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4DPO yet again, are you with me?

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bunnynbear · 02/06/2023 14:14

Today's 4DPO. This is second TWW after a miscarriage and that was the first time I was pregnant :(

First TWW after the miscarriage was very hard and very emotional for me, i was symptom spotting every little thing. This time around I feel calmer but its still 4DPO and my brain knows its too early for HcG to be there but not sure how I will be from 10DPO onwards.

Who else here is going through the TWW and how are you coping?

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ManchesterRoad · 06/06/2023 08:09

@Giles1008 honestly I would try again next month. I think travelling with a 2 month old is worth it, you may just need to fast track registration & passport?

Giles1008 · 06/06/2023 08:00

@DHB I didn’t have any symptoms with my son first time, so fingers crossed it’s BFP for you.

I’m 11DPO and BFN so residing myself now that this isn’t our month. I’m wondering whether I can fit in another month of TTC we said this was our last month because we have my BIL wedding in May next year, they live in America. Is taking a 2 month old too young? 🤷🏻‍♀️

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bunnynbear · 06/06/2023 07:42

@ManchesterRoad this time around I've been trying my best not to think about it and keep my mind preoccupied with other stuff. but i think post 10DPO that's when I will start to get impatient to test. I agree with you, I dont know what to look for either and this is my 4th cycle trying! I think cos everyone is different and every pregnancy is different, its very hard to know. awww when to test, its recommended to wait until the day or two after a missed period but i find that too long! its personal preference.

@Plumbibii how you finding your tww?

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bunnynbear · 06/06/2023 07:37

@Giles1008 fingers crossed that its implantation bleeding, really hoping its your month this time! Im like @DHB i have no symptoms whatsoever and I think i am psyching myself out for a BFN. lower expectations and hopefully that'll lower the disappointment.

@DHB I'm 8DPO today so I'm one day behind you. I resisted the urge to test today (and so far this TWW). I am trying to hold out until Saturday when I am 12DPO (that's when I tested positive last time) but not sure if I will cave on Thursday!!

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DmcinT · 05/06/2023 19:06

Well I’m not due until Monday/Tuesday but I’ve a hen night Saturday so I’m to test Saturday morning, I’ll only be 10/11 dpo though so even if I get a bfn I could still be positive a few days later🙈 think I’ll just try disguise not drinking as much as I can and fake sip one for the day.

Anyone any good tips for disguising not drinking? I think it’ll be fine later in the night but the first few drinks will be the hardest and we’re doing a cocktail making class 🙈

DHB · 05/06/2023 18:36

@Giles1008 Fingers crossed it’s not AF, you’re not out until she comes anyway :)

I’m around 8DPO today and absolutely no symptoms :( Trying to just go with the flow but it’s difficult 😂

Giles1008 · 05/06/2023 13:55

@DmcinT I’ve just ordered a FRER, going to wait of using it until Friday 🤞🏻. I’m having some very mild cramps but I sometimes get cramps before AF although they are usually much stronger.

When is AF due? Will you wait until then to test, the symptom spotting and waiting is so hard. I have a quiet week in work so the days feel very long 😂

DmcinT · 05/06/2023 13:42

@Giles1008 deff could be implantation🤞🏽 Meaning it’d be 13/14 by time ud get ur bfp🤞🏽

im just 6 dpo, nothing major over the last few days but I’ve ended up having a 30min nap today (which I never do) and that was a first symptom on my last pregnancy (but it ended in a loss) so I’m cautiously hopeful. I’d imagine the symptom spotting will ramp up this week for me, af due next Monday

Giles1008 · 05/06/2023 11:26

10 DPO tested BFN, had some bright red spotting this morning so I think AF is imminent.

Keeping my hopes but by thinking it may be implantation, I didn’t have this first time so 🤷🏻‍♀️. How is everyone else getting along?

DHB · 04/06/2023 07:27

@bunnynbear Im literally the same 😂 It’s so bad isn’t it! I’ve been ok throughout the cycle, it’s just now it’s the waiting game! I’m now around 7dpo so it’s getting closer but now I’m symptom sporting and panicking because I don’t bloody have any!!

Giles1008 · 03/06/2023 22:01

This is technically our 3rd month trying, but last month we missed ovulation because of work commitments. We have a DS who is 2.5 so really hoping to give him a sibling soon 🤞🏻

Had a busy day so haven’t thought about testing. Did you start tracking this month then?

