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4DPO yet again, are you with me?

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bunnynbear · 02/06/2023 14:14

Today's 4DPO. This is second TWW after a miscarriage and that was the first time I was pregnant :(

First TWW after the miscarriage was very hard and very emotional for me, i was symptom spotting every little thing. This time around I feel calmer but its still 4DPO and my brain knows its too early for HcG to be there but not sure how I will be from 10DPO onwards.

Who else here is going through the TWW and how are you coping?

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DmcinT · 09/06/2023 09:33

@bunnynbear yeah I’m thinking it’s a dodgy test, I’ll wait until tomorrow and try again🙈 so silly testing today anyways, I know myself it’s just too early.

CrazyCatMom · 09/06/2023 09:19

9DPO today - no cramping so far and no more spotting so I’m hoping I’m still in the game.

Planning to wait until next Saturday before testing again but it will be difficult as every morning DH comes downstairs and asks if I have done a test 😂 no pressure or anything!

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bunnynbear · 09/06/2023 09:13

@Giles1008 1008 my cycles are always 32 days. I use Flo and also premom app and both are bang on for calculating my ovulation and AF. I use two types of OPK (clearblue advance 4 days and premom). AF comes 14-15 dpo so similar to yours. I used the cheap premoms to test yesterday but I will use FRER tomorrow at 12dpo.

@foulplay play thank you! my cynical realistic brain says its not implantation as it was very little in the discharge but enough to see there was blood if that makes sense. but yes mindset should be not out until AF arrives!!

@DmcinT do you take a pic after the colour has settled? i see something but not sure if that's the dye settling, indent line or vvfl. i hope this is good news for you

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DmcinT · 09/06/2023 09:03

I know I shouldn’t have I’m only 9/10 dpo but oc I tested this morning and I’m prob imagining this but I think I see the faintest line? Or am I going crazy

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foulplay · 09/06/2023 08:38

12 dpo here, no symptoms apart from the usual pre af cramps. Day 26 of my cycle. AF has arrived a couple of days early at day 27 the last two months, so I wonder if this month will be the same.

@bunnynbear you're definitely not out yet, it could be implantation - so I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@ManchesterRoad it's definitely possible to get a bfp the first month, I've had it.

Good luck to all.

Giles1008 · 09/06/2023 07:56

@bunnynbear could it be implantation? How long are you cycles normally?

Giles1008 · 09/06/2023 07:54

@bunnynbear i’m 14DPO today no AF but a bfn yesterday evening so didn’t test again.

I’ve been using some cheapies because my FRER arrives today but I should see something if I was actually pregnant.

Thought I must have miscalculated ovulation but looking back on Flo my luteal phase is 14-16DPO so could arrive at late as Sunday.

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bunnynbear · 09/06/2023 07:54

@ManchesterRoad a lot of people always recommend First Response to me especially the early response one. Apparently Clearblue's dye has issues and can give false positives but the digital ones work well if you're testing after your period is late.

It's possible to fall pregnant first cycle, I did but it didn't stick. One of my sisters told me a few days ago she's pregnant (tcc #3, her second is 8yo). it was her first cycle trying so its possible. Plus AF symptoms and pregnancy symptoms are the same so you're not out until AF shows. I'm hoping you get a positive this cycle too!

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ManchesterRoad · 09/06/2023 07:35

It’s still too early to test for me, but honestly I think I’m out. I’ve been symptom spotting like mad and driving myself crazy which is stupid, because really what is the chance of falling pregnant the first cycle of trying.

also, what brand of pregnancy test is best? I keep seeing conflicting opinions so worried I’ll get excited over an evap line 😂

@bunnynbear really hope you get a positive tomorrow!!

hope everyone else is ok x

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bunnynbear · 09/06/2023 07:07

how is everyone doing today and finding the tww? Where are you all on your tww journey?

@BabyUxX @CrazyCatMom @DmcinT @Giles1008 @Laylattc @Letsgotitans @ManchesterRoad @Plumbibii @Thisisjustmyfaceok @VixFromThe6ix @foulplay

@DHB how are the symptoms post BFP?

