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I've been silly but I really need advice!

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Bismillah2023 · 04/06/2023 13:46

So please don't judge me for this as I am already punishing myself and my stupid choices as it is.
I have just come back from a holiday, where I ended up sleeping with one of the locals out there.
For reference I have not had sex in 3.5 years through personal choice after an awful break up with an emotional abuser, I have chosen to protect myself and my best interests by staying away from men! However a few drinks in the Sun and some charm from him ended up with us in bed together.
Fast forward to now, last night I went to the loo and noticed some pale pink discharge on the tissue when I wiped, as this was so unusual for me it led me to check my Flo app and I have absolutely shit myself when I realised I was ovulating (or so the app says) on the exact day I slept with him. We had sex numerous times with no protection (I know, I know!) as I haven't been with anyone in such a long time it sort of slipped my mind.
For further reference I have an 18 year old already and since I gave birth to him I have never had a pregnancy scare or anything similar as I have always been on the implant (which I removed early last year)
My app tells me that I am 7DPO and that I should do a pregnancy test in 9 days if I don't come on my period.
Alongside the pink discharge, the cramps in my tummy and tender breasts today I am now actually panicking that I may have brought home something more than memories from my holiday!
If I am pregnant then I already know that I would keep my child and I would have to tell him about it but am I just overthinking?

I am new to all of this and would really appreciate some advice from you all about whether it's just a coincidence or if these signs/symptoms are actually that of conception/implantation.
Please don't judge me for this I understand I have been a bit daft sleeping with someone I had only just met and I especially can't speak to any of my family or friends about this right now.
Is there anything I should be looking out for or should I relax and go with the flow? As you can tell I wasn't actively trying to conceive however if it turns out that way i will see it as a late life blessing. If it matters I am 38...

If you got this far thank you for reading ❤️

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RubyMurry22 · 07/06/2023 19:40

Keeping my fingers crossed you get the result you want 🤞

CinderRosie · 07/06/2023 19:23

How many days til your period is due @Bismillah2023 ? Shamelessly invested 😳

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Bismillah2023 · 07/06/2023 15:35

I was trying to avoid saying where we went as it's easily identifiable as me then, but if anyone recognises me from it I'll have to ask for the thread to be removed.
We went to Azores, a beautiful place with some gorgeous sights if anyone ever wants a nice chill out it's the perfect place

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Enn1234 · 07/06/2023 15:03

newwings · 07/06/2023 14:44

I'm guessing Turkey?

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My guess is Egypt, Turkey or Morocco lol

newwings · 07/06/2023 14:44

AthenaPopodopolous · 04/06/2023 14:27

Well you sound quite happy to be pregnant potentially. Anyway tell us was he a hunk? What country were you in? Sounds very romantic.
Id just send him a cute baby pic to let him know he’s a father when the time comes.
makes me think that hormones really take over when it comes to us women reproducing, it’s just a biological urge isn’t it? Anyway congratulations if you are expecting.

I'm guessing Turkey?

Enn1234 · 07/06/2023 14:18

Keep us posted OP
We're invested now lol

Iloveringos · 06/06/2023 21:12

Good luck, hope you get the news you want Blush

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Bismillah2023 · 06/06/2023 14:10

@FrankieRose82 thank you I will update when I know further!
I ordered some tests off Amazon last night to have at home for if/when I miss my period. Not sure when to even do one to be honest but I think probably best to wait until I'm at least late!

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FrankieRose82 · 05/06/2023 15:51

Good luck OP. Keep us posted

Theredfoxfliesatmidnight · 04/06/2023 20:07

Bismillah2023 · 04/06/2023 14:30

You know what I never thought I would have another baby or anything like that being single for years and having a grown up son but honestly?... I would be over the moon actually and would see it as nothing but a blessing. Life's been a bit shit for a while now and I think this could potentially change my whole life 🥰
Thank you for your lovely message. He was absolutely gorgeous I won't lie! 😂

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This is so funny. Bless you OP but I do despair of women sometimes

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 04/06/2023 19:52

Sounds like implantation bleeding!

I was going to say it might still be possible to have the coil fitted to avoid a pregnancy but it sounds like you want to be pregnant.

If you are pregnant please make your mind up about what you want to do about it before you speak to this man- you don't want to give some random stranger the power to decide something that will affect you so much (and won't impact him
Much unless he wants it to) x

DontBeBitterGlitter2023 · 04/06/2023 19:43

@Bismillah2023 thank you lovely I'll keep you posted! I've never had regular periods and I've just had the coil removed so I'm totally stumped as to when to even test! Good luck to you too, whatever happens ❤️ it'll be two weeks in a few days so I'm going to take a test, I've no idea how I feel about it all to be fair! xx

CinderRosie · 04/06/2023 17:56

I haven’t been in this situation but can relate to being late 30s with an 18yo DS and potentially being pregnant. I am actively TTC with a new DH, and still think I’ll be mortified if/when I tell DS I’m pregnant 😳
I hope you get the result you want, please keep us updated!

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Bismillah2023 · 04/06/2023 17:36

@ADHDDDDDDDBOOM did I say that?

