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Anyone else TTC #1? Just looking for TTC buddies!

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kalixxx · 16/01/2023 09:04

Hey everyone!

Is anyone else trying TTC #1?

I think I’m 9DPO although my cycles vary from 28-34 days so I’m really not sure. This is my first cycle TTC so I haven’t tracked ovulation.

I took a clear blue ultra early digital test this morning and BFN, I’ve heard digitals aren’t as accurate, is that true? (The way the test was laid and how I was sat meant the ‘not’ was in the shadow so for a second I thought it just said pregnant, was gutted!)

Any advice on not driving yourself mad during the TWW? 😂

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kalixxx · 07/11/2023 11:39

Hey everyone!

Sorry I've been checking mumsnet a lot less, been really chilling out with TTC recently (still trying, but not obsessing!)

I'm currently on CD16, I stopped using OPKs but started to again randomly yesterday and today, both had a good line but not enough to say it was positive.

We DD on CD14 but have been so busy that's all we managed, will do again tonight! Randomly I've had tiniest bit of bleeding after DD, started very faint pink and is now very faint brown. I've never ever bled mid-cycle so a little bit worried something is going on, has this happened to anyone before? Sorry if this is TMI but it did suddenly hurt in a position we've not really done before, like it pushed something, is that normal? I've been googling but then I get scared it's something serious (I'm a worrier health wise 😅)

How is everyone doing!

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Nmmck93 · 31/10/2023 14:05

@Bluebell0921 sorry for the late reply! 💜
yeah I’m so ready for round 2, I’m approaching fertile week in the coming days so will probably give this one a miss then start back up in December.
only thing is, I ovulate 2 days before my 30th birthday so won’t be able to drink just to be safe so will probably spend my birthday baby dancing and chilling out lol.

aw yeah, I understand, I’ve had a lot of people announce pregnancies & then my sister in law knows we’ve been trying and then over the weekend she was boosting about how she got pregnant her first month and after her son was born in the summer she went and got contraception because she knew she would get pregnant so quick again, some people just are so insensitive and the fact she knew we where struggling and continued to boast. 🙄

Bluebell0921 · 21/10/2023 19:12

@Nmmck93 it sounds like the break has been good and your ready to go for round 2. I think when we start up I’ll try to step back from the OPK testing too for as long as I can help it. Have you decide when you might start trying again?

I thought I was doing really well. Found out this morning that my sister in law is pregnant and I was so shocked I burst out crying (not in front of her luckily). Wow it’s such an emotional rollercoaster!

Nmmck93 · 19/10/2023 13:16

@Bluebell0921 its going okay, I got a new job but only temporary until June and not as many hours as I would like BUT I’m happy in the job and enjoying it so hoping there will be a place for me again after the summer break.
were both mentally in good spirits and the break was deffs needed as we put so much stress on us. We’re being careful around fertile week and then not protecting outside of fertile week.
the past week though I’ve had some vivid dream of me being pregnant and giving birth to a little girl! I can’t wait to start trying again. We’re thinking the first month or two we’re not gunna track with OPKs and just go for it. 🙈

I see your the same with finding the break okay for you.

Bluebell0921 · 18/10/2023 19:56

@kalixxx its really confusing isn’t it but I think that’s what it sounds like?? I’ve gotta be honest I was so unhappy where I was I just felt that 1. That couldn’t be helping my chances of getting pregnant and 2. Having to work there during pregnancy and going back after birth just felt impossible and I felt I wouldn’t be in a good position mentally so that really helped me go for it. I’m also in quite a good position that I work for a large organisation so my work maternity wouldn’t be affected by moving roles within the org. I’m honestly so much happier now. I’m loving the job so much that it’s making me want to put off TTC for longer. I think I plan to see how I feel in the NY but it’s been so good for me to pause.

@Nmmck93 how are you feeling about the break?

Nmmck93 · 15/10/2023 14:14

Hi Girlies!

so upsetting to see everyone still TTC’ing with no poisitives! Hopefully there will be an influx of positives soon 💜
im on month two of taking a break and it feels so much longer than that, I’m itching to get back into actively trying.
i’m not sure when to start back up, was thinking December, my only reason for taking a break is because I’m bridesmaid at a wedding in July next year and didn’t want to have just given birth of be a full 9 months pregnant 🙈 so I’m trying to work out when will to start back up.

hoping everyone has their two lines soon! ❤️❤️❤️

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kalixxx · 15/10/2023 11:28

@Bluebell0921 that’s ok! Are you still taking a break from TTC? How are things with you? ☺️

That’s what I read but found it a bit confusing! So essentially you can get pregnant 1 week after starting? Or is that wrong? I’m really torn between staying in my current job and finding something else.

