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I tried to sway girl and it worked!

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Goodnewsday · 07/03/2023 22:40

I know gender swaying is so controversial but I’m purely posting this here for anyone who (like me last year) doesn’t know much about it and might want to give it a go. It’s just a bit of fun and doesn’t guarantee anything. Ultimately a healthy baby is all anyone wants, please scroll past if this is triggering in anyway to you.

We have a little boy already, who was conceived on ovulation day. I didn’t know anything about gender swaying at the time but according to the shettles/baby dust methods this would be likely to sway boy. This time we thought it might be nice to sway our odds the other way although would have been lovely to have either (and will hopefully have three kids so would be delighted regardless).

We tried for three months with a 2-3 day ‘cut off’ as the baby dust method suggests. So you have sex 2 or 3 days before ovulation, just one attempt on one day then stop. Clearly after 3 months this wasn’t working and the baby dust method suggests then going closer to ovulation but instead I decided to do a bit of the shettles method and try every day in row then stop and have the same 2 and a half day cut off. So we ‘tried’ three nights in a row then stopped.

It worked! I’ve had it confirmed this week, it’s a girl! 💕 Has anyone else tried it? Did it work for you?

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Palmfrond · 08/03/2023 20:06

CorsicaDreaming · 08/03/2023 19:55

@Palmfrond - but they say the methodology and data is impressive- they are just dismissive of linking it to Shettles work...

I just love the way modern western medicine dismisses everything as wrong just because it's not Western (acupuncture for many, many years) or we don't fully understand it yet (think microbiology and many women dying of septicaemia shortly after childbirth as surgeons would go straight from autopsy to examine them in the - not so distant - past...)

Whereas now, of course, western medicine knows everything about anything - and can protect this knowledge by scientific scoffing,,,

I'm not saying the OP got it right, I do think there's probability of a lot more to it than we currently know.

??? They say the methodology and data are impressive, by based on flawed ideas about sperm speed/motility or whatever it’s called?
Im not sure what your saying about western science either? Shettles and as far as I can tell everyone else cited in either of those abstracts are “western” scientists.

HiImTheProblemItsMe · 08/03/2023 20:04

Yeah shettles has been thoroughly debunked. I'm amazed people still believe in it. Also another one here who was told girl at 20 weeks but went on to have a boy! And this wasn't yonks ago either - he's only 3 now. Just keep in mind scans aren't 100%.

CorsicaDreaming · 08/03/2023 19:58

I've heard that levels of protein in diet can affect it - can't remember the full theory. More protein = more males produced I think 🤔

CorsicaDreaming · 08/03/2023 19:57

@Nimbostratus100 - I wonder if high levels of cortisol produces more boys?

CorsicaDreaming · 08/03/2023 19:55

@Palmfrond - but they say the methodology and data is impressive- they are just dismissive of linking it to Shettles work...

I just love the way modern western medicine dismisses everything as wrong just because it's not Western (acupuncture for many, many years) or we don't fully understand it yet (think microbiology and many women dying of septicaemia shortly after childbirth as surgeons would go straight from autopsy to examine them in the - not so distant - past...)

Whereas now, of course, western medicine knows everything about anything - and can protect this knowledge by scientific scoffing,,,

I'm not saying the OP got it right, I do think there's probability of a lot more to it than we currently know.

Nimbostratus100 · 08/03/2023 19:51

CorsicaDreaming · 08/03/2023 19:47

@Nimbostratus100 - interesting article in bmj...

www.bmj.com/rapid-response/2011/10/31/entrenched-misinformation-about-x-and-y-sperm

Misinformation agreed - I live to stand corrected and learn something new every day! - but also something weird about v long time to first pregnancy and more likely to have a boy...

also the age old belief that wars cause more male births..
the best theory I have heard about this is that more boys are conceived, and more boys are miscarried, but in a war situation, something changes in the woman's body to somehow protect more pregnancies, which would favour boys, as they are the ones that are lost more often

Dominoeffecter · 08/03/2023 19:50

Congratulations. It didn’t ‘work’ though but I’m sure you know that

CorsicaDreaming · 08/03/2023 19:47

@Nimbostratus100 - interesting article in bmj...

www.bmj.com/rapid-response/2011/10/31/entrenched-misinformation-about-x-and-y-sperm

Misinformation agreed - I live to stand corrected and learn something new every day! - but also something weird about v long time to first pregnancy and more likely to have a boy...

TeamBluex4 · 08/03/2023 19:31

seeing threads like these are so annoying brings back to me what a sonographer once said to me last year (probs even more bullsh*t but that's for a new thread!) Anyway, me & my partner have had 3 boys in a row then followed by 3 recurrent miscarriages, then our latest miracle (only 15 weeks old) is yes, another BOY!.. It's all down to a man's sperm end of or... who knows?.. could be down to the finishing position ;) was doggy style for all my boys that I do know!😂

Nimbostratus100 · 08/03/2023 19:05

CorsicaDreaming · 08/03/2023 11:02

Biologically surely there is something in this?

X chromosome are heavier than Y chromosome (they literally are shaped like an X with additional sequencing)

So Y chromosome carrying sperm can swim faster and reach the egg quicker, and the X come along 24-48 hours later.

