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WHAT DO WE WANT??...BFPs WHEN DO WE WANT THEM??...NOW!!!! symptom spotters and 2wwaiters brand spanking new thread [grin]

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EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 22/02/2008 16:25

so here is our new LUCK-STUFFED thread
anyone got symptoms (or not which is a sympotm) get sharing!!
i have set up a table of cakes, biscuits, sweets and chocolate with the kettle on the boil for our teapot!! some comfy chairs and footstools get comfy and get chatting good luck is in the pot on the table do as you please with it (eat it, put it in your pockets, stir it in your tea) lets all do a concerted effort to get our BFPs
xx ei xx

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EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 27/02/2008 18:33

sorry read that wrong its pinkgirl who is testing tomorrow so GOOD LUCK to you
xx ei xx

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EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 27/02/2008 18:32

oooh 2 testers for the morning
good luck TSTT and mummyannabella fingers crossed for BFPs
MOB i posted about my sis on the waiting room thread. il give you the gist of it if ya want i found out yesterday that my sister was paying my brother £100 to help her decorate her new house that she moves into on saturday. i have been there with her everyday since monday (when i took a day off work to sign as her guarrantor!!) cleaning the house taking her to buy paint and wallpaper and helping sort out changing address details with various companies using my phone bill etc with no thanks. i have been doing all this while my bro was sat at home not helping. she didnt tell me she was paying my bro and didnt offer me anything not even a thankyou she expects me to go to decorate in her new house straight after work and i was just wondering if it is unreasonable of me to think that i should have been offered paying even though i would never dream of accepting it i feel it is the principle of it!! she was sneaky in the fact that she was goin to pay him without even telling me and i feel a bit used and taken for granted by her TBH i was just lookin for a bit of advice really
xx ei xx

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pinkgirl30 · 27/02/2008 17:34

thanks gg will let you know at 8amish in morninghope that isnt too long to be in suspenders:0
hope that you and ds are ok
hi mummya good luck

MummyAnnabella · 27/02/2008 17:27

am on day 33 of 31 day cycle and 2nd or 3rd month of TTC no2. no 1 took 15 months so we have started TTC even though no 1 only 7 months.

wasnt going to test to sunday but was in chemist there now and bought a cheapie one and now i keep taking it in and out of hiding place!!!!!!!!!! i spent a fortune on tests first time round and thought i had more willpower this time but maybe not!!!

GryffinGirl · 27/02/2008 17:20

oooh go on, tell us pink

don;t keep us in suspenders

pinkgirl30 · 27/02/2008 17:14

cheers beaniesteve thanku everyone so much for all your support.
if i am pregnant i would be around 4 wks

beaniesteve · 27/02/2008 17:10

Good luck Pinkgirl

pinkgirl30 · 27/02/2008 17:01

thanks mibbes i really appreciate all this good luck

mibbes · 27/02/2008 16:58

Good luck pinkgirl30 fingers crossed for you

pinkgirl30 · 27/02/2008 16:33

Hi all

mob cross fingers for you hoping that af stays at bay!!
tsntt good luck
i have just bought a clearblue digitail going to test in the morning will be cd33

toosoontotell · 27/02/2008 16:04

Hello again.

GG-Sorry to hear your dh didn't have better news. Sending you all the best.

Fingers crossed for everyone else

Well done MOB! I am a (fairly) regular on the rest of MN-it still took me while to get going though!

I woke up this morning feeling fine but as the day's gone on I've felt sick again. I've felt very weepy today too but I'm still convinced it's wishful thinking If I'm not pg I will be surprised though as dh & I gave it every opportunity . Mind you I am getting on a bit now .

madoldbird · 27/02/2008 15:21

EI i'm fine thanks. Just waiting for AF to rear her ugly head. I know she's on her way, just wished she'd get on with it. What's all this stuff about your sister? Have i missed something???

I have just been very brave and posted on a thread other than a conception one! I stepped out into the big MN world (briefly) It was baby related though.

GG permission to witter? Oh dear, what have you done...

GryffinGirl · 27/02/2008 14:36

ha ha ha MOB - that's me, a Glaswegian tough nut! Permission to witter granted.

MOB and mibbes You are very wise about male psychology, and about DH's cave man attitude I grew up in a family with of aunts and sisters and went to a girl's school. I've proved myself at being pretty useless at understanding a stressed/upset man .

