How old is too old to become a dad

My husband felt too old at 40, which I agreed with.
I probably wouldn't raise eyebrows until 45 though.

My dad was 58 when I was born.

He died when he was 62. I was 3 years old.

My mum became a widow aged 33.

I grew up with no father. Screwed me up no end. Screwed up my older sister even more losing the apple of her eye aged 9.

So I wouldn't recommend choosing to become an old dad.

DH was 46 when DD born, he doesn’t want another at 50. I do think it’s pushing it to be honest. It’s not an issue so much at 50, but having a teenager in your 60’s is hard.

I do think 50 is my hard limit.

Also my grandma was over 40 when she had my mum in the 50's. Boy am i glad she did! And my mum and dad beddy loved her to bits. She lived with us and was like a proper old grandma to me when i was born. I loved her too!

Just to give another perspective, we are ttc and hubby is 50. We slready have one. I did think about age but you know what? There are no guarantees in life. My husband lost both is parents in his early 20's. They both died very young. Yet he could live another 40+ years! Plus i have a 12 yo and 20 yo so plenty of family around. I also know someone whos uncle met a much younger wife. They had twins when he was 60 and he stays home with them while she has a career. He absolutely loves it! I also know a lady who gave birth at 48. So i think a young attitude and good health is more important tbh.

You are both similar ages to me and DH when I became pregnant. DH was 50 when we had our first and 51 when we had the second. It really depends on health and keeping physically active. My DH is fairly fit at now 65 (needed for two teenagers) and has good genes - both his parents are alive and in relatively good shape at 89 & 92! I don’t think it’s fair to do it unless you are prepared to make an effort to stay young thinking and in good shape. But otherwise, good luck! (The additional risk of disabilities is very small btw)

Yeah I think it's massively too old sorry. And selfish to saddle a child with an old parent. To be honest I wouldn't have personally wanted children either over the age of 40 for the same reason.

Also pretty sure there is a link between age of fathers and autism in children

I think having a teenager in your mid to late 60s sounds awful and many would struggle to cope but it depends on how much of the parenting he will do. I guess if I was 49 with no existing kids and desperate for a child I might have one but I wouldn’t underestimate how much energy they take!

I think he’s too old but obviously it’s down to you two. Is he fit and healthy for his age? There is an increase risk in disabilities to consider as well as an adult in 20s having to deal to an elderly parent.