So if you can accurately predict ovulation and thus the moment the egg's surface is ripe to receive the male sperm, you can try and ensure it is more likely there will be more X or Y carrying sperm at the site at that time (as the Y ones will have swum down the fallopian tubes faster).

There are a number of variables, so it's not a foolproof method, but there's definitely something in it.

No, there is nothing in it, this is total pseudoscientific gibberish

Nimbostratus100 · 08/03/2023 19:04

Twoinapod · 08/03/2023 13:10

Everyone is being very rude on here. There is some science behind it in that male sperm is faster and weaker whereas female sperm is slower but stronger. So theoretically if you give it a few days before ovulation then some of the male sperm might have died off. But it’s going to completely depend on each lot of sperm and which one gets there first. You might be able to tilt the odds slightly one way or the other but not enough to call it a reliable method.

TTC can be long and emotional so if this helps people focus on something else then good on them I say.

There is no science behind it, this is all completely nonsense

FrownedUpon · 08/03/2023 18:56

It’s a load of crap. Do people actually believe this is a thing?

UnaVaca · 08/03/2023 18:41

What a load of shite!

Palmfrond · 08/03/2023 18:39

CorsicaDreaming · 08/03/2023 11:02

Biologically surely there is something in this?

X chromosome are heavier than Y chromosome (they literally are shaped like an X with additional sequencing)

So Y chromosome carrying sperm can swim faster and reach the egg quicker, and the X come along 24-48 hours later.

So if you can accurately predict ovulation and thus the moment the egg's surface is ripe to receive the male sperm, you can try and ensure it is more likely there will be more X or Y carrying sperm at the site at that time (as the Y ones will have swum down the fallopian tubes faster).

There are a number of variables, so it's not a foolproof method, but there's definitely something in it.

Nope.

science thing

Palmfrond · 08/03/2023 18:38

Youdoyoubabe · 08/03/2023 16:28

Yeah this can work. We got a boy this way. Although before that we got a girl with same method. So I guess it works 50% of the time.

Husband was not impressed as for a boy you supposedly hold off until the perfect cycle moment whereas for a girl you go at it like rabbits. We were newly weds so that must be why we got more girls than boys!

Post hoc ergo propter hoc.

Google it. It’s pretty cool.

tworedtomatoes · 08/03/2023 16:59

Imagine if you did have another boy. Even if you never mentioned it to him you'd always know that you'd actively tried to have a different baby.

And now you're telling people you essentially got the sex you wanted (however you try to play it down). The opposite sex of your living child.

I find that really sad.

JackGrealishsLegs · 08/03/2023 16:39

Bamboux · 08/03/2023 16:37

This is a joke post, right?

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Came here to say this 🤣

Bamboux · 08/03/2023 16:37

Youdoyoubabe · 08/03/2023 16:28

Yeah this can work. We got a boy this way. Although before that we got a girl with same method. So I guess it works 50% of the time.

Husband was not impressed as for a boy you supposedly hold off until the perfect cycle moment whereas for a girl you go at it like rabbits. We were newly weds so that must be why we got more girls than boys!

This is a joke post, right?

prettyraindrops · 08/03/2023 16:37

I tried absolutely no methods and had a boy followed by a girl. It worked!

SleepingRedSnowBootsAndThePea · 08/03/2023 16:31

Youdoyoubabe · 08/03/2023 16:28

Yeah this can work. We got a boy this way. Although before that we got a girl with same method. So I guess it works 50% of the time.

Husband was not impressed as for a boy you supposedly hold off until the perfect cycle moment whereas for a girl you go at it like rabbits. We were newly weds so that must be why we got more girls than boys!

This you might want to study how valid logical deduction works.

Youdoyoubabe · 08/03/2023 16:28

Yeah this can work. We got a boy this way. Although before that we got a girl with same method. So I guess it works 50% of the time.

Husband was not impressed as for a boy you supposedly hold off until the perfect cycle moment whereas for a girl you go at it like rabbits. We were newly weds so that must be why we got more girls than boys!

SleepingRedSnowBootsAndThePea · 08/03/2023 16:25

Katiex84x · 08/03/2023 09:28

Wow the comments 😂
Honestly some of the people on here are so rude.
If you don’t agree with a post, pour yourself a cup of tea, scroll past, have a lovely day.
May have worked, may not have worked, either way it doesn’t affect your lives so just get on with your day.
Congratulations OP 💗

Lol!! So let's just ignore science and facts and pretend made up nonsense is valid? 🙄

Lwrenagain · 08/03/2023 16:19

Moonicorn · 08/03/2023 15:48

Yep. Awful! At least don’t capture it to live on forever in a video 😬

That said it’s absolutely not surprising that boys are generally second choice given the ‘all men are misogynistic monsters’ undertone on here 🤷🏼‍♀️

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@Moonicorn, I saw one recently where a grandmother let off a pink cannon, or threw something pink to trick her daughter who desperately wanted a little girl. I appreciate that her mum was a massive arse in that situation but that little boy will grow up knowing she was sad he wasn't a girl.
I'm a misery when it comes to gender reveals or baby showers though, they're just not my jam so I accept I'm not the target audience for that kind of thing.
Too much effort 🤣

Enn1234 · 08/03/2023 15:58

The replies on this thread 🤣
Congratulations OP!

CattySam · 08/03/2023 15:57

What a load of bollocks.