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Anyone else TTC #1? Just looking for TTC buddies!

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kalixxx · 16/01/2023 09:04

Hey everyone!

Is anyone else trying TTC #1?

I think I’m 9DPO although my cycles vary from 28-34 days so I’m really not sure. This is my first cycle TTC so I haven’t tracked ovulation.

I took a clear blue ultra early digital test this morning and BFN, I’ve heard digitals aren’t as accurate, is that true? (The way the test was laid and how I was sat meant the ‘not’ was in the shadow so for a second I thought it just said pregnant, was gutted!)

Any advice on not driving yourself mad during the TWW? 😂

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Hotmalibu94 · 21/06/2023 11:35

8dpo and bfn but obviously super early so still keeping my fingers crossed!

Feel a bit hit by a bus today, super achy and feel like I need to sit down a lot 😂

Nmmck93 · 20/06/2023 21:36

@kalixxx every GP might be different. I’m not entirely sure mines would even do it but I do know some GP practices in my town do it for others. Fingers crossed if this month isn’t ours we can both get checked next month.

Yeah I don’t get EWCM either, but I also read that not everyone does though.

i usually pick up wee treats for my OH when I’m out shopping alone and set them on the table for him and always say ‘I got you some surprises’ so I could easily do that and announce it to him that way. I kinda have it all planned in my head for him 😂

Yeah my first month I was testing from 5DPO I wasted so many tests. Each month I hold out a little more, now I’m Cycle 5 I could easily hold out right through to 10dpo before I start to get the itch to pee on a stick lol 😂

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kalixxx · 20/06/2023 13:37

@Nmmck93 ooo really, I never knew this! Maybe I’ll contact the GP next month then to see if they’ll test to see if I’m ovulating. I don’t seem to get any EWCM which worries me!

Yeah I’d love to be able to surprise OH when the time comes, I want to catch him really off guard but I’m not sure how I’ll do it 😅

Oo that’s interesting, could well be a sign! I wish I wasn’t constantly hungry ahahha

I’ve found it easier to hold out waiting the longer I’ve been TTC, cycle 1 I was testing 7 DPO 😂 I think I’d probably wait if it wasn’t this spa day!

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Nmmck93 · 20/06/2023 12:26

@kalixxx yeah, I think they can still check your ovulating no matter how long you've been trying? It's just after a year they start doing in-depth and refer you to a fertility clinic?

Aww I ordered a good few a few months ago so I have them all in my little baby box, I want to surprise my other half also when the time comes 🙈 I would make your own account and and get them here for Thursday.

Aww really? The only thing I can say is im constantly hungry, which isn't like me but im not sure if it's just because I was sick with a bad cold last week and was off my food that im making up for it now lol.

Im not sure, I would love to just wait until AF but I know I won't hold out. Maybe around 10/11dpo I'll try my best to hold out though because seeing stark white negatives is soul destroying 🙈

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kalixxx · 20/06/2023 12:22

@Nmmck93 yeah I’d like to get some tests done as well to make sure I’m actually ovulating and it’s all good down there. Debating wether to private as we’ve still got another 6 months before the GP will see us.

I can’t find FRER anywhere, I also can’t find anywhere but Amazon that does next day and I don’t want to order them on OH account as I don’t want him to know I’m testing on Thursday. Praying it’ll be positive then I can find a way to surprise him! I should probably just make my own account lol.

I’ve had sore boobs but that’s completely normal for me at this time. I also did just feel randomly grossed out by the texture of the orzo I was eating for lunch, but I think that could be me symptom spotting 🥲

When will you test?

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Nmmck93 · 20/06/2023 10:40

@kalixxx also, I tried to temp but I couldn’t be persistent, it wasn’t for me as once my alarm goes off I have to get straight out of bed I can’t lay longer than my alarm so it just wasn’t for me lol.

Nmmck93 · 20/06/2023 10:03

@kalixxx I nearly always feel the pain, but obvs not sure if I actually release and egg, I'm considering making an appointment next month to maybe get some tests done just so I can be sure I'm ovulating.

I forgot to mention yesterday, I had to order my FRER from eBay, it's the only place I can actually get hold of ones. I have two left but I wont use them until I see a line in the cheap strips lol.

When are you testing?
I'm 4dpo today, hasn't crossed my mind for the last 4 days and not really bothered at the minute, don't feel any different if have any kind of symptoms.

Also trying not to symptom spot aswell though 😂😂😂

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kalixxx · 20/06/2023 10:00

@Nmmck93 I don’t always get pain every cycle from ovulation, although I guess I don’t know for sure I’m ovulating each month 😅 do you temp as well? I’m tempted to try it but I think it’s another thing for me to obsess over.

I’m not really feeling that it could be my month either. I think with each cycle that passes I can’t imagine getting a BFP. I’ve not lost hope, will just be amazed when it does happen!

Aw glad to hear this is your forever home!

