Trying to conceive over 40 part 4

Hi @BertLiv I am keeping everything crossed for you!!! We have a natural modified ivf cycle next month but also on the waiting list for a DE! It’s so hard though, I know no one in real life who has used DE and feel so alone with it.
When do you plan to test? I so, so hope this is your time x

@AlleycatMarie Hello! Welcome! This is a good group for support as there are so many people in similar situations (as lavafield said!). I'm 41 and we have been trying for just over 4 years. I have a very low AMH and so we are trying with DE. We have done 3 transfers so far, none of which were successful, and are now in the TWW of our 4th, with a different clinic, so hoping it's good news! Sorry to hear about the result of your IVF rounds earlier this year, that must've been really hard. I agree that you should push it as long as you can without testing - although I know it's easier said than done! Hopefully it'll end up being a good result!

@lavafield Thank you. It does seem to have settled, or got a lot less. Not really anything since yesterday afternoon, but I'm going to keep monitoring it today. Saturday and our result can't come soon enough!

Hi @lavafield thanks for replying to my post!
I am terrible for testing early, I dread to think how much I have spent on tests over the last few years! I will try to hold out this time!
My AMH levels were good but have just massively dropped on my last blood test, which has really shocked me tbh.
Wishing you lots of baby dust!

Hi @AlleycatMarie , welcome, there are many of us in the same boat, so hope this group helps you. I am 43 trying for my first one too, but only cycle 6 now and I was told to try naturally for a bit first, due to high AMH levels and other hormones being normal. I would stay you still have a chance in case it was implantation but the pregnancy hormone is not yet being picked up by tests because yours was not very sensitive one or implantation is still ongoing or recent, and it doesn't yet filter into the tests. You can try frer tomorrow morning, would it be 10 DPO? Or wait one more day if you can! 🤞
@BertLiv I am also hoping it is nothing sinister for you, from what I have seen and read it is not uncommon to have sort of even mild bleeding in early pregnancy. Hope it settles though. Your test day is soon!
@Joleyjojo new cycle new hope! Stay positive!

Hi, I’ve just found this thread and would love to join for some support!
I’m 42, been ttc for 5 years. No children so far. Did 2 rounds of ivf earlier this year but got no eggs 😭. We are going to try a natural modified cycle in November but still hoping it happens naturally in the meantime. I just started a thread because I had bright red bleeding and some cramps 7dpo, brown when I wiped on 8 and 9 dpo and now nothing. Usually get AF on 14 dpo. Did a test and bfn but it was only a 25ml sensitivity cheapie. Is there any point in me doing a frer tomorrow morning? I just don’t want to get my hopes up.

@Joleyjojo Meltdowns are completely understandable! In fact, I think it's good sometimes to let it all out! Hope you're feeling better today.

Thank you and yes, the distraction is good, but not working amazingly today. I had brown when I wiped this morning (sorry - TMI) and slightly worse cramps than yesterday, so my brain has gone into overdrive. My clinic says it's probably old blood and to monitor it and let them know if it gets worse - I really hope it's not a bad sign!

@BertLiv trying to be positive. Had an absolute meltdown in next yesterday . New cycle new chances.

I will have my fingers crossed 🤞🏼 for you !!! Thank goodness you have a distraction because the wait is horrific. Xxxx

@lavafield Thank you! Now 8dp5dt and very slight occasional cramps, sore boobs and very gassy (sorry - TMI!), but aware they could all be down to the drugs! Weirdly, my soreness after my prontogest injections seems to be getting less, which is strange. But, I guess my body might just be getting used to them? I guess we'll know for sure either way next Saturday 🤞. We're moving house, so I've got plenty to distract myself with this week luckily.

@Joleyjojo Sorry to hear af arrived - but definitely try to stay positive for your next cycle! Sending you lots of baby dust!

AF arrived today 12po . This is my first period after surgical management exactly 5 weeks and 1 day. I am feeling very sad but I need to be positive for this coming cycle. Sending lots of baby vibes to you all and hope your all ok x

@BertLiv Very pleased to hear it went well! Hope the wait time is manageable, and you will know the result very soon! 🤞

Hi @lavafield, transfer actually went very well, thanks - far less uncomfortable than the last ones. We saw our little embryo beforehand, and then watched it going in on the monitor (our last clinic didn't do this, so it was quite cool to watch!). Our doctor wants me to have a blood test to check the result, and that is booked for 11/10, and we think we won't bother taking a test at home as we'll have a definite, more accurate, result the next day anyway. I had bloods taken and my levels checked when we had the transfer, and the dr is happy with them, which was good, so continuing with the pills and quite unpleasant PIO, but it's all worth it! Only 2dp5dt, so trying not to dwell on any symptoms...at least it's only 11 days and not 2 weeks, and we're moving house soon, so I've got a lot to distract me!

I hope your well-timed DTD works! I completely understand wanting to try naturally - we did the same thing. Always worth it if there's a chance! And try not to dwell on time passing, even though that's impossible, I almost lost a friend due to her comment about time passing. I don't know how old you are, but people are having babies later and later in life these days.

Fingers crossed for all of us!

