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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC November baby

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NatGee · 02/02/2023 16:34

I'm already out of the October 2023 window so if anyone is in the same boat, join along

CD2 of cycle 10 DC#1 let's go!

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NatGee · 06/02/2023 22:55

@Fallulah i am sorry to hear, that youve been sent round the houses a little. Any chance you can go private? You might be listened to a bit more and actually given what you ask. @Betsy21 good shout i do the same
@NamelessNinja hello! Difficult not to zero in on the goal right? Hopefully cycle #2 will be your lucky one baby dust to you

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Fallulah · 06/02/2023 21:48

@NatGee I’m 42 now. I’ve read the guidance for my area and I am too old, too overweight (although the more I read the less I think this makes as much difference as they tell you it does) and my partner already has a grown up daughter so we have no hope of any fertility help as far as I can work out.

I feel quite angry about it all as I had one ovary removed when I was in my teens (large cyst) and then had surgery on the other ovary in my 30s (same type of cyst). At that time I asked if I could freeze some eggs in case the ovary was lost/damaged but was told it wasn’t worth it. I explained this to the practice nurse in April 2021 when I’d been off the pill a year and she organised the day 3 test and ultrasound and told me to come back in September if I wasn’t pregnant. When I went back in Sept the GP said the nurse had ordered the wrong tests and sent me for the day 21. There just seem to be so many delays and waits and time isn’t on my side. Clearly the ovary is working but it’s just another barrier.

Betsy21 · 06/02/2023 21:42

Fallulah · 06/02/2023 18:47

@natgee When I came off the pill (nearly 2 years ago 🙄) I used the Clearblue digital sticks to track ovulation and realised that I get EWCM at the same time I got the smiley face to show a peak. I’ve not used them for ages now as they’re so expensive.

I have had two day 21 blood tests - one had to be done on day 22 because the hospital doesn’t work Sundays and one I had done on day 19 and got my period about three days later so I obviously didn’t get that one at the right time either! I phoned to find out the results of these blood tests and was bluntly told ‘you don’t ovulate’ which I don’t think is true - I just didn’t get the test on the right day. Got a Drs appointment next week to talk about this. Had day 3 blood test and ultrasound about a year ago and they were normal.

Sounds like we need to give it another go tomorrow then!

I had similar from my GP surgeries, I just went up and asked for a printed copy. Game me much more detail than the receptionists did. Good luck!

Mummymidwife33 · 06/02/2023 20:48

Hi all! Im 38, DH is 41 and we're ttc #3 for us both but #1 together. I have DD14 and DS10 so this will be a big change!

I'm currently CD15 1DPO on our 1st cycle. DH had his vasectomy reversed just coming up 4 weeks ago so I'm not too hopeful that there is even any sperm about but we can only try! The dr doing the surgery saw sperm on the analyser on both sides and said we have a good chance.

I track using OPKs and I think I'm quite familiar with my cycle. Last time I did BBT and cervical position etc and conceived 1st try but I'm not starting with that just yet. We DTD fri/sat/sun and will see if we have the energy tonight!

In my head I've told myself this is likely to take at least 6 months so hopefully I won't be too disappointed when it doesn't happen first try (I'm very obviously lying to myself but we do what we have to to get through lol!)

Im quite worried about being 11 years older than when I last tried and keep googling early menopause! I am almost 10 stone lighter than last time though am hoping that works in my favour.

Vitamins wise I'm taking high dose folic acid and vitamin d (prescribed) and pregnacare.

Maxime34 · 06/02/2023 20:36

@NatGee its so hard for it not to turn into a routine after a while isn't it. 5 times sounds like more than enough if you're hitting the right timing so I wouldn't worry about that. I'm CD8 so slowly approaching my fertile window so I'll be breaking out the LH tests soon, woopie!

Popsicales · 06/02/2023 19:43

Hi everyone. Hope it’s ok for me to join?

TTC number 3. First two are 4 and 5 and were conceived within 2 cycles but I was a lot thinner 🙈

I had my coil out on 28th Jan and happened to ovulate that day (confirmed with OPKs). However, I’ve been withdrawal bleeding ever since so don’t think there’s much chance of anything sticking!

hoping I get a normal period soon but doing OPKs everyday in the mean time!

