Is 37 too much old to have a third child?

@Taxitaxiforever how many times do people have to tell you that this board is full of women with fertility problems before you stop saying “this isn’t insensitive” when it does not apply to you????

@SemperIdem the figure states 'standardised mean age of mother at child birth'. It doesn't state that this is a first time mother figure.

Yes because people are also attacking over and over again…night night .

I had my 3rd at 37. The first two were in their teens. He was by far my hardest- reflux, allergies, didn't sleep, gdd, asd. He's wonderful but the past 7 years have aged me considerably.

Yes she does

You like to say the same thing over and over, don’t you?

I genuinely don’t think that OP asked anything that was offensive and yet all these people have attacked her ! Am not an insensitive person.
If the posters are having problems with fertility I genuinely feel sorry but don’t ridicule someone who just asked a question who clearly doesn’t know anything about you .

I had my third at 35, and at 42 glad I wasn't any older. BUT... as seen in this thread many many women have babies later than this.

If you're an old and knackered 37 yo maybe best not to, but if you're in good mick and happy to parent for another 18 year go for it!

If 37 was ‘much too old’ to have a third child? That’s reasonable is it? She only had her last one three years ago.

As MN will attest, the question of asking about a third is a completely different kettle of fish vs your first, there is a lot more at play here, especially if you had your first child in your early 20s. 37 for your 3rd when your first is 14 is very different to asking about having your first at 37.

Have you ever managed to pull your head out of your arse and look around you at any point?

I don’t read the fertility boards as I haven’t had fertility issues, and I am more than acutely aware of what people go through on here. Wise up.

I had my third at 39 but I disagree with most of the posters here. Statistically, at 37 you are a geriatric mother and their are risks to you and the baby associated with that. We, however, live at a time when socially and medically it is very acceptable. It is up to you to decide on whether you have other risk factors that mean it's not feasible for you and your family and also if you are not yet pregnant to factor in that it may, or may not, take some time or in fact just not happen at all. Whatever you decide, i hope it works out.

Does that statistic not relate specifically to first time mothers?

@Taxitaxiforever

You should really do one.

We are allowed to answer the question. Nobody has shown a bullish attitude.

State your answer to her question, don't label all the rest of us who have done so.

Using the label bullying is a joke.

It's been explained why some may take offence/ get hurt at how this question was worded.

Show some fellow feeling.

Op was asking a question. There was nothing rude about it. People got all uppity when Cheryl Cole made a comment about being too old to have another (I think she's 38/39). Personally at 37 I would've felt too old. At that age my dc was double figures. I was in the best shape of my life at 37, and very secure financially and on great career progression- but wouldn't have been in a head space to go back to sleepless nights and nappies. Everyone is different.

In 2020 the mean birth age for all mothers in uk was 30.7 years so 37 is quite a bit above that, regardless of what the demographic of Mumsnet says.

37 is a completely normal age to have a child.

I think, to be honest, your primary focus should be on what impact that third child will have financially etc. I know quite a few couples who have really struggled after having a third, some ultimately separated. It seems to be a real tipping point in relationships, not dissimilar to the way having a first child can be.

That is how you chose to interpret the OP question! How will she know that you have had fertility problems ? I personally have never looked at the fertility board and the chances are that OP hasn’t 🤷‍♀️

Bullish? Bullying? Did you not read my response? Read the fucking room.

If 37 was ‘much too old’ to have a third child? That’s reasonable is it? She only had her last one three years ago.

Looking at OP previous threads doesn’t hide the bullish attitude of many posters !
The gist of this thread are women bullying someone who has asked a perfectly reasonable question .!

Ignore the smug posters who don’t often get to feel smug about having a baby in their early twenties and are enjoying the moment. Yes, I’ve been piqued by this shitty thread…

Yes, it was rude and disrespectful of her to insinuate that a perfectly healthy and normal age to have children is too old. And in a forum packed to the rafters with women who have been battling infertility for years, yes, of course it’s going to ‘touch a nerve’.

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OP, two weeks ago you said you didn’t want to be a mother anymore. You’re living with your father and paying his large rent. Your other threads are alarming. And plentiful.

I don’t think you being 37 is what you should be focusing on.

Are you serious?

Aren't you the poster who is struggling to get by, lives with her father and wants to throw him out of the house?

I don't think 37 is old at all. I think having issues with mental health as you are doing is more of an issue.