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4DPO yet again, are you with me?

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bunnynbear · 02/06/2023 14:14

Today's 4DPO. This is second TWW after a miscarriage and that was the first time I was pregnant :(

First TWW after the miscarriage was very hard and very emotional for me, i was symptom spotting every little thing. This time around I feel calmer but its still 4DPO and my brain knows its too early for HcG to be there but not sure how I will be from 10DPO onwards.

Who else here is going through the TWW and how are you coping?

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bookworm100 · 07/07/2023 20:40

@bunnynbear same! I know they say you absolutely 100% can't have any symptoms at this stage but I have such an achey lower back, almost like I get at ovulation again but I know I've ovulated as I track my temperature etc. Gargh, full on TWW insanity here already. Think I'll probably end up testing at 7 or 8 DPO tbh, are you holding on for 10?

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bunnynbear · 07/07/2023 14:51

@bookworm100 welcome! Im also 4dpo! Itching tor the tww to be past 10dpo. How you finding it?

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bookworm100 · 07/07/2023 13:43

Thanks @TT82 - haha I know, it drives you crazy! Fingers crossed for us all. Looking forward to following the thread! Flowers

TT82 · 07/07/2023 13:35

@bookworm100 welcome! ☺️
That's this horrible progesterone! It raises after ovulation and every month I think that's it 😆
From the other hand, it is good it is up!

Fingers crossed 🤞🏻

bookworm100 · 07/07/2023 13:02

Can I please join? 4DPO here and have been convinced of symptoms since 1DPO Grin

TT82 · 07/07/2023 10:48

@Laylattc also are you using these special early testing ones? Can be just hormones haven't built up
Last time at 12dpo i had a shadow only, by evening digital positive and then symptoms only day after

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bunnynbear · 07/07/2023 10:03

Laylattc · 07/07/2023 09:30

11dpo and BFN, been testing since 8dpo and it’s so disheartening.

pretty sure this means I’m out, does anyone know of anyone who got a bfn’s at 11dpo and went on to get a positive?

i had a bfp at night on 12dpo. it was stark white in the morning of 12dpo. i didnt even have any symptoms. as long as af hasnt arrived, youre not out!

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Giles1008 · 07/07/2023 09:39

@Laylattc same I’m either 11DPO or 12DPO used a FRER and stark white. I’ll just wait for AF to arrive now, due Monday.

You can still implant until 12DPO but I think the pregnancy is less likely to be successful.

Sending baby dust to everyone else in their TWW 🤞🏻

Laylattc · 07/07/2023 09:30

11dpo and BFN, been testing since 8dpo and it’s so disheartening.

pretty sure this means I’m out, does anyone know of anyone who got a bfn’s at 11dpo and went on to get a positive?

TT82 · 07/07/2023 09:12

@bunnynbear I fully understand and support the idea of "no early testing " and in my case I need to test 1w after AF due ir even later just to check..(by then I would feel and more to test if it is cp).. But for me it is part of the game, this testing and guessing 😅 so I won't be able to resist

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bunnynbear · 07/07/2023 09:02

@TT82 i have a stash of tests that I bought the cycle after the miscarriage, it has cheap ones, CB and FRER but never got the chance to use any but the cheap ones as it was always bfn. each cycle I consider if to buy more and then realised that I have enough at home 😂last cycle, i only used 3-4 cheap stick tests. I'm debating if to test on 10dpo or 12dpo.

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TT82 · 07/07/2023 08:06

@bunnynbear I am also 4dpo today ☺️ Will start taking progesterone from today (dr thinks no need but said no harm and if I feel safer than ok to do so), I hate as they will intensify pregnancy-like symptoms a lot 🤦🏻‍♀️

Decided not to tes as will feel pregnancy anyway.. But as I have a stack of tests I bet I will start from 10dpo for sure 😆😅

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bunnynbear · 07/07/2023 07:44

how is everyone doing? where are you on the TWW? I am 4dpo today, I feel eerily calm. I think its cos I am expecting a bfn in 10 days as that's what I've gotten the last two cycles. I haven't decided when I will start testing tho.

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UnderstatedElegance · 05/07/2023 21:47

@bunnynbear I'm quite chilled out about it this month. I'm 38 now so I'm aware it might not happen anyway.