I don't know how it works what the window is for it or nothing like that I've never had to take one or be in a position to!
And like I've said over and over on this thread the thought would never have occurred to me considering I have never tried to get pregnant. I was living in the moment and enjoying my holiday. Reality hit when I got home hence why I've now asked for advice.

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CC4712 · 04/06/2023 17:35

TBH- the risk of pregnancy would be the least of my concerns! You have options with pregnancy, but some STD's are life long. Have you been vaccinated against Hep A and B before?

At least you are going to the STD and talk through it all. Best of luck.

ADHDDDDDDDBOOM · 04/06/2023 17:34

Bismillah2023 · 04/06/2023 13:50

To be really honest I have no idea about the morning after pill or anything like that I haven't ever had to take one or like I say had a scare like this before. I slept with him on Sunday last week so exactly seven days ago! However on saying that I do believe if I was pregnant, terminating wouldn't be an option for me ❤️

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You didn't know the morning after pill existed?

Come on, now 🙄

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Bismillah2023 · 04/06/2023 17:24

Mushroo · 04/06/2023 17:19

Definitely STD clinic asap!

You sound like you might be happy to be pregnant so have some positivity that pink discharge was one of my early symptoms.

I had it for around week plus sore boobs and weird af dreams.

Also weird you mention that about the dreams I woke up at 4am sweating after a manic dream but I put that down to me forgetting to take my sleeping aid last night!

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Bismillah2023 · 04/06/2023 17:23

Mushroo · 04/06/2023 17:19

Definitely STD clinic asap!

You sound like you might be happy to be pregnant so have some positivity that pink discharge was one of my early symptoms.

I had it for around week plus sore boobs and weird af dreams.

If I'm being really honest, if you'd have asked me a week ago if I wanted anymore children I would have outrightly and firmly said no while laughing my head off.
But now, I don't know I just feel completely different and I think it's because I feel a bit blessed if it turns out that I am. Like it was meant to be. Never thought I would feel that way but I suppose until it happens you don't know how you would feel! However there is a tiny bit of excitement in me that I want to keep under control so I don't feel disappointed when/if my period arrives.
I have to be level headed and think well if I am then happy bloody days but if I aren't it will teach me a lesson to be more careful in future! ❤️

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Mushroo · 04/06/2023 17:19

Definitely STD clinic asap!

You sound like you might be happy to be pregnant so have some positivity that pink discharge was one of my early symptoms.

I had it for around week plus sore boobs and weird af dreams.

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Bismillah2023 · 04/06/2023 17:15

SnookyPook · 04/06/2023 16:42

I think you've had great advice and comments from many of the previous posters. You sound like you would be in a position to more than cope with a baby. I'm sure you will be fine whatever that test says in a week or so! (Possibly even weirdly disappointed if it's negative?!)

Also, completely get this feeling a bit daunting and late life for you if you have an 18 year old but, as a 37yr old who currently has a 2yr old and just had a MMC trying for no.2, it's certainly not too old to have a baby and to thoroughly enjoy them and still have the energy and enthusiasm etc! You will be fine whatever happens. ❤️

P.S. is it just me wanting to write this up as a chick-lit? Sorry if that's not very sensitive but it just seems perfect! 😁

Aww thank you! You're absolutely correct in that I've had some brilliant advice and I will take away each comment and follow what others have said to the letter!

You are also not being insensitive at all it's a crazy story and I can imagine that many will probably find it romantic! (Not sure if I do yet though haha) I will keep you posted though and you never know one day you might be able to write about it! 🤣😜

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Bismillah2023 · 04/06/2023 17:11

DontBeBitterGlitter2023 · 04/06/2023 16:49

Can't give much advice except to say I'm in the same boat however my absolutely gorgeous hunk is a friend who lives round the corner 😏but I was always told I couldn't actually get pregnant and now.... who knows....

Good luck whatever happens! xx

Oh wow really! I would love to hear updates as you go and I'm so pleased to hear someone's in the same situation as mad as that sounds!
Please come back and comment on this thread once you know more as it would be nice to have someone along with me at the same stage! ❤️

Wish you luck 🍀 xxx

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Veryverycalmnow · 04/06/2023 16:56

Wow, it sounds so exciting. Keep us updated.

DontBeBitterGlitter2023 · 04/06/2023 16:49

Can't give much advice except to say I'm in the same boat however my absolutely gorgeous hunk is a friend who lives round the corner 😏but I was always told I couldn't actually get pregnant and now.... who knows....

Good luck whatever happens! xx

SnookyPook · 04/06/2023 16:42

I think you've had great advice and comments from many of the previous posters. You sound like you would be in a position to more than cope with a baby. I'm sure you will be fine whatever that test says in a week or so! (Possibly even weirdly disappointed if it's negative?!)

Also, completely get this feeling a bit daunting and late life for you if you have an 18 year old but, as a 37yr old who currently has a 2yr old and just had a MMC trying for no.2, it's certainly not too old to have a baby and to thoroughly enjoy them and still have the energy and enthusiasm etc! You will be fine whatever happens. ❤️

P.S. is it just me wanting to write this up as a chick-lit? Sorry if that's not very sensitive but it just seems perfect! 😁

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 04/06/2023 16:33

I’m really hoping your STD screen comes back clear.

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