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I tried to sway girl and it worked!

89 replies

Goodnewsday · 07/03/2023 22:40

I know gender swaying is so controversial but I’m purely posting this here for anyone who (like me last year) doesn’t know much about it and might want to give it a go. It’s just a bit of fun and doesn’t guarantee anything. Ultimately a healthy baby is all anyone wants, please scroll past if this is triggering in anyway to you.

We have a little boy already, who was conceived on ovulation day. I didn’t know anything about gender swaying at the time but according to the shettles/baby dust methods this would be likely to sway boy. This time we thought it might be nice to sway our odds the other way although would have been lovely to have either (and will hopefully have three kids so would be delighted regardless).

We tried for three months with a 2-3 day ‘cut off’ as the baby dust method suggests. So you have sex 2 or 3 days before ovulation, just one attempt on one day then stop. Clearly after 3 months this wasn’t working and the baby dust method suggests then going closer to ovulation but instead I decided to do a bit of the shettles method and try every day in row then stop and have the same 2 and a half day cut off. So we ‘tried’ three nights in a row then stopped.

It worked! I’ve had it confirmed this week, it’s a girl! 💕 Has anyone else tried it? Did it work for you?

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PurBal · 08/03/2023 11:08

I think it’s crap. I conceived my babies at different points in my cycle. One 5-6 days before ovulation. One the day of or after. I know when we conceived because we only did it once. And was temping. They’re both boys.

Caviarandgelatine · 08/03/2023 11:04

What have I just read 🤣

FuchsAndMöhr · 08/03/2023 11:03

Congratulations on your girl (which your gender swaying practices had zero influence over)

CorsicaDreaming · 08/03/2023 11:02

Biologically surely there is something in this?

X chromosome are heavier than Y chromosome (they literally are shaped like an X with additional sequencing)

So Y chromosome carrying sperm can swim faster and reach the egg quicker, and the X come along 24-48 hours later.

So if you can accurately predict ovulation and thus the moment the egg's surface is ripe to receive the male sperm, you can try and ensure it is more likely there will be more X or Y carrying sperm at the site at that time (as the Y ones will have swum down the fallopian tubes faster).

There are a number of variables, so it's not a foolproof method, but there's definitely something in it.

Lwrenagain · 08/03/2023 11:01

carriedout · 08/03/2023 10:49

It is not an interesting theory.

I worry about how people choose to waste their perfectly decent brains on absolute nonsense!

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I'm sure Dr Shettles would never recover from the heartache that you don't find his theory remotely interesting.

Palmfrond · 08/03/2023 10:58

@Lwrenagain
“I’m so intrigued with this, because there does seem 80% success rate in the Facebook groups etc.”

That’d be a self selecting group though, ie the people for whom it didn’t work would be less likely to report back when they realised it’s a load of bollox.

carriedout · 08/03/2023 10:49

Lwrenagain · 08/03/2023 10:48

I'm so intrigued with this, because there does seem 80% success rate in the Facebook groups etc.

I personally couldn't be arsed timing sex but it's an interesting theory, the shettles/babydust thing.

I have 3 sons and I'm pregnant with a daughter and I did conceive her days before ovulation, but that wasn't planned, I was just too tired to try during ovulation 🤣

I'm terrified about being a girl mum, excited but so nervous! Glad you're happy OP, it's lovely news x

It is not an interesting theory.

I worry about how people choose to waste their perfectly decent brains on absolute nonsense!

Lwrenagain · 08/03/2023 10:48

I'm so intrigued with this, because there does seem 80% success rate in the Facebook groups etc.

I personally couldn't be arsed timing sex but it's an interesting theory, the shettles/babydust thing.

I have 3 sons and I'm pregnant with a daughter and I did conceive her days before ovulation, but that wasn't planned, I was just too tired to try during ovulation 🤣

I'm terrified about being a girl mum, excited but so nervous! Glad you're happy OP, it's lovely news x

purpledalmation · 08/03/2023 10:36

It's always 50/50.

AllOfThemWitches · 08/03/2023 10:31

Totally surprised by the stories of people 'trying' for girls rather than boys.