TT82 · 05/07/2023 21:30

@Giles1008 you are still not out! Last cycle I was positive really late, like at 12dpo was only this shadow which my husband said is white. All my pregnancies/positive tests till then were really early, like 9-10dpo digital, and last cycle only 14dpo. So there's still hope!
But even if you have to delay till December, don't get too upset, main thing you will be trying and you will get the result ❤️

Giles1008 · 05/07/2023 19:32

Tested BFN, going to wait until Friday now and use a FRER. Although I feel like AF is on the way so know I should just wait. This was our last month so that’s us stopping now until December 😩 feeling a bit deflated. It means the gap between any future baby and our son will be at least 4 years which is longer than I wanted.

@TT82 sorry to hear you’ve had lots of cp, that must be so tough. 🤞🏻 for a sticky baby soon!

TT82 · 05/07/2023 13:23

@bunnynbear thank you!!! Yes for me important not BFP but no AF 🙈

TT82 · 05/07/2023 13:22

@Giles1008 We are ttc for over a year, but my problem is age - I am 41 now and egg quality is an issue, regardless good health, hormones level perfect etc.. So lors of cp 🥺
I have 2 kids, with big gap between, as my problem was to carry them full term before (cannot have twins for this reason too). We will try ivf next cycles too, as we both always wanted another baby just delayed too much 😔

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bunnynbear · 05/07/2023 13:12

@Giles1008 i know how you feel too. My sister announced she was pregnant first month ttc without any monitoring and then there's me with opk and at the time bbt and timing dtd. You do get mixed emotions. I felt/feel like a failure but u agree with @TT82 just focus on this cycle. You're not out yet and you still got a chance.

@TT82 hang in there! Having family round especially with little ones takes it's toll emotionally and mentally. I have 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 that af doesn't come for you as well!

@Laylattc I am 2dpo. Still haven't decided when I'll test, either 12dpo or 10dpo or even wait for af date. DH is actually flying out at 14dpo and I'm due at 16dpo so not sure how it's al gonna play out!

@UnderstatedElegance welcome back! How you finding this tww? I have just started mine! We also didn't manage to dtd much, we missed ovulation day or even yesterday but we did on LH surge day plus before so hoping it's enough! Sending baby dust to you!

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Giles1008 · 05/07/2023 12:47

@TT82 thats so tough! How long have you been TTC, don’t babies/ pregnant women seem to be everywhere when you’re TTC.

Flo has the little if you’re pregnant it’s day 8, but then my prediction ovulation was Sunday which makes today 10DPO? I’m going to wait and test Friday because I’m off that day and I don’t want a day at work after a BFN.

If I am pregnant it should show by Friday FMU 🤞🏻 when is anyone else testing?

UnderstatedElegance · 05/07/2023 09:17

I'm back again this month (I've name changed though 😂) 5 dpo, I started Q10 supplements too. Breasts felt sensitive around ovulation, which I do t usually get. I've got mild cramps today. We didn't dtd very much in the peak time due to being out of the country for work.
Good luck to everyone this cycle

TT82 · 04/07/2023 18:56

@Giles1008 i feel your pain 🥺
But don't get upset for this cycle in advance! Period pain with such a long luteal time is strange...so really high chance it is not AF coming! 🤞🏻

I have my DH cousin with a baby staying with us for a month and mil, fil... Baby very cute... just all this psychologically very difficult

Giles1008 · 04/07/2023 17:59

Colleague at work just announced she’s pregnant, feel so sad about it. I’m 8DPO and can feel AF on the way 😩

I know she’s only been TTC one month, obviously I’m delighted for her but now I’ve got the next 5 months when we’ve decided to stop trying - urgh just waiting and being reminded every day. Sorry just ranting.

Giles1008 · 04/07/2023 10:47

I’m 8DPO but didn’t test, I have some light period pains though 😩 pretty sure I’m out.

I have a full 14 day luteal phase sometimes even 16 days, so AF isn’t due until next week. @Laylattc BFN this month will leave me so deflated 🥺

Laylattc · 04/07/2023 10:30

@Giles1008 cycles usually 30 days, currently on cd25 and since I’ve been ov testing my luteal phase has only been 11 days which would make period due Saturday but both apps Flo and premom putting af on Monday. Oh I really hope you get your BFP this month then!!!

currently 8dpo (potentially)and bfn this morning

anyone else testing yet?