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Anyone else TTC #1? Just looking for TTC buddies!

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kalixxx · 16/01/2023 09:04

Hey everyone!

Is anyone else trying TTC #1?

I think I’m 9DPO although my cycles vary from 28-34 days so I’m really not sure. This is my first cycle TTC so I haven’t tracked ovulation.

I took a clear blue ultra early digital test this morning and BFN, I’ve heard digitals aren’t as accurate, is that true? (The way the test was laid and how I was sat meant the ‘not’ was in the shadow so for a second I thought it just said pregnant, was gutted!)

Any advice on not driving yourself mad during the TWW? 😂

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Nmmck93 · 18/08/2023 15:51

@Bluebell0921 aw that's great to hear lovely! I've started looking for new jobs at the minute aswell to try and get into something permanent.
I'm kind of dreading the few months break now that my last few DPO days are coming up.

@kalixxx don't be disheartened yet hun. Still a few more days to go! Hoping for that BFP for you 💜

I was doing great, wasn't symptom spotting or nothing until yesterday evening until I had a few hours of SEVERE lightning crotch that I don't think I have ever experience (I had to google sharp shorting pains in vagina) 🙈

So o put a post on MN and someone said she got it with her pregnancies at 8dpo and tested positive on 9DPO - so I'm 9dpo today and I tested this morning and was greeted with a BFN. Not putting myself out yet though 🤞🏻

Having really bad leg & backache today & also really muffled ears. Just going to test daily now until AF shows up because it'll be last run of POAS until December / January 🙈 xx

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kalixxx · 18/08/2023 15:46

@Nmmck93 hey! I’m so sorry to hear you’ve not been feeling 100% mentally ☹️

You sound like you’ve managed to DTD enough to give you a good chance this month! If it’s not the month at least you can take the next 3 to chill out and reset!

I’m probably 11/12 DPO. I felt really faint earlier when round my mums and she asked if I’m pregnant. I had nooo desire to test until that moment so when I left I went out and got a boots early test, BFN ☹️ I was fully expecting a BFN this month but I’m sick of staring at negative tests month after month now!

Keeping everything crossed that this is your month!

@Bluebell0921 Ahh good luck for starting your new job! It’s so nice to have things to look forward to as well, a December holiday is a great idea!

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Bluebell0921 · 12/08/2023 08:31

@kalixxx so sorry to hear your dad is unwell. Remember it only takes one time. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@Nmmck93 it sounds like you’ve given yourself a really good chance this month. Sorry to hear things are feeling difficult though. It sounds like you’ve got a good plan for the next few months though.

I’m really enjoying the break. I’m not sure when I’ll start TTC again. I start my new job soon and we’ve booked an amazing holiday for Dec. So maybe Jan? It might depend on how work is going. I feel like I’ll just go with the flow and see how I feel in the NY.

Nmmck93 · 10/08/2023 11:09

@kalixxx hi lovely!
I've been struggling mentally, a lot of different factors but managed to DTD CD 7. 13 & 14 - caught my highest peak I've ever gotten on CD14.
Think I ovulated yesterday then due to pains and dropping right down to 0.09 today CD16 - might squeeze in DTD tonight.

We used preseed & fertiliy cup this month again but actually used the cup correctly this time.
We're both taking pregnacare & wellman conception - so we did what we could and now 1DPO and in the TWW.

I'm so sorry to hear you dad is still unwell, & the stress it causes you. I went through it with my dad at the end of April when he took a stroke and was in hospital for 2 months so I can understand you with the stress and trying to TTC! 💜

I'm kind of looking forward to this 3 month break that we've planned & if I don't get my BFP this month i get to enjoy my holiday next month without worrying about TTC. We're starting back up in December then. Throughout the 3 month break we'll still be taking all the vitamins we need just so our body soaks them all up.

I've been trying to read tips on what to do during TWW to aid implantation but nothing jumps out at me. I've upped my water intake in the last few days though as I would be someone who doesn't drink a lot of water 🙈

What DPO are you now?

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kalixxx · 10/08/2023 11:03

@Nmmck93 how have you been? 🩷

Due to the stress of my dad being unwell we’ve only managed to DTD once in my fertile window, maybe twice but as I haven’t tracked ovulation I’m not sure if it counts. Not holding any hope for this month which is making the TWW a lot easier.