NervousNoo · 06/02/2023 19:33

@NatGee NHS for now, we may go privately in the future but that will depend on what info we do or don't get this time round. Thanks for the tip, will definitely ask!

NamelessNinja · 06/02/2023 19:27

Hi all, can I join?
Month 2 of TTC #3, first not planned and second took 10 months of trying, I told myself I wouldn't get fixated on TTC again this time but failing already! CD 11 today.
Hoping this is a lucky month for us all 🤞

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NatGee · 06/02/2023 19:25

@NervousNoo of course, sounds like your gp is a very compassionate person which you dont always get. When is the SA this month? Are you doing it privately? We paid £150 for one and got the results the next day. if via the NHS make sure you get the full report so you can look at the numbers yourself. Wish you lots of luck, our bodies are very individual, you may be pleasantly surprised!

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NervousNoo · 06/02/2023 19:20

@NatGee I was always concerned my age would be the thing standing against us but when we went to the GP she told us about some things in partner's medical history that she says will most likely be our biggest hurdle. He was very premature at birth and that led to complications in early childhood and while we is fit and well as an adult the chances of those early complications affecting his fertility are really high (in her words if he has viable sperm it would be highly unexpected). He knew he was very premature but not about the other stuff. She was very kind but matter of fact in her delivery and that was appreciated and while we're both hoping for the best we both just want answers so that we can start to work with what we've got!

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NatGee · 06/02/2023 19:09

@Mummyme87 good luck and baby dust !

@Fallulah ugh isnt that just annoying, I wish GPs would stop calling it a day 21 test. Your bloods need to be done when your progesterone is at its peak which is usually mid way through your luteal phase. It won't be on day 21 for every woman. When I went for mine I was armed with that information. When I told the GP she just said "ah, yes". Would have wasted my time. Might be worth giving it another go? If you elect for a fertility referral, they will base themselves on your current results. Glad to know all your other tests were normal, its a relief right? Will this be your first? MaY I ask your age?

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Fallulah · 06/02/2023 18:47

@natgee When I came off the pill (nearly 2 years ago 🙄) I used the Clearblue digital sticks to track ovulation and realised that I get EWCM at the same time I got the smiley face to show a peak. I’ve not used them for ages now as they’re so expensive.

I have had two day 21 blood tests - one had to be done on day 22 because the hospital doesn’t work Sundays and one I had done on day 19 and got my period about three days later so I obviously didn’t get that one at the right time either! I phoned to find out the results of these blood tests and was bluntly told ‘you don’t ovulate’ which I don’t think is true - I just didn’t get the test on the right day. Got a Drs appointment next week to talk about this. Had day 3 blood test and ultrasound about a year ago and they were normal.

Sounds like we need to give it another go tomorrow then!

Mummyme87 · 06/02/2023 18:44

I’m in Cycle 19 of ttc #3. This is my second month having a short break from ttc as travelling abroad in October. AF is due 20th February and I’ll be back on it, and would be due 23rd November if we were to conceive in the next cycle

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NatGee · 06/02/2023 18:42

@LotzW oh well, looks like youll be making new friends then :) yes it does make a difference: you shouldnt drink or wee for a couple of hours at least before taking your sample. I have a little routine: get my lunch, do my toileting, then put my dog in her crate. When she wakes up I take my sample then.
CD9 and CD10 are a bit early to start testing generally but if youre just starting then it makes sense. Hopefully ypou wont have to do them for too long

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NatGee · 06/02/2023 18:38

@Chellooo avoid it like the plague, from now on, get all your facts from mumsnet :D if you haven't yet, read the impatient woman's guide to getting pregnant. Some interesting stats on conceiving as an older woman. I took a lot of comfort from it.

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LotzW · 06/02/2023 18:37

@NatGee I'm 36. Hubs is 39. We're fit and healthy. I guess it's just because we only thought we were ever gonna have one.

I've got some ovulation sticks and did one yesterday and one today. Levels seem to have gone down but I did them at different times and today's with very diluted urine. Not sure if that makes much difference?! I didn't use them when trying for my daughter as we got pregnant first cycle with a chemical and then got pregnant again on the next cycle with her.

