Over 40 ttc 2023

@Wen19 i had a private saline scan on the 9th and she said there was fluid in the place where it goes once ovulation has happened. That was cd 8.. then i had a positive cb on cd 18 and the usual cramps. Then 2 days lager the same cramps again. Ive started dhea tho so wonder if thats doing somthing. Says in perimenopause you can ovulate twice cos ur ovarys are winding down and is getting rid of the eggs lol ive been doing temping too. Dont set an alarm tho and a pretty crap sleeper so dont think there accurate. But i did see on google that you can adjust + or - 0.1 per half hour difference so blag it that way too lol its all bloody annoying lol @Sez281 did you get your testosterone checked? What dose do you take for the dhea?

We’re on our last try now. New drugs, Gonal F this time, was £400 just for that injection. Plus the other meds and supplements. We can’t justify spending this each month when the odds are so low. Keeping everything crossed but know we’re already so lucky as we have 2 boys already. What will be will be now!
also been told to not run or do too much exercise in the next couple of weeks - that’s going to be hard!

@Supertrooper101 Yeah is nice to know others in the same age bracket and same boat.. Totally agree with your doc @Wen19 I definitely feel more like I'm in my 30's but don't know if my poor eggs do! 😣😂 Have you tried the easy@home ovulation sticks? They're a lot cheaper than CB and just as good (I confirmed ovulation at exact same time with both this cycle just to test my theory) so I'm sticking with the cheapies for now. Like you I'm also spending a fortune on supplements and vitamins so I'll take savings where I can get them!

@Supertrooper101 paying for eggs? Bugger me I can barely afford the bloody supplements 🤣
how do you know you’ve ovulated twice? 😱 I didn’t know you could? Surly that’s good?
im not buying anymore cb after this lot because I’m becoming obsessed! And temping! I havnt had a lay in for 5 months 🤣 bloody setting alarms to take temps.
I really want someone to post some good news in here xx

@Wen19 you have brote the group back to life 🤣🤣...i didnt know i wanted another baby untill the mmc tbh. We conceived 1st try not even 'trying' . I use the CB sticks too. They can be really good, but really bloody bad for you when its stuck on flashys faces. When i finally get a solid face am usually like f off. Not bothered lol. I seemed to have ovulated twice this cycle which isnt a good sign age wise. Just waiting to come on. My period symptons are bad since the d&c. Before i was quite lucky but now cramping bloating nausea etc. . @Sez281 lol i think this one is more suited to our age lol i joined another over 40s ttc but they were all paying for doner eggs abroad and ivf so am defo not in that position money wise. The £400 saline scan was enough for us! My partner has his sperm test on the 20th. Its quite far away as the waiting list was stupid and we havent booked a room so gona wing it when we get there 🤷‍♀️ needs must and all that lol @MrsJonesey i would see the gp anyway,even just for your hormones checked so you know where your at x

hi @Wen19 !
my body hormonal levels also accord to -10 years so for sure believe that theory 😅

So sad to read of no success here lately.
I had a chemical in last cycle that made my 29days cycle into 44 days one.
Also struggled with CBAdvanced opk, due to small delay of CP I had 3 empty circles and 5 flashy smiles and this morning on CD 17 a solid static one :)

Hi all! I’m 40 trying to conceive #1. I had a MMC in October, now I’m waiting for my cycles to return and I want to try again in Dec/Jan.

Hi all, hopping on here if that's ok? Like @Supertrooper101 I've just turned 41 and ttc #1. I had a MMC in March at 8w2d, cycle returned to normal in May and I then had a CP in July. I have fibroids and possible endo which is causing a lot of pain throughout my cycle so I'm booked in for a laparoscopy and hysterocopy next week. I'm nervous about the surgery but also hopeful they will find out what's going on and put a plan in place. The consultant said we might do a couple of months ovulation induction and then go down the ivf route of that doesn't work. My OH is booked in for sperm analysis in 2 weeks but I think everything is ok his end as we've managed to conceive twice this year. Just need one to stick 🙏

@Supertrooper101 we are in the same boat 💜 only I’m 43. 🤣 (33)
im currently waiting to ovulate. Just done my clear blue advanced and had 4 days of blank circles. Feeling a bit upset about it as I usually have a flashing smiley by now.
@MrsJonesey don’t give up 😘 and massive good luck with the job interview! Usually when something like that happens it will happen haha. If I am making sense.
im so annoyed with myself for leaving it this late to try with my current partner but we wanted to be sure and financially good. (Procieve max is now seeing to our finances anyway 😂) xx