Hi @BertLiv how did you your transfer go? Fingers crossed for you!
Hope your celebration was also nice, what a lovely gift it will be if all works! 🧡

I am targeting well timed DTD over the next six months here, as I want to go a full year trying naturally before interventions even though I know time is not on our side.

@lavafield Thanks. Another nurse just called and said I could have one glass, but given that some of the non-alcoholic wine is really not bad, I might just stick with that!

I think you've got a good plan - but hopefully something will happen in the meantime!

@BertLiv good luck with the transfer on Monday! The day is so close now, exciting! I would personally not drink at all in coming days but that's me being super cautious always.

For us, we will try to time everything better in next three months and if nothing still happens by what will be 9 months trying, escalate to checks

Hello Ladies
Hope everyone is doing ok.
So, our ET is booked! Next Monday and I start my prontogest injections tomorrow, my husband is not looking forward to it as he has to do them! Has anyone taken prontogest before? If so, were you told whether you can drink while taking it? It's our wedding anniversary this week, and we're going to celebrate on Saturday, and I figured I could have a few glasses, but the nurse just said she personally would advise not to, but that others would disagree and that it was up to us! So now I don't know!
What do you all think?

Thank you! I had a scan and bloods done on Friday, and my lining was 8.1, which I thought was good and that they'd arrange the transfer (as my last clinic would have!), but instead they upped my meds and I have another scan/bloods today. Keeping everything crossed that the transfer might be next week!

That is very similar. I have had 2 days of negative PG tests now. My LH test strip is actually getting a bit darker too. I am just going to be every other day from now on 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I wasn’t sure initially if I wanted to try again because the heartache is so awful but since feeling a bit better I 100% want to try asap. I am hoping to be one of those that catches straight away and think positive but I also need to be a realist and protect my heart. What a journey this all is.
sending hope and positive vibes to us all x

@BertLiv so soon! Good luck with it, hope it goes the best possible way!

@Joleyjojo I'm so sorry for your loss. I could have written a very similar post a few years ago. I had a chemical pregnancy in June when I was 39, then fell pregnant the next cycle but it ended in a MMC at 7+5 weeks, with surgical management. I turned 40 the following January and then fell pregnant again in the March. It was an emotionally difficult few months between the miscarriage and the pregnancy but thankfully it all worked out. I found using Clearview digital ovulation trackers were a great help to identify my fertile window. I now have a 1 year old and a 3 year old at 44 with uncomplicated pregnancies and healthy babies. Good luck with everything!

@winteralwaysturnstospring Hi! Sorry to hear you're feeling so lonely - I completely understand. I listened to the podcast BFN and really enjoyed it, they cover most topics on it and I found it really good to hear about people who were in a similar position to me.

@WhiteOleander3105 I'm afraid I agree...too blurry to see at the moment - but hopefully there'll be a clear positive soon!

@Joleyjojo So sorry about your miscarriage. Try to stay positive and take care of yourself.

@lavafield Thank you! I had a scan on Monday and my lining looked nice and thin so I have now started my meds. Another scan and blood test on Friday and then, hopefully, we will have a transfer date which I assume could be next week! It's gone from being ages away to potentially very soon very quickly! Just hoping everything looks good on Friday now...

I hope the vitamins have worked for you and that you get your positive very soon!

So sorry to hear about the miscarriage, it's just an awful experience to have to go through. I had an MMC last month, and my period has started today which feels like a bit of closure on the last month of sadness. Onwards and upwards from here to us all.

@WhiteOleander3105 too blurry to tell I'm afraid, but would recommend doing the test first thing for the best results. Good luck!

Is this positive

Hello,
I'm trying to conceive #2, I'm 40. Had my first at 35 and been commitedly trying now for over a year. Was pregnant earlier this year but MMS at 12 weeks. Waiting to see how we got on this month. Came here as I find the last week of the waiting each month crazy making. And wondered if there was a space were I could hear other's feelings on it so it didn't feel so lonely.
Also looking for some poems or podcast recommendations on it. A lot are on the hope for the future but I wanted to lean into the present moment of the waiting bit as that's the bit I find so uncomfortable.

Hi @Joleyjojo , sorry about your miscarriage, be gentle with yourself as you go on trying, maybe it will take your body some time to adjust and the next ovulation will come a bit later?! There are many stories of people getting pregnant soon after MC.

@Whisper99 LH tests are ovulation tests. LH surges to a peak some 18-24-36 hours before actual ovulation.
(Mine definitely seems to come within a shorter window). As a rule, it is best to have sex as soon as LH starts rising/peaks.

We have had timing issues this month and only DTD 4 days before ovulation and day after, so not holding my hopes.

I haven't had a faintest BFP over the 5 months trying, even though I def ovulate as confirmed by the progesterone test and I always physically feel ovulation.

It has been 3 months since trying CoQ10 and vitamin D, so hoping my egg quality has improved now. I turned 43 recently trying for the first one...

@BertLiv where are you in your transfer process now? Keeping fingers crossed! 🤞

Hi Jeleyjojo

Sorry about the miscarriage... The main thing is that you can get pregnant. We can hold each others hands during the initial stages of pregnancy because unfortunately the chances of miscarriage are higher with age. But there are so many positive stories that I believe it will happen for us as well.

What is LH tests - to track ovulation? And what is OvuSense?

Thanks