Baby dust to you too, hopefully it’s both our month 🥰

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Nmmck93 · 19/06/2023 12:28

@kalixxx hopefully you don’t need to try next month! 🤞🏻
the dreaded TWW; I feel like I’m out already because 1. We only DTD 3 times through fertile window & after O day 2. I also feel like I maybe haven’t ovulated as I haven’t had the usual ovulation pains (I don’t think I have anyways)
but we’ll see. I’m 3dpo now. But going to just try my best to hold out until AF is due, whether I stick to it or not is a different story lol.

thanks you, so much better having our forever home and less worries. 💜

baby dust to you, hopefully Thursday is a positive for you x

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kalixxx · 19/06/2023 07:22

@Nmmck93 perfect, thank you! I’m definitely going to try next cycle! (Fingers crossed I won’t need to but who knows 😅)

Ahh welcome back to the TWW! It’s good you’ve got a busy 2 weeks, definitely helps keep the mind busy! Congratulations on your new place as well!

I’m 8/9 DPO today, I’ve had some very light cramping and sore boobs but that’s completely normal for me in TWW so can’t think too much into it. I’ll hold out testing until Thursday as I’m going for a spa day. Just need to find a FRER somewhere!

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Nmmck93 · 16/06/2023 14:10

@kalixxx completely forgot to say which one I went for, I’ve attached a picture. It’s the cheaper brand but has the main ingredient in it lol.

Anyone else TTC #1? Just looking for TTC buddies!
Nmmck93 · 16/06/2023 14:08

@kalixxx it's call Mucinex in the us so I just searched it on google and it's Guaifenesin in the UK. Going by what i read it's to help loosen mucus so that sperm has a smooth swim to meet the egg!

I'm O day today CD16 (later than other months) DTD CD 12 & CD15 with no pressure, we have planned DTD tomorrow to cover us but we have just taken the laid back approach and only if we're in the mood lol.

Aww how many DPO are you? I'm actually super busy during my TWW we finally moved into our new house yesterday so we have a lot of organising and decorating etc but my partner has told me I'm not allowed to do too much because he doesn't want anything to potentially affect implantation.

Would be great if in the one month we could get our BFP and moving into our forever home. 😂 I'm trying not to think about it or anything and just keep myself stress free lol.

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kalixxx · 16/06/2023 12:37

@Nmmck93 omg what’s it cold! I’m the exact same with chesty mucus because of hayfever! If it helps fertility I’m all over it as well 😅 where’s abouts are you in your cycles again?

@Hotmalibu94 it’s soo hard not to symptom spot! I think I’ve googled every symptom known to man in the last 6 months 🥲

This TWW is flying by for once! I’ve really managed to stay calm and not think about it too much! Ideally I’d like to just wait for AF but I’m for a spa day next Thursday so might test then. I don’t know if I’m being overly cautious by thinking I need to avoid heat and a massage if I’m that early in pregnancy 😅

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Hotmalibu94 · 15/06/2023 11:07

@Nmmck93 it's so hard isn't it 🙈 I keep thinking maybe I ovulated earlier as I don't test but I think thats unlikely from the signs 😂
I don't really suffer with hay fever which is why it's a bit weird but I'm fine now 😂 DH suffers something chronic with hay fever.
Oh that sounds perfect! Hope you can find some!

Nmmck93 · 15/06/2023 10:32

@Hotmalibu94 oh I've been there; I try to ignore everything until it gets to about 5/6 DPO and then i think 'this could be implantation' 'this could be me month' - but I was saying to the girls last month, did I always have these symptoms each month and just didn't realise before I started TTC'ing and now that I'm TTC'ing everything is noticed lol.

Oh if you have hayfever and are in the UK - it is unbearable, it has given me such a bad head cold so from my chest up I am absolutely sick.

I've been reading about a US medicine that people have taken and it helps thing the mucus of chesty coughs but also loosens cervical mucus and aids sperm to travel up higher in the cervix so I've been on searching a UK version of it and not only will it help with the mucus of my coke it might also aid me getting pregnant so I'm going on my lunch to buy some to give it a go. I'd try anything lol.

Hotmalibu94 · 15/06/2023 10:23

I'm already symptom spotting though at 2(max 3)DPO im sure it can't be anything real 😂
But today I'm feeling a bit sicky, was congested when I woke up which is unlike me and my toothpaste tasted weird 😂
In reality I'm probably just making myself sick with nerves about it all and just hay fever has finally got me or something 😂😂

But a girl can dream 🤞

Nmmck93 · 15/06/2023 10:20

@Bluebell0921 its so hard, I can’t think of making plans in the near future incase I become pregnant. My 30th birthday is in December & my OH is like ‘I want to take you away somewhere special or throw you a big party but I know if you’re pregnant you’ll not want a big fuss’ - I wouldn’t want a big party anyways so I told him just to book us a nice relaxing weekend away within Northern Ireland / Ireland and I’d be over the moon with that.

