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4DPO yet again, are you with me?

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bunnynbear · 02/06/2023 14:14

Today's 4DPO. This is second TWW after a miscarriage and that was the first time I was pregnant :(

First TWW after the miscarriage was very hard and very emotional for me, i was symptom spotting every little thing. This time around I feel calmer but its still 4DPO and my brain knows its too early for HcG to be there but not sure how I will be from 10DPO onwards.

Who else here is going through the TWW and how are you coping?

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Giles1008 · 06/02/2025 15:31

Congratulations @bunnynbear I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly and you enjoy the summer with your beautiful daughter 💓

Two months after this thread we got our BFP and our little boy is now 9 months 🥰

ManchesterRoad · 06/02/2025 11:22

Oh @bunnynbear what a great update! Wishing you all the best for you and your daughter(!) Exciting times ahead x

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bunnynbear · 06/02/2025 11:14

Hi everyone. I wanted to provide an update in case anyone came across this thread. So after my third pregnancy lost, I finally managed to get referred to the recurrent miscarriage unit and did a load of tests over the first half of 2024. Turns out nothing is wrong and I kept hearing that it was just very very bad luck (which I know should be a relief but didn’t help as much as it should).

Exactly a year after the last pregnancy/miscarriage, I found myself pregnant again! The first trimester has been a bit rocky with a few complications but I am now nearly 17 weeks pregnant, due in the summer and yesterday we found out we’re having a healthy baby girl 😊

so after 2 years of trying, we’re starting to see the rainbow after the storm and 🤞🏼 everything goes well going forward

I hope all of you are keeping strong on this journey and being kind to yourselves. I 🙏🏼 that you also get good news soon (if not already!)

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TT82 · 20/01/2024 10:29

@bunnynbear my best positive hugs for you!! ❤️

No, it is a luck game at this age.. I am taking looots of supplements, now for a year. If we do naturally then chemical will be like a given and we need to accept it if we want still next year to find a good egg.. I just read too many positive stories..but reality not on my side

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bunnynbear · 20/01/2024 10:10

@TT82 im sorry to hear that. is there anything that can be done regarding the embryos, i.e. taking supplements or meds to help? for now, i think may just give yourself time and forget about the pressure of it. i cant imagine how much it hurts. try and take care of yourself and even tho its hard, look at the positives. if you pause for a third round, would you still try naturally? or are the risk of another chemical too high?

I'm in my second tww after the latest miscarriage. 2dpo today. DH was very tired during the fertile window cos of long hours at work so not sure whether we DTD enough, im not hopeful. Im now taking alot of supplements and meds and have been since the last miscarriage. alot of people have fallen pregnant so thats tough. im trying to look forward and also take of myself and keeping my mind off the waiting game.

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TT82 · 19/01/2024 17:17

@bunnynbear how are you?
No good news from me, both my embryos uneuploid, same as previous 4.. Looks like no good eggs left in me, not sure if mentally ready to do the last 3d round or just accept the failure 😞
I am lucky to have kids, still hurts tremendously..

TT82 · 29/12/2023 18:22

@bunnynbear hi, glad to hear nothing serious they found so far, but not glad that appointment only end of next year! Lets hope you won't need it by then 🙏
My news not good, we got only 2 5-day embryos, sent them for genetic testing, but no hope.. We spoke to 2 private clinics abroad too, they said that my clinic did a good job (was reassuring as communication not so great), and that is these two abnormal, I need to think of donor egg or just to close the subject.. or can try one more time. Was really upset as older women with low ovarian reserve still going and trying, and with my good hormones they don't have hope.. but at least they were direct. Biopsy found also inflammation of the lining, so on antibiotics too now (could have also impacted the implantation previously with my chemicals...so maybe not all down to bad quality..)
Will update in January when we have results and make some decisions.
Happy New Year everyone!!

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bunnynbear · 29/12/2023 17:40

@TT82 how are you doing? how was christmas? was thinking of you and praying you got some good news. were the results good?

Nothing new on my side. slight silver lining, i had the intro appt for the recurrent miscarriage unit, ike a triage. will need to do blood test when af arrives (new years day!) but basically been told that it is highly unlikely anything is wrong with me cos i got pregnant so many time in a short space of time and its just bad luck, really really really bad luck. the kicker in all this is that my follow up appt with the recurrent miscarriage unit is end of next year!! that was their first available appointment.

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TT82 · 30/11/2023 14:14

@bunnynbear oh I hope they come back to you soon!! 🙏 As better they do tests and fix if something is the reason..as mc are heartbreaking 😔 Take care of yourself!!

Yeah 17 for my age not so good, my body this time overreacted a bit. But majority will be not good for fertilisation anyway, as immature. If we get any 5-day embryos, they will biopsy them for chromosome testing...then based on results we need to decide what to do next. Meanwhile they will do endometrium biopsy and some antibodies tests on me too, to be sure it is not a reason if mc. So yeah more waiting

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bunnynbear · 30/11/2023 13:43

@TT82 i started to bleed on sunday so its been painful and exhausting. after the second miscarriage i had asked to be referred to the recurrent miscarriage unit but 2 chasers, 3 months later and another miscarriage and still no appointment. both myself and my GP have once again chased and hopefully i get an appointment soon. but GP just said "you need to just keep ttc".

17 sounds alot, is that normal? so in a weeks time, what will be the next step? i have my fingers crossed that you get good news next week.

