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Ferti lily cup

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rimx · 05/04/2023 22:49

Hey guy,
I am just wondering if anyone has used the ferti lily conception cup.
I used this once cycle over a year ago and now have a 15 month old son. I then feel pregnant after 2month TTC.
This is my first month ttc back again.

I have used the ferti lily cup again but cannot remember last time if there was any leakage of semen/sperm? I feel like there may have been some leakage but not a great amount. I did have a vaginal birth with my son and he is my first birth.

The reason I tried the ferti lily cup was I felt that all my hubby semen was leaking out of me when we dtd. Does anyone else experience this or am I just going mad. I do feel extremely wet (apologise). This is the reason why I purchase the cup.

Please if anyone can share there experience it would be amazing.

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Rayofsunshine22 · 01/06/2023 00:28

Hi all how is everyone? Nothing to update for me. I cannot get on with the Fertility cup. It's not uncomfortable or hard to insert all that is fine it's just not sitting in right. I can't get it to sit flat /straight as it should & I also cannot pop it back into shape. Really annoying I will keep practicing but just feel like it's just all over the place. Maybe I need to try a different kind?
Anyway just checking in 👋

ttcfirstbaby90 · 20/05/2023 08:21

Morning, no still no peak yet. Had a look back and the latest I've had since tracking is CD23. My luteral phase is always the same length though. I'm not too worried yet. Hoping to see it today. But yeah it's annoying because I have to wait a week longer than most for AF hah.

So I've been trying a year never had bloods before or any investigations. GP has booked day 3 bloods for two weeks time. Didn't say anything about day 21 bloods she seemed convinced that I'm definitely ovulating despite the long cycles. Very surprised when we called to book OHs SA that it's a 3 month wait!

Rayofsunshine22 · 19/05/2023 22:58

Thank you @ttcfirstbaby90 90 I do keep positive most of the time it's just when AF arrives and it's another month passed the sadness and disappointment I know we all feel it. Ultimately I'm so worried this won't happen for me again. Gosh that is a long cycle I hope you got your ovu peak?! Sorry to hear it @Sierra26 rra26 :( I'm the same I always start with light brown /pink spotting & it started on CD 26 for me this time. I didn't even test at all this month. Hope you're feeling a little better, I completely get the done and over it feeling :(

@ttcfirstbaby90 aby90 I'm the same in terms of GP investigation etc. First time round ttc #baby1 nothing was found to be an issue & that was with GP & IVF clinic tests. So was told unexplained infertility. This time I've got the overactive thyroid & my partner has poor morphology in his recent sample. So one way I look & think well at least these are things that we can change & work on bur then I keep going back to the fact that first time round it didn't happen for so long & nothing was wrong. & We were both so much younger. I drive myself mad with it & am just hoping for a miracle. Has your GP done basic bloods etc. How long have you been ttc? Xx

ttcfirstbaby90 · 19/05/2023 11:52

@Sierra26 Awh sorry Sierra. I get exactly the same way. It's so disappointing. Each month that passes it becomes very frustrating. I was so excited to start trying. I didn't expect it to happen straight away but it's taking the mick now. I have my first GP appointment today. It's a strange feeling of hoping they find something that's easy enough to fix and also hoping they don't find anything wrong. I know I won't get any answers for a while yet but making a start on it.

Sierra26 · 19/05/2023 07:14

I’m 10/11DPO now and pretty sure I’m out. Spotting has continued (light pink and brown which is normal for me pre AF altho earlier than normal, weird pains have stopped, BFN yesterday and I only have one test left so not going to forget about it unless AF doesn’t arrive. Argh! Feeling a bit stroppy and over it today.

ttcfirstbaby90 · 18/05/2023 21:30

Hey ladies
Sorry to hear it wasn't your month @Rayofsunshine22 hopefully these new meds will give you success. You're another cycle closer to having your bfp I'm sure.

@Sierra26 you'll have to keep us updated. I agree with @Rayofsunshine22 with the mind playing with you though. It's annoying as hell I could swear since starting to try last year I've had different symptoms every month hah. I try ignore them now but it's easier said than done. That being said I really hope it is a sign for you. 🤞🏻

I am still waiting for ovulation. I have long cycles and I'm on CD21. Going to be very annoyed if my peak doesn't come tomorrow. Although I can most certainly wait for the TWW to start. 😂

Rayofsunshine22 · 17/05/2023 22:54

Thank you @Sierra26 keeping everything crossed for you this month. I don't know about you but my mind/body always plays tricks on me with symptoms. Sometimes I think I'm sure I must be pregnant because of weird feelings & things going on. When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter I didn't have 1 symptom at all! Keep us updated X

