To bake or not to bake, that is the question...

LL, I am sure you are not a bad mum, everyone looses it every now and again!

I know what you mean about scanning, I can't believe I am going to have to wait till 16 weeks till my first scan, its outrageous, most people at least get a 12 week scan!

We are hoping to start April/May time, it depends when AF arrives around then, I have know idea of my natural cycle due to contraception/pregnancies/breast feeding for the last 6/7 years, so I can't really work out when it will be. We are waiting more to avoid certain months of the baby being born. That sounds awful, but it is the way it is!

Hiya Mi I think I caught your how to stop being broody thread. I can't promise we will help with the broodiness, but we are all waiting (well most of us!) for one reason or another so come and be broody with us

Yes LL listen to Heron

NatalieJane, i think your plan just might work. pls remind me, when are you going TTC?

Lardylumps, we have all done that - shouted at our LO. it is the most terrible feeling in the world- but luckily, our LO love us so much, they forgive pretty quickly and hopefully forget too!

i have done it a couple of times, when DS was testing me to the limit!

Hello Ladies

Joining on here... thought I was pregnant last week with no 3 and start really warming to the idea and getting all excited. On the morning I was due I done a test which of neg of course and period started withing the hour after. I was surprised at how gutted I feel and I now have a sad feeling inside and know I want another baby NOW! ...

Spoke to dh and we have agreed to start ttc later this year. I started another thread asking tips on how to cope with my broodiness

I was thinking of twisting my dh's arm by saying we should start now because it may take up to a year or more - you never know how long it will take do you?

I am going a bit crazy because my period seems to have stopped after 3.5 days and I am usually 6-7 days! So I have started to think I am pregnant again after doing two tests this week, one which was done an hour b4 af started so I am know I am being silly but I like the idea of maybe I am

LL, don't beat yourself up, kids can be little bugger's at times. Just have a brew, give lots of cuddles, I promise she'd have forgotten about it in less than 5 minutes.

Heron I seem to be quite odd in the way of getting a very pregnant belly very quickly (I was 6 weeks with DS2 but people thought I was more like 5/6 months, and with the MC I had a load of shite with the mums in the playground because they all kept going on about it, when I had already lost it, I am a size 12, woke up one day and couldn't do my old size 18's up!), so I think I will just make out that I can't remember my last AF or something, I guess with the bump they would think I was further on than 6 weeks so would give me a dating scan to find out. I wouldn't like to say I was bleeding because at 6 weeks it is very likely to be an internal scan and they would know, I think, if I wasn't/hadn't had any bleeding.

Hello heron. Down here you get a scan at 8 weeks and then not one until 21 weeks. I had to pay private to have a scan done at 12 weeks.

NatalieJane, you're not two faced at all! the system is forcing you to do it. 12 weeks is such a long time to wait...i agree the stress would definitely be very bad.

just out of interest, what would you say to get an early scan? i would like to know!

Good evening ladies. You have got to help me I feel so bad i have just shouted at my dd . I am the worst mum in the world.

I agree. Before the MC, as much as I'd have liked having an early scan, I could see that it wasn't needed as such, but now after the MC, there is just no way on earth I will last till 12 weeks to find out one way or the other. In fact I think the worry and stress could actually cause another MC, which is why I would lie through my back teeth to get one!

And I don't usually condone lying in any way shape or form. In fact have been known to get quite uppity about liers to DH before now! How two faced am I??!!!

It is a disgrace really the way different hospitals have different way of doing things. i think that an early scan is a must - at around 6 weeks, to date the pregnancy and more importantly to ensure that the pregnancy is not ectopic.
I am going to get an early scan, pay for it myself.

Ha ha, very good

Only just seen your post about the early scan, that is exactly what I think. And exactly what I plan to do. Who knows when I see the GP he may well just let me book a 6 week scan, and if he does then it is fine, if not, I will do what I can to get one, and if at the time I don't feel like lying I will get a private one, either way I am not waiting till 12 weeks.

I think I might actually say I am further on than I am, because no doubt I'll have the bump from 6 weeks as usual, that way when they send me for my "12 week" scan, I will actually be about 6. That isn't a bad plan...!

I award you with your gold star Nat, but unfortuantely can't do much on the sex front

ROFL, I am not looking after that list Diege, god, I could get paid for things like that!

I feel all nice today, have saved my next door neighbours washing from being rained on, have offered up DH to help out with retrieving lost photos from some ones dead computer, and have offered to help anyone out on the Leap Pad for a fiver thread.