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TT82 · 29/11/2023 14:05

@bunnynbear how are you feeling? Did you have updates from your dr on bext steps and investigations? Xx

Back from my egg collection surgery 😮‍💨 17 collected this time! But many immature so now to wait a week for final results. They don't update here only after all done 😒
They told me they want to do antibodies tests and endometrium biopsy and something else as too many mc I had and can be more problems, not just egg quality.. Fact I had pregnancies doesn't mean I cannot develop them

TT82 · 25/11/2023 18:24

@bunnynbear sorry I have no words to properly support you 😔💔 Just be strong and kind to yourself these days!

ManchesterRoad · 25/11/2023 18:17

Oh @bunnynbear there are no words. It is truly shit and I am so sorry you are going through this.

hoping the next few days are as kind to you as possible x

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bunnynbear · 25/11/2023 17:49

So not a great update. We returned yesterday and I tested in the morning only for the line to be fainter. We went straight to the hospital who told me their poas test has come back negative so they wouldn’t scan. My tests are still coming back with a line but I guess I’ll be miscarrying soon. No sign of af but I’m assuming in the next few days I’ll be experiencing my third miscarriage. I have no words to describe this.

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TT82 · 22/11/2023 13:39

@bunnynbear I will! On Friday they will tell me when is egg collection surgery, then a week to find out if any of 5d embryos we got and if lucky and yes, then like another 4 weeks of genetic testing.. so not any soon

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bunnynbear · 22/11/2023 13:29

@TT82 yes you’re right! I’m trying to stay positive but every twitch or pain I think it’s af and I need to change that mentality. When will you know if this ivf cycle has worked? Please keep us updated.

@ManchesterRoad thank you, yes I keep thinking I’m lying by saying I’m pregnant as I may miscarry, it is taking time to get used to.

how are your symptoms? 20 weeks scans a big milestone, 🤞🏼it all goes well: are you going to find out the gender? I’m happy to hear its going well for you 😊

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TT82 · 22/11/2023 13:17

@ManchesterRoad oooo after 20 weeks scan it must feel real! ❤️ happy to hear

ManchesterRoad · 22/11/2023 09:16

@TT82 i am doing ok thank you. 20 week scan next week, just feel like I can’t relax into my pregnancy still yet. Hopefully in the new year it will start to feel more real!

TT82 · 22/11/2023 08:55

@ManchesterRoad thank you!! 🙏
How are you doing?

ManchesterRoad · 22/11/2023 08:53

@bunnynbear so pleased to see a positive update from you, keeping everything crossed for you! I’m sure your emotions must be all over the place

Also keeping fingers crossed for you @TT82 - I really hope this IVF cycle works for you

TT82 · 22/11/2023 08:48

@bunnynbear just remember every cycle and pregnancy is different! Worry only about what you can control, and here you cannot, so try just not think and take it day by day xx

Yes, every ivf cycle is different, even if two don't produce chromosomally normal embryos, doesn't mean that third wont..just low chance for each cycle at my age. It is more financial question and now physically to go through it again

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bunnynbear · 22/11/2023 08:31

@TT82 been thinking and wishing to hear good news from you! I’m sorry to hear about the hives. Can the second ivf still be successful? I’m praying you get some good news soon 🙏🏼

yeah we’re planning on going next week but I’m very scared. I’m still affected from the internal scans from the last pregnancy so this one is daunting. Still no symptoms but my DH tells me my breathe smells metallic and he can smell something.

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TT82 · 22/11/2023 06:01

From my side update- In the mid of my second IVF cycle. Got hives first 3 weeks now from norethisteron pills, cannot sleep at night, so not sure I will go through a third cycle (even if they recommend at my age)..
But lets see, maybe we will get one euploid embryo xx

TT82 · 22/11/2023 05:59

@bunnynbear hi, and thank you for sharing such a positive news!!!
I won't say congratulations till you send us results of the first scan (you will do an early one right?) Only will say that this is a beautiful line!! ❤️

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bunnynbear · 22/11/2023 03:26

Hi All,

Thought I’d give an update on what’s been happening with me.

I know I’ve been radio silent since my ectopic. It was much a harder miscarriage second time round. I tried to go work within a month and found September very hard so cut back a lot in October. Me and DH also decided to have a holiday just to get away and reset as it’s been a difficult year with the two miscarriages.

We’ve still been trying to conceive but the second miscarriage has really messed up my body. This month my body had problems ovulating, three times I had high/peaks with the final and highest being on cd24 (4-6 days later than usual) which meant my cycle this time would’ve been 39 days instead of 32. I read late ovulation (after cd21) increases risks and less likely for conception. So I wrote this month off and we went on holiday during the tww with no expectations.

However at 12dpo I got a shadow of a shadow that only I could see on an easy@home test. It’s been scary as I keep thinking it’s a chemical. In the past, it was darker at 12dpo when I’ve tested positives and I’ve had some symptoms. This time nothing, no symptoms. I had FRER with me and I’ve added the pictures. The lines have gotten darker on FRER but not as much on easy@home. I can help but always have this worry it’ll be a chemical or ectopic. I should be excited but I’m very scared. We’re back in the uk on Friday and planning to go for a scan next week. I have to given my previous ectopic pregnancy. I’ll keep you all posted.

Thanks for all the support. I’m hoping I hear more good news from you all and I have 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 and baby dust for you all.

4DPO yet again, are you with me?
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