Trying to conceive over 40 part 4

Oh I see, well it's early days, don't talk yourself into worry now!

Hey. Sorry I’ve been a bit quiet, had a tough anniversary so took some time out from all things ttc.
Welcome to all the new joiners, it’s a really lovely group to keep you going through all the turmoil of ttc.
Thats amazing news about the bfp @Kelb79, sorry you’ve had the stress of spotting. Hope you can get some reassurance when you see the clinic. Keeping absolutely everything crossed for you.
@YellowLoafers Is it your 12 week scan today? Imagine that feels very exciting/terrifying. Hope they tell you all you need to hear to be able to relax and enjoy the pregnancy.

@YellowLoafers Thank you!! ❤️
I will keep you updated

@TT82 I won’t offer you congratulations if you don’t want, but I’ll wish you good luck instead. I’m cautiously happy for you ❤️

Sorry, I meant I don't have those 😬🙈
Now will need to wait and see..

no like real pregnancy signs- running to the toilet at night, full breasts

These are real pregnancy symptoms you you have a positive test. I'm not one for counting chickens, but don't talk yourself into worry.

😱😱😱 just did digital CB... and got 1-2 weeks!
But I really don't feel like pregnancy symptoms, more PMS!
Oh now I won't relax as being 41 and having 3 chemical already.... 🥺 and no like real pregnancy signs- running to the toilet at night, full breasts.. They are bigger and sensitive but as usual with progesterone pills 🙈

Please don't congratulate...now I need blood test and at least 2 weeks after predicted AF

@YellowLoafers 🙏 that really helps me to know that I am not alone thinking the same!
I don't want more chemical, if all are not good I will have more time to try another round of collection etc.
in the website of the private clinic (that was really recommended but has like 1.5 years waiting time at least when I called 😭) they also explain why in my situation when it is age+chemical history better to do testing..

And warmest congratulations on the pregnancy!!! 🥰

@TT82 My consultant said that with our ages (me 42, partner 43) that PGTA testing for chromosomal abnormalities was the “fastest way to achieve a pregnancy”. We didn’t want to put ourselves through the pain of chemicals/miscarriages if the embryos actually never stood a chance, so the testing felt like a no brainer.

I had one round of egg collection and got 6 day 5 blastocysts to test, so was incredibly lucky. We went ahead and tested all of them and only 2 were “normal”. I’m 12 weeks pregnant with one of those blasts. It’s not inexpensive, but considering the odds and time not being on our side, I’m so glad we went got it done. It’s a deeply personal decision though x

@YellowLoafers , @Kelb79 Thank you!!

Oh I would definitely need all your knowledge and support! I have moved to Switzerland, and here waiting time is huge!! So we had to go with Zurich hospital, you still pay fully for it, but as it is not a private clinic, they claim they don't do unnecessary tests etc just to get money.. But attention is also NOT like from private clinic 😩 You have to drag any info, they told us initially no genetic testing, they don't advise or do. But after my reading and researching at my age and chemical pregnancy history...I am a good example to do it! When I pressed them- they said ok. Now have to wait 3 weeks for an appointment to discuss what if only like 1 embyro to test. I read here on forums in the UK they do back-to-back egg collection, to get more good embryos? So will know how they do here or what actually happens in August IVF only 4th of July

I got pregnant twice fast, so wasn't ready, thought maybe not fast but like a few months we should be successful 🤦🏻‍♀️

Good luck to everyone and really happy we can support each other ❤️

@Kelb79 this is fabulous! So very pleased for you- hope this is the start of a very normal, healthy pregnancy. Enjoy it!

@Kelb79 Fantastic news! The brown was probably implantation, clever little embryo burrowing in ❤️ If it helps, I’ve had brown off and on, one heavy bleed and all has been well. I had a tiny bleed on Monday, so waiting a bit more nervously for my 12 week scan tomorrow. But I’ve been told that spotting and bleeding more common in IVF, probably due to meds. Praying so hard for you! 🤞🙏 xx

@TT82 Hi 👋 Good luck with IVF, and always that chance you’ll fall before! Plenty of us here have had IVF so any questions just ask! We had genetic testing on the 5 day blastocysts in order to give us the best chance. Happy to answer any questions on that as they come up. Good luck!

@TraceyTarotReader Fingers crossed for you this month ❤️

Morning!!!
spotting has stopped thank god 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼and our little embryo is strong enough to give a blue cross today!!! I’m so completely in shock and can’t believe this might actually be happening!!! 😳😳😳
I haven’t told OH yet…. Official test day tomorrow, got blood test at 10am so I’m trying to hold out until then - I’m so glad I can come here and tell somebody!! 🤣🤣

how are you all???

@TT82 welcome! Quite a few of us have a lot of IVF experience here if you end up that far - both OE and DE (I’m DE) - so anything you need to know just ask! I think we could probably start our own clinic 🤣🤣

@Kelb79 how are hope the spotting has stopped x

cd 8 waiting to ovulate not doing opks haven’t for the last 2 months or so still temping though good luck to everyone waiting to test or are already pregnant congratulations x

Morning all, may I join?
I am 41, beginning of last year had 3 chemicals and nothing since.. have a first IVF starting in August but so hoped maybe will get pregnant before. I have 2 kids 21 and 9 but we always wanted 3... 🥺
Today 11-12dpo, got a shade first time, not fully white. But don't have usual symptoms, si probably imagining it. I am taking progesterone pills just in case, maybe they are messing up the results 🤷🏻‍♀️

So happy to reas here positive news!!!!! Really nervous with the whole IVF, decided to do genetic testing...but now reading some posts against

Have a nice day xx ❤️

I’ve been soooo stressed with it tonight! OH sent me home from work because he could tell I wasn’t doing good (I haven’t told him about either the test or the spotting yet - no point messing his head up too!! 🙄)
I’ve basically completed google - totally stupid! I know you can search and find every possible outcome 🙄
got some more tests so I guess I’ll just see what my lines are doing in the morning 🤷🏼‍♀️
hoping and praying 🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️

I had brown discharge with pregnancy number 3 and he’s 13 now and has to be nagged to have a shower!

@Kelb79 Try not to panic, I had brown discharge on evening of 9 and morning of 10 dp5dt. I was heartbroken and thought it was all over, but it wasn’t x

Brown discharge this evening 😩😩

OMG @Kelb79 thats fantastic! Such lovely news!!

@Kelb79 We’re all over the moon with you!! I’m going to be a total hypocrite now and tell you to enjoy it and don’t worry about anything…but I’ve been a total stressbucket through mine so far! But what I mean is that I wish I could relax so I’m really hoping you can 😘😘 Big fat congratulations 🎉

Thanks so much everyone!! I’m in total shock!! I didn’t dare imagine that the first transfer might work ❤️❤️❤️ obviously now terrified it’ll be a chemical or ill
miscarry again but I’m gonna take as much joy as I can in every minute of this journey going well so for now I’m over the moon with my 2 lines ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳😁😁😁😁😁😁

I have everything crossed for you @Kelb79 . Tentative congrats xx

@mommabear64 From my own experience, my CM after ovulation went thicker then dried up to practically nothing just before AF arrived. So still having some sounds good to me!