Recurrent miscarriage and genetic findings- any success stories?

@vix_85 The bleeding was a trigger for me too made me realise it was all over and that’s when I started feeling empty it’s a vicious circle isn’t it 😢💔 Glad your shower/bath helped keep a wee hot water bottle close by too that has helped me a lot. I’m doing not bad but still haven’t managed to go out I just don’t want to see anyone which I know is not good at all because all I do is think how life is so unfair for us I feel like less of a woman that I can’t do the simple thing thats meant to be natural for us it’s soul destroying sorry if I’ve made you feel worse I honestly don’t mean to just having a worse day than normal 🤗♥️ xx

Morning @vix_85 how are you feeling today? X

Hi, I just wanted to give you all a little hope. Firstly I am sorry your going through this I know how; with each MC, how much it breaks you. I have had 10 pregnancies; the first resulted in DD 19, then 2 MMC, DS 15 was then born, 5MMC followed over the last 3 years and have just had 2nd DS who is 7 weeks. After my 6th MMC I had genetic testing which showed that I am a carrier for trisomy 13; which the 7th MMC confirmed the cause of it not proceeding (I didn't find this out until after MMC 7) basically I was told out of 6 potential genetic make ups only 2 of them would be able to survive, the other 4 I would miscarry or in the unlikely event that I managed to carry would die shortly after birth or be still born. I had to have a NIPT (free on NHS due to genetic condition) at 10 weeks with my final pregnancy which thankfully did come back clear and he is absolutely perfect. I would definitely push for genetic screening and make sure the products of conception are tested as although I was distraught it was my "fault" we kept having MMC's I was more prepared although I found it very hard to get excited at all during my final successful pregnancy. Good luck to you all x

@vix_85 I never actually thought about doing that it’s a good idea because the more I see the worse I feel 🫶🏻

I know I wasn’t the skinniest anyway but I’ve stopped looking in the mirror just now feel like a whale 🐳 after effects are really not good 😫

oh I’ve not watched that yet let me know if it’s good 😊
I’m just feeling hopeless today and like you haven’t slept great for ages can’t switch off.
I have no motivation to do anything at all but move from bed to lie on the couch but I’m sure it will get better why is life so cruel we should be suffering like this 💔♥️🤗 xx

@vix_85 Morning I’m ok bit less sore today ♥️
I felt exactly the same as you 😢 thought once it was over and done with I would be ok but I still have a bloated stomach and I just feel empty all the time plus feel like everyone on my Facebook is pregnant just now which isn’t helping 😫🤦🏼‍♀️ having the same thoughts too and our conversations have really helped but it is so hard to block it out 😢💔 Are you resting? I have lay on the couch for a week just watching sad films to try and get the tears away and sadness away it’s ok to cry it really helped me 🤗 sending you lots of hugs xx

When I did ivf in a uk clinic you have to use progesterone pessaries every day for 3 months. They give this to people on the continent when there is potential issues with the pregnancy, they are only catching on to this one here in the nhs. These are the things that they might or might not suggest at the recurrent miscarriage clinic. Also the private clinics use steroids the nhs not so much. So there are differences in protocols. I went private my friend went nhs. Sperm quality also affects ability to get pregnant was that tested? Good luck with the tests. In my experience Gps are useless/ negligent in this matter.

Dear Op Sorry to hear about your MC.
I have had one with twins at 9 weeks, the hospital was going to do genetic testing but then said I needed three mcs to get one. I was doing ivf so I basically said to the ivf clinic that I wanted a genetic test and I had booked one at another clinic. They told me to carry on with the ivf, but I didn’t want to waste any embryos so insisted and they did the test. It came bk fine. You can book these tests in private clinics without any GP involvement. I think it was about 1.5k. Also in my treatment they gave me blood thinners and a bit of steroids, progesterone pessaries, oestrogen tablets etc. You might need a bit of help sustaining your pregnancies, without any help I couldn’t get past a chemical pregnancy. Check your thyroid level it should be below 2.5 otherwise you can have miscarriages. You might need a mot at a clinic and an Amh blood test. The structure and blood flow in your uterus could impact your ability to sustain a pregnancy. Because you are 38 you might need to pursue this privately if the nhs is a bit slow.

Sorry I forgot to say that aspirin was recommended by dr so I bought that and took it continuously whilst TTC and progesterone is prescribed medication. Once they check the baby is in the right place (not ectopic) and has a heartbeat they can start giving it, I was 7 weeks when I started it x

@vix_85 I took aspirin and progesterone with 2 other pregnancies but I didn't get past 7 weeks. I don't know whether this one is a "fluke" (I hate calling her that but you know what I mean) and we just got lucky or if there was some underlying reason and I'll probably never know!

I am a rare case though that I've had that many and no known cause so don't want to worry you and think it'll keep happening to you because likelihood is that it won't.

It hasn't come easy, I spent 2 months in a psychiatric hospital with my depression after a massive mental health collapse/mental breakdown when I was 27 and this was honestly our last attempt. We agreed that we wouldn't even go down the IVF route as we'd been through enough. I'll forever be grateful for this little girl 🩷

Good luck on your journey, keep in touch! I'd love to hear all about your success in TTC as I know it'll happen for you! Keep as positive as you possibly can and don't forget to take a break/a holiday/time for you if needed xx

I'm so sorry @vix_85 ♥️

I just wanted to offer some hope, I had 13 miscarriages from 21 to 29 and I'm now 36 weeks pregnant.

Multiple D&C's and 4 of the babies tested but nothing out of the ordinary on genetics.

They could not find a reason for it but I took 150mg aspirin and progesterone suppositories for 16 weeks with this pregnancy and (touch wood) she's growing perfectly and looks healthy on the scans.

I know it's so hard to not give up hope when you're in the depths of grief and wondering why this is happening to you and your partner.

Just wanted to say you're not alone and offer some hope. Sending big hugs xx

@vix_85 good I’m glad you are home make a wee bed on the couch and just watch a wee box set and make sure u relax 🙏🏻 hope you have someone to run after you ♥️ You are more than welcome 🤗 I would love to keep in touch it’s nice to talk to someone who understands obviously wish we weren’t in this situation but at least we have each other 🫶🏻♥️ xx

Sorry I added this to the wrong thread. Sincere apologies

@vix_85 great news about the referral they helped me so much at the hospital I just wish we could for there in future with anything because they actually listen xx

@vix_85 Aww so glad that’s it done and you are ok ♥️ The staff were amazing with me too it really put me at ease. Try and get a wee sleep while your still out of it because it’s the best sleep you will have your whole life 🤗 take it easy and let me know when you get home and make sure you rest ♥️ xxx