Plumbibii · 03/06/2023 21:57

Hello!! May I join too pls?
2dpo here. Xx

ManchesterRoad · 03/06/2023 20:48

@bunnynbear ok so far. I’m not sure what to expect or what to look out for. I also don’t know when to test 😂 I was going to wait until 14 days but then I see people testing earlier and I’m unsure what to do!

How are you finding your wait?

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bunnynbear · 03/06/2023 20:35

ManchesterRoad · 02/06/2023 21:42

Please may I join? This is my first cycle trying -I think I’m 1dpo so I have quite a while to wait until I can test 😂

hoping it’s a positive outcome for us all!

@ManchesterRoad babydust to you

How are you coping with the tww?

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bunnynbear · 03/06/2023 20:34

DmcinT · 03/06/2023 18:28

@bunnynbear sorry to hear about ur loss, similar to u I had a MMC at 11 weeks in March with D&C start of April.

we are ttc #1, I’m 4 dpo today and absolutely questioning and googling every little twinge. I was convinced we had conceived again last cycle (first after Mc) so that was a very emotional af.

🤞🏽🤞🏽 For us all ❤️

@DmcinT sorry to hear about your loss too. We're trying for #1 as well.
I was like that last month when I was symptom spotting everything and then becoming very emotional when I had little twinges which I thought could be implantation even tho it was too soon. I'm hoping it's your month this time as well as every else on here 🙂

Keeping my fingers crossed for everyone here.

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bunnynbear · 03/06/2023 20:29

DHB · 02/06/2023 19:19

@bunnynbear Rubbish isn’t it :( It makes you even more desperate for a bfp! I was fine too and then today I’ve started checking Premom community and all the threads on here 🫣😂 I’m really going to try not to symptom spot or test early but deep down I know damn well, I will do both 😂

@DHB since ttc every time I go through the tww, each DPO day I check Premom to see what it says and every cycle it has mainly been the same comments but I still check them nonetheless! 🫣 but this time round I've had very good self restraint. But I've switched to checking mumsnet instead

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DmcinT · 03/06/2023 18:28

@bunnynbear sorry to hear about ur loss, similar to u I had a MMC at 11 weeks in March with D&C start of April.

we are ttc #1, I’m 4 dpo today and absolutely questioning and googling every little twinge. I was convinced we had conceived again last cycle (first after Mc) so that was a very emotional af.

🤞🏽🤞🏽 For us all ❤️

foulplay · 03/06/2023 11:43

@bunnynbear excellent advice from your sister's I'm going to hold onto that

Thisisjustmyfaceok · 03/06/2023 11:32

We've been not trying not preventing for about 6 months with me secretly hoping it would happen. This month is the first actively trying.

Have you been trying long?

Giles1008 · 03/06/2023 10:51

I actually don’t feel too bad seeing BFN on 8 DPO but by 11DPO I know that it’s a pretty much a no and it’s tough then.

Have you been trying long?

Thisisjustmyfaceok · 03/06/2023 10:32

@Giles1008 I've been furiously googling the best times to DTD looking for some hope 😂

It's so gutting seeing the negative result but 8dpo is so early, you're still in! Why does the TWW feel like such a long time?! Every day just drags

Giles1008 · 03/06/2023 10:13

@Thisisjustmyfaceok thats sounds the same as me only managed to DTD the same days. I think they’re the most important ones.

I’m 8DPO caved and tested with a cheapie, stark white 🙄. Hoping I implant today or tomorrow 🤞🏻

Thisisjustmyfaceok · 03/06/2023 07:10

Can I join too please? Sorry to hear about your loss OP and PP, fingers crossed you get your BFP this month.

I'm 3DPO, ovulated a few days sooner than expected and only managed to DTD the day before ovulation and the day of. Hopefully it's enough!

ManchesterRoad · 02/06/2023 21:42

Please may I join? This is my first cycle trying -I think I’m 1dpo so I have quite a while to wait until I can test 😂

hoping it’s a positive outcome for us all!

DHB · 02/06/2023 19:19

@bunnynbear Rubbish isn’t it :( It makes you even more desperate for a bfp! I was fine too and then today I’ve started checking Premom community and all the threads on here 🫣😂 I’m really going to try not to symptom spot or test early but deep down I know damn well, I will do both 😂