First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!

Gosh. I had to idea that conceiving was so hard (I myself am on cycle 12 with zero pregnancies so far). I hope you’re both kind to yourselves today @Ditzydaisychain and @ceruleansky; it must be very disappointing for you to have had that hope and then have it be a false alarm. Unmumsnetty hugs.

AF is here! I'm out for this month 🫠

@Ditzydaisychain
Oh nooo.. what does it mean when it gets darker like that.. :( that must have been tough. Do you usually get it late? It's okay we just keep moving forward. 💓

@ceruleansky i can see something. It’s a squinter but there’s something there!

Unfortunately I don’t have a happy update. I took another test yesterday morning and my line was darker, so I started to get hopeful, but then I got a sharp stabbing pain in my lower right back last night and I knew AF was likely on her way. Arrived this morning. So after 7 days late I am out.

I'm thinking evap line because it's not even slightly pink. Anyway, let's see if AF arrives. 😅

@Ditzydaisychain Do you have an update? 😄

14dpo and I took a test today. My cycles are usually 45 days but I'm at cd30 because I'm on medication. Last month it was 30 day cycle.
Anyway I can't tell if this is an evap line or real. Or if I just have line eyes.
I couldn't capture it properly on my phone, it's a lot more visible to the naked eye.

Ooh fingers crossed @Ditzydaisychain. Do update us in due course.

Hey Everyone,

I got a very faint positive today. Not convinced it isn’t an evap line but trying to stay positive and will test in a few days if still no sign of AF.

I think of you all often and hope you are all doing well 💜

It's amazing to see your excitement and positivity! 😊 oh really! I've never heard of this.. hmm I'm glad you're better. Take care of yourself!!

@ceruleansky really excited! To be honest, I’ve always known we’d have trouble. I say there’s nothing wrong in terms of tests etc but I have got endometriosis diagnosed - I’ve had two operations for that and my ovary was fixed to my womb so it’s probably had an impact of some sort! I appreciate your well wishes xx

Hi all,

taking my time to catch up with the thread.

first time ttc here as well, I’m turning 29 next month and DH is 27 turning 28 at the end of the year. Onto cycle 3, just had my surge yesterday so today is ovulation day and officially starting TWW again tomorrow.

sorry to hear the struggles some are having, hopefully investigations/medications/procedures will help to get your bfps.

sending baby dust to all ✨

@Yolo23
I see, how do you feel about starting this journey? You said earlier that you did all the tests but they couldn't find anything wrong? I hope everything goes well for you. Sending you baby dust!💓

@Plantymcplant oh no! I’m so sorry to hear this news. I agree with @LucyLoopyLu - it’s fairly straight forward however brace yourself for the whole ‘it could take a year or longer’ comment - as you’re over that mark, they’ll likely arrange for some bloods first, along with some scans before referring to a gynaecologist - who normally then does the referral to fertility. I think GP can refer to fertility but it depends if there’s a clear issue perhaps? Mine was more complex because I was having treatment for endo so I can’t speak for everyone sorry. Hope you’re ok and you get some positive news soon my lovely xx

@ceruleansky shes referred us straight on for IVF by the looks. I know there’s so many options! Hope you have success xx

@Plantymcplant hi, I remember your username from a few months back. Sorry to hear about your loss.

I can't speak for them all but the GP I saw was really good. He was very matter of fact about the process and very efficient in making sure we had everything we needed to refer to fertility at the hospital. In our case that was 2 x SA for my husband and day 21 bloods for me. He didn't give me a hard time at all. He asked some fairly standard questions about how long we had been trying, how often we had sex, etc., but nothing really in depth.
If they are reluctant to get things moving for you then put your foot down and ask for someone else but honestly I don't think you will have an issue with most GPs.

I'd do it ASAP though because everything seems to be taking a long time x

Hi!

I haven't posted for a while. We started trying July 2022 and got pregnant at the start of Feb this year but had a miscarriage in March (on Mother's Day of all days)

We haven't had a bfp since so we are going to go to the GP after our holiday in the first week of October.

For people who have done this already what info would be good to have to hand when I go? Where the gps kind or do you have to push really hard for a referral?

Thank you!!

Oh I see! That's great then, hope it works out for you! Do you mind me asking what kind of treatment it is? Only asking because if this course doesn't work for us we will move on to some other treatment so I've just been trying to understand all the alternatives.

Oh great point. We haven't shared with family either just because they will keep following up with us and suggesting things and for now we don't need the extra stress 😄

As far as I’m aware, it’s straight onto IVF - it was a referral form she completed for IVF by the specialist that also supports at the fertility clinic x

@LucyLoopyLu thank you! I’m not 100% sure however I’ve had dye tests, scans, bloods etc previously so I’m not sure there’s much else left to check! My partner has had a SA in the past few months too xx

@Yolo23 hi, thanks for the update. I don't live in the same area as you but good to hear about timelines. Is your referral straight to IVF now because of your endo or will they try other tests and treatments first?

Glad you have got things moving and you're on the list now!

@ceruleansky thats fab news!! Fingers crossed 🥰

Yes! I had my first appointment today and the specialist has referred onto fertility. She said it would take up to 26 weeks at the moment (so 6 months) but it could be sooner. The timeframe works quite well with everything we have going on - including a holiday, wedding plans (hen dos etc) so I’m quite happy. We get 2 full rounds where I live on the NHS so keeping fingers and toes crossed. Nice to be on a treatment path - although we won’t be sharing this with family which feels a bit crazy 🤣 xx

She did a follicular study on me so she scanned me every 2 days from the follicle growth until it burst. We were asked to try BD mostly all the days. So yeah ovulation did happen this time! 😊

How about you? I read that you're going to undergo a treatment? I hope everything goes well!

@ceruleansky that sounds really positive!! Sorry to hear all you’ve been through to get to this stage. It sounds as though things are improving 🥰🥳 at 6dpo does this mean you had confirmed ovulation? Amazing news if so x

Hi everyone,
I'm currently 6dpo and on cd 21. 2nd clomid cycle. We tried for 5 months and I already knew it would be hard. I've had PCOD since I was 13. Dr diagnosed me with primary infertility and started me on clomid. Last month I was on 100mg and didn't ovulate, this month 160mg and responding well to the medication. My cycles have gone from. 50 days to 30 and I had a mature follicle this month that actually ruptured instead of turning into a cyst, unlike all this time, so hoping for the best.
Good luck to you all!!

@taytay2020 its Thursday! I’ve no time to prepare for anything so I’m going to have to have a good old google the night before I think 😅

That’s interesting, thank you for sharing - I guess everyone is unique. My tests were forever ago so not sure if they’ll refer for those again. Partner had an SA a few months back so it’ll be good to go into that in more depth if possible… we will see! I have confirmed endo so unsure if that’ll be my diagnosis to move forward to some sort of treatment…

eeeeeek! Friday isn’t too long to wait. Well done for all you’ve been through. I am hating the thought of us potentially having to inject me 🤣 I guess you just get over it. Hope you’re still feeling ok? X