Trying to conceive over 40 part 4

Hi! I’d like to join too. I’m 42 and have been trying for a couple of years now and not even a hint! Previously I have had a quite a few miscarriages, but not even getting to that stage now. I know I’m ovulating, but it’s probably the egg quality.

How is everyone on this thread doing?
I'm almost 41 and so torn on a decision about trying again
I've probably already left it far too late

Hello everyone I’m no stranger here I don’t comment a lot but I do read everyone’s comments so I’m having the longest cycle ever I’m on cd 100 yes THANKYOU perimenopause !!! I do believe I was getting vfp last month for about a week and then last week they were none visible so I think my body tried but I didn’t bleed and here I am again hopefully ovulated cd 97 so I will just hang in there and I’m promising myself I won’t test till about 9 dpo .

hoping the best for you all x

@clhiu I had a baby 3 months before my 43rd birthday. It was a natural conception but I took progesterone from ovulation. I’d had three early losses even with progesterone at a positive test so decided to take it earlier and my daughter stuck. I’ll have no way of knowing for sure but I think my progesterone was too low to hang on the pregnancies before. I also had my son at nearly 41 after two losses. I wish you the best of luck!

@clhiu me - 3rd pregnancy conceived at 42 after 2 1st trimester MCs. Healthy live birth. All natural conception. Progesterone prescribed in 2nd pregnancy after a bleed. Took it in 3rd pregnancy as soon as I had a positive test. No aspirin until consultant recommended it at 14w to prevent pre-eclampsia.

My partner is a year older and also had no children.

I know lots of people who have have babies post 40: my mum, gran, DH's gran, a few people locally, one of my NCT buddies (that one was IVF). Not me so far though (I'm 42 this week). I've been TTC since March 2022 when I had a surprise pregnancy and early miscarriage at 39. When I learnt of the pregnancy there was a bit of me that was overjoyed that for once it had happened so easily when DD1 had taken 16 months/10 wonky cycles and DD2 had taken 12 cycles. But no, now I'm approaching the end of cycle 32 😩. (Not optimistic for this cycle as I'm due on tomorrow and had some bleeding when wiping yesterday). But I digress. I'm not finding it easy post 40, but I know lots of people who have had an easier ride. Hang on in there....

@clhiu thank you. We have now bought our eggs and I’ve started take oestrogen and had scans and bloods taken to see how my body is reacting. I’ve got an aquascan and endometrial biopsy next week and our egg thaw/fertilisation the week after. Then, finally, we will make a plan for when we can do our first ET with this eggs. It feels like such a long wait, but then everything does in this process!

Sorry to hear you’ve had another BFN. If it helps at all, I know a few people personally (not on this forum) who have successfully had live births after the age of 42. Don’t give up hope!

@BertLiv thanks for the acknowledgment. I’m really sorry you’ve never been able to get pregnant so far and been through the mill with fertility treatment. So so unfair, but good you’re in a position to be able to keep going and try a different clinic, I hope that makes a difference. When/what are your next steps?

@Isitthathardtobekind thank you. It’s so hard especially when having regular cycles and knowing you’re ovulating and nothing happening, it’s completely frustrating.

I’ve just had another BFN, so that’s 10 cycles in a row (pretty much regular ones, within a 5 days variation from one another max) without a shred of a faint line. The added frustration and bafflement for me comes from the ease with which I fell pregnant for a 2 years period from 41.7 to 43.9 months, including creating 5 blastocysts in one single IVF cycle at the age of 42.10 and then absolutely nothing! We had a long 10 months break without trying at all because of IVF that took a long time due to many additional tests etc…and some other fertility treatment I wanted to try after my failed FET. We were very strict with not trying during this period, to give treatment a chance. Who knows how many more times I might have fallen pregnant during those wasted 10 months, maybe they were my last hope with any eggs left at least good enough to fertilise and blast. I did get pregnant one more time though after all this, in fact the very first time we tried again fully naturally after 3 months of failed superovulation cycles so very very baffled that there seems to be absolutely nothing left now.