@Bluebell0921 how’s the break from TTC doing? Have you decided when you’ll start again? 🩷

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kalixxx · 28/07/2023 09:55

@Nmmck93 Fingers crossed we can go through the TWW together this time! I didn’t use OPKs last month but think I’ll be picking them back up this month 😅

Thank you 🥰 hopefully he’s on the mend now!

Yeah that’s a good idea! I was with a friend yesterday who’s cousin has just told them she’s pregnant after literally just being told they might struggle as she doesn’t ovulate every month!

Ahh yeah that makes sense, he’ll have some time to mentally prepare for it as well if he’s not really up for it 😅 I think in a couple months time we’ll pay for my partner to have a spree test. I’m also considering speaking to my GP as I’ve noticed my periods for the last few months have had quite large clots which wasn’t normal for me!

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Nmmck93 · 27/07/2023 16:19

@kalixxx awww hopefully I have you in the TWW with me this cycle lol. (That's if I don't peak as early as last month) 🙈

Aw I'm sorry to hear about your dad! Hope all is okay! 💜

Yeah, I'm going to wait until the letter arrives that they sent out so I can see if they give me a breakdown and then ring and be like 'well it's not exactly clear if I ovulated so I'm hoping I could get some more info on that' kinda thing.

Yeah he was going to book but I kinda told him I'd rather wait until after our few months break becuse there's no point in getting tested when we're not trying because his tests could be find but when we pick back up things might have changed if you get me. So probably gunna book and get him tested in January 🤞🏻

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kalixxx · 27/07/2023 16:15

@Nmmck93 hey! AF came for me on Monday so we’re almost in sync now! I wasn’t surprised at all so it’s on to cycle 8 🙄

My dads been really ill so thinking of TTC has taken a back seat but we’ll still give it a go this month.

Starting to feel a little bogged down with it now, really would have thought it would have happened by now ☹️

Glad to hear your results are all good! Could you try and speak to the doctor again go get a little more info? Did you manage to get your partner to go for the sperm test?

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Nmmck93 · 26/07/2023 13:52

AF Arrived today which meant this month was only a 26 Day cycle 🙄
also got results back from doctors and he read them out in the phone and said they are all ‘normal’ - I just don’t know which test would have confirmed ovulation and does ‘normal’ mean I ovulated. So confusing.

@kalixxx hows things?

Nmmck93 · 25/07/2023 09:51

Just an update; 14dpo today and AF due tomorrow but since last night had AF cramps and today I’m spotting so I’m out & no doubt she’ll be here in full flow in the next few hours / tomorrow. I prepared myself for AF coming so I’m not particularly sad.
I get my results from doctors Thursday / Friday.

onto the next cycle before our break so let’s hope a miracle occurs 🤞🏻

good luck to all moving into a new cycle 💜

Bluebell0921 · 21/07/2023 21:16

@kalixxx @Nmmck93 I’m sorry to hear about your BFN ladies. @kalixxx sorry to hear you’ve been poorly as well. I’ve heard a lot of people say that after having covid! I deffo agree it’s so much more stressful for women. The men can just forget about it and enjoy all the sex.

@Nmmck93 totally get what you mean about the wedding. I feel like having a plan of when you’ll have a break will make you feel like you have a bit more control. That’s how I feel at the moment that I’ve just got a bit more control over my life. I don’t think I’ll have a break for ages either. Maybe until Jan.

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kalixxx · 21/07/2023 15:29

@Nmmck93 ahhh I’m so sorry you also had a BFN ☹️

It really is draining to keep getting negatives isn’t it, especially when the whole world seems to be falling pregnant at the moment, maybe that’s just everyone I know but it feels like the whole world! Of course fingers crossed next month will be your month but if not a break will definitely help mentally. You’ll also hopefully have some answers from the doctors by then as well!

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Nmmck93 · 21/07/2023 12:52

@kalixxx yeah, tested this morning and BFN. I had line eyes on the easy @ home test but deffs was just line eyes, boots early response was a negative too.

Aw sorry to hear that you got a BFN also. It’s really draining me now with the BFNs.
we’re giving it another go in august, but I’m bridesmaid in July next year and I don’t want to be a full 9 months pregnant so I’m trying to work out what months now I’m going to have to take a break and I think it’ll be September, October & November & then restart in December.