Not.

timetosave · 08/03/2023 10:29

I feel like you're taking the p*ss with this post just to wind people up (seems like it's working!). Believe what you want to believe of course, but deep down surely know know this is nonsense! Of course you can't sway what sex your baby is going to be🤣

HoppingPavlova · 08/03/2023 10:18

Using this theory, basically most assisted conceptions would produce biologically male offspring. That’s not the case though, so this is twaddle. It’s a 50/50 basically but moreso influenced by sex chromosomes present in sperm.

SnowLemons · 08/03/2023 10:14

Katiex84x · 08/03/2023 09:28

Wow the comments 😂
Honestly some of the people on here are so rude.
If you don’t agree with a post, pour yourself a cup of tea, scroll past, have a lovely day.
May have worked, may not have worked, either way it doesn’t affect your lives so just get on with your day.
Congratulations OP 💗

You can't just go round saying something worked and then tell people they can't challenge this. That's not how science works.

BramleyAppleHotCrossBun · 08/03/2023 10:11

Did MN really just blame rape and abortion laws on someone who thinks they influenced the sex of their baby? 😂

TheLastChance1 · 08/03/2023 10:05

newtb · 08/03/2023 10:04

Many many years ago, either 60s or 70s, there was an article in Readers' Digest about this, saying the sex of a baby could be influenced by vaginal pH hence suggesting douching with bicarb or, presumanly, something like vinegar. Can't remember. The method was proved to work. Apparently.

I ovulated 2 days before I conceived. Had a girl.

Go figure.

My friends mum put lemon juice in her vagina as she read it killed male sperm - she got a girl but can't imagine it was pleasant Grin

newtb · 08/03/2023 10:04

Many many years ago, either 60s or 70s, there was an article in Readers' Digest about this, saying the sex of a baby could be influenced by vaginal pH hence suggesting douching with bicarb or, presumanly, something like vinegar. Can't remember. The method was proved to work. Apparently.

I ovulated 2 days before I conceived. Had a girl.

Go figure.

RoseApothacary · 08/03/2023 09:49

If this worked then surely boy/girl twins would be impossible.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 08/03/2023 09:46

Oh Dear 😂

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

TheLastChance1 · 08/03/2023 09:45

I'll be honest I don't believe in it but I did want one of each (wasn't too bothered really) and tried the "girl" method similar to you and did have a girl but knew it was 50/50 but just thought it'd be fun to try.

Congratulations x

BelindaBears · 08/03/2023 09:42

It’s not controversial, it’s just not a real thing. Congratulations that something which had a 50/50 chance of happening happened.

RegainingTheWill2023 · 08/03/2023 09:40

Katiex84x · 08/03/2023 09:28

Wow the comments 😂
Honestly some of the people on here are so rude.
If you don’t agree with a post, pour yourself a cup of tea, scroll past, have a lovely day.
May have worked, may not have worked, either way it doesn’t affect your lives so just get on with your day.
Congratulations OP 💗

It's not sbout agreeing or disagreeing, it's about the potential negative impact this sort of view brings.
Many women already feel overwhelming responsibility for getting pregnant, keeping that pregnancy, having a healthy pregnancy and and a healthy baby. And along with that responsibility can come horrendous guilt when those things don't work out.
Suggesting that we also can be knowingly responsible for determining the sex of a potential baby simply adds more potential grief.
It's an ill informed post that can add unwarranted distress, not hope.

Palmfrond · 08/03/2023 09:32

Katiex84x · 08/03/2023 09:28

Wow the comments 😂
Honestly some of the people on here are so rude.
If you don’t agree with a post, pour yourself a cup of tea, scroll past, have a lovely day.
May have worked, may not have worked, either way it doesn’t affect your lives so just get on with your day.
Congratulations OP 💗

It literally cannot possibly have worked!

I’m very happy for OP, and she did state that it’s in the spirit of fun, so, okay, but it is absolute nonsense. And I may be wrong, but I’m guessing whoever came up with it is somehow turning a buck?

AllOfThemWitches · 08/03/2023 09:32

Can't be 'confirmed' until you actually give birth.

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 08/03/2023 09:30

Happy for you but don't get your hopes up too much. I was told at gender scan I was having a girl and gave birth to a baby boy!

Katiex84x · 08/03/2023 09:28

Wow the comments 😂
Honestly some of the people on here are so rude.
If you don’t agree with a post, pour yourself a cup of tea, scroll past, have a lovely day.
May have worked, may not have worked, either way it doesn’t affect your lives so just get on with your day.
Congratulations OP 💗