Oh and why is it that Glaswegians are always the "scary" ones on TV? People growling, "Och aye, therrrre's been anotherrrrrr murrrrderrrr!" with a meancing gleam in their eyes.

Ei - I think it is best for male infertility to be ruled out first, if you don't have any obvious symptoms like very long cycles. It is really one thing (sperm) to focus on for men and quickly and painlessly tested and ruled in/out.

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EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 27/02/2008 14:28

mibbes ah thanx my thought exactly i think she just hasnt thought about it properly so i might have a chat with her later onhow are you doing??
MOB hi there how you doing hunny bunch??
xx ei xx

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madoldbird · 27/02/2008 14:08

Please excuse ALL the spelling mistakes in that last post!

mibbes · 27/02/2008 14:07

GG good to hear that you are feeling positive that swimmers can be fixed . Sounds very much like DH needs to be left alone to gather his own thoughts, I'm sure when he calms down he'll realise he has been unresonable by lashing out at you. With any luck the Doctor will ease his concerns and come up with a pracitcal 'man-plan' for getting swimmers sorted . In the meantime I guess you have to be patient and arm yourself with knowledge to me imparted at the 'right' moment. {{{{hugs}}}}
I hope my happy post-Doctor chat wasn't out of place yesterday ladies - I was just a bit excitable but then realised afterwards that given GG's day maybe I should have kept my 'mouth' shut .
Ei your sister is being rubbish - talk to her about it as these are the things that can cause big problems if left to fester. Why on earth is your brother worth paying and you're not ? Perhaps she just takes you more for granted ? You are clearly far too good a sister

madoldbird · 27/02/2008 14:05

Hello eveyone

GG yes, DH is definitely in his cave, isn't he? Probably best to leave him there unitl he is ready. That's really good news though about him making a GP appt. Shows how much it is on his mind reaaly, doesn't it. He is lashing out and pushing you away, which is very understandable, but difficult for you. A few weeks ago when i was in my pit of dispair about ttc i was really horrible to DH and told him i wanted to stop trying and wasn't bothered about having his baby. Did i mean it? NO. I was hurting and i suppose subconsciouslty (sp??) wanted him to hurt as much too. Not that it excuses mine (or your DH's) behaviour, just that we often hurt the people we love most when we are hurting. Gosh, i'm wittering again, aren't i? I can see what's going to happen later:

MOB Please GG can i have permission to witter?
GG No. Go away! (said in v scary glaswegian accent!!)

Bucky have fun at your boring seminar! (now have visions of you there in a ball gown!!)

TF good to see you! Stop worrying!!!! Early pains could be follicles ripening in the ovary - i think i'm right in saying that quite a few follicles ripen in preparation, then only one (or occasionally 2) fully develop and burst out.

Coolkat that's great that the next test came up nice and +ve. Do let us know when we can officially get excited for you!! can't believe that GP's don't have tests though...

Mibbes Am so impressed with your GP. How wonderful that she is being so thorough and proactive

Hello to the rest of the gang!!!!

It was funny this morning, DH & i normally discuss our dreams when we wake up, as we both usually have very wierd, vivd ones. This morning he was telling me that he had this incredibly vivid one about being in an explosion. He could feel his whole body shaking, and he said when he woke up he actually looked around the room to check everything was ok. A few minutes later we heard the news on the radio about the earthquake! He must have sensed it in his sleep, and we are in Kent! (Did the earth move for you darling? No, but it did for you...)

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EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 27/02/2008 13:33

well at least he is doing something to learn more about the problem by makeing an appointment GG so that is a good sign. if he didnt want to open up to you he prob wouldnt have told you about it at all iyswim men are silly creatures arent they i was talking to my DH about fertility tests etc last night and he said he would rather i went for tests first as it would prob be my problem not his!! he obv doesnt realise it isnt always one sided!! also i said i nominate him as he wouldnt have to have another person touch him to have his test and more than likely i would!! i might download somethin for him to read (i know its early days for us but i want to know what tests there are etc to be prepared iykwim)i rally hope his appointment goes well and he gets some proper answers and solutions to try
xx ei xx

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GryffinGirl · 27/02/2008 13:12

Bucky - sadly, i was naked 'cause it was so hot rather . 30C at night. Best get my (mythical) designer frock out then and join Agyness!