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Bluebell0921 · 15/10/2023 11:13

Apologies @kalixxx i got that wrong! You have to earn £123 a week and have worked there for 26 weeks by the time you 25 weeks pregnant I think?! It’s on the gov website!

Bluebell0921 · 15/10/2023 11:10

@kalixxx sorry I’ve taken so long to reply! Completely forgot to check mumsnet. I’m pretty sure you are always entitled to statutory maternity pay regardless of how long you’ve been working as long as you give the correct notice to your employer. The employers maternity pay policy will be individual to them so worth checking the company you are applying for. Hope that helps 🙂

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kalixxx · 15/10/2023 10:58

Sad to see there’s a lot of us still here TTC, let’s hope that changes for us all soon! 😔

@ceruleansky oh no, hopefully your body responds better to the Letrozole. I’ve read lots a positive things during my time on these threads!

I think we’re going to get a full analysis done and just hope the test was wrong as it was only cheap.

@SimplyChic ah I’m sorry to hear! There is so so much they can do to assist though so try not to feel too deflated, I know that’s so much easier said than done though. Hopefully a little break is what you need to come back with a positive mindset. Let us know how you get on, I’ll probably still be in the concept thread at this rate 😅

@dormicumema It’s crazy how many of us are still here isn’t it! That’s great that your blood work came back good. Fingers crossed that next month will be your month, try and be excited that you’re trying something new that could well work! Again it’s so much easier to say be positive than actually being positive isn’t it!

I’m fast approaching the 1 year mark so I know how you feel, I never thought it would take this long when I started this thread!

@CRbear Sad to see you’re still here too, I remember you being one of the first to post on this thread and we’re still here!

I’m so sorry for your loss, I hope you’re doing ok. Im so scared for when it does happen to wait this long and end up misscarrying. Don’t they say you’re most fertile after a miscarriage? Keeping every thing crossed for you!

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CRbear · 14/10/2023 16:56

Still TTC here too. Had a miscarriage at 9 weeks about a month ago and no sign of ovulation yet. Feeling really deflated.

dormicumema · 13/10/2023 22:55

Hey guys. Unfortunately none of us here has any good news yet 🤔 😕
I had an appointment with obgyn today. It is officially 1year + 1month of ttc so we are put in the infertility box, which made me cry today :(
Anyways, going to do one more round of bloods next week and going to come again with the results to check on the ultrasound how my follicle is looking.
Dr said because my blood work was fine and the SA as well I might prosper with hycosy... The plan is to do it next month so fingers crossed... The only thing I'm afraid of is endometriosis because I have painful periods that are on heavier side... Painful like I have to take max dose of ibuprofen for the first 48 hours... Super scared of it

SimplyChic · 13/10/2023 15:44

Hi everyone,

Still TTC here ☹️ also been diagnosed with PCOS recently so feeling rather low and having a little break with it

ceruleansky · 13/10/2023 07:42

@kalixxx
Hello!! Unfortunately my body stopped responding to clomid so from next cycle I'm starting on Letrozole.

Sorry about the test result. Perhaps you could get a full lab analysis if you haven't, might give you a better picture. Hoping from good news on your side.

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kalixxx · 12/10/2023 09:46

@ceruleansky How are you getting on? Hoping there’s good news? 🥰

We did an at home sperm test last night and it came back abnormal, it was only a cheap one which has mixed reviews but it’s still left us feeling very deflated 😔

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ceruleansky · 26/09/2023 03:02

@kalixxx
I have one more clomid cycle left and then it's going to be either IUI or IVF. My husband doesn't want to do IVF since we have been trying for less than a year. He prefers to fix my hormones so that I ovulate, fix his motility and try naturally.

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kalixxx · 25/09/2023 11:12

@ceruleansky ahh really hoping this will be your cycle so you can avoid other methods, do you know what they’ll offer next?

