Anyone else TTC #1? Just looking for TTC buddies!

@kalixxx I was actually looking into the lube aswell, need to do some research and get some ordered.

My AF only lasted around 2 days, pretty heavy on Friday and was gone by Saturday evening and hasn't shown a speck since, confused me as I'm pretty much 4/5 days until it fully clears 🙈

Good luck this cycle to everyone also.

@kalixxx aw i'm the same, I usually go MIA from the forum until fertile week lol.

Aww, maybe it's a good think to not find out though. I think I'd rather not know.

AF arrived for me last night, not as disappointed as I thought I would be, but we're taking a more relaxed approach this month. I'm just going to track my cycle and try just find a peak. We're aiming for every other day starting my fertile week and just try get past ovulation and then keep our heads busy and try not to test early.

Hopefully I stress less and focus on getting our new house sorted 🤞🏻

Hope all is going well with you and baby dust for this month.

@kalixxx yeah I’m done testing now and just waiting for AF! Deffs think I’m out this month, but going to see if I can get seen by a doctor because during my TWW I was having a lot of pain in my lower right ovary and the odd one on the left so Im just probably going to get checked out just to be safe if AF does show up.

just reread that you where passing clots, is there a way that you can get checked if it was a chemical if clots are unusual for you?

@kalixxx oh sorry AF showed :(
I'm expecting mine to show Thursday / Friday.
Have been testing and al negative. Have my usual sore boobs before AF shows.
Think I'm deffs put this month now. 😢

@Bluebell0921 hot tub sounds really good and distracting xx

@BexTTC @Bluebell0921 I don't have a pic as it wouldn't even pick up in the camera; im staying with my sister tonight and have a test packed so maybe try and test tomorrow to see. Im not sure!

Oh 100% get your MRI; a month missed is nothing over an MRI which if you feel is important I would deffs go for and the break might give you a good headspace for starting the month after.

I'll keep updated through the week.

@Favofit @BexTTC @Nmmck93 thank you lovelies! I am really all good! The break next month is more coz I have a routine MRI that is probably sensible to have and it’s booked around the TWW. I am then away with my husband during TWW with hot tub so I think on balance next month is just a write off but will also do me good mentally. I will still check in on here though.

@Nmmck93 really hope its the beginning of a line for you. Keep us updated! Xx

@Bluebell0921 I'm sorry AF showed, hopefully the break will do you some good. Fingers crossed xx

@Bluebell0921 so sorry AF showed, fingers crossed a break will do you wonders and less stress/worry will be good for you x

@Nmmck93 oh really? Let us see lol, hopefully it is a line!

@Bluebell0921 aw I'm so sorry she showed her face but I'm glad you feel ok about it. Taking a break could be a good thing for you. Keeps us updated!

@kalixxx how're you doing?

9dpo today; took a cheap early detection test & I think I have line eyes because I feel like I see a shadow but then I'm not sure; I don't want to take a FRER yet or the clear blue 6 days early (as it's still too early for that) - maybe I'll try hold out now until the day before AF is due or just wait to see if she shows up.

@Nmmck93 @kalixxx well ladies I’m definitely out. AF arrived this morning! My BBT had dropped again quite drastically this morning so I knew she had arrived. I think I was really expecting it so I feel ok. I had a chat with my partner and I think we’re going to take a break from TTC next month.

@kalixxx how are you getting on any sign?

@Nmmck93 I’m sorry you’ve been asked those questions. It’s so intrusive isn’t it. You are so right though if your friend can’t empathise after going through the rollercoaster of TTC then that would say more about them. My best friend conceived by accident from one time and constantly talks about how difficult it was (I understand she wasn’t ready) but I really have to bite my tongue.

@Bluebell0921 aw; hopefully it happens for us all soon and we beat the odds of it taking a year!
I refuse now to put my life on hold for anyone, I’m sure when i announce I’m pregnant eventually I can then tell them how hard it was to actually conceive and how much we wanted it and I’m sure they would then understand.