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bunnynbear · 09/06/2023 07:04

@Giles1008 I was 10dpo when I tested. i saved that screenshot showing the percentage of accuracy in PT from 10dpo onwards. So I know there's a 65% that it was a false bfn! - me trying to stay positive :)

I'm 11dpo today and I think I may be out. This morning, there was a ever so slight blood (red/brown) in a bit of discharge which I think is spotting for af. I'm also bloated and and having my usual PMS symptoms (especially the overly sensitive emotionally feeling) but I have 5 days until af so its going to be agony. I have long cycles too. my next ovulation date is the 30th based on flo and my cycles are like clockwork, even after the miscarriage.

@Laylattc sorry for your loss, how you finding this tww? sorry it looks like an indent to me too. maybe retest in a few days. I plan to test tomorrow when I'm 12dpo.

@CrazyCatMom sending baby dust your way. how you finding tww? when I saw the bloody discharge today, my heart sunk cos my first thought was af is coming. when do you plan on retesting?

@DmcinT I hope your day got better. this can be a struggle and challenging, and you can also feel lonely going through it. Feel free to rant as much as you want here, we're here to listen and support you as much as you need it.

Just remember people can be very insensitive, just ignore that woman and other similar comments. You're doing great, remember to look after yourself and take time for yourself!

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CrazyCatMom · 08/06/2023 12:28

Sorry but that looks like an indent line to me

CrazyCatMom · 08/06/2023 12:16

8DPO today and I have got more period-y cramping and very light brown mucousy discharge.

Either AF is arriving or implantation is occurring. I relented and did a PT today (BFN as expected). Watch and wait I guess 👀

Laylattc · 08/06/2023 11:34

Hello everyone, please may I join? I’m 10dpo today on my second cycle ttc after miscarriage. driving myself crazy!

Tested every day since 8dpo and been getting the faintest squinting indents on frer so bfn’s I guess. Uploaded picture of todays test to the naked eye and then with contrast turned up if anyone can see as I’ve got a serious case of line eyes and upset at frer as apparently they’re notorious for indents?

hoping I’m not out yet, nice to speak to people in the same boat!

4DPO yet again, are you with me?
4DPO yet again, are you with me?
Giles1008 · 08/06/2023 10:22

@DmcinT i’m sorry to read you’re having such a tough day! TTC is so challenging, let yourself cry and feel crap it’s so emotional.

It’s so annoying when people mention pregnancy, at the weekend some family members were asking when we’re having a second. DS needs a sibling 3 years is the perfect gap! I’m like I know I’m trying!

I’m at teacher too and last time used the SPL maternity policies to get to get full pay during all the school holidays. Definitely look into it when you get your BFP.

DmcinT · 08/06/2023 10:07

@Giles1008 I feel af is on its way also 😞 feeling very deflated and emotional today. My back was sore in a gym class this morn and trainer asked was I ok at end of the class and I burst out crying 🙈😅😩 then cried the journey home and just feel completely on edge. Boobs are slightly tender and fuller today also so I’d say af is coming

I think we will take a break over summer now and wait until Oct/Nov aswel. We have a few weddings, holidays and I’ve 2 hen weekends so I think we’ll just enjoy the summer months and focus back on ttc for the winter months, the timing work out better for me also with teacher holidays. I do feel a bit gutted though as I would have been finished now and starting maternity leave in sept but I’m trying to focus on the positives.

@foulplay i feel exactly the same, as I’m getting closer to 10/11 dpo I feel like I do t want the disappointment of testing and seeing a bfn

@bunnynbear I deff get what u mean on seeing a bfn anything before 10/11 u just know there’s still a bit of hope. I think if I test negative by Monday I know I’m 100% out. I haven’t really come up with a solution for Saturday other than accept all drinks going and take an odd sip here and there but pour myself some non alcoholic drinks and hope no1 catches on🤞🏽 Even if they do I think I’ll just say I’m trying to cut down on drinking🤷🏼‍♀️

I popped in for a coffee after the gym this morning and a woman I haven’t seen in a few months was there, she commented ‘I was sure you’d be pregnant by now and maybe even had a baby’ 😞 it’s so hard to know what to say.. part of me wants to say ‘I was pregnancy for 3 months but lost the babies’ but I know that’s a bit mean.

sorry for the rant.. not a good day ❤️ I hope everyone else is having a better day xx

Giles1008 · 08/06/2023 09:46

Sorry to hear that @bunnynbear I spend too long trying to see a shadow that isn’t there. A BFN is so tough, but are you only 7DPO I hear only 5% have implanted by then. Definitely still in.

