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Trying for baby #4 with a new partner

38 replies

Elephant1991 · 25/05/2023 20:53

Just wondering if anyone can give me any advice.. I've recently got divorced and very happy with my new partner. I already have 3 children to my ex and just turned 32. My new partner has no children and we have talked about having one together. We started trying but I just have a gut feeling it's never going to I happen I've always fell on the first or second try before has anyone else felt like this but had a happy ending .

OP posts:
suburbophobe · 26/05/2023 07:49

Can you afford a 4th?

That would be my bottom line.

lucie333 · 26/05/2023 07:45

bladebladebla1 · 26/05/2023 00:03

Wow, judgemental AF on here. Could have taken ages to divorce. She wasn't asking for comments on the length of relationship.

Exactly my thoughts

bladebladebla1 · 26/05/2023 00:04

How long have you been trying OP?

bladebladebla1 · 26/05/2023 00:03

Wow, judgemental AF on here. Could have taken ages to divorce. She wasn't asking for comments on the length of relationship.

allgoodthings84 · 25/05/2023 22:06

OP said she’s recently divorced not recently separated… me and my ex took 4 years to be finally divorced after separating.

If recently split from ex then yes I would say too soon to be ttc another for many reasons.

OP just because you got pregnant quickly the other times doesn’t mean you would every time.

TomatoSandwiches · 25/05/2023 21:53

Perhaps he is infertile? How old is he?

Mars27 · 25/05/2023 21:49

Nah, 4 kids on this day and age is pure CFckery

willingtolearn · 25/05/2023 21:43

As above your priority should be helping your current children adjust to the changes in their life.

Not add in yet more stress for them with new partners and babies.

QueSyrahSyrah · 25/05/2023 21:39

This ⬆️

If you're only recently divorced and have a new partner then your children may well still be reeling from all the change.

Concentrate on them for a while, a year or more at the least. At 32 you still have good years down the line when everything is more settled and permanent.

lucie333 · 25/05/2023 21:39

Summertimesmile · 25/05/2023 21:27

Why on earth would you consider having a child when you’ve only just got divorced and you already havec3 children. You can’t have been with your partner that long: wouldn’t it be better to concentrate on the 3 children you have before bringing a new family into the mix

How rude 🤣

Dacadactyl · 25/05/2023 21:36

What they said

Purplecatshopaholic · 25/05/2023 21:34

Sorry op, tend to agree with summertimesmile. You are only recently divorced, and already have three kids who will have gone through quite a bit already. Maybe put the baby plans on hold for a bit!

Summertimesmile · 25/05/2023 21:27

Why on earth would you consider having a child when you’ve only just got divorced and you already havec3 children. You can’t have been with your partner that long: wouldn’t it be better to concentrate on the 3 children you have before bringing a new family into the mix

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