Thank you, hopefully this will be the cycle, finally 😅

@Bluebell0921 you might be able to help with a question I have! I’m looking at applying for a new job, it’s a good pay incase so seems silly not to apply even though I doubt I’d get it, but worth a go! How long do you have to have worked in a job before falling pregnant to receive maternity pay? I’ve been Googling but I can’t work it out with all these weeks they list 😅

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ceruleansky · 21/09/2023 15:08

@kalixxx
Thank you so much! Yeah halfway there. 🤣 I'm hoping it is a +ve this time because I only have one clomid cycle left. After this, my Dr is going to move on to more aggressive methods which I'm trying to avoid. :(

I'm sorry to hear about your dad, hope he feels better soon. ❤️ I know such things can cause a lot of stress.. I hope the next cycle works out for you!

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kalixxx · 21/09/2023 14:41

@Bluebell0921 Hey! AF arrived for me today so that’s another cycle I’m out for. The past 2 months we’ve not tired properly due to my dad being unwell, not been up for DTD much so it was no surprise when AF arrived!

Hopefully going to give it another good go this month, I can’t believe this is cycle 10 😱

How are you getting on? 🥰

@dormicumema that’s great to know all your basic tests came back fine! Sounds like you’ve covered DTD this cycle as well so fingers crossed for you!

This is cycle 10 for me so in a couple months I’ll be contacting a GP as well, I never imagined it would take this long 😖

@ceruleansky good to hear that your body is responding well to the medication. I have no experience with POCS but I’ve read a ton of positive stories on here with it happening for people not long after starting clomid, fingers crossed for you and keep us updated, you’re almost half way through the TWW!

@mav28 how did you get on with your first cycle?! Hoping it was first time lucky for you! ☺️

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ceruleansky · 19/09/2023 12:56

Hi everyone,
I'm currently 6dpo and on cd 21. 2nd clomid cycle. We tried for 5 months and I already knew it would be hard. I've had PCOD since I was 13. Dr diagnosed me with primary infertility and started me on clomid. Last month I was on 100mg and didn't ovulate, this month 160mg and responding well to the medication. My cycles have gone from. 50 days to 30 and I had a mature follicle this month that actually ruptured instead of turning into a cyst, unlike all this time, so hoping for the best.
Good luck to you all!!

dormicumema · 19/09/2023 10:19

Hey guys! I'm almost into 1 year of ttc still trying no luck🙄 i ovulated yesterday evening based on bbt opks and ovulation pain, we dtd yesterday and the day before. 🙏
Last month we privately did some tests. I got day 3 and day 21 bloods which showed I ovulate. Also did AMH, prolactin and TSH, all fine.
Husband did semen analysis which was all good.
So basically, we will try for a month or two and then if no success, I plan to contact my gp to get referrals... I guess the next thing would be hycosy and maybe to try with clomid...
I feel maybe a bit better knowing basic tests were fine, and so far everything works good. But no baby yet.
Fingress crossed for our bfp!!!!
I hope someone here has good news!!

Bluebell0921 · 18/09/2023 21:00

Hello all. How are you doing? Any updates ?

mav28 · 25/08/2023 18:10

Hi ladies! Hope it's okay to join - currently CD28 and 5DPO and this is my first cycle TTC. I have had brown stringy discharge the last 3 days which I have never ever had prior to my period. Usually my cycle is 26 days without fail, but I was testing ovulation this month and I for some reason ovulated late (CD23 instead of CD15-17). Has anyone had anything similar? My app is telling my AF is due tomorrow but because of my late ovulation I'm guessing it's more like Monday onwards. When would you ladies say to start testing from? I know it's way too early but I have used so many tests already as i feel so anxious with the wait. Im sure you can all relate 💕

Nmmck93 · 25/08/2023 16:41

@kalixxx oh didn't amount to anything with me either, AF arrived yesterday, but the day before AF I was spotting when wiping and have ovulation type cramping also, how weird is that this cycle for us was basically the same.

That's me on a break now for a few months, had a proper cry all day yesterday, was so deflated & upset. Once we start back up my fiancé is going to go get his sperm analysis check & hope for the best!

I got my results back from GP shows I'm ovulating and everything looks good.

Hoping your BFP comes soon lovely! Let me know how you're doing 💜

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kalixxx · 25/08/2023 16:37

@Nmmck93 weirdly I had lightening crotch this time round!! Sadly didn’t amount to anything, AF arrived Wednesday 😔

The day before AF I ad such pain in my right ovary side, like ovulation pain but all day rather than a few sharp shocks, not had that before!

On to cycle 9 for me, I can’t believe it!

How are you getting on? Praying you’ll have a BFP this month!!

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