@Bluebell0921 the break sounds like it’ll help mentally so I’ll also be taking a break soon as stated before. Think it’ll do me the world of good if I’m honest. 🙈 I’m also on a job hunt soon for September so it’ll give me something to focus on.

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kalixxx · 21/07/2023 07:49

@Nmmck93 ahh that’s really good that they’re organising tests for you and your partner, hope you’re able to persuade him first 😂

Have you tested yet this morning?

I tested and had a BFN, I was expecting it though. I was ill a little whilst on holiday so I suspect I may have ovulated later than expected and I think we probably completely missed it this time! (My immune system is terrible and I’m ill every other month at the moment! Seems to be after having Covid at the start of last year!). Although I expected it I’m of course still gutted though ☹️. My boobs still aren’t sore and I’ve not had any pre AF headaches so definitely think I’ve ovulate late and AF won’t arrive still next week.

@Bluebell0921 when I first started TTC and read about people taking breaks I didn’t understand it but now I’m completely get it, it really starts to take its toll emotionally doesn’t it! I’d be inclined to take a break for a few months however my partner isn’t keen and just sees it as wasted time. Think it’s definitely more emotional for women! 🥲

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Bluebell0921 · 19/07/2023 19:45

@kalixxx @Nmmck93 hello both. Just checking in. I have had a scroll through your messages.

@kalixxx keeping my fingers crossed for you that AF doesn’t show.

@Nmmck93 are you feeling a bit better knowing that the GP is doing some tests?

I’ve gotta be honest stepping away from TTC has made me realise how stressed I was getting about it. It’s so hard not to be consumed by it. I kinda feel a bit of relief that I’m pausing it for a bit. I just feel I had no idea before going into TTC how overwhelming it can be.

Nmmck93 · 19/07/2023 17:46

@kalixxx aw it’s great having something to look forward to.

appointment was good; I couldn’t get bloods done today as it’s only CD18 so I’m back on Friday to get them done to get them done and get swabs done. He said once the results are back he’s going to refer me to fertility clinic if needs be and he was my partner to get a semen analysis check so have to talk him round to getting that done - which will be tricky as he doesn’t go near doctors and is a very private person 🙈 so hoping to have some answers next week.

i’m 8dpo today & my boobs ache abit but the cramping is continuous - I did test this morning and negative. Doctor has asked I test Friday morning with FMU as by the time I get in for bloods it’s 2pm and urine will be diluted by then.

fingers crossed AF doesn’t show for you x

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kalixxx · 19/07/2023 17:22

@Nmmck93 aw amazing!! We’ve got another holiday booked in September as well, it’s really nice having something to look forward to after summer!

How did the appointment go today?!

AF is due Saturday for me and so far I have no symptoms except that my boobs don’t hurt, not sure if that counts as a symptom 🤣 but they’d usually be hurting by this point and so far nothing, not sure if that means anything!

I’m going to hold out till Friday to test I think!

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Nmmck93 · 17/07/2023 12:25

@kalixxx yeah I know it goes by so fast!
My OH has booked us a holiday in September to turkey as a surprise for my 30th (it's in December so it's an early surprise) & I can't wait to get away again 🙈

Yeah on the phone this morning when making my appointment they asked a brief despcription and I just said I'm TTC and having some pains and some mid cycle bleeding as on the day of my peak I started bleeding that night through until lunchtime next day which is so weird for me. My partner said I should tell the doctor I've been trying nearly a year as doc might be more inclined to test to see if I'm ovulating just so I know. Unsure what to do, appointment is at 2:30 Wednesday. I am going to write down on paper everything about my cycles so I don't forget nothing 🙈

Yeah try and hold out as much as you can. My easy @ home tests arrived yesterday and im trying to hold out as im only 6DPO but when I go to docs I'll be 8dpo and they'll deffs dip my urine then for pregnancy so I won't feel the urge to test again until AF is late or on the day of AF lol.

Keep updated when you test 💜

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kalixxx · 17/07/2023 09:48

@Nmmck93 it was lovely, thank you! Shame it goes by so quickly and then it’s back to work 🥲

I didn’t get any pains, I don’t seem to get them every cycle, hoping that’s not a bad thing! I can’t remember how many DPO it was but I had some very slightly pink discharge, but so slight I kept looking at it like am I imagining this 😅

Oh how strange! Do you think you could mention you’ve been trying a while to see if they can check if you’re ovulating?

I have 2 tests but they’re only cheap ones so won’t be testing till Friday when I’ll be 12/13 DPO (I think!)

