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I tried to sway girl and it worked!

89 replies

Goodnewsday · 07/03/2023 22:40

I know gender swaying is so controversial but I’m purely posting this here for anyone who (like me last year) doesn’t know much about it and might want to give it a go. It’s just a bit of fun and doesn’t guarantee anything. Ultimately a healthy baby is all anyone wants, please scroll past if this is triggering in anyway to you.

We have a little boy already, who was conceived on ovulation day. I didn’t know anything about gender swaying at the time but according to the shettles/baby dust methods this would be likely to sway boy. This time we thought it might be nice to sway our odds the other way although would have been lovely to have either (and will hopefully have three kids so would be delighted regardless).

We tried for three months with a 2-3 day ‘cut off’ as the baby dust method suggests. So you have sex 2 or 3 days before ovulation, just one attempt on one day then stop. Clearly after 3 months this wasn’t working and the baby dust method suggests then going closer to ovulation but instead I decided to do a bit of the shettles method and try every day in row then stop and have the same 2 and a half day cut off. So we ‘tried’ three nights in a row then stopped.

It worked! I’ve had it confirmed this week, it’s a girl! 💕 Has anyone else tried it? Did it work for you?

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AllOfThemWitches · 08/03/2023 15:55

That said it’s absolutely not surprising that boys are generally second choice given the ‘all men are misogynistic monsters’ undertone on here

And yet, they're good enough to father our children. Go figure!

Moonicorn · 08/03/2023 15:48

Lwrenagain · 08/03/2023 14:29

Re gender disappointment, have you ladies ever seen some of those hideous gender reveals with visibly upset parents?
They absolutely break my heart, poor kids 💔

Yep. Awful! At least don’t capture it to live on forever in a video 😬

That said it’s absolutely not surprising that boys are generally second choice given the ‘all men are misogynistic monsters’ undertone on here 🤷🏼‍♀️

Moonicorn · 08/03/2023 15:46

OhhhhhhhhBiscuits · 08/03/2023 14:39

It can with NIPT testing.

Mine was wrong 😆 said I was expecting DD2 when actually it’s a boy! Had the shock of my life at the anomaly scan (and yes it was the proper NIPT via ultrasound direct, not the sneak peek thing).

Since then, there’s been quite a few posts about it being wrong!

Lwrenagain · 08/03/2023 14:51

AllOfThemWitches · 08/03/2023 14:34

Honestly, if you're going to be that disappointed with a boy baby of either sex, you shouldn't be getting pregnant.

Couldn't agree more.
Kids are a blessing, whatever the flavour 😁

Borgonzola · 08/03/2023 14:49

I conceived on ovulation day. Girl.

Isn't it the sperm that determines sex anyway? Or am I missing something

OhhhhhhhhBiscuits · 08/03/2023 14:39

AllOfThemWitches · 08/03/2023 09:32

Can't be 'confirmed' until you actually give birth.

It can with NIPT testing.

Saschka · 08/03/2023 14:37

ZeroFuchsGiven · 08/03/2023 11:17

Isnt that to deter spiders? Grin

No, boys play with conkers, so the boy sperm are so distracted they swim the wrong way and you get a girl! Result!

AllOfThemWitches · 08/03/2023 14:34

Lwrenagain · 08/03/2023 14:29

Re gender disappointment, have you ladies ever seen some of those hideous gender reveals with visibly upset parents?
They absolutely break my heart, poor kids 💔

Honestly, if you're going to be that disappointed with a boy baby of either sex, you shouldn't be getting pregnant.

TallulahBetty · 08/03/2023 14:34

Nonsense. And the scan might be wrong anyway.

Doggydooda · 08/03/2023 14:32

Katiex84x · 08/03/2023 09:28

Wow the comments 😂
Honestly some of the people on here are so rude.
If you don’t agree with a post, pour yourself a cup of tea, scroll past, have a lovely day.
May have worked, may not have worked, either way it doesn’t affect your lives so just get on with your day.
Congratulations OP 💗

This …scroll on by rather than be rude !