Feel like I deserve a gold star and some sex

Oh and also meant to say I'll be going for nuchal scan again with combined bloods (12 week, not triple). I'll be 38 (or very nearly) when pregnant this time, so my risks are creeping up, though still heavily weighted for a good outcome!

NJ, meant to add I'm sure you would be perfectly entitled to an early scan after having had a MC. I know it's a bit naughty (and sorry if I offend anyone) but I think if I were you I might may be a bit creative with the truth iyswim and invent some symptoms?

Afternoon girls, and welcome Heron .
Getting very excited reading this thread at the moment - lots of GOFing going on and I'll give it a few days, but predict lots of symptom-spotting too!
Like the idea of the baby hammock, but I think I'm going to pout all of my spare cash into the buggy, and stick with my moses basket and cot combo. I have to say I am a bit of a Gina Ford fan (she won't sue me for saying that I'm sure ) and she saved my sanity for both dd2 and 3 (after not getting on at all with 'on demand' with dd1). The link with sleeping is that I'll be taking next baby up to cot/basket for naps (in bedroom), so won't really need a portable sleeping place. Realise I'm probably in a minority though, and as Nat says, it really is impossible that child care philosophies would suit everyone (otherwise there wouldn't be so many books on the market!).
I think by the time we're all pregnant, it would be quite feasible to have next to our names on the list the type of buggy we are buying, car seat, breast ot bottle, GF or Tracey Hogg, co-sleeping or own room...
Back at home with dds now, so better start clearing the breakfast things!!

I think I have said before, with the two boys, as much as I would have liked an earlier scan for peace of mind, I would never have lied to get one (DS1 scan was at 12 weeks, DS2 was at 14 weeks), but this time after the MC, if for whatever reason they won't let me book a 6 week scan, even if I have to lie to get one I will. There is no way I am waiting till 12 weeks. And yes I do know how bad that sounds, but that is how I feel!

I think I have never made much of a drain on the NHS, except the two births, I never even bothered going to the doc's with the MC, so I deserve a little bit for an early scan. Makes me feel better anyway!

It would be great to have an early scan just for peace of mind. I have heard a rumour (actually several people have told me this but I refuse to believe them) that you dont get a scan till 16 weeks down here

£9.99 for 2, that's not bad is it?! Does it say how much HCG they need to detect for a positive result?

I have some of those cheap eBay tests left. Bet they are all gone before we even TTC properly

I think DH is a bit more relaxed about TTC than me, but I think that is always the way with the men, he is as excited about another baby, but it is such a different experience for them isn't it? They don't have to physically go through pregnancy and labour, but all of that does effect them, just in different ways. He is much more excited about no more condoms

Re. AN tests, I think I will be pushing for an early scan this time, just to check the heartbeat is there, I think I will be able to relax a bit after seeing it. With DS1 I did have all the blood work done, but didn't do any of the more intrusive tests, with DS2 just regular blood tests, and I expect the same with DC3.

I was only teasing you Natalie, I do think it is a public service announcement! For the record I think we have been slightly more "active" of late, maybe it is all your ladies giving me idea And, I could never bring myself to call any child of mine a name that a person I hate has, so yes I do know what you mean Natalie!

Have fun at work Kay, you lucky you cant keep popping on like I can, its not doing me any good at all with my workload!!

LOL at the thought of currently being 9/10 days pg!!! I like that idea

I have absolutely no preference over the sex of the baby. Be happy with a bunch or girls/boys/mixed.

Not doing any specific antenatal tests, I'm pretty young, but might do a strep B test.

I dont have any pregnancy test kits yet, but i have the clearblue fertility monitor. i will get the test sticks 2moro cos my period is due on end of the month.

i have a good idea when i ovulate but want to be sure! will test for 2 cycles and then it is TTC time!!

actually was just speaking to DH about TTC at lunch time - we agree on when to start. i have a sneaking feeling that i am way more excited than he is!

we are not going to do all those things to try influence sex of our baby, will just do it and see what happens!

anyone has any thoughts about ante natal tests? nuchal, cvs? amnio?

I'd better get back to work. I really cant be bothered though.

The boots digital ones are £9.99 for 2

I think I'd better get some lunch done, they both had late brekkies this morning, so have left it as late as I can for lunch.

I actually didn't know boots did digital ones, will have a look next time I'm in there.