So Cheryl Cole 39 said she's too old to have another biological baby

Cheryl Cole just said at 39 she's too old to have another biological baby.

The crucial word in that sentence is "she's". I felt the same, although tbf I had DD when I was 26 and felt that 30 would be my cut-off point. Just because some are happy to have children in their late 30's/forties, it's not everyone's choice because (shock), everyone is different.

I agree with her. I had one 24, 27, 32 and 34 and felt that was pushing it.

I agree with her I think. As someone who had babies in my 30s and 40s I now wonder whether I was being selfish even though it’s just how life turned out for me. I’ve since developed health problems (minor currently but may not stay that way) and I feel guilty that I likely won’t be around for my kids as much as my parents who had me in their 20s. So difficult to decide when’s best though. Health is a lottery. You may be fine, you may not but the chance of health issues goes up the older you are. Maybe she’s had MC or health problems herself

I'm 42 and pregnant and I agree with her 😆 it probably is a bit old! I already love my mini Mary though and definitely can't wait to see her. Surprise pregnancy!

I'm 43 and pregnant with my first!

@Emmamoo89 that’s a massive mistake, beating the crap out of someone but I’m sure she’s very happy that you ‘like her’.

I had my kids at 35 and 38. Both conceived immediately and both healthy.

However, I feel knackered. Personally I couldn't even consider having another. I already can't see myself having the energy needed in my 40s when my kids are young.

I was 37 when pregnant with dc2 and I know I couldn't go through it again (he's 18m now). I've had 2 children 9 years apart and my second pregnancy was so much harder than my first.

That's just me though, some women sail through it and, if it's your first, you've nothing to compare it to.

I just know that I couldn't put my body through pregnancy and birth again with my 18m old little hitler in tow.

@Trixiefirecracker

I don’t know why everyone quick to defend Cole. I can’t forget her racial assault on that woman. She’s a nasty piece of work and talks a lot of bollocks.

She was still a teenager when this happened, she was sorry about it, she paid the price for it, and it was 2 decades ago. People REALLY need to let this go.

Dragging things up from peoples past (and a long time in the past,) to try to insult and hurt them now, is pathetic, desperate, and unclassy. It says far more about the person dragging up the thing the person did, than the person they're hurling stones at!

That's your opinion. Everyone makes mistakes. I like her

Is that you Cheryl?
A. Yes I understand how surrogacy works, many women use donor eggs for surrogacy for a variety of reasons so yes, not necessarily their biological child.
B. There have been reports in the newspapers about her considering surrogacy, who knows if they are true or not?
C. You seem pretty judgemental yourself.

Interesting

There's a generational aspect here I guess

For my parents, parenting teens coincided with getting freedom back. Though they mostly put that extra time into a side hustle. They were a lot more energetic than lazy ass me!

She didn’t say No-ONE should have a baby at 39. She was speaking for herself.

Everyone has to make the decision for themselves about when they do t want to have any more children, within the realms of what is physically possible. For lots of women, they feel too old for it by early or mid 30s. For others it’s 40 or 45.

Feeling too old for it, isn’t the same as not being able to conceive or to physically have a healthy baby. She wasn’t commenting on the latter nor making a comment about what other people should do or feel.

I was 42 with my youngest - now a strapping nearly 18 year old!

Got pregnant with number 3 very quickly 6 months before I turned 39. Easy conception, easy pregnancy, healthy baby. Took a year to conceive my first child aged 31!

I had my first at 38 within 6 months of TTC. Perfectly healthy baby. Very straightforward pregnancy and delivery.

Had my last DS just before I turned 40. Pregnancy was fine. I had a chromosomally abnormal pregnancy at 39 which didn't make it past 5 months. I was definitely done after the following baby who is now 3. My neck, back and knees hurt and I just want a few years of sleeping at night before the menopause decides to play havoc with it again. My youngest is a absolute whirlwind so I'm definitely feeling it this time around 😅

Biologically it is old though. It may be possible but it's less likely and there are higher chances of miscarriage, abnormality, pregnancy complications etc. Then you'll be pushing 60 before the child is going to uni, maybe 70 by the time grandchildren arrive (or 80 if your offspring also wait until 40ish to have a baby). It's doable and probably very rewarding if it works out but a lot of women might consider it and think it feels "too old" for any of those reasons and more.

For full disclosure I had my youngest just a few days before my 40th birthday. Hugely rewarding and never regretted but if I could have had her younger (secondary infertility so 10 years between my two kids) I would have done.

She’s allowed to comment on her own situation, she’s not passing judgement on anyone else, not even mildly inferring it. There are some very chippy and unnecessary responses to a woman with a public platform discussing her own body and family.

Celebrities who make it seem easy to conceive in their 40s are given the same treatment and criticised for being unrealistic and irresponsible.

They can’t win.

We all make the best decisions for ourselves, thankfully that’s still allowed.

Each to their own. For me, it's too old. I wanted my children before 35 and despite fertility issues, I managed it. But if someone told me they were trying at 40, I wouldn't think anything of it.

First at 34, second at 39. Within month of trying. Had fantastic elcs. Only thing different was I didnt produce the same copious amount of milk and she gave up bf at 6m.
Now at 42 I feel too old...to commit to another 5 years of crap sleep etc. I just know I feel worn down. Maybe thats what she means, that level of tiredness.

39 is not TOO old. I think the oldest I would have had a baby would be 36-37, (just my opinion! ) but 39 is not too old.

I’m a few years younger than this but I also say I’m to old for any more

what I mean by this is Iv been parenting for 15 years now and don’t want to start over

I think it totally depends. I wouldn't want to be parenting a teenager in my fifties. There is the health side of things but also the social element. I'm just gaining a sense of being able to do things independent of my kids again.

Yes she'd 39 and probably feels to old for her