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Anyone else TTC #1? Just looking for TTC buddies!

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kalixxx · 16/01/2023 09:04

Hey everyone!

Is anyone else trying TTC #1?

I think I’m 9DPO although my cycles vary from 28-34 days so I’m really not sure. This is my first cycle TTC so I haven’t tracked ovulation.

I took a clear blue ultra early digital test this morning and BFN, I’ve heard digitals aren’t as accurate, is that true? (The way the test was laid and how I was sat meant the ‘not’ was in the shadow so for a second I thought it just said pregnant, was gutted!)

Any advice on not driving yourself mad during the TWW? 😂

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kalixxx · 26/05/2023 09:26

@Tempeliz I might try again this evening! Sadly I can’t see any colour in it ☹️ It is strange how dark it is if it is an indent, but I’m not holding out any hope!

How are you feeling, has it sunk in yet? 🥰

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Tempeliz · 26/05/2023 09:19

@kalixxx it might be worth testing again after a 3+ hour hold this evening, I have found my lines to be much darker in the evening that FMU.

is there any colour in that line? It would be a very dark line for an indent, I hope not 😔🤞🏻

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kalixxx · 26/05/2023 09:17

@Bluebell0921 I’ll feel very cheated by FRER if todays is an indent! But I’m fully expecting it so at least I won’t be disappointed if AF arrives! I think I might get a digital for tomorrow morning and just make sure I don’t pee in the night! Or if I get time to go to a boots I might try theirs, I’ve also heard good things!

Hoping AF stays away for you too! If you don’t come on tomorrow with you test again?

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Bluebell0921 · 26/05/2023 09:09

@kalixxx well how bloody unfair if it is an indent. I really hope it isn’t and it is the beginning of your BFP. If AF doesn’t come today will you try and get some other tests? I heard boots ones are good?

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kalixxx · 26/05/2023 08:39

@Bluebell0921 from what I can see there’s not any colour to the line, it’s just grey, which would mean indent. I have seen people take longer to get their BFP so I supposed maybe there is a chance this could be the start of a line, but I’m not convinced 🥲

I’m also a bit crampy and still have a headache so I’m convinced AF will arrive on time today!

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Bluebell0921 · 26/05/2023 08:33

@kalixxx @Nmmck93 haha! Love that about the nails. I’m more of a short nail gal myself. But I regularly have thoughts of “I wouldn’t be able to do this if I had a baby” 😂

@kalixxx there’s definitely a line there. How do you tell the difference between an indent and a BFP? I don’t necessarily think how strong it is would be an indicator at this stage I’m sure I’ve seen people on here not get a BFP until a week after their missed period.

im due AF on Sat. Deffo feeling crampy now and headache too so I think she’s en route.

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kalixxx · 26/05/2023 08:20

@Nmmck93 definitely don’t lose hope yet! You’re still soooo early and you never know the CM could be back today!

I would urge anyone to avoid FRER, I’m 15 DPO today and still another very faint line within the window! This is the strongest indent I’ve had but would need to be a lot stronger to be a BFP! I’m pretty sure AF is gonna arrive today but if not I’m gonna get a different brand for the morning. I did pee at 4am so unless my urine wasn’t strong enough but I’m pretty sure it’s on to cycle 6 for me 🥲

Anyone else TTC #1? Just looking for TTC buddies!
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Nmmck93 · 26/05/2023 01:32

@kalixxx i know, I said the same to my OH when he mentioned my nails and I said ‘well I think about it more when we conceive baby’ lol.

i’ve kinda lost all hope for this cycle now as my CM has dried up, the entire day today I’ve had nothing which I don’t think is a good sign.
still having niggling and tightening the odd time throughout the day & now im sat thinking implantation was trying to happen but failed 😢 8dpo (as it’s 1:30am lol) and I’ve already put myself out. 🙈

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kalixxx · 25/05/2023 23:29

@Bluebell0921 AF is due tomorrow for me and I’ve got a really bad headache which I do before AF every time so it’s not looking good! I also think I might be starting to get some cramping ☹️ what about you?

@Nmmck93 I’ve had the exact same thought about having to have short nails when I have a baby! Just got to conceive said baby first 😅

That’s what I’ve been doing, getting the morning wee out the way with then I’ve managed to resist testing!

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Nmmck93 · 25/05/2023 20:35

@kalixxx oh seems complicated & probably something I shouldn't do as I would probably end up damaging myself inside with my long nails - off topic I'm already saying to myself 'omg when I have a baby I'm going to have to get my nails done so much shorter) so for now I'm going proper pointy each appointment 😂

@Bluebell0921oh keep us posted, hoping she stays away and we get another BFP. My AF isn't due until June 1st which is absolutely ages away for me. When on holiday my DPO days seems to pass so quick and today I'm 7dpo and feels like it's been two days already 😂 really just want to test but it's wayyyyy too soon! As long as I get up in the mornings for the next few days and go straight in and for my first morning wee then I'll not be able to test because I'll tell myself it isn't accurate 😂

Bluebell0921 · 25/05/2023 20:00

@Elephant1991 i feel like this probably isn’t the best thread for that sort of advice given that it’s called “TTC #1” 😅 we probs aren’t gonna be much help. All I can say is that healthy couples can take up to a year to get pregnant on average and that is considered normal so just because you haven’t fallen pregnant on the first few times that doesn’t mean it won’t happen.

