Trying to conceive over 40 part 4

Hi ladies. Hope I can join. I’m not quite 40. Turn 40 in January.
I had a chemical pregnancy in June and became pregnant straight away. I had a MMC at 9+2 found out at 9+5. Surgical management 2 weeks and 5 days ago.
i did a PG test today which was stark white negative and have very mixed emotions. I cried for what I had lost but pleased that I can start TTC again. Although if I become pregnant again the anxiety will ruin the experience I just know it.
I have been doing LH tests which are so very far from positive , I have started using OvuSense again tonight. I am trying to stay positive.
sending all the luck to everyone xxxx

Hi Ladies

I'm going to be 41 in December. We have decided to have a second child. My daughter is 10 years old.

GP sent me for some tests, bloods and US but still haven't done anything yet.

I'm not familiar with abbreviations unfortunately.

I had three mirena coils, the last one was removed two months ago, so I'm still getting used to having periods back.

I will start tracking ovulation after my next period, which I am expecting in the next 5-7 days.

@MariaDingbat this is just exactly the reassurance I needed, thank you. And big congratulations too :)

Congratulations @SherlockHolmess!! Wonderful news!

@Fletchasketch I had a small 3cm fibroid found during my first pregnancy at 40, no concerns were raised and it wasn't really mentioned again so no idea what happened to it! I fell pregnant again just after I turned 42 and there's was no mention of it at all. I agree with your doctor, age is just one factor. Good luck with everything!

Quick update, saw the consultant today and the fibroid is not causing any issues and I have a 'normal healthy uterus'. Also gave some recommendations for prenatal vitamins etc. so came away feeling very positive after the last month of sadness. He also said I musn't view myself as being 'too old' as there are endless factors that go into making a baby and age is only one of them. Nice man.

@Fletchasketch Thankyou so much. Best of luck xx

Oh wow, huge congratulations that is wonderful news! I think we're almost the same age too as I'm 42 next May. I have everything crossed for a trouble-free pregnancy and a healthy baby next year.

So sorry to hear about your MMC @Fletchasketch. I hope you are reassured at your appointment next week.

And thankyou @BertLiv for your lovely reply.

As an inspiring story to you @Fletchasketch and an update on my post last week - I found out literally the next day that I am in fact pregnant. I’m assuming that’s why my AMH was low! I was blaming the sore boobs on perimenopause! I’m 8.4 weeks.

At 41, with irregular periods and very rarely having sex without contraception.

So it can happen. I really do wish the best to everyone on here and so hope that you all get your dreams come true xx

Hello all,

Joining following a mmc at 8+2 weeks last month after an unplanned (yet very much wanted once we'd got over the shock) pregnancy aged 41. I'm still waiting for my period to return after surgical management, but hoping we can try again pretty quickly once it returns. Part of me is optimistic, the other (bigger part, I think) is terrified of being told once again that there's no heartbeat. A further complication is that they found a 3cm submucosal fibroid at the scan. Nobody seemed overly worried, but Google (I know!!) is telling a different story. I am having a private consultation on Thursday about said fibroid and nervous is not the word!
I am very new to this, so will take any and all guidance/inspiring stories. Wishing anyone reading this the very best of luck on their journey to becoming a mum.

@SherlockHolmess Welcome! Sorry you were feeling down - hope you're feeling a bit more positive today.

I have very low AMH as well and we are going down the DE route. I initially found the idea of it quite difficult, but have since realised that it will still be my baby, despite not being my egg! Just a backup for you in case the low AMH means you can't use your own eggs.

But, hopefully, it will instead just happen quickly when you do start trying!

I’d love to join ladies if I may.

My stories a bit unusual in that we aren’t actually trying yet, wanting to start trying in Jan when I will be 3 months off 42 (can’t try before then for various reasons).

Anyway that was always the plan but April this year my periods went haywire. I’ve had one period since then. Randomly that was the month I’d been to the GP so my blood tests were actually taken on day 2 of that cycle - normal FSH and LH. Just had a private AMH and it’s super low (.34 pmol/L) so feeling pretty cut up.

We do have one DC conceived without really trying when I was nearly 38.

We will throw caution to the wind and just stop using contraception now and hang the consequences (who needs paid mat leave eh) but if I’m not having periods I’m not bloody ovulating am I.

Have started Maca root and will go back to the GP obvs. But feeling pretty down today.

Baby dust to everyone xx

@wholeeverything if your darkest OPK was yesterday you'll probably ovulate today and so won't see a temp rise until tomorrow. Everyone's OPK surge patterns vary a bit but I find I go up and down very quickly, so anything above 0.15 or so on PreMom is an indication that ovulation is about to happen or has just happened for me.

@wholeeverything Hi! Welcome! I don't have a definite answer for you, but I'm not sure how important regular periods are, just because I know of one person who has irregular ones, and she got pregnant naturally, and another who has very regular ones, but she is using donor eggs. However, I think if your hormones results came back good, that's got to be a good sign! Stay positive! I hope it happens quickly for you!

We now seem to finally have a plan. My downreg injection was delayed as it wasn't a follicle they saw at my scan 3 weeks ago, but a cyst (annoying, but not really surprised knowing my body), but I'm having it tomorrow and then we should hopefully start everything in a couple of weeks. I'm finding it quite hard to at the moment. I feel like I've really changed - my concentration levels are non-existent, when we see friends I'm either really quiet or talk non-stop, and my moods are so up and down it's ridiculous - the silliest things get me really angry or tearful and, if I'm not distracting myself, I just keep going over things in my head. Does anyone else have this? I feel quite sorry for my husband sometimes, but he understands, luckily!

Hi everyone, hope I can join your journey.