Lwrenagain · 08/03/2023 14:29

Re gender disappointment, have you ladies ever seen some of those hideous gender reveals with visibly upset parents?
They absolutely break my heart, poor kids 💔

Chat1354 · 08/03/2023 14:14

SchoolTripDrama · 08/03/2023 11:08

This is even more nonsense than what OP is talking about!

But gender IS a social construct. I thought on MN, of all places, many of us can agree on that. The bit about identifying as a gender still pisses me off but that batshit reaction to the construct (rather than continuing feminist principles by continuing to attempt to dismantle the construct) is here to stay for a while it seems.

AllOfThemWitches · 08/03/2023 13:34

ZeroFuchsGiven · 08/03/2023 13:20

TTC can be long and emotional so if this helps people focus on something else then good on them I say

Till they find out they are expecting a boy then the thread about Gender disappointment appears.

You're not wrong. Those threads are quite sickening.

Lcb123 · 08/03/2023 13:28

whatyoulookingfor · 07/03/2023 23:47

Gender is a social construct. How do you know what gender your child identifies as?

Also, this is nonsense. In case I wasn't clear!

This. And it’s 50/50. Pure coincidence

Twoinapod · 08/03/2023 13:26

@ZeroFuchsGiven but OP did say they’d be happy with either and that they’re just trying to sway the odds so I think they’re fully aware this isn’t a guarantee and we’re prepared that it might not have worked so wouldn’t have been disappointed.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 08/03/2023 13:20

TTC can be long and emotional so if this helps people focus on something else then good on them I say

Till they find out they are expecting a boy then the thread about Gender disappointment appears.

Twoinapod · 08/03/2023 13:10

Everyone is being very rude on here. There is some science behind it in that male sperm is faster and weaker whereas female sperm is slower but stronger. So theoretically if you give it a few days before ovulation then some of the male sperm might have died off. But it’s going to completely depend on each lot of sperm and which one gets there first. You might be able to tilt the odds slightly one way or the other but not enough to call it a reliable method.

TTC can be long and emotional so if this helps people focus on something else then good on them I say.

worried4698643 · 08/03/2023 12:49

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 08/03/2023 09:30

Happy for you but don't get your hopes up too much. I was told at gender scan I was having a girl and gave birth to a baby boy!

Same thing happened to my sister and one of her friends!

eatdrinkandbemerry · 08/03/2023 11:46

Well I'm part of a set of boy/girl twins so did my mum do a sway or a full on twerk 🤣😂🤣

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 08/03/2023 11:39

ZeroFuchsGiven · 08/03/2023 11:17

Isnt that to deter spiders? Grin

Male spiders, I think.

HowardKirksConscience · 08/03/2023 11:19

Katiex84x · 08/03/2023 09:28

Wow the comments 😂
Honestly some of the people on here are so rude.
If you don’t agree with a post, pour yourself a cup of tea, scroll past, have a lovely day.
May have worked, may not have worked, either way it doesn’t affect your lives so just get on with your day.
Congratulations OP 💗

OP came on to post rubbish, I can’t see a problem with someone pointing out that she’s simply wrong.

In fact I think people have a duty to explain the probability of conceiving a particular sex, so she doesn’t spread the rubbish about more …

ZeroFuchsGiven · 08/03/2023 11:17

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 08/03/2023 11:16

What about putting a conker in each corner of the bedroom? I'm pretty sure that does something or other.

Isnt that to deter spiders? Grin

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 08/03/2023 11:16

What about putting a conker in each corner of the bedroom? I'm pretty sure that does something or other.

PurBal · 08/03/2023 11:09

I should add we weren’t trying for a particular sex.

SchoolTripDrama · 08/03/2023 11:08

whatyoulookingfor · 07/03/2023 23:47

Gender is a social construct. How do you know what gender your child identifies as?

Also, this is nonsense. In case I wasn't clear!

This is even more nonsense than what OP is talking about!

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