All of our friends' kids are older than our daughter too and I don't think they're having any more 🤷🏼‍♀️

Chellooo · 06/02/2023 18:35

@NatGee hey yeah 1st child...I'll be 38 soon so have the never ending ticking in my head that I've left it too late, which is terrifying! The rabbit hole of Google is not a nice place lol

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NatGee · 06/02/2023 18:24

@LotzW what a sweet age and itd be pretty perfect to have a baby soon, that way youd be home with the little one while your daughter goes to school. How old are you if you dont mind my asking? I'm 38 and dh is 39. We've been ttc for what will be our 10th cycle. Had all our tests done (bloods, semen, stds, internal scan) and its all normal so now we'll be referred to a specialist which ill do privately as I can't hack the waiting times. We weren't bothered with children and took us a long while to decide to go for it. The longer it takes us the more frustrated I get - all our friends have had their kids (theyre teens now) now that the younger generation is having children its just making us feel like we missed a trick... Are you tracking your ovulation?

@Fallulah hello there usually ewcm marks the beginning of your fertile window, but not always. some women dont get much, if at all, and others get it multiple times in their cycle, not always indicating they're ovulating. Do you use anything else to track ovulation?

@NervousNoo helloooo! sorry to see you on this thread, I wish it weren't so! Glad youre going for your tests, if anything itll put your mind at ease. May I ask why the gp seems to think that? It doesnt seem weird AT ALL youre more relaxed: the pressure is off because its like youve been told there's nothing you can do. Bet you this will be month you conceive. its always like that, when you take the foot off the pedal, BAM. I too, felt really low when af arrived last time and had a good cry, which was a first. Baby dust to us both!

@Chellooo hi there! I am so sorry to hear of your MMC :( what a terrible time you must have gone through. Well done for taking the time to recover and glad to see youre back on it. Will it be your first child? Fingers crossed and baby dust indeed :D

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Chellooo · 06/02/2023 18:00

Hi ladies hoping to join... I'm on CD7, had a mmc last march and took a step back from ttc with just general life Chaos... thinking I ovulate this weekend so started testing with clearblue to catch the peak... fingers crossed for us all eh x

Fallulah · 06/02/2023 17:50

After some advice please… for the first time in months DH and I were together and not shattered at the right time this month.

Had sex Friday night and Sunday morning. Today (Monday) I have EWCM, but DH is away tonight. Have we done it at the right time or should we do it again on Tuesday?

Yet another young fertile person announced their pregnancy at work recently so I’m started to feel a bit like it’s not going to happen for us and want to make sure that we give it our best shot when we can.

NervousNoo · 06/02/2023 17:46

Joining in as October was not my month either. CD 7 of cycle 7 TTC #1. Last month's lack of success hit me harder emotionally than any of the months before for some reason. But we're picking ourselves up and dusting it off.
AF finished yesterday and I'm straight into my FW as ovulate earlyish (usually CD11). Feel oddly calm going into this month. I'm booked in for initial bloods on day 21 and partner has sperm analysis this month too. Some early indication from GP based on medical histories that conceiving naturally might not be on the cards for us and while gutted at that I also feel like it somehow takes the pressure off us this month compared to previous months, although that might seem really weird. Just going to DTD as often as we like and this will be the month I refuse the urge to test early 😂AF will come or not and we can go from there by which time we should have our results and hopefully some answers 🤞🏻 I'm trying to be very zen about it this month as my mental health has taken a battering with everything so far.
Sending lots of luck to you all, hope this cycle brings lots of BFPs for you all. X

LotzW · 06/02/2023 17:44

CD10 of cycle 2. My daughter is 4 and plan was always that she'd be an only child and now boom, we want another. I don't want the gap and bigger and I'm conscious of my age so hoping for baby dust soon 🤞🏼
What's your story? Xx

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NatGee · 06/02/2023 17:40

@SaltedChoco whoa that's a lot of juice. can you mix it with water and have it throughout the day? Thanks for linking it, looks like its got the good stuff (coq10, inositol, dha... and obviously folic acid) were you recommended this particular prenatal?

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NatGee · 06/02/2023 17:38

@LotzW hello - exciting times :) CD6 of cycle 10 here so a while to go for me. You?

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LotzW · 06/02/2023 17:22

Here we go again. Just entering fertile window.
Where's everyone else at?