40+ TTC this year

When we were trying we used OPKs and I did some temping but it didn’t work. As we already had kids I think it was easier to think this isn’t going to work and just draw a line under it then if it had been my first or second. I think we maybe tried them for about a year? I had my previous daughter at 39 years and 9 months and had fallen pregnant pretty much 1st cycle. My cycles had changed after 40 to about 23-24 days. Also my period were very light. I think we tried consciously for about a year probably when my previous daughter turned one and then gave up. I just assumed it wasn’t happening so didn’t use contraception but wasn’t in any way tracking or even thinking of conception. I must have fallen pregnant at about 42 years and 4 months as I ended up giving birth not even a month after my 43rd birthday. I didn’t find the pregnancy itself tougher and actually had a lot more monitoring which put my mind at rest but other than the age factor was a really healthy pregnancy. I wish you all lots of baby dust. Don’t lose hope as is totally possible—nothing for me for about 2 years and then a positive test!

Sounds the same as us, it had happened really quickly before 40 but then after although we weren’t ‘trying’ as happy and felt lucky to already have our family nothing really happened anyway and cycles down from 28 to 24-25 days then just before 44 found out expecting!! Is a worry with Downs etc and screening results have come back as higher risk than ever previously but so far they say everything looks to be progressing well

@Walkthelakes could I ask how long your cycles were?
We're you using OPK's at all?

Just to add another positive story. I had my last daughter at just 43. Had always got pregnant relatively easily but tried after Covid at 40 and it wasn’t working. Reluctantly thought I must have missed my chance as periods were getting closer together and lighter. Continued having unprotected sex as thought that my times was over and fell pregnant at 42. Higher chances of downs, but not huge and daughter is perfect and healthy and just turned one. I’d written myself off but it obviously only takes one egg! Good luck everyone

@theleavesfall24 morning thanks for asking. AF turned up this morning so god knows what’s going on . It’s ok though if it’s not meant to be I’m ok with that. Sorry to hear you think your out but isn’t out until af shows 🙈🙈

@Hollycharlie how are you going? Did you end up doing a test?

I think I'm out again for this cycle 😟
Thinking may need to go back to using OPK's.

I’m 44 and expecting our naturally conceived baby, had first scan and all hopefully well so far (although a much higher chance of downs than previous pregnancies , although classed still low risk).
I know of lots of people who had struggled to conceive in their 40s or had miscarriages or abnormalities so felt very unlikely to happen or get to this stage. Plus cycle had also stated to get a few days shorter last year or 2.
Had always conceived very quickly before but not used any contraception since birth of last child several years ago but weren’t trying as such as already have children we’d planned. I don’t want to give you false hope as it is much more difficult to become pregnant naturally in your mid 40s but just wanted to let you know it can happen

@Isitthathardtobekind thank you so much. I’m very nervous to test I think I’ll give it a few more days. You see so many on here saying they had symptoms from day 6 that I think I must be totally out again but no af or it coming is a good plus I guess. ❤️

@Brit80 how are you? Have you tried another test?

@Hollycharlie sorry to hear all of that.
I would say it would be normal to not have symptoms if you didn’t realise last time until 6 weeks. I was last pregnant at 42 nearly 2 years ago now and didn’t have any symptoms until around day 33 (painful breasts) then that was it for another week or so. I wasn’t expecting it either then - it was a total shock. I thought the breast pain was AF on the way.

It was the clearblue ovulation tests @theleavesfall24 and fairly regular 28 days

Morning ladies, hope you don’t mind me joining you. I need a bit of support I guess. Just turned 43, had a mmc at 11 weeks in August, was very shocking didn’t expect it. Have been trying ever since. Think I had a chemical start of Jan, was 3 days late and vvfl on a pt. I had I thought quite a few symptoms, but even the months I didn’t have a sniff of a line I magiced some up. However, I loved my wine, drank several bottles a week while ttc after the mc. 1st Jan I decided enough was enough so stopped drinking all together. Been taking coq10 supplements and folic acid. My period was due Thursday, and not even a hint of it appearing . But I have no symptoms at all. Sometimes I think I’m peeing more then I don’t, then I’m tired early at night like 8/9 pm but I’m up early at 6 so this isn’t unnormal. I think maybe the over consumption of wine I blamed for a lot of things like tiredness / sluggishness feeling a bit sick/possible pregnancy but now I have no symptoms and no symptoms excuses. With my miscarriage it was 6 weeks before I found out I was pregnant and it was a real shock as we weren’t trying, so I think if I had known I could probably have avoided the mc by not drinking maybe this is my karma . 😬😬😬I don’t know what to do. I’m tempted to test but if it’s negative it’s worse than a period coming so I’ll hang off till Monday maybe , but is it normal to have conceived and feel nothing? I have had 2 bouts of feeling a tiny bit sickly but that could just be been hunger or something. Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading.