@kalixxx yeah, we’ve DTD once this week so far, my peak is today so ovulation within the next three days so my OH has said we have to do it tonight, Saturday and Monday to make sure we covered it 😂 but we moved house so have a lot to do so I told him we’ll see how we feel, I don’t want it to consume me.
i’ve also got the worst head cold and hayfever this week so I’m feeling bleugh already 😂

how’s your TWW going? 🙈

@Hotmalibu94 welcome lovely! 💜 I find the tracking of OPK and fitting in DTD the hardest part. The TWW is just more symptom spotting and waiting to an appropriate DPO to test or wait for AF! keep updated with your TWW.

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kalixxx · 15/06/2023 10:04

@Nmmck93 see as soon as we get that positive OPK we’re knackered and just stop doing it 😅

It’s nice taking a relaxed approach isn’t it! I’ve seen so many people say they got pregnant in cycles where they on managed to DTD 1 or 2 times so realistically I don’t think we need to be doing it all the time!

Really hoping for your BFP too this month!!

@Bluebell0921 ahh it’s though isn’t it! I love my job but a few months ago I found basically the same job but the travel wasn’t as far and the pay was slightly better, I decided not to go for it ☹️ it’s so hard not knowing the future isn’t it, if someone could just tell me when it’s going to happen it would be so much easier to plan 😅

@Hotmalibu94 welcome to the thread! 🥰 it’s super hard not to get consumed by it all when you start out so try your best not to test early and not get tooo consumed by it all in the TWW, easier said than done! Baby dust to you, fingers crossed it’ll happen quickly for you!

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Hotmalibu94 · 14/06/2023 14:46

Can I join this thread please 😁
Cycle 1 of TTC DC1 💕
I think I ovulated yesterday so on 1DPO now 😁 going to try and hold off til the end of the month to test but already driving myself mad!

Bluebell0921 · 13/06/2023 20:01

Hope you are all doing well! I’m having a mid life crisis at 32. I’ve been thinking about finding a new job opportunity and came across something really interesting but it’s maternity cover so if I went for it realistically I’d have to pause TTC. I really thought I would’ve had a baby by now. It’s so hard to know what to do, I don’t want to put my life on hold but also don’t want to find myself finding out I can’t conceive in 2 years time and wishing I’d prioritised having a baby. Why is it so hard being a woman?

Nmmck93 · 12/06/2023 12:48

@kalixxx hey, aww after our positive test we would always squeeze in doing the deed after the positive test aswell.

Realistically if we where going to plan DTD we would have had to of done it last night as we where planning to do every other day but we where both exhausted yesterday and he was on nightshift last night and we didn't and I don't feel bad for it.

I'm due to ovulate Wednesday / Thursday he literally said to me as I left for work this morning that he feels we need to do it tonight and I said 'we'll just see how we fell later, let's not force it'

This month is just the laid back approach for us lol. Im still tracking with OPKs just to be sure lol.

Aw keep us updated on your TWW! Hoping for a positive for you. Lots of baby dust.

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kalixxx · 12/06/2023 09:24

@Nmmck93 oh that’s strange then!

We’ve tried to do the same this month, just DTD because we want to not because we feel like we have to!

I thought I’d googled everything to do with TTC however I got something wrong. I thought you ovulate within 24 hours of a positive test not 1-3 days! So we’ve been DTD as much as we can in the run up and then we’re exhausted so take a break for a few days after I get my positive result! 😅 I got my peak on Friday and we DTD Saturday and yesterday, fingers crossed this is what’s been going wrong for us so far!

How are you doing? 🥰

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Nmmck93 · 08/06/2023 14:46

@kalixxx no actually haven't, been taking the same supplements for 3 months now. Was so weird, I'm fertile window starts Sunday and predicted Ovulation on Thursday (CD15) but I think ovulation day will be Wednesday as the past two months it's been CD14.
So we've sortve just pre scheduled the evenings of every other day if we're in the mood. We're not forcing this month either, just going with the flow. I'm knackered with packing and moving and still not done officially until next Thursday lol.

Keep us updated with how things are going when you hit your TWW. I always finding the tracking ovulation the hardest and most stressful lol.

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kalixxx · 08/06/2023 14:42

@Nmmck93 oh that’s strange! Have you started any new supplements? I think they can mess with your cycle sometimes (even though they say they won’t!)

@Bluebell0921 I got a flashing smiley last night which was unexpected because it’s a few days earlier than normal. Me and OH were knackered so we didn’t DTD, we’re trying not to force it this month and more go with the flow. I won’t be too mad if it doesn’t happen this month as we’re going on holiday with family next month so will be nice to enjoy the holiday with a drink and not need a 10 day excuse why I can’t drink 😅😂 It’ll also be fertile week when we’re away so we’ll have plenty of time!

Glad to hear you’re enjoying taking a break! Hopefully this is just what you need to come back to it feeling refreshed!

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Bluebell0921 · 06/06/2023 19:55

Hello all, how are we doing? Some of you must be gearing up for your fertile window @kalixxx ? I mentioned I’m taking a break this month I must say it’s been so nice just forgetting about it, it’s made me realise how consuming it can be. I had EWCM earlier and all of a sudden thought “wait am I in my fertile window?!” I’m digging out the condoms! Haha.