@kalixxx i know; I get caught off guard and just kind of half heartedly laugh. My partners sister is due in 5 weeks, she got pregnant first month of trying; and his dad has been bringing up the last few weeks to us about a baby and how our new house would be complete with a baby and the other bedroom could be a nursery etc and my partner just responded ‘aye eventually’ I just couldn’t speak. People don’t realise what some people have to go through just for that little miracle.

@kalixxx it’s so awkward isn’t it?! I now can’t believe that people tell everyone they’re trying it feels so naive given how long it can take. How are you getting on? I had more brown spotting this eve so fully expecting to wake up to AF tomorrow.

@Nmmck93 i find it hard to establish how long I’ve been trying for coz the first few months it was a bit sporadic and then I had a few months break nov/Dec. I think it’s probably been about 6 months properly trying. I had someone ask me in work if I was going to have children the other day I was so caught off guard and flabbergasted I didn’t know what to do. It was so awkward. I had my ideal scenario and then every month I didn’t get pregnant I’d just be like ah I just want it to happen now. You’ve gotta do what’s best for you ultimately so if you’re pregnant at your friends wedding then so what. Plus how cute would you look with a baby bump in your bridesmaid dress 😍 can’t put your life on hold for other people.

@Bluebell0921 yeah, it's worse on a bad day and I come across them. & you have family like 'time for a baby now' & you just want to shout 'ITS NOT LIKE WERE NOT TRYING' 😂
Have you been trying long? I think I'm more hard on myself because im bridesmaid in July 2024 and I want to be pregnant and have a baby by then. I told myself I was going to stop trying in august but then decided F it; if she doesn't want me to be bridesmaid if im pregnant then that's fine because this is something we want so badly im not changing it for anyone. 🙈

@Nmmck93 omg I feel exactly the same when I read those posts. Especially if I see them on a bad day. I’m just like wtf how does that happen???!!!! Of course it does lovely, don’t feel you have to explain why you feel down. I feel like I started getting stressed about it after month 2 I really thought it would’ve been so quick 😂 wish I could’ve enjoyed those early months a bit more but it’s just so hard not to get into your head about it when it’s not happening even though we know it’s normal to take a year xx

@Bluebell0921 oh I know, we go through all the emotions don't we, what doesn't help is seeing people make threads saying they got pregnant and don't want to be pregnant because they hadn't used protection after a drunken night. Wish that could happen for us who are TTC'ing. 🙈 this is my 4th Cycle; I know it takes longer but it is just disheartening each negative test. 😢

@kalixxx i always try not to be too hopeful coz I hate the disappointment (even though I still always feel disappointment no matter how hard I try). So it must be very hard seeing those lines and thinking it’s an indent. I’d be testing all bloody day if I was you. You’re very restrained! 😂 Any signs of AF yet? Yes I’m going to test tomorrow morn if I haven’t woken up to AF. I’ve been doing BBT as well and last month the morning AF came BBT dropped so much so that was a bit of a giveaway before even getting out of bed. I’m really crampy now so I’m pretty sure it’ll come.

@Nmmck93 aw lovely it’s such an emotional rollercoaster isn’t it. We’re trying to make something happen that we really want and have no idea when it’ll happen. We don’t have all that much in our control (aside from making healthy choices and DTD at the right time) so we’re bound to have ups and downs. How long have you been trying? I can’t remember if I’ve asked you before. I’m losing track of who I’ve said what to 😂

@kalixxx if that’s an indent it looks very strong, maybe try a different brand, boots or clearblue digitial 6 days early?

I caved this morning and tested at 8dpo along side an ovulation test (for science lol) and both were very much negative, it was SMU aswell but I couldn’t settle. Took the itch off to test and it’s very early yet but will test again Sunday 10dpo. I used a one step & a boots strip this morning. hopefully it’s just that implantation hasn’t occurred yet. I feel really down since last night for some reason, have a gut feeling this isn’t my month. 😭