I haven’t tested since, I have all the symptoms for AF, slight cramps, high cervix, boobs have stopped being tender. I think CD1 will be tomorrow. Feeling positive and optimistic for a new cycle, March babies.

I have quite long cycles so I’m actually quite happy I will get another chance in June 🙌🏻 Flo has my ovulation predicted for 27th.

If next month doesn’t happen then we’ll definitely wait until Christmas time which actually has lots of positive for a later baby. I’ll be on maternity when my son starts reception, the new gov childcare policies will have been implemented (so no ridiculous nursery fees) and hopefully economically everything will be a bit calmer.

Keeping my positive pants on 😂

foulplay · 08/06/2023 09:44

Good luck to those testing today. I'm weirdly not wanting ti test this month. I think in my head I know I'm out. I was a bit up and down mood wise yesterday, but that's normal for me at this point in my cycle.

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bunnynbear · 08/06/2023 08:43

@Letsgotitans I'm so sorry for your losses and what you've been through. How are you finding this tww? Im praying for good news for you soon, be kind to yourself.

@BabyUxX did you test today? Before my symptom spotting was for pregnancy but now it's like yeah "af is coming", "yeah that's an af symptom" 😞

@DmcinT I acted on the sign and tested but bfn. I also got a bfp last time at 12dpo. I'm a little bit scared to test on 12dpo in case it's a bfn cos it's less likely to be a false negative than let's say now which is why I'm not too fussed of getting a bfn today. How you keeping up? Have you figured how you're going to avoid drinking on Saturday?

@Giles1008 did you end up testing today? How you feeling? I'm already thinking of next cycles fertile window.

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bunnynbear · 08/06/2023 08:31

Well I caved this morning and took a test and yes it was a BFN and as stark white as it could be. No surprise there. Going to wait til Saturday to test again.

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Giles1008 · 08/06/2023 07:46

@Letsgotitans im so sorry to hear about your loss. Must be emotionally so challenging, hoping for a BFP & healthy pregnancy ❤️

@DmcinT 🤞🏻 for you BFP, I am either 12DPO or 13DPO today, AF due tomorrow or Saturday. It feels she’s on her way I always have the urge to deep clean and tackled my sons toy box yesterday 😂

@BabyUxX hoping for a BFP today if it’s testing day

BabyUxX · 08/06/2023 06:54

Hii everyone!

I haven't tested yet, AF is due tomorrow, I had cramps all day at 10dpo, headache all day on 11dpo and feeling like rubbish! I bet its just Af on her way It's so hard to not symptom spot. Yesterday I was absolutely freezing and then the next minute I was red hot aswell. Not sure what's going on there, boobs swollen but not as much as last month xx

Is anyone testing today? Xx

Plumbibii · 07/06/2023 20:35

Congratulations @DHB

@bunnynbear I am trying to stay relaxed in this TWW. But i am guilty of major symptom spotting.

I am 6dpo today and have had headache all day. I am hoping to test around 12dpo. Long wait yet. Xx

DmcinT · 07/06/2023 20:14

@bunnynbear yeah I had a lie down when I got home there for half hr, I dunno is it just a notion to me because I was grand then.

Id deff take tests arriving early as a sign 🙈 but I’m a serial tester.. so hard when they are there, I’m only 8/9 dpo tomorr and I’m already tempted but I know it’ll 100% be a bfn. I tested at 10 dpo last time and got bfn and then 12 was my bfp

@Giles1008 huge congrats on the house and as they say ur not out until af arrives! That would be quite the month though.

@Letsgotitans oh im so sorry to read this and got your losses, it’s just heart breaking. Sending so much baby dust your way 🙏🏽🤞🏽 I hope and can’t wait to see a few bfps here over the next few days ❤️❤️

Letsgotitans · 07/06/2023 18:52

5dpo here. 6th try after 4 chemical pregnancies. Lost all faith that my body can carry a baby again, it will be very mixed feelings if I get a positive, obviously it's good that I've made that first step but that's when the dread and huge anxiety starts