC can really consume you and take over your life.
I'm around CD10 . I'm not sure if I'll bother with opks and temps in the lead up to ovulation this month. I might just wait until I feel ovulation happening to check and confirm it. I might possibly subject myself to another blood test since my progesterone came back low last month.
Got our letter through for ivf yesterday and are awaiting consent forms. We contemplated delaying it for a few months until we finished our clomid course but in the end figured it's probably time we moved on

Hi all,

Have hardly been here this cycle. How is everyone?

Have really switched off this cycle- barely had time to DTD (maybe twice I think) with work, business trips, and mostly having a bloody teenager at home for the summer 🙈🙈

However, have just checked apps (flow and dot) and both day period is due tomorrow! Been so off the ball it's completely snuck up on me. Don't feel like I am due on whatsoever. Boobs are less sore than normal, no PMS- completely took me by surprise that I'm due on, that how little symptoms I've had.

Had sex day 13 of cycle- normally 25/26 day cycle- flo app showing as 2 days outside of fertility window- so just can't see how it can be possible? Resisting going to get some FRER

I was 50/50 in my expectations..I had sore boobs, was very tired and had vivid dreams this week which slightly got my hopes up, but yesterday I also felt that my period was coming, so I felt somewhat prepared to see a negative result.

Sorry about the negative test @Cinai. Were you expecting to see a line or just hoping?

Thanks @40andtrying1 and @Cinai - we’re not giving up so much as trying to be realistic. Something appears to have changed for me since my last chemical so just getting our heads around our situation so as not to be too disappointed.

I use the Premom app which attaches a numerical value to the lines on the IC tests. Not an exact science but has been useful in learning more about my cycle.

@Downtherabbithole83 I just did a test and it was negative. I’m 14 DPO I think and my period is due tomorrow so I’m sure that I’m out for this month.
Good luck to you! Don’t give up hope, I’m 40 too and I firmly believe that there’s a chance for us. My best friend got pregnant with her first at 40 and texted me yesterday to say that she’s pregnant again at 42. A little success story to keep us going 🙂

Don’t give up yet ❤️
what can I purchase to check numbers?

Sorry that was for @Cinai (thought I’d tagged you)

Did you test? 🤞

I’m 7dpo and not feeling anything different at the moment.

I don’t plan on testing unless af is late though - don’t see the point anymore to be honest. It’s always negative. After my chemical in February I’ve not had a sniff of anything - plus my ewcm seems to have stopped completely when I’ve always had quite a lot really regularly. I’m 40 and wondering if my body is saying it’s not okay to fall pregnant again 🤷‍♀️

I finally went to the doctors and mentioned this a couple of weeks ago and have bloods being taken next week and the week after, though opks still have a clear peak but the numbers on it are lower than they were the month I fell pregnant.

I am fortunate that I have two dc and a stepchild but I am starting to realise that I am unlikely to manage to have a child with my partner which is so hard after our tfmr in November.

Anyone else testing soon? I’m now 11 DPO (I think). I’m feeling pain in my breasts today, although more/only on one side…I hope that is a good sign and not something nasty. Thinking of testing tomorrow morning.

I am so so sorry @Lifegivesyoulimes

@Lifegivesyoulimes really sorry to hear that. I've had one chemical and that was hard enough. I constantly think about it and the what ifs. If it had of stuck I'd be due this month :(
I can't imagine how your feeling having had 6.
I think as difficult as it is, it's definitely reassuring. I was told that at my appointment with fertility that it's a good sign the egg and sperm are coming together.

I had to lose 2 and a half stone . As hard as it was , i managed to lose it in relatively short period of time.

@niknaks37 Semen analysis was very quick. Only a couple of weeks and results were back within few days. Surprisingly, the SA was the quickest part of the whole process.
He did the SA in Craigavon hospital but
all correspondence we've had from regional fertility tho have came from the Royal as I believe that's where the clinic is based.

We only got referred on early for ivf because of his results. He has low morphology

@MK85 sorry it hasn’t worked out for you. I really hope you get the outcome you want from IVF.

AF arrived today. I knew I was getting ahead of myself for believing this could actually be our time before missed period. So that’s chemical pregnancy 6 for me now. On a whim I ordered the Hertility testing kit hopefully it arrives in time to test on CD3. It’ll be annoying if I have to wait another month. Other that that I’m not really sure what my next steps are. I still look at it as a positive that I do seem to be able to conceive. I can’t get a referral to gynaecology/fertility due to my BMI. I may speak to my GP about a referral to recurrent miscarriage but presume that’ll be blocked due to BMI too.

@niknaks37 I think they test FSH and LH on day 3.

I'm not sure , but here in N.I they are still only using nhs clinics. Although years ago, OH had his sperm checked through nhs and it was with a private clinic ( no nhs fertility clinic was established here at that time) so I know they must work with private clinics in some instances .
Lists are absolutely disgraceful. To think this is how far I've got after 4 years with nhs. Although saying that, I've seen poeple on here saying they've been referred , in and out , had ivf in the space of 1 year so I guess it greatly depends on local waiting area times.

We got our fertility clinic ivf letter today that said we've reached the top of the list for treatment and to sign our consent forms. We can defer for upto 3 months but we're thinking of just cracking on with it as after 3 months of clomid we've been unsuccessful trying naturally. I don't know if there's much point continuing all 6 cycles. I've already started this month now as took my first before the post came in so I'm going to have to commit to this month and then move on.
From the sounds of it, they are looking us to start within the next month or two as the letter outlined the treatment plan and they are ready to give us access to their portal to communicate with the clinic nurses and sort out the meds.
I'm absolutely dreading it if I'm being honest. It just sounds gruelling , physically and mentally but I don't think I've ever forgive myself if I didn't try everything as I just desperately want us to have a family. I feel a child is only thing missing from our life.
We haven't told anyone we're doing ivf so it feels incredibly daunting to be going through all this alone.
I know our families would never judge us but for me, It just feels all so uncomfortable and embarassing talking about it with anyone IRL. Does anyone feel like that?

Good evening ladies. AF arrived last night ;(
I think this is going to be our last cycle trying naturally