@Wen19 hi 🙂 , i need a dr like yours lol am 41 mmc in march, d&c and been trying since with no luck. Drs etc just say just keep trying.. age is kinda not on my side lol

Hi all, hope I can join. 💜 I am 43 (44 in jan) my OH is 34. We have been ttc since i had the marina coil removed in May. I have 2 older children aged 20 and 18. I fell pregnant in June this year but sadly miscarried (missed miscarriage) at 6/7 weeks and had a d&c. I’m taking proceive max and have done for 3 month now, omega 3 by procieve & raspberry leaf tea from cycle day 1 to ovu. I’ve also cut out caffeine, and alcahol. Just been to docs and had bloods done and going again on 20th for second lot.
I wish you all the best of luck! My doctor said to me that 40 is the new 30. X

Oh wow 6 :D
understand your worry, not even 10 would help if lining is not growing. Hopefully it still has time to thicken when ladies are ready to pop.
Must say, it is truly one of the sadest decisions in life to make, I have not accepted that age related matter myself. Still am used to being noticed and talked to and attention that one has as a female, but to truly have age related restrictions, brrrrr I hate that.

Had my scan today. Clomid has worked very well, maybe too well! 6 follicles are growing so potentially 6 eggs….Lining isn’t thickening though so maybe that’s why we’re having issues. Consultant is as confused as I am as to why it just isn’t happening when all the numbers etc seem good.
Another scan on Wednesday.
7 days to my 43 birthday…. We’ll have to make a decision soon as to whether we carry on or draw a line under it.

this cycle began with small illness, I managed to pee too much on my last CB OPK so it gave error message instrad of a smiley face I was already used to. So same day bought some random one where I had to interprate lines, gosh it was hard, at first I thought it was almost the same as testline but not fully sure, then this morning I retested and it was kind of ligther but again not sure, so just to confirm the drop I did one more this evening and now this was positive and darker than c stripe. So me being ill postponed ov by one day as always in my case. Happy that I found out, AF delay even by one day would have driven wild.

So by tomorrow I will drop my supplements and beauty routines not fit for TTC 2WW time.

That is generally good news then (as procedure was general :D )
I almost had tears of joy when good new regarding my check up came, before that it felt luke going to school exams without any preparation :D
I am waiting (not too eagerly as it’ s in Nov. ) swimmer test for DH.
last time it was after the initial results when the shock came due to 0% normal result. Next time it was 3^ already and very next we cancelled - already got my BFP :)

Thanks @MrsPepper82

The sonographer just said it was general checks to make sure nothing obvious was getting in the way of us TTC. She said all looked ‘nice and normal’ and that I will get results of bloody tests and hubbys swimmers at our follow up appointment next month.
I feel so sick with nerves!

As I am located in another country I can’t really tell much about your scan. Here I got ultrasound where visual check off egg amount was checked, measurements of uterus, how tubes look like, are there some myomas etc somewhere, additonally blood tests during cycledays 5 and 22 (as my cycle is 29 days) - hormones and general vitamin d, folic asid, ferritine, infections and much much more was checked.
let us know how it went!!

Hi all.
I hope you’re all keeping well.
I’m So nervous.
i have a scan at the fertility centre later today.
Does anyone know what they’ll be looking for? And if they’ll tell me anything today?

I’ve not really had any info from them, other than where to go!

forgut to explain more - I am taking some supplements that are not ok if (no, WHEN) pregnant, I do at home infrared sauna, radiofrequency treatment, IPL, EMS & vacum treatments that I should skip for half a month and last month I took test 9DPO (mega sensitive - 5 units hcg would be detected) and when that was negative I started those treatments again, but I googled lately that 9DPO BFN can’ t be trusted so now I will probably age rapidly over those non treatment days :p

@Hariboislife good luck to us this time!!
@MrsJonesey hahhahaaa i know boobs have names but even nipples :D that’s a new one.

This cycle I bought smart watch to track my temperature and pulse, I hope it will cover my need to teat too early. But I always am totally normal till 8DPO :D And now that I think about all those negative tests that are done just too early and end up positive in future - not even sure I can trust result to take medicine.

Induced period started today so starting Clomid tomorrow - back on the wheel as it were 🤣