Trying to conceive over 40 part 4

Hey there ladies I'm nearly 40...mind if I join and ask for a bit of advice?
I am hoping someone might be able to help me. My OH and I have decided to start IVF in October. We've done fertility checks and everything is OK but owing to our ages 39 and 51 we have come to the conclusion natural conception might not happen for us.
Anyway, could anyone succinctly break down the initial stages? I've been advised not to transfer straight away and wait a couple of months. Is this normal? I have a call with the co-ordinator scheduled for next week but it's always nice to hear from others.
Also it would be good to know if there is a better time in the month to start or does it not matter? Sorry if this sounds like a ramble and thank you in advance.

@TT82 Good number collection, I’ll keep my fingers tightly crossed for you and hope you get good news on Monday. Hoping you’re not too sore as well, I found the days after EC really rough! x

@Newlywedded Hi and welcome! 👋

@Newlywedded welcome!! :)

Hi all, I am 39 and a half (lol) and ttc number 1… please can I join ??

Hi all, just an update, back from EC this morning. All went well, funny enough probably the best part of all this - you are out of control, sleeping:)
They collected 8 eggs, no idea how many mature.. they will call us only next Monday with full report on how many if any they took for PGTA...no intermediate calls! Oh maybe better this way 😬 Then next EC cycle in 6 weeks.., dr said she will increase the dose as with my hormones level can be more

@99pctpractice She’s beautiful! ❤️ Congratulations, such lovely news! xx

We discussed DE once again today. We will choose a clinic in Prague. Those who did DE abroad, how did you choose one? I’m looking into them, but no idea where to pay attention and what differences they could have as they look similar to me. Thank you.

Thanks everyone! We’re over the moon! It feels so much more real now! I’m still so sick though! It’s getting very wearing 🫣🫣

@99pctpractice omg she’s beautiful!!! Massive congratulations! 🥳🥳❤️❤️❤️ awesome news!!! ❤️❤️❤️ well done 😁

@Marvellouslymadmum i’m with IVF Life in Alicante, they’ve been amazing! Can’t fault them!! 🙏🏼

@TT82 wishing you so much luck for Monday 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 that’s great numbers, especially with a quality over quantity approach ❤️ let us know how you get on xX

@GingerFox2021 yep! Been there!! Making the decision is so so scary! I took a long time to come to terms with it once it was decided even though I had been keen to go for it previously. But it’s good to really explore your feelings around it and take the time you need. I questioned it right up until the day that I saw my embryos, I’ve had zero doubts ever since ❤️❤️

Hi all, another update from me. Today was told EC on Monday. Max I can have 9, if some catch up these days. Blood results all good, next cycle she will increase the dose as she expected me to react more.
Also they will do mild ivf, not to biopsy the egg twice- during sperm injection and PGTA testing, said sperm is very good, so no need.
I am fine with lower number as long as better quality, but who knows 🙏

@99pctpractice oooooo she is so beautiful!!! 🥰 Huge congratulations!!!

Awwww congratulations, @Kelb79, what a beautiful pic! And an amazing birthday present for you :). I'm rubbish at the nub theory stuff but going to make a guess for a girl as well...!

Fingers crossed for plain sailing from now on 🤞 are you getting nipt done or are you relying on it being de and so lower risk?

Our little (de!) girl arrived 7 weeks ago (4 weeks early!). She is doing brilliantly - I still can't believe she's here....

Congratulations! Enjoy your pregnancy..!

I’ve been for a while here, probably the last 2 years and/or more. Time to time I was thinking about DE but never dare to speak to my partner about that. Yesterday, all exploded and I told him how I feel. To my surprise, he agreed on DE without discussion. Now when I’m given the Green light to go, it all feels scary.. scary and exciting both..

Awwww @Kelb79 baby looks perfect! Congratulations, it’s absolutely wonderful news! And welcome to your new little puss too❤️ xx

@Kelb79 that's so amazing congratulations!! I'm going to go against the grain and say boy but probably totally wrong 😂 where did you go for your de in the end? You've probably said loads of times but I can't remember 🙄

@Kelb79 oooo you are now allowed to moan on sickness, and hopefully later on sleepless nights 🥰

@TT82 i thought girl too! 🩷🩷😍😍
it was such a good scan - we had a trainee that just kept going for practise while the midwife left the room to ask her superiors about donor egg conception stuff that she didn’t know 😂
she let us make a little video of baby jumping around and waving! As long as we didn’t put it on social media 😂 it’s magical!!
Yep, they totally test the donors so I’m sure there’s nothing to worry about but from this end without full information they might want to run more extensive tests. If I can just find out my donors age it’ll be fine I’m sure 😁
im feeling terrible today!! Tired, sick, headachey…. I had so hoped this would pass by now, I’m sick of hearing myself complain 🫣😂🙄

@Kelb79 yay even a better picture this time!! ❤️ already so cute!! I think it is a girl, that what was my thought- what a pretty girl she is ☺️

Just hope all tests go well and no risk factors you discover! I actually thought they investigate donors before for any factors, no?

The scan was perfect!! I can’t even believe it!! Baby is measuring 63mm (which seems big for 11+5 😳) and dancing and waving at us 😍 neck fluid measurement really low aswell. Just got to find out more donor details to get full risk factors.
anyone good at nub theory and fancy a guess? We’re not finding out so just for fun 😁😁

@Kelb79 ooooooo such an adorable addition to the family 😻
Happy Birthday! Good luck today ❤️

@Kelb79 aww what a beautiful family member! Good luck for your scan and happy birthday! Hopefully it'll be a nice present for you 😊

Hey lovelies! So we put the scan back to tomorrow (my birthday!! 🫣) as we ended up going to Weston super mare for the night to pick up (another!) new family member…..

@Kelb79 Hi, how are you feeling today? Any news from the scan? Xx