Sierra26 · 17/05/2023 21:14

Sorry @Rayofsunshine22 :( it’s so frustrating isn’t it. Sending positivity for the thyroid meds to work!

so month 1 with the cup didn’t work for us. This month we had two really good goes with it, and now waiting to see. CD24/8DPO. Had some right sided pains last two days which I never get at this time, and similar to the ovulation pain I had this month. Then had some spotting today. I always spot before AF but this is the earliest it’s happened in a while. Naturally curious if it means something, but it’s probs just ramping towards AF starting ☹️

Rayofsunshine22 · 17/05/2023 20:55

Hi everyone how are you all? Little update from me - feeling so rubbish period is here :( another unsuccessful month for me. I'm waiting for meds to be prescribed for my overactive thyroid now & hope to God they work. Just feel so gutted another month gone by. I used the 'cup' and new conception vitamins this month.

Rayofsunshine22 · 11/05/2023 17:50

Hey @ttcfirstbaby90 I do find it frustrating yes because everything takes so long :( I spoke to GP in Jan about fertility ttc and only now am I getting some meds. I just have to think that it's a step closer to getting pregnant. The first time Ttc #1 it was unexplained infertility which was so hard so maybe now there is a possible reason then hopefully it can change. I'm also not an early tester. I just wait for AF too. Sometimes I think I should just test + put myself out of my misery!

I agree @rimx the tww is so hard. I'm so grumpy & sad when AF comes though. Literally don't want anyone near me! Do you test early or just when AF is due? X

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rimx · 11/05/2023 11:26

@ttcfirstbaby90

The tww is so stressful. Even when I'm doing something, it's still at the back of my mind.

I try and keep occupied as I have a little one and right now his just climbing on everything.

I'm going to be checking on the 17th next which will be 14dpo. I don't want to keep on checking as I have really bad line eyes

Fingers crossed for you xxx

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ttcfirstbaby90 · 11/05/2023 11:10

@rimx how you getting on with the tww.

I have my fingers crossed for you both. 🤞🏻

I think it's the same for everyone but the TWW is the worst time emotionally in this journey. I turn into a crazy person although I'm not an early tester I will wait for AF to just arrive. I'm constantly wondering if I'm growing a human or not. Anytime outside the TWW I'm my usual self.

I've recently told my manager at work now of my struggles as he keeps picking up a change in my persona and it's during the tww. He always checks that I'm okay after meetings because I'm being unusually quiet. I'm so glad he's been really understanding and supportive and told me to just take some time away from my desk if I'm feeling down. Figured he needed to know now anyway with doctors appointments coming up.

@Rayofsunshine22 how you feeling about that? I'd be a little irritated to be honest. We just have to wait for everything. I'm so impatient.

Rayofsunshine22 · 11/05/2023 10:36

@rimx aw I really hope it works for me too. Lots of luck for you 🤞 I'm currently 7 dpo 🤞
I've just had a call from GP with results that I have an overactive thyroid. Completely new to me I have never suffered with this before. I need more bloods then can start on some meds to hopefully get it to correct itself. They said they are putting my fertility referral on hold as they have possibly come across the problem. My partner needs another sample doing in June as his last one was poor morphology. So ATM we don't have a lot going for us but I'm hoping we can improve things so a little miracle can happen for us again 🤞 lots of luck to you all ✨

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rimx · 11/05/2023 10:26

@ttcfirstbaby90

Welcome.
I do really do think the cup does work as I did fall pregnant with it. I experience a lot of leakage so when I used the cup I fell pregnant straight away.

I am 8dpo today and feeling slightly nauseous. So let see.

I will let you know if it works this cycle xx

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Rayofsunshine22 · 11/05/2023 08:24

Hi @ttcfirstbaby90 ! Welcome. Oh I know the feeling well. Hang in there & stay positive. It's so hard at times & it really gets me down. You're doing the right thing looking into things. I've noe passed the time it took me to conceive baby1 so it feels like it will never happen again but I just try stay hopeful. Good luck trying with the cup this month 👍 yes I will let you know & keep everything crossed for us 🤞

ttcfirstbaby90 · 11/05/2023 08:15

Morning everyone,

Would like to join if I can, I'm at the 12 month ttc mark now, so I've officially booked a GP appointment for me and oh. I feel like we've tried everything we can. The ferti lily is my last thing to try now. So I'm going to be ovulating very soon. I've practiced with the cup a couple of times now. It was a complete failure the first couple of attempted but I didn't bend my knees up. Doh.
Finally got the hang of it now. Really hoping it helps as I'm starting to lose hope that it will ever happen for us. I've kinda become emotionally numb to af arriving now.

