I want to be pregnant so much :( Why does it take so bloody long? Why does my body mess me about? (Want to moan with me?!)

rant rant rant rant rant rant rant, ahhhhhh that's better

fruit loop - PCOS is the commonest casue of female sub-fertility if it were so hard to get pregnant with it the population of the human race would be falling! About 80% (IIRC) of PCOS'ers get pregnant using clomid and a furtehr proportion get pregnant using other drugs or otehr methods. You'd be very unlcky to fail completely - people like me are in the minority. Honest!

yeah, be good to have a good moan, ha ha. I'll note down your email x

Can I join? I definitely need to moan tonight. I've not posted for ages to try to curb the obsession. I have been TTC for 16 months since a missed miscarriage in Oct 06. Finally feeling a bit better and then find out that one close friend is pregnant- an accident and then found out sil in expecting- also a total shock. I am happy for them, but feel like both are a slap in the face. I've been crying my eyes out. I just can't understand why it is taking so long. The baby we lost was conceived really quickly...

Sorry everyone- just needed to rant!

Agree with wannabe - have done the stressing side of it and it is pointless and doesn't help anyway.

There's a lot to be said for just relaxing and making love when you' want to rather than having sex at the right times in the hope that you will conceive.

It is actually perfectly normal to take up to a year to conceive, and in some countries,, gp's won't refer until ttc for two years, so three months is nothing by comparison.

It is frustrating when you want to get pregnant and it doesn't happen straight away, but the reality is that stressing about it and being sad/angry/envious of others who get pregnant will only actually make you miserable and won't get you pregnant any quicker. In fact stress can delay ovulation which in turn can delay af which can lead you to think you're pregnant and can lead to more stress which in turn can delay... you get the picture .

Relax, and if it is meant to be it will be.

And yes, I know how it is as I've been ttc for three years and highly unlikely to ever conceive another child. but allowing it to consume my life can only make things worse for me.

Hi fruitloop, I know you from the TTC thread part whatever it's up to now, how's it going over there? I don't have PCOS (as far as I know), but can kind of empathise as I apparently have fibroids and a funny shaped uterus. Which I'm told will make it harder to fall pg as the egg has fewer good places to implant. So I do recognise that feeling of how do they all do it?

I became so obsessed with getting pregnant when ttc DD that I would leap on my husband almost everyday from day 5 to 20 on my cycle....he threatened to move back to his parents house!!!lol Seriously though if he didn't want to BD then I would get resentful and think tonight could have been the night that we could have conceived. It all started to get horribly premeditated and took all the fun out of it. Even though I say that I won't get het up about it this time, I am painfully aware that AF arrived last week. hey ho, here's to another month of BD

I actually bought the shettles book cos I thought it seemed so easy (I'd love a girl if I had the choice). Having since found out I have PCOS I realise I will be lucky if I ever have anymore babies at all. Makes me laugh to think I would actually have a choice! I was gonna burn the book! cos I feel so everytime I see it . Apparantly there is only a 25% chance of fertilisation even if a "normal" couple time it exactly right! I'm just amazed anyone can fall pg at all!

GGG I know how you feel about all these BFP on here. I've given up congratulating . I get so when I see threads like "I got a BFP" or "how do you conceive a girl/boy?" or even worse those threads about fallen pg "accidently"

disenchanted this is the thread I've been wanting to start! Have been 'trying' for 7 cycles now, though with nightmare toddler we've only got it together at the right time of the month about twice in all that time. Am not even sure that I'm trying not to obsess. I took a brief break cos MN seemed filled with unexpected pg threads for a few weeks and I couldn't cope. Know how you feel. I have no great advice (I never do), but I am so with you.

Disenchanted - statistically in the first month only 15% of couples conceive, and then it goes up every month so keep wiht it and if there is no reason for you not to conceive then it will happen, i know how impatient it can be as after my m/c i became obsessed with getting pregnant. sometimes the stress of trying can delay. just relax and it will happen. as long as you are having plenty of sex all month it will eventually happen. and i see you are using predictive ovulation sticks which is good. it will happen. best of luck

Can empathise..it is hard sometimes.

We have been TTC for #2 for about 3 years. Have recently had a couple of ops to sort some problems out caused my my c section (only found out about them a couple of years ago - had lng wait - DD now nearly 6!) I am now keeping fingers crossed that it will happen again - last time with DD it took well over a year as it is.

Hope you get lucky soon!

I've been getting spotting for two days now, not AFy so thought maybe Oving but -ve OPK. PCOS messes around with OPKs though so a complete waste of time really.

Feels good to get this off your chest doesnt it!

yep disenchanted makes complete sense.
But, you give me a lot of hope! I didn't use contraception properly for about 3 years before falling pg with DS (a surprise), I came off the pill at the beginning of Aug 07, had 30 something day cycle then an 88day cycle. I'm now on CD60!

yeah iom08 I know. What a waste of time the pill is eh!