Eiwish - DH has made an appointment with the doctor. Got an email saying "Appt 9.10 on Tues. Happy?!" so I'll leave him alone in his cave rubbing sticks together to make fire and skinning rabbits or whatever cavemen do these days .

I won't mention sperm tests again until he talks to me, which will probably be after Tuesday, but I want him to know that I care and also see it as an us problem too. he must have guessed the news would be difficult for me too, although in a different way

pinkgirl30 · 27/02/2008 13:06

Hi AllGG havent tested since cd 28 i am on cd 32 now was going to wait and test on sat if no af sorry about dh hopefull he will talk soon

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EiWishFor3MoreWishes · 27/02/2008 12:13

morning ladies well afternoon now but morning when i signed in lol
hope you are all doing ok
GG so sorry your DH if retreating into his cave maybe he just needs his space to figure out everythin in his head. i hope he sorts himself out and starts to open up to you xx
coolkat an unreserved WOOHOO *CONGRATS to you on your BFP see never give up hope!! what did auntie ei say...i knew it would be your cycle
hi to everyone else
xx ei xx

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Bucky2008 · 27/02/2008 11:53

Oh and GG...sounds like defence mechanism has kicked in with DH. If the hospital episode is anything to go by...give him a few days. >...and glamourous dresses. .

Bucky2008 · 27/02/2008 11:51

The question is WHY were you naked?

Going to a seminar again this afternoon...dull diddly dull, but just dropped in to say hi. Did a random OPK yesterday and no so think I ov early this month as I felt it...who knows. Will pounce on DP again tonight.

and glamourous dresses for everyone. As Agyness Deyn says, 'why save your best for best?' Break it out today and have fun....

GryffinGirl · 27/02/2008 11:09

x-posts with coolkat - good luck with the tests

did anyone get caught in the earthquake last night? I lived in Greece and they had some big ones there. Once I got thrown out of bed and the ceiling crashed on to the bed. It was very hot and i was crouched in the doorframe totally starkers, thinking "Bloody hell!! I'm about to be Gryffin filling in Building sandwich. If this block collapses and I'm pulled from the rubble in front of TV cameras, I WILL BE NAKED . What will my mum say?"

amazing what goes through your head when your life flashes before you

GryffinGirl · 27/02/2008 11:02

hello ladies!

Thank you to everyone for being so lovely and kind.

Bucky - your list of ideas was brilliant and really made me laugh. The trick will be convincing DH to take up yoga, being a fairly traditional male type, but never say never . Thanks for being so lovely and thoughtful. I was really low yesterday and you cheered me up. I'll give you a shout later.

coolkat - I am so pleased for you with your BFP! 5+5!! wooohooo!

mibbes and twinkling- DH has retreated back into his cave, as you both predicted. I couldn't not bring the subject up last night or it would have been weird, so tried to say I was sorry, and asked how he felt etc and we could talk about it. I didn't get very far (understatement!). He immediately changed the subject to "Do you want to come to Nice in May? I've got a conference" and then said a few things that got me very upset. He's lashing out, I know, but I wonder if this is typical

  1. It's my problem not yours, so shut up.
  1. You're obsessed with MN, it's filling your head with crp and i don't give a fck about zinc or what they all think.
  1. I am not talking to you about this at all until i've had all test results and discussed it with the doctor.
  1. I am perfectly happy not to have children. It's you who is totally obsessed with having them and turning into a different person. Get over it.
  1. I am busy and that takes priority over your obsession.
  1. "Go on and leave me"

I think today might be as productive as yesterday for work output.

madoldbird - that is a lovely story about your friends and their two little boys . They sound lovely and approached their situation to make the most of their freedoms and each other, but I wonder if I could do that . Actually, one half of me is still really positive that DH's very low sperm count can be overcome. i am stressed and upset, but not filled with hopelessness. I think I am more scared about my relationship with DH crumbling under the pressure. I know he won't want to address this and he will be very reluctant to go through any medical procedures.

hello to DG and digi-bean!!! How are you feeling, m'dear? Hope you don't have morning sickness or anything yucky . Are they being lovely to you on the PG boards?

I have been posting on this thread because you are all so lovely here, but I think I'm going to expand my MN horizons and look to the TTC since forever lasses too! Or maybe it really is time for the Hut of Doom

pinkgirl - have you tested yet if you are CD30?