@rimx, @Rayofsunshine22, can you keep us updated on how you get on. 😊

Emmamoo89 · 09/05/2023 08:19

fairgame84 · 08/05/2023 22:25

The ferti-lily does say not to leave it in more than an hour. I'm glad it worked out for you but it clearly caused me problems which was the last thing I needed when we already have fertility problems. People just need to be aware.

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I'm sorry it caused you problems. X

Emmamoo89 · 09/05/2023 08:18

fairgame84 · 08/05/2023 22:25

The ferti-lily does say not to leave it in more than an hour. I'm glad it worked out for you but it clearly caused me problems which was the last thing I needed when we already have fertility problems. People just need to be aware.

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Fair enough but didn't use that. The normal soft cup you can.

Rayofsunshine22 · 08/05/2023 23:13

Yeah I feel like popping the cup the other way is bringing it right down. It doesn't hurt me or feel uncomfortable at all. To be honest I'm leaving it in for about half hour max as we always DTD late at night so I'm shattered & just want to go straight to sleep. So I just stay awake for a bit & then take it out. Just feels like it's not in the right place as it is so low down once ive got up & walked around etc. I'll keep on with it & hope I'm lucky really soon 🤞

fairgame84 · 08/05/2023 22:25

Emmamoo89 · 08/05/2023 21:30

You can leave soft cup in for 12 hours. I did and it was fine

Definitely helped me to conceive plus preeseed 😊

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The ferti-lily does say not to leave it in more than an hour. I'm glad it worked out for you but it clearly caused me problems which was the last thing I needed when we already have fertility problems. People just need to be aware.

Emmamoo89 · 08/05/2023 21:30

fairgame84 · 17/04/2023 05:55

Don't sleep with it in for 2 reasons.

  1. It suction itself tight in there and it's really hard to get out.
  2. I got BV when I left it in overnight. BV can make it hard to conceive and it also delayed my hsg test.

You can leave soft cup in for 12 hours. I did and it was fine

Definitely helped me to conceive plus preeseed 😊

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rimx · 08/05/2023 12:42

Rayofsunshine22 · 07/05/2023 22:47

Hi everyone, so i've tried the cup again & it felt like it was more in the right position this time but again really hard to pop back the other way round. But when I came to take it out it had slipped right down. Has anyone experienced this? It did have some liquid in when I took it out but only a very small amount & it wasn't high up inside at all.

It's really hard to pop the cup the right way once it's in. I get scared that I will tug it to hard and then the cup will just come out. So I just leave it in. My hubby does push the cup quite high and I only had a small amount of stem left out. When I do take the cup out, I do have a really small amount of liquid.
I've had a baby son while using the cup so I suppose what I'm doing does work.

Once the cup is in you shouldn't really feel it. You'll know it's in there. But it shouldn't be painful.

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rimx · 08/05/2023 12:37

TTCxox · 08/05/2023 08:16

I haven’t used the cup but when you said - I felt that all my hubby semen was leaking out of me when we dtd. Does anyone else experience this or am I just going mad. - I have this all the time after I have sex. Isn’t this completely normal? I read in a book it’s a good thing as that means he has a lot lol. I’ve been pregnant with my husband 6x times (4 miscarriages inbetween) and the longest it’s taken for us to conceive in each of those pregnancies was 2 months. I always thought it’s bcos he has a hell of a lot of sperm

It's reassuring to here that you feel the same.

I do feel like my husband has a lot of semen and when it was leaking I thought that my body just couldn't hold the semen and that it would just leak and then I wouldn't get pregnant. I felt as though all of it was coming out and that there wouldn't be any left for me to get pregnant.

When I had my son I fell pregnant after three month TTC. Two months I didn't use the cup and felt as though all the semen was just leaking and then on the third month after just using the cup once during my fertile window I fell pregnant.

I am TTC again now. It's month 1 for me. We have used the cup and I am 5dpo.

Hopefully it's my month xx

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TTCxox · 08/05/2023 08:16

I haven’t used the cup but when you said - I felt that all my hubby semen was leaking out of me when we dtd. Does anyone else experience this or am I just going mad. - I have this all the time after I have sex. Isn’t this completely normal? I read in a book it’s a good thing as that means he has a lot lol. I’ve been pregnant with my husband 6x times (4 miscarriages inbetween) and the longest it’s taken for us to conceive in each of those pregnancies was 2 months. I always thought it’s bcos he has a hell of a lot of sperm

Rayofsunshine22 · 07/05/2023 22:47

Hi everyone, so i've tried the cup again & it felt like it was more in the right position this time but again really hard to pop back the other way round. But when I came to take it out it had slipped right down. Has anyone experienced this? It did have some liquid in when I took it out but only a very small amount & it wasn't high up inside at all.