So Cheryl Cole 39 said she's too old to have another biological baby

Very common these days. Just tricky if you have any undiagnosed fertility problems because you don’t have much time to get any help.

My grandma did too - he's very nearly 80 now.

I think some people on here cannot add up. If you have a child in your late 30s or even at 40, you would not be bringing up teenagers in your 60s!

'At 39 apparently half your eggs would be deemed chromosomally abnormal.'
Ok this has scared me. I have a 6yr old, i'll be 38 in summer and considering trying for a second around my birthday but this has me worried.

Maybe it’s too old for her (especially with the age gap) i had mine in my 20s & now they’re a bit older i wouldn’t have another. I’m 38 & have been in my opinion “too old” for the past 3 years but it’s a personal choice & there are no guarantees of a healthy pregnancy at 28 as opposed to 38. My friend had her last baby (after a difficult pregnancy and premature birth the time before) at 42 with no issues.

good lucn

Had my 4th with no issues at 40. I had high BP but had pre eclampsia at 29 with my first. It was a very easy pregnancy and birth. I think celebs are mostly a bit barking so who cares if she thinks it's too old. I doubt she is an expert in the matter

Some women here sound old before their time- moaning about lack of energy etc and 'teenagers in your 50s' as if that's so awful.

My Mum had my sister when she was 37, and didn't feel old at all.

And some women have no choice. They don't meet the right man until their 30s and want to try to have a family.

IMO you either have your kids when you are young, often without having established a career, or you meet a man much later and have them in your 30s.

And that’s my point. There you go again. Please get some counselling.

I had my last baby at 40. (First two I was 22 and 33).

All were conceived first month, I’ve been very lucky, although I had two MC in between.

I would love another but I am 43 next week and I have huge age gaps on purpose as I have horrendous pregnancies with HG that even the strongest anti sickness drugs only take the edge off.

If I was to have another it would be when dd was 6/7 and more self sufficient as pregnancy renders me ill, completely useless to anyone and in and out of hospital - I’d be 46/47 which is a no from me.

40 was my cut off.

Bit nasty.

I'm the same age as Cheryl (Bar a few weeks). I'm too old to have a baby. Not physically too old- I'm fitter and healthier than I was 12 years ago when I had my dc. My eggs probably are too old though. But my experiences and outlook is that I'm too old to go back to sleepless nights and dirty nappies. My friends have babies and toddlers and I don't envy them one bit. I also wouldn't want to be raising teens in my late 50's. Everyone's different though and if I hadn't had my dc younger I might feel differently.

My mum had me, totally naturally, at 41!

On the contrary I think it says a lot more about the people who are fawning over her. Her career should have ended there. She was absolutely old enough to know what she was doing and racist abuse is not acceptable in any form.

For some people it just is, for me it would be and that’s not personal to you, it’s a decision you’ve obviously weighed up.

you are 6 years younger than my mother, I’m 32 and I have a 5yo and 3yo. I like that my mum is young and fit enough to enjoy taking them both on days out and having them for sleepovers etc when realistically she would be less able to do if I’d waited another 15 years to have my children.

Fertility has declined; higher risk pregnancies; older parents. You can, but it will be a lot harder in a lot of ways. It’s perfectly reasonable if some women decide it’s no longer an option for them.

What a hateful comment.

Are you that resentful of what pregnancy did to your body that you suspect others of trying to avoid the same?

Absolutely!

Notice too, she’s already had children.

Women who haven’t had any kids but are keen, are far more likely to try at an older age than someone who has already got 2 or 3. It’s about feeling ‘done’ - that can be what people mean when they say ‘too old’.

Clearly there’s a biological age where it’s impossible. There’s also an age when it’s unlikely to result in a healthy baby. Some have different parameters about if they think it’s worth trying at those older ages and what decides is ‘too old’ won’t feel too old for another. Within a certain range, there is no categorical answer to what is ‘too old’ but personal judgement about yourself. Anyone though,mod any age really ought to be sure they understand their likely fertility based on age and implications. They then make their own personal decisions based on that and their own circumstance.

Op, lots of women do have first babies at 39 and lots have 2nd or subsequent babies at that age. Lots find it more difficult to cinceive than they would 10 years younger or have more miscarriages or issues….but you know that don’t you. It’s impossible to know how it will work out for you. All you can do is try if you want to.
Will you be more tired as a mother to a newborn than a 25 year old. Probably yes. Does that mean you’re too old? Not if you’re willing to be tired and do what it takes,

Loads of personal anecdotes on this thread. Some women find 39 is tooold for them. It’s pop on to say they had theirs at 39 or older. Shows there’s no right answer and people including Op must make own choice.

Its not really a case of feeling too old. For many people it just is too old.

39 would have felt too old for me. I'm 51 and am relishing the freedom now that my DC are off and away. The youngest was a horrendous teenager and I would not want to be dealing with that into my 60s.

I agree, if you ‘can’t forget’ something (I don’t care what it was) that someone you don’t know said twenty years ago as a teenager and you continue to leap on mentions of that person on the internet so you can get angry about it over and over again there is something seriously wrong with you.

Seriously, @Trixiefirecracker, get some help with your mental health.

In 37 and feel that for me I'm too old. Absolutely could not be arsed with it tbh.

I conceived my youngest at age 40, while on the pill and after my DH had a vasectomy. Perfectly smooth pregnancy, perfectly healthy baby.

The statistics show that fertility and quality of eggs declines with age. There will always be people at the extremes of those statistics though. 20 year olds can be infertile or have babies with chromosomal issues, and 50 year olds can have healthy babies just depends on who/when/how!