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Nmmck93 · 16/07/2023 13:16

@kalixxx hello darling, hope you had a lovely relaxed time away 💜
did you get an ovulation pains to kinda gauge when you ovulated?

I’ve had an awful cycle, I got my peak on CD10 which is 6/7 days earlier than expected so we DTD on CD10 & CD12 - since CD9 I’ve had cramping in the right ovary area, I’m now 5dpo ish and pain is continuing. I’m still tracking OPKs until AF just incase I peak again. I’ve been so tired aswell.

I don’t have any tests until about Wednesday or so, which means I won’t be super early testing 🙈 but I’m making a doctors appoint for Wednesday just to try get the pains checked out as it could possibly be a cyst which would correspond with pains previous cycles 🙁

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kalixxx · 16/07/2023 12:01

Hey everyone!

Sorry I’ve also been MIA, I’ve just come back from holiday and really tried to forget TTC whilst away. It was fertile week but I didn’t track and I think we only managed to DTD twice during that time, staying in a villa with other family wasn’t very convenient! Not holding out hope for this month.

I expect I’m 7/8 DPO today.

How are you all doing? 🥰

@Bluebell0921 congratulations on the new job, that’s brilliant news!

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Nmmck93 · 10/07/2023 21:10

@Bluebell0921 hi hunny, sorry I’ve been abit MIA. Been having a weird time of it.
Congratulations on your new job. 💜 just do what’s right for you. I hope to see you around the threads if you do take a break!

AF came and gone; 1 day really heavy and then very very light for 3 days. Was weird because I usually am always in such pain on the heavy day of AF and days leading up I get such sore breasts but I didn’t have that. So I didn’t think anything of it.

i’m CD 10 now and last night when I went to the bathroom I wiped and had blood, this carried on through the night and disappeared today but my OPKs where rising from yesterday and just got a blazing positive this evening - looks like I’ll be ovulating early.
DTD earlier and tried using the fertiliy cup and preseed but couldn’t work the cup and ended up pulling a lot of it out with the cup which proper disheartened me just hoping some got right up in.
just going to keep OPK’ing for the next week or two to make sure today was peak day. Hoping to give BD’ing another go tomorrow just to cover incase I ovulate overnight lol.

Bluebell0921 · 08/07/2023 08:27

Hello ladies.

how are you all doing?

I’ve been on such a rollercoaster of emotions over the last few weeks but I feel I have come out the other side. I’ve been offered the new job which I have accepted! As it’s part of the same organisation I am still entitled to maternity pay but I think I may take a break until after Christmas from TTC. I haven’t quite decided yet but I’m really excited about this new job. Lots of opportunities and I just really want to get stuck in. It feels exciting!

hope you are all doing well xx

dormicumema · 04/07/2023 14:24

@Nmmck93 folate is the same as folic acid! There is 200mg, the best would be to take 400mg daily while ttc and first trimester!
I read about some active form of folates (5-methyl something but I could be wrong) and how some women have trouble when ttc due not able to get the folates from normal vitamins, can't apsorb it So I ordered some of those! Fingers crossed myoinositol does something this month for you!! Let us know!
@kalixxx im somewhere 8 dpo, Honestly don't feel anything so not sure about this month. Me and DH have an agreement when summer ends to dig into fertility testing, maybe by September ill call my gp for blood test, had usg in January and pap smear which were good, I was then CD 12 and dominant follicle was seen on it, ovulated on CD 18 so hopefully it means I do ovulate.

Nmmck93 · 04/07/2023 10:39

@kalixxx once I knew my test was negative at 12/13dpo I prepared myself for AF and enjoyed my weekend lol.

I’m off work in 2 weeks which is near the end of my predicted fertile week so I’m ringing doctors then as I can’t get in when I’m working so hopefully I’ll be seen. I’ll keep updated. 💜

i was actually thinking of ditching the OPKs this month, but I think I’d be too anxious not using them and making sure I caught my peak but have read success stories that people conceived when they didn’t track and relaxed. So maybe I should just put them aside this month. 🙈

I would take the fertilily if you have one, I’m waiting on mine arrive aswell this month.

i’m bridesmaid in July next year and I’m trying to work out which months to take a break from TTC as I don’t want to be a full 9months pregnant at the wedding 🙈 I think I have to take a break September and October if I’m correct lol.