What age do YOU personally think is too old for YOU to have a/more babies and why?

Exactly. I want to spend my ‘prime’ being able to travel a bit, go to nice restaurants, looking after myself a bit. Not doing the primary school run!

Everyone is different. How many joint replacements had you had by 30?

Probably around 46.

We stopped trying for our 3rd when I was 42.

I had had 4 losses in a row, including a tfmr and a missed miscarriage which ended in excessive bleeding and emergency surgery.

It just felt like my body wasn't up to the task anymore, and we wanted to concentrate on enjoying life with our existing kids. Three years on it feels like it was the right decision.

@alanabennett Speaking for myself, I want to spend the prime of my life doing lots of other things outside of motherhood/building my own life just for me, with my needs and wants in mind. Of course if I hadn't had children yet at early to mid 40s I'd likely see it very differently - it's all about overall balance, IMO.

About 35, I had an 'older' mum (and dad) and I didn't enjoy the experience as a child and surely don't love having a very dependant parent and 1 deceased parent in my 20's.

Realistically, it will be about 29/30 as I am 27 now with 3 already, wanting 1 more.

I think it is quite common to feel massively broody when you have a fairly new baby - something to do with hormones. I was trying to breastfeed/pump for a non feeding/failure to thrive, allergy child on hourly feeds and I had the most overwhelming urge for another (like you around 4-6 weeks)! The feelings were ridiculously intense - this was child number two and the feelings passed! 😆

I'm 47 (or is it 46? ) now and definitely well over and done with that stage of my life. It would not be right for me/us/potential child at all.

I loved having young children but I love having grown up children just as much, if not more!

I find these threads do interesting! Especially the posters that say they couldn't be doing with kids/teenagers when they're in their fifties. I'm in my forties but fifties isn't old! I'm just hitting my prime 😂

I stopped at 37 - I have two high/additional needs children. In my ideal world I would have had 3 children, but finances and the fact I have nothing left to give to another child (emotionally, mentally, physically) that I had to stop. I don’t think I’m too old (43) but circumstances are not right so two it is.

Goodness! How old were you when you had them?

35 would be a hard line for me personally

Ooh I find this thread really interesting.
I am early 20s hence the username and we’re TTC this year. Not shared our plans with anyone in real life, obviously, but worried we will face judgement / the assumption it was unplanned. Being younger makes sense for us and we feel as ready as we will ever be. Both come from older parents and want to make sure future DC get enough time with their grandparents and vice versa.

Not thought of a limit, I suppose it will depend, but I don’t think I’d want to be pregnant after 35. We’re hoping to have 2, possibly 3, DC and it would be great if this can all be our 20s. Like the idea of empty nest and more freedoms by 50!

I always said I didn't want teens in my 60s.
I had my dc at 37 and 40 - 3 weeks before my 41st birthday. That felt plenty.

To be honest, children were always a "nice to have" rather than a "must do". No burning desire for more than a couple.

I had mine young and wouldn't want anymore from now so my literal cut off is mid 20s. Had them very close together and I am content with having little children now, teens when I am in my 30s and adults in my 40s- personally I wouldn't want to get all that way and then have another baby to raise.
But as a theoretical cut off point I don't know- I have no idea what it feels like to be 35 or 45 and if I hadn't had children by then maybe I would still want to.

I had my third at 30.

Had money been no option - as we'd have needed a bigger house and cars - we'd have tried for a fourth a couple of years later, but we kept our senses and DH had the snip.

I wouldn't have wanted any more past early 30's, 35 max ideally - I definitely don't want to be dealing with dc or teenagers in my 50s plus like some of my colleagues are. I want to be semi retiring and off on cruises in my 50s not doing school runs!

Yes me! We have a loft full of baby things ‘just incase’ even though it has been 11 years since DC2 was born

I didn't manage to conceive and gave up at 40.
I didn't want to be arguing with teenagers in my late 50s and I didn't want to leave a young adult that still needs me behind when I die.
The higher risks of being an older parent was a factor.

I'm 32, this pregnancy has been so much harder than previous. Definitely my last

I had my last at 40 and I hate that my dc is still in primary school when I'm 50.
I've no
Opinions on anyone else. It's just my thing.
Personally, I wish I'd had my last at 38

I would quite happily have gone for a first up until mid forties if my career went well enough to pay for the help I needed.

I stopped at 42 after my second. Would have loved another one but had HG twice for the full 9 months and couldn’t go through it again.
No problems conceiving.

I'm not sure it's a particular age as such, more a sense of knowing when you have had your last.
I am 100% certain I want no more children despite knowing I have a few more years left to have one of I did want one putting aside the fact that DH has had a vasectomy to make sure we have no more!!

I knew I didn't feel finished after DS1, which was hard because he was a very much longed for IVF miracle so there was certainly no guarantee of a second. After my second, and since, I just know I'm done.

I'm 43 and would love another if we were ten years younger and earned more. But at my age and our wages it would be too hard.