@kalixxx @Nmmck93 ladies I feel exactly the same as you! I’m now thinking have all my adult life I felt these symptoms before AF and just never noticed them before 😅 spotting seems to have stopped now. We’ll see if I wake to AF tomorrow!

when is AF due for both of you again?

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kalixxx · 25/05/2023 19:21

@Elephant1991 I don’t have much experience, other than that I fell pregnant at 19 the one time me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex, so I expected it to happen at a lot quicker than this, so I know what you mean 😅 That ended in a MC at 5-6 weeks, it was so long ago I’m not even sure now!

I’ve read loaaads of threads on here where people have posted how long it took to conceive each time and it was always really random like DD1 cycle 1, DD 2 cycle 10. So don’t be put off it hasn’t happened yet! Try not to listen to your gut too much, I feel like as humans we always think the worst when it comes to TTC!

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Elephant1991 · 25/05/2023 19:14

Just wondering if anyone can give me any advice.. I've recently got divorced and very happy with my new partner. I already have 3 children to my ex and just turned 32. My new partner has no children and we have talked about having one together. We started trying but I just have a gut feeling it's never going to I happen I've always fell on the first or second try before.

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kalixxx · 25/05/2023 15:37

@Nmmck93 I’ll try and explain in the nicest way poss 🤣 I just feel for the ball feeling thing which is at the deepest point in your vagina (I hate that word ahah). If it feels high up and soft like your lips you could have conceived, if it feels low and hard like the tip of your nose then AF could be coming.

I don’t find it that accurate as apart from this cycle mine seems to move up and down and feel different everyday!

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Nmmck93 · 25/05/2023 15:31

@kalixxx I really need to look into how to check my cervix lol. Feeling hopeful for you.

What's so annoying is before TTC I would never have had any of these symptoms (or maybe I did and becasue I wasn't symptom spotting I just didn't realise) so each month I'm like 'oh my gosh, is this the month' 🙈

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kalixxx · 25/05/2023 15:19

@Bluebell0921 ahh well hopefully that’s a good sign! If AF comes I’ll really feel for you, it’s so unfair how our bodies can play tricks on us!! I remember on like cycle 3 my nipples were sooo painful which has never happened and I was this is it, it’s go to be, it was not 😅😂

@Nmmck93 sounds like good signs!! I’ve read quite a few people say they’ve felt pulling feelings super early on! Hopefully the weekend will help you hold out from testing!

The only thing keeping my hopes up is my cervix has remained high and soft whereas usually it’s a bit all over the place and feels harder by now!

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Nmmck93 · 25/05/2023 13:59

@Bluebell0921 so disheartening; hopefully it's not AF. Apparently once implantation bleeding happens, up to 48 hours after it starts is when it should show on early detection tests; which in your case would be CD14 so maybe test then and see if AF hasn't shown?

I'm okay, I'm still getting niggles and pains in the ovary areas and pulling in the stomach; only 7DPO today but did do an ovulation test and Premom is reading it as 0.26 but not sure if that's just what it would be on CD22 or anything 😂 just don't want to waste pregnancy tests just yet until 10DPO at least lol.

Bluebell0921 · 25/05/2023 12:57

@Nmmck93 the same thing happened to me a few months ago too which is why I’m trying to be realistic that AF is probably just showing up a bit early. It’s so cruel isn’t it 😂 I caved and did a test yesterday and got a BFN. So I’m pretty sure I’m out. In a way it would just be better for AF to get a wriggle on so I know for sure.

how are you doing?

Nmmck93 · 25/05/2023 12:41

@kalixxx well done for holding out on testing. You have better will power than me. 🙈

@Bluebell0921i had that last month, I never spot and was having light pink spotting on 12dpo days before my period, I was adamant it was implantation because it was so rare & I was researching that implantation can take up to 12dpo etc. Was testing and BFN, AF was like a day late and still negative tests but was convinced I was pregnant. But AF then showed her ugly face. 😭
Have you tested or just waiting for AF to show up?

Bluebell0921 · 25/05/2023 11:49

@kalixxx well done you! I’m 12 DPO now. I had some spotting just now which I don’t normally get before a period I usually just wake up in the morning full blown AF so I’m having wishful thinking that it’s implantation but I think I’m just kidding myself and my body is playing tricks on me 😅

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kalixxx · 25/05/2023 10:33

@Bluebell0921 almost caved this morning but managed to restrain!

How many DPO are you now?

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Bluebell0921 · 24/05/2023 21:02

@kalixxx thats good restraint ! Keeping my fingers crossed for you ☺️

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kalixxx · 24/05/2023 19:49

@Bluebell0921 ahhh sorry to hear you didn’t get your BFP yet, keeping everything crossed for you, there’s still plenty of time!

I haven’t tested since Monday and I’m really determined to wait until Saturday now. AF has been like clockwork recently so I’m expecting her on Friday. Will keep you all updated though! 🥰

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BexTTC · 24/05/2023 18:28

@Nmmck93 I didn't have any bleeding either and tested positive at 8 dpo, fingers crossed we'll see another BFP this month! 🤞

@kalixxx did you test again today? I found the cheap Wonderfo tests really good for early testing x

Nmmck93 · 24/05/2023 14:38

@Tempeliz I had two peaks also lol CD 13 & CD 14 but have been going off the CD14 but could be 7DPO instead of 6DPO.
I'll test Sunday & then maybe again on Tuesday. Or I'll just try hold off as long as I possibly can, which isn't very long going by previous months lol.