I know this thread’s been going for a while and said people might have left by now, but can I ask if anybody on here’s actually been successful at achieving a healthy live birth? Especially if over 42 and especially if through natural conception, without IVF? Any positive experiences would be super appreciated, looking for some hope this morning 💔

@GingerFox2021 Glad you've started your treatment with a natural period. When they tell me to, I'll be taking Provera to induce my period. With our last clinic, I took Norethisterone. I'm currently just on estrogen tablets until my next scan.

My period is a mess for a long time now. From November 2023 until February 2024 my period didn’t arrive, so they started it with Ovitrelle’s injection. Now luckily, I started my treatment with a natural period.
@BertLiv what medication have you been prescribed? Mine looks very simple just Estrogen and Aspirin, but I hear other ladies taking a lot and very different medications.

@BertLiv ohhh tell me about it well I’ve read you can spot while in Peri so maybe it’s that but I don’t know wether it’s a coincidence or what but when I had the first spotting it was 9 days after sex so that would be 5/6 dpo which implantation is likely then I had nothing for 4 days so 9 -12 dpo nothing then on 13 dpo spotting again and it’s still there a bit only when I wipe and by now if it was af it would’ve flowed by now so I’m wondering if implantation can come and go until it’s complete or it’s peri hormones… I’m leaning more on the peri side cause it would be a miracle for me I have 3 beautiful daughters from a previous relationship and I’ve been with my husband for 20 yrs and married for 5 along with 3 baby angels now I’m 52 and get judged a lot by people asking why would I want a baby at my age I’m like cause that’s what my purpose on earth is to be a mother again but we will see I keep testing and keep getting shadows but nothing to shout about .

and that’s how my periods started at 6 months I’d have longer or shorter periods and I’d skip a month so 1 yr on its still pretty much the same my lat period was April but did go into May and didn’t have one in June but ovulated on the 30th it’s mad how we change I hope you get an answer but normally the doctors will only go off symptoms I suppose it’s different if you have PCOS and you don’t get periods then that would be your problem my daughter has just been diagnosed with PCOS but she has periods but dose bloat and has a lot of pain let’s hope we both get good news x

@TraceyTarotReader It's so frustrating when you don't know either way. Hopefully you'll know soon and it will be good news! My af has been erratic since about 6 months after we started trying. Sometimes it's bang on time, and sometimes it's 2/3+ weeks late. Whenever I had a transfer, it was brought on medically, so I've only had a natural one once this year anyway.

But, I had a scan the other day and have been given meds to induce my af, but they don't want me to take it yet, so clearly there was no sign of it appearing anytime soon. They didn't answer my question about whether I'm in peri though, so I'm going to try to remember to ask at my appointment. x

@clhiu sorry to hear of your miscarriages.
I am also 44 and been trying properly since Jan 23. No pregnancies at all in that time though. I was very late March 23 so bought a test but typically went to use it and my period had just started.

@BertLiv i know there’s some awful people out there so I’m now 14 dpo still shadows on my tests no more spotting I think it’s peri hormones I also didn’t have a period last month too .. but ovulated at the end of last month I’m so stressed with this I just wished I had an answer either af or a positive hpt …

is this the first time you have gone a month without af x

@TraceyTarotReader I'm so sorry to hear people were so hateful. It's completely ridiculous - these forums are supposed to be for support and there's nothing at all wrong with wanting a baby in peri/menopause. I've had no period this month and am having hot flushes and so am wondering if I am. Anyway, in my opinion, if you don' agree with what someone says on a forum, don't say anything. I was on one once where someone was trying for her 8th child and I couldn't deal with reading about it when we are trying for our first - I didn't send hateful comments, I just left the forum.