I'm 40 and just starting TTC. Removed Mirena in May and had a period a week after, then one 35 day cycle followed by two 28 day cycles. First cycle I'd loads of EWCM, the next two only a day or so.

I'm realistic about outcomes but I have been encouraged that my periods have been like clockwork as I haven't had them in seven years with IUD.

This month I started tracking OPK and BBT as well as CM. I'm now D16 and had my strongest OPK yesterday morning but still not a full surge. Last night OPK was totally clear, no sign of LH at all. BBT this morning no rise.

I don't know what to make of all this. I'll get better at tracking (missed a few BBT days and one OPK day) and start using Premom app for more clarity.

But I suppose I'm just wondering, if I am having regular periods is that a fair sign that I'm at least ovulating regularly? If you don't ovulate does that mean you also miss a period?

I got hormones tested a year ago and came back all good.

Trying to not to get deflated prematurely 🙈😂😬

@User0141 Congratulations! I hope it does result in a happy ending!
@Room4onemore Hope it happens quickly for you! Ovulation tests are great - I had to use some more recently and, despite our not using my eggs, the smiley face still made me happy!
@lavafield Thank you! 😊So far, my body is behaving enough to follow our new plan - I have a blood test next week and then should have my downreg injection just after that. Then we'll book in a scan for after our holiday and then hopefully get things properly started! Hopefully it'll be lucky transfer # 4 for us!

Hi ladies, how is everyone doing?
@BertLiv I have followed your story here and I am really happy that the three wee embryos are of good quality! I know two ladies IRL who went via the donor egg route, it worked from the second try for them, with frozen embryos, and they are beyond happy! 😊 it is just a short wait for you!
@Room4onemore wishing you the best of luck! Ovulation tests are great, they pinpoint the most fertile days for me with such accuracy! Not that it has helped me conceive yet but I am only in cycle 4 trying, so I will give it a few more months before trying other options.
@User0141 fantastic news! Congratulations!! Hope it sticks 🤞🤞🤞

Hi all can I join please, I was on the depo injection form when I had my daughter in March 2023, I was 40 when she was born. I stopped the depo in November, I didn’t go for my jab in February. For the last month I’ve had old blood every now and again so hopefully it’s coming out of my system. I would love to have another baby, I’m 42 in a week so I’m going to buy some ovulation tests and see if it’s still possible 🙏

At the grand old age of 45 I've recently found out I'm pregnant. Huge shock/surprise - completely unplanned. I have a 4 year old who was very much planned (and who took 12 cycles to conceive). Still early days in this current pregnancy, under no illusions that it may not result in a happy ending. But thought I'd share as I know when I was trying for my first that others' success stories gave me hope.

Hello ladies, hope everyone's doing ok.

@lavafield Welcome! I was also told that coq10 was good for egg quality, so hopefully that will work for you - it's great that you have good AMH and hormones!

So, out of the 12 eggs we bought, 6 made it to blastocyst and have been frozen, which I know is good, especially as 3 are really good quality. We were due to start treatment now as I've just had my mock cycle withdrawal bleed, but my scan showed my lining was thick and I was about to ovulate, so we have to wait until my next cycle. The problem is, we have a trip with my husband's family each year that isn't changeable, which would coincide with my next cycle. I got quite upset as I was infuriated with my body and had feared that might happen. We have now settled that I will have an injection after I ovulate that will down reg me after my next bleed, so we can start treatment when we're back. It's only a delay of a few weeks really, if my period had arrived on time, but I really feel each delay, as I know we all do. I'm trying to look at the positives, but feeling a bit down about it all.

Sorry for the essay, just feeling very frustrated!

Hi everyone, I am 42 and trying for my first one for a fourth cycle now. I am taking coq10 as it was recommended by a private fertility specialist, as it can improve egg quality. Also vit D and folic acid. It is hard at this age but I am going to keep trying for as long as it takes! I was told from get go that I have a higher chance conceiving naturally (AMH and all hormones are all fine) than via IVF with own eggs, not sure why they said it. Maybe many clinics don't want to bother with IVF with own eggs at that age. But as many posters here, donor eggs is also a very much an option, it is a very personal decision but everyone I personally know who went that way are absolutely happy.

Oh same
I started getting peri symptoms literally the month i turned 40!

We sound so similar! My first husband had 2 children from a previous relationship and didn't want anymore and neither did I so it worked well for a long time.
Divorced age 35, met someone totally different at 36 who changed my perspective on everything and had our little one at 37.
Life changing.

I'd also like to add that after my daughter was born 4 years ago (I was 37), my husband and I have not used any form of contraception so, even though i wasn't tracking ovulation or anything like that, we weren't doing anything to prevent pregnancy.
It's been 4 years and not even a sniff of anything in all that time.
Since hitting 40 my cycles have become longer and more irregular, I'm definitely showing signs of perimenopause.
I've got everything crossed this one sticks as I do think it may be last chance saloon for me m

@sel2223 thanks
Yeah I never actually wanted children in fact I actually didn't like them, spent a lot of time travelling when younger so feel I've done that part of life .
Then I had ds after just turning 36 and he's the best thing ever did
Divorced now and with someone who always wanted children but didn't get the chance and who is a million percent a better person than exh who is a train wreck .

I think it's a very personal decision but plenty of women do have healthy children in their 40's so, age alone, doesn't need to put you off.

I'm 41 with a 4 year old, 7 ish weeks pregnant now (not particularly trying but not preventing either). All going well, I'll be 42 when I give birth.

I never even thought about having children when I was younger, too busy traveling the world and building my career so, for me, later was much better, but everyone is different. There's no 'one size fits all'.

If you do decide to try, good luck