@Aria999 which ovulation kits were you using? And how long were your cycles?
Thanks for your post 😊

Just popped on to say if you are not using ovulation kits, use them! Took a year to conceive DS1 at 38 because nhs said day 14 was the day, I actually ovulate around day 7.... took 6 months to conceive DD2 at 41 using ovulation kits.

@Isitthathardtobekind welcome 😊
My cycles are also 24 days. TTC number 2 , but unsuccessful.
To be honest im not quite sure when I ovulate - could be as early as day 9 or later day 14...
At 45 though I think my chances are over 😊

I’m just 44. Properly (ish) trying for a year now. Have 2 older ones. Been checking ovulation but never get a true positive. Cycles have been much shorter the past 3 months. And fairly short the 3 months before that. Currently day 24. By 25 that’s usually it. Last month only got to 22days. No breast pain yet this time which is definitely unusual based on the past 6 months.

@Reddog76 how are you going? Just read your post. I'm 45 and TTC number 2. Are you using OPK's ? Temping?

@theleavesfall24 thank you so much for your reply! That’s super reassuring! 😁 I didn’t get a peak this month. But I have been using the clear blue fertility monitor and I think it’s just missed it. Been that you only test once a day! Not sure I’ll continue using it as it’s expensive for the refills and just does what the ordinary opks do anyway. 🙈

taking pregnancy vitamins and don’t drink, just need to get on the exercise bandwagon I think lol! Never been my strong suit! 🤣 must work on my patience, just hard when the clocks ticking away!

Welcome @Em39al
If it helps....I had my first when I was 40.
I never got along with OPKs - never got a positive using them but fell pregnant after 7 months of trying!
A just took a good pre pregnancy vitamin and totally cut back on any alcohol, not that we drank much in the first place 😊
Also walked and went for a few runs to exercise when I got back from work ( when the weather wasn't freezing!).

We thought we would have a second but unfortunately it didn't happen. I'm now 45 and probably now at the end of the line. But we have a beautiful 5 year old and feel blessed we have her 😊

Hi, this is just the chat I’ve been looking for, I turned 40 in October last year and have been trying for our first since July last year. Not had any blood tests of fertility testing done. I think both me and the other half are super stressed about the possibility of it not happening (which I realise doesn’t help) 🙈
I temp and use OPK’s. Had two temp drops this cycle so thinking I’m out again :(
best of luck to you all x

I forgot to mention that this will be our first x x

Hi All, I'd like to join if I can. I am 41 (42 on Friday), and we have finally decided to try. It may be a long road for us as over the past 1-2 years, my cycles have been all over the place. I have had a few tests and an ultrasound, which confirmed i have a fibroid. I may also have suspected pcos and/or in peri-menopause. It's been 10 months since they referred me to the fertility clinic and I am still waiting to hear from them about an appointment.

I started taking pregnacare conception about 5 days ago, and it seemed to have brought my period on 9 days early!! Which I am happy with, to be honest, as hopefully it means I might ovulate sooner so here's to CD2 😁

Anyway, enough about me. Good luck to everyone else and big sprinkles of baby dust to all ✨️

I’m 41, my youngest is 9 months, always got pregnant really quickly. I’m on the injection at the minute but I’m not going for my next jab, so my periods should return from February. I’m going to buy some ovulation sticks to see if that helps

So sorry to hear this. It’s awful when you’re trying so hard.

I'm also 43, this is only our third cycle trying though.

Have you thought about fertility reflexology? X

I’m 43 and been trying for 4 years pretty much (on and off). One failed round of IVF 2 years ago. No MCs as never had a positive pregnancy test. Take a prenatal, COQ10, Vit D and Macca. Have tried so many more supplements over the years (Pregnacare, Proceive Max etc.) and nothing has worked 🙁 DH to have his SA check again in January. Anyone taking DHEA?