@clhiu Welcome! I'm really sorry you've been having such a hard time of it. We have been trying for almost 4 years and I am 41. I've never been pregnant naturally as I have a very low egg count and so we are trying with DE. We have had 3 failed ETs but have just moved clinics and they are doing various tests before our first ET with the new eggs we have bought. All very pricey, but hopefully it'll mean they'll have a better idea how to make the next transfer work!

x

Can anyone give me some advice so I ovulated on cd 62 longer periods and missed periods since entering perimenopause anyway we had sex 3 days before ovulation 9 days after ovulation I start spotting very light no need for a liner or pad only there randomly when I wiped it lasted for 3 days then I had nothing for 4 days and on the 5 th day I start again now I’m 11/12 dpo now af is due around the 16/17 can you spot twice if it’s implantation bleeding I have tested I’m getting shadows but nothing to say BFP I’m stressed about it maybe it’s hormones from peri and now af is starting advice would be good I’ve never had this before .

Just saying hi and so so happy I found this thread! I’m 44 and been trying to conceive my first since the age of 40 unsuccessfully. I since had 6 miscarriages, including one chemical following IVF. No more money for IVF so trying completely naturally for the time being. Last time I managed to fall
pregnant was October last year at 43.9mo and that was a straight chemical. Taking all the supplements, having regular cycles and according to all tracking methods I use I’m ovulating every month and having plenty of sex at the right time, but nothing’s happened since, sigh! Such an unfair frustrating journey.
Sending everyone on on this thread love, I really know how shit it can be x

@TT82 i actually made a thread on ttc while in Peri oh my god it was awful they were so hateful I’m like hang on a min you don’t know my story and why I want a baby so much but yeah I’m the end I felt I was been bullied so I asked for the thread to be deleted they did ..

now my daughter has always said you will have. Menopause baby and now I’m not sure I could be I didn’t have. Period last month thanks peri but did have aex 3 days before ovulation nd 4 days after then started spotting 9 days after sex when I look at my chart it all seems like implantation bleeding so I guess we will have to wait

good luck to you as well x

@TraceyTarotReader oh no, sorry to hear that! I don't post there, just sometimes read what other women experience in peri... I also still want a child...thanks for warning not to post there 🙈

Hello @TT82 amd @BertLiv I have been on a menopause board before and got so much slack and disgust that I mentioned I’d love a baby while in Peri / menopause so I stay away from them you may have dropped lucky with the one you saw was it on here can you share the link zzz

ive jd no more spotting for 2 days now temp went up a lot this morning to so af is nowhere near yet

@TraceyTarotReader hi there, sorry don't have any advice, but wanted to suggest to ask on a Menopause board. I have started looking there from time to time, to prepare myself 😅

@BertLiv hi, just wanted to send my support, as no experience here either xx

Hello haven’t been on here for a while hope everyone is well … and progressing on there ttc journey.. so I’m now perimenopausal my cycle this month 71 days I apparently ovulated on cd 63 so 8 dpo today I had sex 3 days before ovulation and then 4 days after ovulation so on 5/6 dpo I started spotting up till yesterday and vv light when I wiped this morning had nothing since I didn’t need a liner or pad but used one incase I thought it was my period coming but it hasn’t I did test this morning and NEG hpt af isn’t due for another 8 days so I know this isn’t my af and to early for my spotting I normally spot a day or 2 before she comes but it’s a consistent spot if that makes sense I have no clue what’s happening can you have random spotting while in Peri .

Hello Ladies,
Hope everyone is doing well?
Question - I am currently waiting for my period to arrive. It was due on Monday, and so isn’t very late yet. I have slight cramps and a period feeling, but no sign of it. Has anyone else had a late second period after a failed ET? I always took meds to induce my period after my previous failed transfers, so I don’t know what’s normal.
Thanks in advance!
x

@YellowLoafers Thank you. x

I’ve just taken another test and negative again, as suspected. I think I’m going to stop my meds a day early as I can’t see how it could be a bfp on Monday and, after my first round, they said to test again in 2 days not 4, which would’ve been this morning. And the cyclogest really does cause havoc with my body.

I’m so sorry @BertLiv sending lots of love to you x